We broke up when he said he didn't want a relationship, but now he's dating my co-worker
Q. Has he lied to me about the reason he wanted to split up to protect me? I have just recently split up with my boyfriend of 3 years. We didn't have a bad relationship, well it was a lot of one sided though. He always did what he wanted to do and...
A. 23 September 2005: What doesnt make sense? Its bleemin obvious that he's playing both the girl and you out!! He's using her to maybe get you back (as he's not sure whether he will or not and does not want to lose his dignity doin it), and in the meantime, he gets sex ... (read in full...)
My old ex lured me back from my new ex. Now my new ex won't take me back again!
Q. hi, I really need some advice. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years. Earlier this year, I got to know a guy from work and I really started to like him. I told my boyfriend I needed a break and we split up for 2 months. In this...
A. 23 September 2005: Accidentally sent the email to him??!! Call me crazy but I really dont think you 'accidentally' sent it to him. I think you deliberately accidentally sent it to him, if you know what i mean. You want to hurt him as u became bitter!! Look, im not ... (read in full...)
He's with someone, but she treats him horribly, and I think he'd like to be with me...
Q. I really fancy this guy but he is with someone else. I know they are not happy because I hang around with the same group of friends as them. They always argue and she is horrible to him. He can't do anything right. I know he likes me too because ...
A. 23 September 2005: The rule of the thumb is that you should never ever consider a guy so as long as he still has a gf. If he wants you, he'll have to leave her before to be with you. You should not partake in any of the flirting games with him now. Its wrong and ... (read in full...)
He has no excuse for sleeping with someone else! Should I forgive and forget to keep what we had?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend 7 months now and we love each other so much. He even said he wanted to marry me, and I felt the same. But he told me that he slept with another woman last week and he has no excuse for doing it. He doesn't know why he ...
A. 23 September 2005: Follow what your heart tells you. Everyone makes mistake. Thats ok. The only thing not ok with it is that he made that mistake in the expense of someone else, you!! So I would say, if you can ever find yourself to forgive him and feel that he is ... (read in full...)
I'm ready for a relationship, but she wavers and says she just wants "a friend"...
Q. I was seeing this girl Jane. She recently split with her Ex and we got together ( we originally met over net ) Anyway it was a somewhat rocky ride for 4 weeks because she was acting funny and stuff. I confronted her a number of times and basicall...
A. 22 September 2005: My my, poor mark!! Mate, the way you;re gonig with this, you're gonna end up losing her completely!! Let her be, if she doesnt want to get into a relationship now, dont force her. The more you ask her, the more it makes you seem clingy and ... (read in full...)
What can I do to make our 3 1/2 year anniversary special?
Q. Hey everyone, I have been in a very loving relationship for almost 3 1/2 years now...and that is where my question comes up. My 3 1/2 year anniversary is coming up and I really need help as to what I should do to show my boyfriend how much I can and ...
A. 22 September 2005: He sounds like a good guy, but no good guy can ever be perfect.He might be a good bf to have deserved someone like yourself (who makes an effort for the relationship), but sometimes being good isnt enough. But hey, at least you havent got to worry ... (read in full...)
Does the reduced interest in sex, plus the dating-website profile equal "cheating"?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 4 years and we had a great sex life for the first two. As with any relationship the sex tailed off but he is always 'up for it' whereas I am often stressed and tired from work. He had been having trouble ...
A. 22 September 2005: Right, first of all, you're smarter than this!! You're seeking reassurance that he's not cheating on you. You subconsicously tell yourself that he cant be and wont be. But truth be said, he definitely is and regardless of whether he replies to it or ... (read in full...)
The breaking-up with me was bad enough... but the sick lie made it worse!
Q. G'day Several months ago my then girlfriend told me her younger brother was dying from recently diagnosed terminal brain cancer. Over the next four weeks i was unable to see her as he was being treated, but spoke to her and her family weekly on...
A. 22 September 2005: Sick sick sick, spit spit spit!! To hoax up a lie like this just to let you know that she cant be with you anymore is absolutely absurd and unbelievable. But I guess there're all sorts of people around. You know what mate? You just thank ure lucky ... (read in full...)
I can't get over her past with her ex. I feel like her second choice!
Q. Girlfriend's Past and present I have been with my girlfriend for nearly a year now and I love her more then anything. She is amazing and she loves me so much. The problem is I can't get over her past. I know this is standard. A lot of guys have...
A. 20 September 2005: You both are having a very unhealthy relationship together. Trust me, Ive been there myself. What was most difficult for me was the fact that I had to always keep up to par with the mind games. Don't you think these mind games you guys are playing ... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm nothing more than a slave to my boyfriend in prison!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend now for 2 years. He has spent most of our time with each other in jail though, and the thing is, when he is at home we are great together. I couldn't have been happier but the way he is now is changing the way I feel ...
