I'm 18..he's 43--How do I tell him "You're too old for me I'm not attracted to you, sorry!" He's really persistant!
Q. I wrote a question a while ago this is a sort of follow up but different... I met his guy at the club (2 months ago), he wasn't my type I'm not attracted to him but I gave him my number to be polite. Big mistake. I let him come round my house. We ...
A. 21 November 2006: I dont think you should try to be tactful and nice in the best possible way, as that got you into this problem in the first place! I really think you should tell him straight forwardly how you feel, like youre telling us now. The moment you feel ... (read in full...)
He hasn't texted me today and this is unusual! Should I worry?
Q. hey people My bf is away at the moment and although i find that hard to cope with whats killing me at the min is that i havent heard from him today I know what your thinking One day big deal but i always usually hear from him and its te...
A. 21 November 2006: I recognise that problem youre having, its called having too much time on your hands syndrome!! Why dont you just call him to see why he hasnt texted you back? Or cant you because he usually does the texting first?
Youre worried about him chea... (read in full...)
We had an argument over the barmaid with the ugly tattoos and he refuses to apologize!
Q. Hi My b/f and i were at a bar that was somewhat grundgy. The bartender had these ugly tatoos on her arm and something in her lip and wearing leather so her bo*bs can hang out a little. And it pretty much looked disgusting. By the time we were rea...
A. 20 November 2006: I pity your boyfriend, the things he puts up with when hes with you. That whole tattoo, working there, blah blah blah wasnt even an issue to begin with. You just made a mole hill out of nothing! I can tell you one thing tho, a girl like you needs a ... (read in full...)
I want to ask my ex bf..if he would give 'us' a second chance. Any advice?
Q. I left my boyfriend of 4 years 8 months ago. I still love him very much... I needed to leave, to be on my own, in order to deal with old wounds. I feel that I have gained good ground. I haven't had much contact with my ex. We have each gone ou...
A. 20 November 2006: There is no harm in expressing your feelings to him if you really feel u stll love him. So much time has passed now that it makes it easier to express yourself again, as opposed to when you first broke up. But also beware of the fact that he might ... (read in full...)
How can I be more supportive?
Q. Hi everyone, I hope someone can help me asap! Basically, my bf has lost his job and is going through an awful lot of stress at the moment. I'm very sad to say, I haven't been that supportive. I've tried to be, but things have got in the way to cause ...
A. 20 November 2006: The best way to be supportive is to lend him your ears. To listen to someone when they talk and take an interest in what they say means so much more than anything else you can ever do. The reason hes being all nice to you now is because he wants you ... (read in full...)
My ex is still in my life... How can I move on with peace of mind?
Q. i have been to this web site a few times in the past to deal with my issues and it has helped me a lot. i am a 25 male who got dumped 4 months ago. i went out with her for almost 2 years and it was great. one day she decides that she wants to be ...
A. 20 November 2006: Just reading through half your post tells me that youre clingy and needy. So you were dumped four months ago but still want her back, despite the fact that shes said no numerous times. I mean why do you put yourself through the beatings over and ... (read in full...)
She wants 'space"..but I love her and I miss her badly. What can I do?
Q. SHE WANTS SPACE.!? Well about a month ago my EX told me she wanted some space to find herself,… now we have been dating for 2 years and everything was fine, no problems no fights nothing everyone looked up to us and said we were perfect and all....
A. 17 November 2006: You know, I have a very strong feeling that shes getting bored of the relationship. Can u imagine a relationship without occasional fights, disagreements, make up conversations, etc? (Of course you can cause uve been through it yourself!). I know ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend puts me down and now i believe it
Q. Lately my b/f has made comments about my hairstyle, stating that I never change it - or my eyebrows (he thinks they're too thick). So while we were visiting family out of town, I went to the salon one day, got my eyebrows waxed, got highlights in ...
