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I didn't like him before and I cast him aside. Now I am having huge regrets!

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Question - (5 October 2006) 2 Answers - (Newest, 6 October 2006)
A female , anonymous writes:

hi im feeling really guilty and i just cant get over this guy. This guy used to secondary school who really used to to like me but i could never see him in that way i suppose im a perfectionist and kept finding things wrong with him for example he was really shy although he told me he lied me and we treied going out he never actually made a move and im wasn’t and still not confident enough to take charge.Now that its too late I realised that what im missing out on he was the only guy that truly ever liked me for me and I cast him aside now im punishing myself from never being able to find anyone else I cant forghet him. I still talk to him from time to time but im worried about telling him this and if it goes wrong things will only get worse what should i do?

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A reader, I Dont Lie +, writes (6 October 2006):

I Dont Lie agony auntNever settle for second best!! Yes, he might have loved you for who you really are but what makes you think that things couldve and wouldve worked out perfectly fine if you actually did go out with him when you had the chance? What happened to physical attraction, being emotionally compatible, able to have great conversations, etc? So you're supposed to just go with a guy who thinks a whole lot about you? Dont be too harsh on yourself! One day when you eventually meet that guy who thinks the world of you and yet you feel the same about him, you'll understand what Im saying! but all I can say for now is that you shouldnt lay yourself on this guilt trip when its not your fault! You shouldnt settle for second best just because you havent found your best at this very moment!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2006):

I'm kind of in the same situation...I broke up with a guy because I wasn't ready to start a new relationship since I had just gotten out of one. So, I just ended things. Now I'm regretting it, and just started talking to him even though he's dating someone. You only live once, so my advice is to just go for it and tell him how you feel, since you have nothing to lose, and everything to gain. And don't be that picky unless it's damaging traits. If a guy can love you for you, that's as good as it gets.

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