A. 20 September 2005: Call it off instantly. Not only does this guy show abusive and threatening tendencies, he also is very self centred!! Where the hell does he think he's in? A king living in a bloody castle?? He's in prison for crying out loud!! He should be thanking ... (read in full...)
She chose another man over me... Should I wait and see if she breaks up with him?
Q. Hi I'm 24 and suffering. 4 years ago I met a girl on the net and we bacame very good friends in real life. Then one day I realised I loved her. But the day I wanted to tell her she tell me she found someone and said would date him. It was quite a ...
A. 20 September 2005: Alrite mate, you HAVE to move on. For REAL!! From what you're saying, I dont think she has meant to hurt your feelings and thats why she's said that she will never ever get back with you even if she and her ex breaks up, which is a good thing if you ... (read in full...)
Should I help out my engaged friend by having sex with him?
Q. I really want a engaged man!! We have spent the night together after a few drinks and have been out a lot. After that we are so good togther! His fiancee lives miles away and he tells me how much he needs sexual attention all the time as he hasn'...
A. 20 September 2005: Are you even serious about posting this question? Its like you're only asking this to get approvals that you're donig the right thing when in fact you know it's the wrong thing to do. I do't get it, it's obvious you have had time to contemplate ... (read in full...)
Why can't my friends see that they're dating losers?
Q. Why is it that I can see the men my friends date are losers, and yet they still think that they are perfect? It's almost like they can see the bus coming but just stand on the road until they are squashed. I am normally the one to scrape them off ...
A. 20 September 2005: Well, theres only so much you can do. You've warned them but they're still not listening and trust me, you can't blame them. Have you ever been in a relationship where you feel that you love him so much that you see all his good sides and ignore the ... (read in full...)
My fiance won't marry me until I'm clinically obese!
Q. I am 24 and my fiance is 28. He has delayed our wedding until I become clinically obese. He said to me that he wants a clinically obese bride (me) at our wedding. I tried talking to him about it, but to no avail. What is going on with him...
A. 17 September 2005: This guy needs help!! and fast!! Dont let his sick demands drag you down. It seems so surreal that someone would only marry a woman he 'loves' only if she gets clinically obese, that I cant seem to find an explanation for his action I have to say ... (read in full...)
Mum wants me to be her lap-dog and she wants me to always be the one trying to please her!
Q. Dear Cupid, Is it possible that a mother tries to destroy self-esteem of her own child (son) when her wishes aren't fulfilled or sees her son not behaving like her pet? My mother makes me feel like her dog who is there for her entertainment. ...
A. 17 September 2005: Do what you must to stay sane, thats my advice. Looks like you've been putting up with this for far too long and will soon go cranky if you dont do something about it! I believe because she is your mum and will always be, you should first tell her ... (read in full...)
Every time my boyfriend checks out women with big boobs, my heart sinks
Q. I am a small busted woman. I have always wanted bigger ones. My BF's exwife is petite w/ Big Boobs. His 15 yr old daughter has big boobs. When we have sex, foreplay to him is sucking my boobs and he gets aroused by that. That is what turns him on ...
A. 17 September 2005: I believe that after reading all the posts here, you should start to realise that everyone is trying to say he should love you for who you are, regardless of whether you have big or small boobs. Would you ogle at other men if he had a small willy? ... (read in full...)
After a scare in Iraq, my boyfriend is rethinking our relationship...
Q. My boyfriend is in Iraq. Things were going so good and then the other day he was hurt; not bad physicaly but emotionaly real shook up. Now he has started saying things like it's not fair for me to have to go through this and worry about him. I f...
A. 17 September 2005: All you can do is give him the space that he needs and let him be sure. Its obvious that he's traumatised over something and has reevaluated his life and whether he wants you in it is entirely up to him and he alone. You can keep supporting him and ... (read in full...)
The battle between my culture and my education makes it hard to interact with women!
Q. Dear Cupid, My values and traditions are making me negative about myself. I am 22 yrs. old guy and have been brought up in a society where there is a strict boundary between men and women. Men and Women cannot be friends or talk honestly unless ...
A. 17 September 2005: Mate, sorry to say this but you're being really foolish if you let your beliefs on something thats really outdated like that ruin your chances with women. Be bold and take your first step into the new age!! Look, I dont mean to sound harsh but what ... (read in full...)
I deleted one picture from my phone, and my ex broke up with me over it!
Q. I Really need help. Me and my now ex-boyfriend were dating for 5 months. Me and him were not speaking for a week and on Friday of that week I left town for vaction. He called me basically every day saying he missed me and sweet talking me. fter a...
