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I think my ex is seeing someone else but she won't tell me!

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Question - (13 June 2006) 7 Answers - (Newest, 13 June 2006)
A male United States, anonymous writes:

I think my ex is seeing someone else but she won't tell me that she is and its bugging me because if she is thats fine. I love her and want her to be happy even if its not with me. I just get tired of her lying about it because all the signs point to her seeing someone else. She turns her phone off or on silent when we are together and guards her cell phone for dear life. She still kisses me and lays on my chest when we are together. I love her and told her that we can put the past behind us and make a fresh start togeter but she doesn't want to and tells me that she isn't seeing anyone else. We broke up because I was unfaithful but I have owned up to it and admitted my mistakes. I won't hinder her from being happy but why lie to me I'm just her"friend". Why is she doing this when all she has to do is be honest I can take it. I screwed up and I know it but I won't keep her if she doesn't to be kept. Just asking for honesty.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2006):

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Anon. I hear what your sayin or at least read. Karma is a b. Reading your reply makes me smile because if you knew that I had waited on her for 6-1/2 years faithful and gave her the world for those years and she in turn gave nothing. Yes, I cheated but I feel cheated. Every action has an equal and opposite reaction so if I feel the karma from what I did then so shall she. Reckoning has no friends. It seems like you need a hug cause you have bigger issues than me. Maybe you need to pose a question or seek expert advice. Thanks for nothing.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2006):

You know what? She's your ex. If she's seeing someone else and not being upfront to you about it, then jeebus fricking coke, does it really matter? She IS your ex. She has some issues and let that be. Let her deal with it. If it were me, I wouldn't even bother. She does this and that; the least you can do is distant yourself and tell her being friends is fine, but she shouldn't do this and that, etc.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2006):

Yeah she may be showing up naked at the door, but c'mon now, who is the one following her around. LOL. Karma is a pain isnt it?! I would say the B word on that one, but I dont think we could use foul language on this site. How does it feel to be used?!!! I mean, thats what you men do to us women. You tell us that we're the only ones, yet go out with other women behind our backs. Maybe she wasnt showing up naked at the door for you, maybe she was naked for the other guy. DUH??? Give over her and move on man!

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A reader, I Dont Lie +, writes (13 June 2006):

I Dont Lie agony auntYeap, you've got one heck of a confused lady here! Either that or shes just messing with you cause shes wants to get back at you. I say its karma gettin back at you for cheating on her! But its most likely to be a combination of the first and last one. What do you say?

Well, doesnt matter now anyway, like everyone here has said, leave her alone and get on with your life. Whether or not she shows up naked at her door (are you even sure if she was showing up naked for you?) is irrelevent. The point is, you're in a position where you shouldnt assume that she still wants it all back, and if she does want you back, trust me mate, you'll be the first one to know! In order for the both of you to get back together, she HAS to be the one who says so. So just kick back, relax, meet new chicks, and enjoy the occasional front door view!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2006):

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I think both of you are absolutely right and I will leave her alone. Its is obvious and I know it will end up hurting more if I don't leave her alone. Well answer this. Why does she show up naked at her door and still kisses me with passion and tell me that there is no one that can take my place. If this is the case why can't she be honest and let me go because she knows how I feel. She tells me that we can work it out then says we cant. This goes back and forth. Mixed signals. Its not the point of caring but don't tell me one thing and take it back and then lie. Is that right or am I still wrong?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2006):

Just leave her alone. To be honest, its none of your business if she's with someone else or not. C'mon now, you're her ex. Maybe she knows that your still have feelings for her (it isnt like your feelings for her are going to change over night) and she's afraid that if you know, you'll problaby go and blow her new relationship. She's afraid you might go and tell her other man that you two still see eachother and she doesnt want to blow it. Get over it man! Really! Its none of your business.

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A female reader, auntie claire +, writes (13 June 2006):

auntie claire agony auntdear reader i hate to be blunt but why do you want to know so much you talk about honesty but the way she is treating you now is a comeback from how she felt when you were together if your really just friends then repect her wishes and keep her private life, private. don't shut her out just for this i think your lucky she's still your friend now don't ruin it by trying to make a mends for your past like you said you have admitted what you did you knwo know it was stupid and are probably very sorry for it but i think its time to move on now let her live her life and try to live yours its the best thing for you and you never knwo what might happen in the future

all the best to you i hope you can get this sorted xxx

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