Now I have moved away and live on my own do you think there will be any future for us and how can I go about getting him back even If I have to share him.
Q. I got in contact with my first love again last year and we both confessed to each other that both our marriage's was over and that we still loved each other and wanted to spend the rest of our lives together. The his partner found out about us and ...
A. 24 July 2007: Calm down Kimbow, breathe. You sound suffocated and it doesnt take a genius to figure out why.
Try seeing it this way, when you want to resort a problem, where do you think is the most effective place to start? At the very core and root of the p... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and I haven't had sex for over a year and a half, I love him but can't take all the frustration anymore.
Q. My boyfriend and I haven't had sex for over a year and a half, I love him but can't take all the frustration anymore. He won't talk about it and we just end up fighting. Any help or advice?...
A. 24 July 2007: Yes, I do think you are currently having the right kind of mindset. If things do work out, then great, if not, then theres nothing more you can do. Leaving the country for work seems to be an ideal situation to create less tension. I wish you all ... (read in full...)
Dating me again is not what she wanted. So how do I rekindle what we had?
Q. my ex fiance broke up with me about a year ago.even after the breakup i,m still in love with her and i think about her all the time.recently i was told that she would like to make things workout...she states that she was afraid and that after going ...
A. 20 July 2007: The title is fairly misleading, and if I understand you correctly, this is what I perceive you to mean with your post.
Rekindling something you had a year ago isn't something that is easy to accomplish and not exactly healthy in my opinion.... (read in full...)
Now I have moved away and live on my own do you think there will be any future for us and how can I go about getting him back even If I have to share him.
Q. I got in contact with my first love again last year and we both confessed to each other that both our marriage's was over and that we still loved each other and wanted to spend the rest of our lives together. The his partner found out about us and ...
A. 19 July 2007: Hi Kimbow,
Do bear in mind that it will not be easy at all to break free from this guy, but you have to do it. Like you said, you cannot carry on like this. Its totally not fair on your part when he gets his his wife and you at the same time!! H... (read in full...)
How do I deal with a man that walked out on a six and a half year relationship but continues to hang around making it hard for me to get over him?
Q. How do I deal with a man that walked out on a six and a half year relationship but continues to hang around making it hard for me to get over him? He says that he wants to be with me but he has not come back home. What do I do because I am still ...
A. 18 July 2007: The easiest and hardest thing to do at the same time is to move on, but it really will do you good in your situation. The problem here is that he's told you that he intends to come back and you've replayed that over and over again in your mind, and ... (read in full...)
He's coming over to my house this weekend to hangout and spend the night, what should I do?
Q. ok, I just broke up with my girlfriend and I found I'm more interested in my best friend than girls, but I still like both so im probably bi... anyway I think my friend may also like me, but I'm not sure... he sometimes will sort of hit on me a ...
A. 18 July 2007: You're experimenting to find yourself, and he probably is too. Dont rush into things as you'll never know if he really likes you that way. You dont wanna ruin the great friendship you already have just because of something you wish he is. A sure way ... (read in full...)
Any idea on how to word an email to him?
Q. i'v been on 2 dates with a guy who is 10 yrs older... he is not my type, but i thought it would be fair to give him a chance as he really likes me and has done for a while..... after the second date he became less shy and we were getting on ...
A. 22 June 2007: Its always good to have choices, congratulations on that foremost.
There is no better way to tell someone that you dont wanna be with him, than telling him/her that you the truth on how you really feel. There's no need to string anyone along he... (read in full...)
He loves me but I don't love him back. I broke it off with him and he's devastated
Q. Hi there. I really hope someone can give me some advice as the advice i am getting from friends seems biast. Basically I was seeing a guy for 4 months. I had just come out of a 5 year relationship which ended bitterly. Me and the new guy were hav...
A. 18 June 2007: You've done the rightest thing you could ever have done. You basically have gone and saved him a whole lot of heart and head aches. You both are old enough to decide for yourself what kinds of relationships you want to be in. As time went by, he ... (read in full...)
Any ideas how I can boost my self esteem again after having my daughter ?
Q. I have a beautiful 12 month daughter and a wonderful husband which happens to be in Iraq right now. Since i had my daughter my self-esteem has been terrible. I went from 95lbs to 210lbs. I have now gotten down to 128 but as much weight as i have ...
