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41-50,
anonymous
writes:A girl joined the company i worked for, a year and a half back. I didnt use to find her attractive physically or intellectually. I came to know through my female colleagues that she really liked me. Since I always had a tendency of falling in love, when i came to know about it, being single, i thought of giving it a try just for fun. i told her very clearly that let there be no expectation in this relationship. She was okay with it but deep down she always expected which i came to know about later. we would spend hours talking sitting close to each other under the moonlight . One night, we got carried away and got physical. In the beginning, i didnt get too much physically attracted to her as she was chubby and had saggy b...bs etc. but then i used to sleep with her regularly. one day i decided to put an end to this relationship (since i couldnt see any future and i thought it was unfair for me to continue the relationship only to satisfy my libido) without realizing that i got addicted to being physical with her. i later got married but all this while i still dream of sleeping with her. i love my wife very much and respect her. i feel guilty that i still feel physically attracted to this girl. i can even masturbate just thinking of her. how will this go away.....i was in this state after we broke up and now even after marriage i find her attractive the same way or even more. i thought my attraction towards her will fade with time. its been a year i slept with her and its been a few months i am married. she also left the job lately which gave a little sigh of relief as when she was around it was more difficult to contain the feeling of physical attraction. What has happened to me??
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you Kaycee and hijacked dignity for taking the time out to respond and help. really appreciate it. I wish you both all the best and a happy life.
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reader, hijacked_dignity  +, writes (11 August 2009):
 Physical attraction happens. It happens to all of us. Whether we are married or in a relationship, there are other people out there that we have been with or that we meet that we just feel this crazy attraction towards. The important thing to remember is that as long as being attracted is as far as it goes, it's normal and ok. If you are actually acting on this attraction, that's when things are bad. If you are thinking of this girl when you are with your wife physically, that's something that I personally see as a little wrong. But hey, you aren't talking to her really anymore and you are keeping loyal to your wife! That's a good thing.
Now that she's gone, it'll be a lot easier to get over her as well. It'll fade with time. I mean you'll probably still think back to your two's sexcapades every once in a while, seeing as she was part of your life. But eh. As long as you aren't obsessing. So just let it go, stop putting emphasis on what might be a problem, and things will fade with time. Enjoy your time with your wife!
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