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writes: I've been dating this guy for about a month now and been officially his boyfriend for a week. We had sex on the second date and have had it a few occasions since. The problem is sometimes he just doesn't want to sleep with me for some reason...for example he will say he's turned on and I may start to give him head, then he'll pull me off and say he's tired or he has work in the morning.I don't know whether he just doesn't find me sexually attractive, doesn't like my technique or whether maybe I'm just seeing a problem that isn't actually there???? Reply to this Question |
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2006): It's still early days yet and you may not understand each other. Give it time. If this still persists then have a very frank talk with him. Explain how you feel and what you are going through. If you are doing anything wrong, then can he maybe explain and you can put things right. I hope it all works out in the end. Take care.
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reader, I Dont Lie + ♥, writes (7 November 2006):
 Somehow i get a feeling that everyone here thinks the poster is female and that the relationship involved is a straight one.
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reader, davie  +, writes (7 November 2006):
It could be that he just doesn't feel like it. He probably has a lower sex drive than yourself. Believe me I know it is hard to take! You could ask him and see if that is the case, or if it is something else.
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reader, Xena +, writes (7 November 2006):
hey there, my friend had a similar thing , infact exactly the same thing happened to her, she slept with him on the second date, then after had sex a few times and then every other time he'd say he was too tired and had work the next day.. she knew deep down that he wasnt attracted to her enough, she was BEAUTIFUL he was gay not to fancy her. Same thing goes for you u deserve someone who wants to touch you all the time, especially at the beginning. Dont kid yourself , in the end she ended up saying to the guy 'why dont u want to touch me' and he still said he's just tired and to 'chill out' but as time went by the sex was naff anyway and she dumped him cuz she realised he just wasnt attracted to her ENOUGH. he was a lonely boy who wanted company but not sex. We all know deep down when a guy is into us or not! come on girl be strong get rid of him when u'r ready cuz u can do better than that!
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reader, baka_girl +, writes (6 November 2006):
Hmm, this is strange. Usually guys wouldn't just stop in mid-sex. I think you need to ask him, if there is anything he doesn't like etc. You don't have to question him - just maybe as a post-sex conversation, like "So did you like that? Would you like me to do anything else?" etc.
Hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2006): I had a similar problem with my hubby, we dont all have the same sex drive as each other.
So be understanding with him I'm sure he really is just tired, if hes tired maybe he doesnt want to do anything to physical because he doesnt have the energy left to do it.
I dont know why but most men seem to get really over tired after a day at work.
I say most men because I have male friends that also work all day and then go out with thier friends for a booze up.
Dont over analyze it I'm sure your relatinoship is strong.
Ok, dont worry too much its completely normal.
Good luck
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