A. 14 June 2007: Self esteem issues are all about believing in yourself. If you have high self esteem, you can go out wearing just a scarf and still think you're going to be the next trend setter. Most people usually only have self confidence if they think they are ... (read in full...)
Now I have moved away and live on my own do you think there will be any future for us and how can I go about getting him back even If I have to share him.
Q. I got in contact with my first love again last year and we both confessed to each other that both our marriage's was over and that we still loved each other and wanted to spend the rest of our lives together. The his partner found out about us and ...
A. 14 June 2007: Kimbow,
Believe you me, you are doing the right thing in moving on and not putting your life on hold. Time waits for no man/woman and you can't possibly wait around for him to come to his senses, and neither should he expect you to do so.
The ... (read in full...)
I'm gay. My boyfriend was sleeping with my best friend for the last 12 months of our relationship!
Q. How do I get through this? Three months ago I broke up with my gay partner of 14 years. We did this because he told me he had been sleeping with my best friend for the last twelve months of our relationship. He said it was "just sex". But it was an ...
A. 13 June 2007: I don't understand why the title had to state you were gay like that was a dominating factor of the question, but anyway. You realise that you have to move on with your life or the whole thing will just consume you bit by bit, and thats good. You ... (read in full...)
I cannot leave the military... It's the way of my life but I dont want to lose her either..
Q. I'm in the military and I've been to Iraq twice now and am being sent for the 3rd time. This has taken a great toll on my relationship with my girlfriend. I love her to bits and couldn't have imagined doing my time in Iraq without a picture of her...
A. 12 June 2007: You know what you want and so does she. If neither one budges then there will be no progress in terms of the relationship. The solution to this is easy, an either or scenario, but difficult to make. Only you can make the decision on whether to stay ... (read in full...)
Now I have moved away and live on my own do you think there will be any future for us and how can I go about getting him back even If I have to share him.
Q. I got in contact with my first love again last year and we both confessed to each other that both our marriage's was over and that we still loved each other and wanted to spend the rest of our lives together. The his partner found out about us and ...
A. 12 June 2007: Things will only get more complicated if you do not stop putting yourself in a vulnerable position. I understand its extremely hard to let go of someone you think of dearly and as a soulmate, but sometimes, loving someone doesn't necessarily mean ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and I haven't had sex for over a year and a half, I love him but can't take all the frustration anymore.
Q. My boyfriend and I haven't had sex for over a year and a half, I love him but can't take all the frustration anymore. He won't talk about it and we just end up fighting. Any help or advice?...
A. 9 June 2007: Good to know you've made progress with him. As you already realised, lack of sex is always just a front in relationships, there usually is a deeper issue at hand which needs a little bit of digging. Whatever it is, take baby steps, dont rush the ... (read in full...)
I feel as if my husband doesn't love me any more...
Q. I have been married for nearly 4 years and in Feb this year i fell and broke my foot and it has took til june for it to repair, All this time my husband and i have been under stress with money etc, as i can go back to my job until it is fixed. ...
A. 8 June 2007: Relationships do not only revolve around the feeling of love. It revolves around everything else that goes on in you and your partners lives. Understand that he might be stressed out about the fact that you both are strapped financially, also the ... (read in full...)
I really want to get back with the mum of my child
Q. I'm 21 and split from my partner who's 20 on her terms 6 months ago. we were together for almost two years and have a son together who is now 13 months old. she got pregnant when we together for 3 months and loved each other very much. Of course, ...
A. 8 June 2007: No matter what you decide to do, take things really slow. Thats the main advice I would give to you. It will be best for your child if you both decided to give the relationship another shot, but as you already know, the ball isn't in your court. And ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and I haven't had sex for over a year and a half, I love him but can't take all the frustration anymore.
Q. My boyfriend and I haven't had sex for over a year and a half, I love him but can't take all the frustration anymore. He won't talk about it and we just end up fighting. Any help or advice?...
A. 8 June 2007: If the relationship comes to a complete halt even after you've tried pushing it over and over again in the same direction, you have to look at other alternatives, which is to either push in a different direction, or start pulling. Sometimes having a ... (read in full...)
He has been in so many failed relationships that I'm scared for ours! He's a flirt, but says that he's never cheated. Am I being paranoid?
Q. I am in love with a man I've been seeing for 2 years but I have alot of fears about our future together. He's been married twice before and was engaged to be married before we started seeing each other. His fiancee broke it off and left town. ...