A. 16 November 2006: You know, I really get a feeling hes insecure with himself. He feels the need to put you down to make himself feel better, as he then gets the upper hand! His snide remarks are purely based on the fact that that he knows you still turn head and that ... (read in full...)
I'm dating a married man and feel bad about it! Please help!
Q. i'm a 27 year old lady,ove with a 53 years old married man, i love him, n he loves me too..but m worried about my future n i always feel bad when he goes back to see his wife. Should i continue dating him or i stop? pls help me....
A. 15 November 2006: STOP! Period.... (read in full...)
Sometimes he just doesn't want sex - is it me or am I reading too much into it?
Q. I've been dating this guy for about a month now and been officially his boyfriend for a week. We had sex on the second date and have had it a few occasions since. The problem is sometimes he just doesn't want to sleep with me for some reason...for ...
A. 7 November 2006: Somehow i get a feeling that everyone here thinks the poster is female and that the relationship involved is a straight one. ... (read in full...)
I'm in a bad relationship. How do I leave this person?
Q. I am in a really bad relationship. I've turned into a completely different person. I don't know how to leave this person. I need courage! Please help!...
A. 7 November 2006: How do you leave u ask? Pack your stuff, walk to the front door, hail for a taxi and off you go, never look back! I mean it literally is that simple! The only thing that makes it hard are the emotions involved with that person, which if you really ... (read in full...)
He dumped me... will he ever come back?
Q. my boyfriend of 4 yrs just broke up with me almost a week ago he said it was because I kept on accussing him and he was tired of always going to sleep mad I tried to get him back and I started crying and he said he was not going to call me anymore ...
A. 6 November 2006: Hi there, I understand what you're goin through, believe you me. But the moment you get on your knees and beg for him to come back, you've basically said to him in simple terms, that you dont care what happens, how he treats you, etc, that you just ... (read in full...)
He is married and and he keeps flirting and touching me!
Q. I have been letting a married man touch me for the past 3 years. He is 29 years old, married, and has 3 children. I honestly try to make a good effort and tell him to stop, but I can't. When he starts touching me, it feels good that I can't say no. ...
A. 27 October 2006: First and foremost, you know yourself that it is wrong that you let him touch you. And you say touch, do you mean sexually or non sexual (like patting on your lap, etc)? But whatever it is, they both are still wrong in my opinion. If its just a one ... (read in full...)
It has been year since we broke up and now he wants to meet back up!
Q. help... i'm still in love with my ex though it finished over a year ago. He finished it and I was very depressed for several months. I bumped into him recently and he chatted to me all night then asked if we could meet up "for a cup of tea". The ...
A. 26 October 2006: Its clear to me that you already know what you want to do. I suggest you go ahead and meet up with him. To be honest, noone can tell you whats going to happen or where this is going to lead you. You say you still like him a lot, and theres a high ... (read in full...)
I argued the case of homosexuality in ethics, now my entire year think I am gay.
Q. Hi, I'm 13 In school it's kind of "evil" to be gay or a gay sympithiser. But In an RE lesson under ethics this boy went on about how homosexuals are sick and wrong ect. So I publicly argued with him over it and now my entire year thinks I'm gay...
A. 6 October 2006: I would love to say that this only happens amongst 13 year olds, but truth is, it happens in the adult world as well! In fact, more so. Most people think its cool to be part of the majority, but you my friend, have just swam against the current! ... (read in full...)
I didn't like him before and I cast him aside. Now I am having huge regrets!
Q. hi im feeling really guilty and i just cant get over this guy. This guy used to secondary school who really used to to like me but i could never see him in that way i suppose im a perfectionist and kept finding things wrong with him for example he ...
A. 6 October 2006: Never settle for second best!! Yes, he might have loved you for who you really are but what makes you think that things couldve and wouldve worked out perfectly fine if you actually did go out with him when you had the chance? What happened to ... (read in full...)
She claims to not speak to her ex but I have caught her glancing at him. What's going on?
Q. I am currently dating a girl and have been with her for about four months now. While it may seem crazy, we are already very close and have both discussed the good chance that we will share a future together. She plays golf at my school, but has to ...