A. 17 September 2005: Hmmm, hate to say this but he does sound really really immature, but I guess most guys go through this stage. Most get out of it at a certain age, but those handful who dont often tend to ruin their relationships because of this trait. You didnt say ... (read in full...)
Is "J" gone, or is there a chance we'll get back together?
Q. Hi All, I was engaged when I met the girl of my dreams. My ex wasn't the one, so my new girl J, and I fell deeply in love. However, I kept in contact with my ex out of guilt. J didn't like this, and now, 3 years later, has had enough. We took ...
A. 17 September 2005: From my point of view, I think she's still very keen on you but just isn't sure at this time. You can wait on or wait for her to call but never ever pressure her into making a decision. Thats what most guys tend to do whenever their ex's leave the ... (read in full...)
Is it playing games to try to get my ex back into my life again?
Q. Thanks for the quick reply on my question I posted last month! Well I took your advice and feel soo much better for it! The guy friend (I had at work) had promised to just be a "friend" but then he started flirting with me through e-mail and I ...
A. 13 September 2005: Ok, I dont know why you and your ex broke up in the first place but if its anything to do with trust issues then I dont think its wise that you try to get back with him. And yes, what's recommended in the book really is mind games, and its basically ... (read in full...)
He's good looking, but so gentle that I wonder if he's gay...
Q. Last week, I went out with a good looking guy. We arranged to meet at 11 o’clock in the morning at Department Store. I was there on time. After walking around with him for a while, I found something strange in him. He seems like a gay. His action ...
A. 29 August 2005: See, this is the very thing I can never understand about women. First, women always complain that all straight men are pigs and its hard to find a nice, decent, gentle guy anymore these days. But when they do find that in a guy, they always have ... (read in full...)
I'm receiving threats to tell about my secret relationship...
Q. Hi I am 23 muslim girl from Leicester living with my parents. Nowadays I am recieving withheld number calls and threatening text messages. I had a relationship without my parents' acknowledgement. Now a guy knows. He has threatened to ki...
A. 14 August 2005: It seems you've got yourself in quite a bit of situation there. I just dont understand one thing though, from what u wrote, it seems that you do know where the problem is and what to do to rectify it (if not, make it somewhat better)...but u just ... (read in full...)
We're totally different people, but I really love him. Can we work through our differences?
Q. I'm gay and so is the guy I've been trying to make it work out with. He was deployed by Nat'l Guard for a year to my home state after I met him in his home state where I go to school. He has since returned home and im still here, about an hour ...
A. 13 August 2005: Hi there, to be honest Im sort of going through the same problem now and Im in a dillema myself. Im straight though and my relationship is with a girl. However, I dont see a difference in both our situations except for the sexes of our partners. And ... (read in full...)
My tears during sex turned to laughter... What was going on?
Q. Hi I have a problem. The last time me and my boyfriend had sex, I found myself crying. The crying soon turned to laughter as I became hysterical from the shock of it all. Please help, is this normal? My boyfriend was very concerned, and I...
A. 17 July 2005: Hi there, first of all, dont worry, you wont get dumped!! Very unlikely!! Your boyfriend is very concerned about what happened that day because he was trying to understand what was going on, if anything, it shows he really loves you.
Well,... (read in full...)
My ex-girlfriend and I share the same friends, and things are awkward...
Q. I've recently broke up with my ex-girlfriend of three years. But she's still always around being we have the same mutual friends. We're trying to stay friends, but it's hard considering the situation. How can I avoid the awkwardness without ...
A. 7 July 2005: Hi there, Ive recently gone through the same thing. It was a living hell for the first month on my part but I hung in there. I told myself if she could be around me and the mates and still be comfortable with it, why can't I? If she was strong ... (read in full...)
My ex says she's pregnant with our baby, but she keeps the promise of our getting back together just out of reach...
Q. Hi, me and my girlfriend split up 2 months ago and I couldn't leave her alone at all, which made her angry at me and hate me. Two weeks ago she told me she was pregnant with my child and was 3 months gone. This has made me happy and I really w...
A. 13 June 2005: Gosh I cant believe Ive just posted something similar to yours, although my gf wasnt pregnant and we've only been apart for a week now. Despite her telling everyone its for good this time, I still want her back desperately and we still live in the ... (read in full...)
I'd like his friends to be my friends, too, but will that look odd?
Q. I want to be friends with my boyfriend's friends but I don't want to make it seem like I'm flirting with them. Everytime we're in a group, I go silent because I don't really know any of his friends. I'd like to get to know them but I only com...
A. 9 June 2005: Hi there, you seem like a very very nice girl who's thoughtful and your boyfriend is an extremely lucky guy to have you! I'm a guy and I just got out of a relationship with my gf whom I really love. Thing is, we argued a lot. And what triggered me ... (read in full...)
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