A. 7 June 2007: No you're not being paranoid. Its perfectly normal you feel this way. If someone or something has a bad track record (not saying he does, but his certainly isnt the most reliable one we've seen), we can't help but be cautious of what might happen, ... (read in full...)
What can I say to my friend who thinks he's ugly?
Q. i have a friend that i've known for over 5 years now he thinks his ugly and asked for my help what should i say to him he has only had two girlfriends and wants to no why can you help ???...
A. 7 June 2007: Im assuming he's of the same age as you are. If so, having had 2 previous girlfriends by that age is by no means an amateur. He's had a lot more than a lot of other people at that age.
About his insecurities on his looks, you can tell him that... (read in full...)
I exercise and take my pills, but I just can't loose the weight! Any suggestions?
Q. hi everybody well i have a question well im tryin to loose weight but i just cant seem to for some reason i work out like 4 to 5 times a week i walk and run the treadmill i lift weights and i do crunkes leg ups squats everything and im even takin ...
A. 7 June 2007: Exercise comes hand in hand with good diet. You lose weight in the kitchen, not the gym. Control your amount of calories intake depending on the weight you want to achieve. Its not hard to find information on the amount of calories you're supposed ... (read in full...)
Husband looks at porn and we've not had sex for 8 months... how can I even contemplate a physical relationship with someone i consider to be a pervert?
Q. I haven't had sex with my husband for nearly 8 months. I went off sex quite a few years ago mainly because i had no confidence and felt that my husband was always criticising me. I lost confidence in everything, comfort eating and making every ...
A. 6 June 2007: Maybe you could try looking at this from a different angle, why hasnt he conveyed how he felt about the lack of sex after you confronted him about the pornography? Why did he even contemplated looking at pornography? The answers are in your ... (read in full...)
He said he had feelings for my gf, and now they're closer than ever! Was I right to break up w/ her to avoid these jealous feelings?
Q. My 2-1/2 year GF has a best friend who happens to be my friend also. They started hanging out a year ago when i was in far away place. At that same time, his best friend confided to her that he already has feelings for her long before we met with...
A. 6 June 2007: Exactly my point, the fact that she rejected you, twice even, proves that you did the right thing in breaking up with her. Dont get me wrong though, Im not saying that she hasnt got feelings for you at all, just not enough at the moment to get back ... (read in full...)
I have premature ejaculation after like 10 seconds.. how can I fix this?
Q. hi..im a red blooded male who loves sex alot! and im comfortable with who i am in bed. Here's the thing, most of the time i cant stop having premature ejaculation..its really annoying and im ashamed of it. Is there something wrong with me?? And the ...
A. 6 June 2007: The male species are very much physical creatures, as opposed to women who are more emotional. Most men get aroused with the slightest sexual physical contact (visually as well) with the opposite sex, unlike most women who need to be satisfied ... (read in full...)
How do I get rid of my nerdy geeky personality?
Q. How do I get rid of my nerdy geeky personality? i know its a big part of me but i hate being always referred to as a loser. Oh and I'm 20 and not some teenager in high school....
A. 5 June 2007: Its not the type of personality you have (geeky, macho, etc) that makes a person 'cool', its the way you bring yourself about. Its the way you exude your confidence in public and its the way you tell the world you dont really care what they think of ... (read in full...)
How can I tell her that there are *goals* to have perfect relationships, but no relationship is actually perfect?
Q. Ok. I got a girl and I'm having a big problem. She thinks there are perfect relationships and i told her if so then I want ours to be perfect. And I want to try my best, but I know there is no perfect relationship out there. But i want to show her ...
A. 4 June 2007: You havent really asked a question so I dont really know where to start. But Im going to try this at an angle I think you're stuck at.
You are right in saying that there are no perfect relationships. There is no perfect anything, period! But havi... (read in full...)
I'm in love w/ my flatmate, but don't feel I can tell her as she's emotional from a break up! What can I do?
Q. I am in love with my flatmate. We have lived together for a few years and have known each other since we started Uni 7 years ago. She has been having emotional problems with her ex boyfriend who messed her around and is still trying to string her ...
A. 4 June 2007: Whether or not she feels the same way or not, this is definitely the wrong time to tell her how you feel. You want to be sure that she really likes you for you before you both get into anything serious, not just because shes all messed up at the ... (read in full...)