A. 6 October 2006: Ahh, the old green eyed monster has reared its tail! Its perfectly normal to be jealous of a partners ex, but ask yourself this, what if you really knew the truth about how she felt about this other guy? Would it make a difference to how you would ... (read in full...)
Is my ex having doubts about me?
Q. i need advice so ladies please help. I was with my girl for a about a year but about 2 months ago she broke up with me saying she didn't feel the same way about me anymore. I have left her alone have never tried once to contact her. She told me that ...
A. 8 August 2006: Well, your hunch could be right. She might still be missing you, although not necessarily meaning that she wants to get back together. But whatever it is, if I was you, Id hold back on my feelings at this point. Why you ask? Well, from your tone of ... (read in full...)
Where am I going wrong in the dating game?
Q. I find myself falling into the same trap again with finding a partner. I met my ex through a dating site, and we texted and over that period we met in person fell in love, we were together for 2yrs, 1yr long distance we were going to move in toget...
A. 4 August 2006: You know, love is a trial and error thing really. Some lucky few get it right for the first time, but most dont, so they try and try again until they either give up or succeed. Whatever it is, you get to choose either way you want to go, and I ... (read in full...)
We spend most of our time splitting up! we cant go on like this, how can we change ?
Q. I have been with my fiancee for 1yr 6months, but we have major problems, we split up every week and its a joke. its been happening for the last year. its like were going round in circles and cant get to the next step. we argue over silly things and ...
A. 4 August 2006: Both of you are in a power struggle relationship! You want to win, he wants to win, noone gives in, noone tolerates, noone listens, you both explode, and thus break up in the heat of the argument. And then when things cool down, you guys get back ... (read in full...)
Do I choose the ex or my current bf ?
Q. Well, i was seeing this guy for 10 months and we broke up because we just spent far too much time together so we ended up arguing alot. So i was heartbroken ofcourse, moved on and now i have been seeing this lovely guy for about 3 months now. He's ...
A. 4 August 2006: To be honest, I got a feeling you already know what you want deep down in your heart, you just need confirmation from others, which is a wise thing to do. Obviously having a choice is better than having none at all, but then, you run a risk of ... (read in full...)
I cant settle with anyone since finishing with my ex, how can I find new love and move on ?
Q. hi please help!!! me and my ex have been finished for 6 months now...we were together for a year and abit...were both in realationships. but to be honest im not happy, ive been off and on with 4 guys after my ex. and i just cant fall for them, all i ...
A. 1 August 2006: Hi there, Im in the same exact situation that ure in now. I have been separated with my ex about a year now but we still are housemates so we see each other everyday. I tried to move on, im sure she has, but I cant seem to forget her, and im pretty ... (read in full...)
What if anything can I do to win back my gal?
Q. i started seeing a girl 9 months ago she is 23 and i'm 37 and we then fell head over heals in love. Then all of a sudden she ended it for no apparent reason. Except that she need time on her own. she said the problem is not me but her. She wants me ...
A. 14 June 2006: Thing is mate, life is such that you can never ever make a person fall in love with you! As much as we all want that, its just never going to happen. But having said that, there are ways to try to make your absence 'felt' missed. First thing you ... (read in full...)
I think my ex is seeing someone else but she won't tell me!
Q. I think my ex is seeing someone else but she won't tell me that she is and its bugging me because if she is thats fine. I love her and want her to be happy even if its not with me. I just get tired of her lying about it because all the signs ...
A. 13 June 2006: Yeap, you've got one heck of a confused lady here! Either that or shes just messing with you cause shes wants to get back at you. I say its karma gettin back at you for cheating on her! But its most likely to be a combination of the first and last ... (read in full...)
I would like to sleep with my boyfriend...should I tell him I'm a virgin?
