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writes:I am 13 years old. There is a girl (well she is about 20) and I am not sure how I feel about her. I just feel if she knew that I liked her and accepted it I would feel so much happier and the feeling which I have when I see her would be lightened. Obviously I am not going to act on my feelings because I know that would be foolish and I would regret it for the rest of my life. I don't know whether its a crush or what, because it isn't so much physical appearance which makes me think about her all the time (although she is pretty.) I would appreciate it if someone could clarify the situation for me, Thank you.
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reader, GLforever +, writes (16 February 2006):
 It probably is a crush, but that doesn't mean you can't talk to her. I have always felt that the best way to get over a crush is to actually get to know your crush. (That's not always easy of course.) Sometimes you end up in love with your crush, but usually you realize that your crush was not so special after all.
I think "I Don't Lie" thinks you are a boy, not a girl (unless you selected "female" by accident). You didn't mention if you normally have crushes on females, or if you think (or know) that she is interested in females also.
Without knowing more, all I can offer is this: If you are a girl attracted to females, don't worry, there is nothing wrong with the way you feel. Just keep an open mind and don't try to hide or suppress your feelings.
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reader, I Dont Lie +, writes (13 February 2006):
 You sound very mature for your age, thus im sensing thats why you're attracted to this particular girl whos much older than you are. I think you shouldnt just shunt off your feelings for her completely (as thats not healthy either), but neither should you rush into things. Firstly, I dont know how this girl feels about you but judging from most 20 year olds, they wouldnt date a guy so much younger than them! I strongly suggest you take your time to forget this girl. At your age, its most likely that you're just crushing on her because probably you feel the other girls around you are not as mature as you would like them to be. Give yourself some time to grow up, no point rushing. As you go through life, you'll realise that as you meet new people with different backgrounds and characters, you'll get new crushes every now and then (whether you act on it is a different matter). So just let this one go if you can! Good luck.
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reader, auntie claire +, writes (13 February 2006):
 dear reader. this is a tricky one here your very young and you might think that you know what love is but it sounds to me its just a crush i'm affraid.forgive me for saying this but it seems to me that your looking for a mother figure don'tget me wrong i do understand you completely i was in the same sort of situation myself at school but when i look back at it now i do feel a bit sillymay-be your reading the wrong signs this just might be the person your feel most comfortable with talking about personal stuff but i don't you i'm glad you know that acting upon it would be silly though its good that you realize that at least a lot of people just follow their stupidityi think your brave to have asked for help so thumbs up to you i do hope that this gets resolved very soon good luck xxx
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