He said he had feelings for my gf, and now they're closer than ever! Was I right to break up w/ her to avoid these jealous feelings?
Q. My 2-1/2 year GF has a best friend who happens to be my friend also. They started hanging out a year ago when i was in far away place. At that same time, his best friend confided to her that he already has feelings for her long before we met with...
A. 4 June 2007: Perhaps not, but is knowing the answer to your question going to change anything? Do you think that if you realised you were wrong now that your ex will take you back with open arms? Whats done is done, pick yourself up and learn from it, whatever ... (read in full...)
He broke it off but we still have sex! It's raising my hopes, so how do I stop since we live together?
Q. My partner and I have been together for a long time. For the last 3 months tho, we have been living in different states, with plans for me to move in with him when I had found a job, the week before I was due to move down, he broke it off... This ...
A. 31 May 2007: You have to let him go and everything that goes with him, or you'll end up hurting yourself more than just hoping you guys will end up together again. He claims he still loves you, but can't be in a relationship. But if he can't be in a ... (read in full...)
How can I find out if my girlfriend loves me in the same way as I love her?
Q. i am going out with a girl and i really love her but i dont think she loves me the same way, how could i find out if she loves me the same?...
A. 30 May 2007: To be honest, if she loves you, you'll definitely KNOW it. Its something called the interest level, and it always starts at quite a high level, then drops as time goes by. Now, raising her interest level isn't a problem, its keeping it there. If she ... (read in full...)
He's somewhat of a jock, always around the beautiful girls but why doesn't he have a girlfriend?
Q. so there's this guy... lol... it baffles me why he dosn't have a girlfriend because he is a good looking guy with a great personality. he's somewhat of a jock, so he is always hanging around beautiful girls, but still he dosn't have a girlfrie...
A. 30 May 2007: Or it could just be the simple fact that he's genuinely just enjoying the company of his 'beautiful' friends and does not want to get into a relationship yet. Then again, there could be a million and one reasons. Having said that, some people seem ... (read in full...)
I am really not sure if this guy likes me or not as I am getting mixed signals.
Q. I am really not sure if this guy likes me or not as I am getting really mixed signals. We were best friends for about 4 years + we really close and then we both had relationships with other people for about 2 years and we drifted, but then we became ...
A. 29 May 2007: Yes, I'd say you definintely were just a rebound to him. Thats not to say he doesnt treat you as a good friend, because I think he does. But once you start offering sex on a no strings attached basis with someone close, thats the sort of thing to ... (read in full...)
I'm thinking of packing my GFs bags because she flirts and latches onto random guys when we go out together!
Q. Hi Havent done this before so hope Im doing it right! I have a girl been seeing for almost a year right. Nice lass and good fun. One thing. We like to go out a bit. When we are out as a couple we meet other couples and this is fine. Good...
A. 9 May 2007: You know the worlds turned crazy when everyone seems to think that you have a problem with yourself in a situation like this! You see, I wouldnt even give the time of day to her if she blatantly flirts in front of me. But why should I bite my tongue ... (read in full...)
We split 2 years ago, Should I try and win her back ?
Q. Would you try win your girlfriend back even though its 2 years since split up? My ex still keeps in touch, she moved to spain for a while and sent me a text to keep in touch. she once said i liked you soooooooooooo much its a shame we argued all ...
A. 28 March 2007: To be honest, I would! But thats just me. Whats there to lose anyway, if you and her are still single that is. And besides, you guys have grown and matured so much in that time apart, you both led different lives to the extent that it will be like ... (read in full...)
Im 32 still a virgin, I hate it! But why is my BF still with me when were not intimate at all !?
Q. 32 y/o virgin in r'ship. my b'f knows i am, we have tried to have sex in the past altho it took me abt 6months to tell him. becos of me my b/f now hasnt had sex for over 1 yr, we argue alot i think lack of intimate is a big issue as we were drunk ...
A. 28 March 2007: Right, I honestly dont know why you're a virgin (when you said you've tried it before!), and whether being a virgin is a self inflicted decision, or is sex something you'd rather do when you get married. But if you're planning to stay a virgin ... (read in full...)
Having a problem with my polish friend! How do I react the next time I see her?