Q. This is a bit of a silly question, I'm embarrassed to ask but I really want to know. I'm a 23 yr old virgin, recently started seeing a guy I'm crazy about and ready to sleep with, and wondering how to tell him about my lack of 'bedroom experience.' ...
A. 13 June 2006: As much as I would like to say go on and tell him the truth, I have to partially agree with what your friend has told you as well. What Im about to say speaks only for myself and what my experiences were. I was recently involved in a 'relationship' ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has cheated on me with an enemy
Q. hi, i think my boyfriend has cheated on me with my worst enemy....but i love him. what should i do?...
A. 13 June 2006: You should have the right to be angry at him for what hes done, but not because hes cheated on you with your 'enemy', but because hes cheated on you...period! I absolutely hate to advice breakups unless I deem appropriate, and in your case, Id say ... (read in full...)
I am falling for my husbands best mate
Q. iv been married for only a month but have been with my husband for a year and a half but i think that im falling in love with my husbands best friend i love my husband but i have a really good connection with my husbands best friend and i dont know ...
A. 13 June 2006: Answer is definitely not! I keep stressing this, it always seems that the grass is greener on the other side. It does seem quite exciting and thrilling to be feeling the way you do now, but believe you me, its just a phase and its not worth losing ... (read in full...)
I'm shy and not sure about going to a wedding with my boyfriend. He's distracted and won't say whether he cares!
Q. Hi, My boyf and I have been together for 18 months, and are currently living together. We argue a lot, usually when I'm upset about something and he tries to tell me that I need to grow up and stop being pathetic!! This really hurts as I don't...
A. 31 May 2006: From what you post, Im portraying him as a guy who doenst understand his girlfriends needs and often wants things done his way. But theres two sides to a coin and judging him with only what you say isnt right. However, Im pretty sure that you're not ... (read in full...)
I don't understand what is wrong with me.....I need advice please!
Q. This may sound really stupid but please tell me what is wrong with me... im 16 and i keep thinking of this girl that i haven't seen for 3 month now (i have tried texting her but i get know reply) and everyday since then i have thought about her. but ...
A. 31 May 2006: What is wrong you ask?! You like her and want her thats whats wrong with you! And when you get a feeling she doesn't feel the same way, you feel trapped and betrayed. You see, you dont need her to reject you straight up to feel rejected...you felt ... (read in full...)
I have a crush on someone, what should I do?
Q. i have a crush on a boy who lives down my road. we go to the same school but he's in year 8 and i'm in year 7. his sister is my little sister's best friend. i've known him for years. i can't stop dreaming about me and him kissing and going on dates. ...
A. 31 May 2006: Gosh, I cant believe I just taught a 13 year old girl how to pull a guy! *smacks head*... (read in full...)
I have a crush on someone, what should I do?
Q. i have a crush on a boy who lives down my road. we go to the same school but he's in year 8 and i'm in year 7. his sister is my little sister's best friend. i've known him for years. i can't stop dreaming about me and him kissing and going on dates. ...
A. 31 May 2006: I really hate sounding off like a dad! But you're only young and Im sure you cant see it yet, but you will have tonnes of possiblities to get in a relationship if you ever wanted to! Time is on your side thats for sure. So why fret over things like ... (read in full...)
I want to stop caring about him, but I don't know how!
Q. hi, how do you stop caring about someone, you know its the right thing to do , but when ever you let your guard down they are back in your head. i dont think im in love with him , but i do feel alot of feelings there still. it has been 2 yea...
A. 31 May 2006: Hi there, first and foremost, its very important you continue to STOP all sexual contact with him! This is very crucial as everytime you let him have it, you're saying its alright to walk all over me and still have a piece of the action! And believe ... (read in full...)
Can we move on from our past or no? What should I do?
Q. After a bad end to a bad relationship which resulted in our son being born - he's nearly three. My ex and I have begun getting on really well. We spent two lovely weekends together and inevitably slept together. We have so much history not all good, ...
