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writes: i started seeing a girl 9 months ago she is 23 and i'm 37 and we then fell head over heals in love. Then all of a sudden she ended it for no apparent reason. Except that she need time on her own. she said the problem is not me but her. She wants me to move on but i love her too much. I would anything to get her back. What should i do?
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reader, I Dont Lie +, writes (14 June 2006):
 Thing is mate, life is such that you can never ever make a person fall in love with you! As much as we all want that, its just never going to happen. But having said that, there are ways to try to make your absence 'felt' missed. First thing you should always remember is that when a lady backs off, you give her space, meaning you back off too. You never persist her any further, like most men would do! What youre trying to achieve here, hopefully, is to give her a chance to miss having you around, remniniscing the past. If you keep calling her and popping by her door, its sending out a message that you're all needy and clingy and that doesnt come across too sexy does it? I know most men would think that to get her back you need to show her that you care for her, so they smother the girl even more. Wrong! It works the other way around. What you can do next is start psyching yourself to move on, dating others when your ready, telling yourself over and over again that there are plenty of fishes in the sea! Its a psychology game, for the both you. Mind you though, this only applies if the girl still has a smidgen of liking for you! In other words, if she dislikes or hates you, you're out! So move on. Best of luck mate!
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reader, auntie claire +, writes (14 June 2006):
 dear reader. the only thing i can say is try and do as she asks and move on your not doing yourself any favours if you just live in hope.
i'm not say forget her completely and have no contact but just let her know your not going to stop her from moving on herself.
if you need closure you'll have to talk to her to get to the bottom of it, no-one else can give you answers to that one, but don't let this run your life or you'll never fnd happiness yourself.
i wish you the best of luck
keep me posted xxx
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