Q. I have a Polish friend who I have known for 9 months.We agreed from day one that we would only be friends and nothing else as she was married. Her husband and her invited me to go to stay at their house in Poland for 2 weeks in April. She has alwa...
A. 28 March 2007: Golly gosh mate, the level of maturity you handle yourself with her is almost childlike! Sorry to say but you get pissed off about the slightest things she does, and then you go about telling her how you dont want to be her friend anymore??! Shes ... (read in full...)
Im in dead end job at a call centre, I want to get out but I dont have any qualifications, what can I do ?
Q. I need help... im in a dead end job (call centre for a well known bank) truth is a HATE it, its depressing, ppl shout at you all day and we're treated like slaves. im 31 dont have any qualifications, but im brill with people, im very good at art and ...
A. 23 March 2007: To work in a gym isnt a problem, you could easily get a job there if you have experience of some sort in the fitness area. However, if you intend to work fulltime in a health and fitness centre (to offer professional advices to members, etc), and ... (read in full...)
We broke up, but seeing her so upset, makes me wonder if it is worth giving it another go !?
Q. I broke up with GF yesterday and don't know if it was the right choice. We had been together 18 mo and living together for 12 of that, things have been rocky off and on mostly about friends that she doesn't trust and doesn't want me to be friends ...
A. 21 March 2007: A definite no. You're bound to get back into the same trap as you so call it the moment you give in to your feelings and take her back. I know you said she was crying as she was packing up, but whos to say she wasnt really actually agreeing with the ... (read in full...)
We broke up and are back together but he wasnt upset in the slightest, surely he cant love me ?
Q. i love my boyfriend very much and he says he loves me too but we had an argument and broke up on saturday. he didnt seem bothered at all and i was crying my eyes out. we have since made up but he told me that he didnt cry at all when we split and he ...
A. 21 March 2007: When your boyfriend decided to let you in on how much fun he had whilst he was temporarily single, he was making sure you know that he wasnt dependent on you. He was making a point that you need him more than he needs you, although believe you me, ... (read in full...)
How can I lose those love handles??
Q. Hey, about two years ago I gave up serious swimming, and I had grown up a good metabolism from that. However, last July, a new shop opened on my way back from school, and I've been buying chocolate from there at least twice a week for the past eight ...
A. 20 March 2007: Oh yeah, definitely possible! Just make sure as you're cutting down on your calorie intake, you still have a balanced diet, but good effort I say. ... (read in full...)
Im not sure If I trust my bf or not, am I right to be doubting him ?
Q. Im confused. I trust my b/f well at least i think i do. ive been with him for just over two months now. we have quite an open relationship where neither of us really are bothered if we find someone else fit etc. well anyway, i get told that he's a ...
A. 18 March 2007: To trust your partner is the foundation of all foundations in a relationship! But thats not to say you're wrong in feeling the way you do, because you arent. You're only human and a theres always going to be a bit of jealousy within. However saying ... (read in full...)
My husband of just a couple of months is behaving unreasonably jealous all the time and its causing the marriage to go downhill!!!
Q. My husband and I have been married for a couple months already we are having problems. He is getting way too jealous and I am not guilty for any of the things he is jealous about. I don't know what to do our marriage is going down hill and I try ...
A. 18 March 2007: Its always difficult to make decisions when a child is involved in a relationship. Basically you're torn between making the right choice and doing whats best. However, for your own sanity and dare I go to the extreme, safety even, you need to really ... (read in full...)
I don't want to stagnate for the sake of loyalty... any advice?
Q. I am 25 yr old guy working in a IT company as a QC person. I have suffered a fall in my life right when i was about to begin my career in that i got depressed for some personal problem. My first job paid me fair enough salary but i always carried ...
A. 17 March 2007: Its hard to imagine that you're not being paid averagely well considering you have an MBA. I think the reason you're not being paid well is partly because your current employer knows you have a mental illness, and he probably worries thats a ... (read in full...)
How do I get started as an agony-aunt?
Q. hi there the quiestion i want to ask is how do i get my quiestions to people how needs my help with there quiestions as an agony aunt on line im 29 years old i have always been there for people who need me for advice and i want to give it on line as ...
A. 17 March 2007: First register with the site, as you already have. I think when you said you wanted to help people with their problems, Id think you mean more relationship problems dont you? If that is true, then go to www.dearcupid.org, which is basically a sister ... (read in full...)
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