A. 31 May 2006: Theres always a possiblity to everything and anything. It just depends on how badly both of you want this to work this time. Its pretty obvious that you do want to give it another go, but do bear in mind, it takes two to tango! Only he knows what he ... (read in full...)
We broke up, and he refuses to take me back, did i scare him off?
Q. If you love, deeply care for and are physically attracted to someone still shouldn't you be together? My live in boyfriend of 4 years broke up with me 2 months ago and now when we communicate he refuses to talk about it all anymore or even entertain ...
A. 17 May 2006: Here ya go, my two cents. Your ex is just plain confused! Simple as is that. He wants his cake and the whole lot of it! Basically, I can tell you for now, that he really wants his freedom. But at the same time, hes trying to hold on to you by a ... (read in full...)
We broke up, and he refuses to take me back, did i scare him off?
Q. If you love, deeply care for and are physically attracted to someone still shouldn't you be together? My live in boyfriend of 4 years broke up with me 2 months ago and now when we communicate he refuses to talk about it all anymore or even entertain ...
A. 17 May 2006: Here ya go, my two cents. Your ex is just plain confused! Simple as is that. He wants his cake and the whole lot of it! Basically, I can tell you for now, that he really wants his freedom. But at the same time, hes trying to hold on to you by a ... (read in full...)
I'm still having biker-boyfriend worries... Am I paranoid?
Q. My b/f is away for a week at a biker rally with friends. He is sharing a room with a friend. I have the hotel number and everything--is this suspicious? I call the hotel room and the person he is staying with answers and i ask him for my b/f and h...
A. 17 May 2006: I personally think you're reading wayy too much into this. I cant assure you theres nothing going on behind your back, but to suspect that hes having other women on the sideline based on just THIS is just plain absurd! The problem with people is ... (read in full...)
I slept with my boyfriend's brother and cant keep my hands off of him!!
Q. i am 23 and boy friend is24 we have been together for3 yaers he is got a brother who is currently staying with us who i had a chemistry and lkast week after a drink when my boyfriend was a sleep we had sex in my bedroom and now we cant keep our ...
A. 17 May 2006: To cheat on your boyfriend with someone else is bad as it is, let alone cheating on your boyfriend's brother! Look selina, whether or not you guys have chemistry is not of importance here. Its dead wrong, regardless whatever reasons!
It seems to... (read in full...)
Why does my ex keep turning me down when I ask her out (as friends).. ?
Q. Stayed friends with my ex, everything is going really well, but there's just one problem... Everythime I ask her to do something or go out to a movie, just to be friends, she always says no... I dont know if its because she scared or something but...
A. 17 May 2006: You guys are friends who were once in a relationship together, thats something very hard to move on from. Give her some time and things will be alright sooner than you think.
Ask yourself sincerely, why are you so bothered about her not talking ... (read in full...)
What exactly does "third base" mean?
Q. what is third base...
A. 13 February 2006: From a guys point of view, I think it pretty much means any sexual action to do with a girl's lower private area (with the exception of sex of course)! ... (read in full...)
Is it my husband's indifference that has attracted me to his best friend?
Q. Dear Cupid, Wow, where to begin! I'm Married (have been now for 9yrs!) I used to think it was a great marriage and I couldn't believe how lucky I was to have found my Husband. The thing is that since we had children 7yrs ago all effort to keep t...
A. 13 February 2006: No no no no, as everyone here has already said it! You may think its the only way to get out of this problem of yours, but believe you me, things will only get messier if you choose to have an affair with this guy. You sound like you still love your ... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and attracted to a 20-year-old, but I don't understand whether it's a crush or what...
Q. I am 13 years old. There is a girl (well she is about 20) and I am not sure how I feel about her. I just feel if she knew that I liked her and accepted it I would feel so much happier and the feeling which I have when I see her would be lightened. ...
A. 13 February 2006: You sound very mature for your age, thus im sensing thats why you're attracted to this particular girl whos much older than you are. I think you shouldnt just shunt off your feelings for her completely (as thats not healthy either), but neither ... (read in full...)
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