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30-35,
*occerplaya11
writes:Hello all,Its hard for me to admit this but i can be a very jealous person. Especially when it comes to other guys and my girlfriend. Now im only 15, about to turn 16, and i no im gonna get some people who are gonna think im not in love with this girl, but i truly feel like shes the one. We have 6 hour phone conversations going into the early morning and we never get tired of each other. She is everything i ever wanted and is the best girl any guy could want in this world. she is caring, supportive, the whole package.Me and her lost our virginity to each other, yes we used protection. (Condom, Pill, and pull out). and i couldnt think of any other person i would have wanted to lose it to. The only problem i have is how i can be jealous sometimes...i know it hurts her inside because at times it makes her feel like i don't trust her, when i do ! its just i hate it when she hangs out with other guys when i want her to hang out with me. Basically what i am trying to say is how can i not be as jealous, because she means everything to me and i never want her to leave me. P.S.-we have been dating for 8 months.
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reader, soccerplaya11 +, writes (11 August 2009):
soccerplaya11 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell she doesnt just hang out with them, she just talks to them mostly, she only hangs out with some guys, and im mostly cool with the guys she does hang out with in her neighborhood. and she doesnt hang out with any guys that i dont like, so than i feel bad cuz i feel like im controlling her, when i just dont like the guys.
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (11 August 2009):
 So tell me again, why is she hanging out with other guys if she's so into you?.......
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reader, hijacked_dignity +, writes (11 August 2009):
 Unfortunately one of the side effects of being sexually active and physically connected with someone is in increase in the jealousy factor. It is just something that comes out of having a serious relationship. Everyone feels it every once in a while, it is just a question of what you do because of it. Your girlfriend is going to be around guys all the time. That's life. You're going to drive yourself crazy, because there is no way you can actually put a limit on who she hangs out with. You just have to trust her and know that nothing is going to happen between her and these guys. Get your mind off of things by keeping busy. Hang out with your own friends (whether they be guys or girls).
Losing your virginity at fifteen is a really big step. It means that you are accepting all rather adult consequences from doing so, one of them being heavy doses of jealousy every now and again. So when you feel yourself becoming jealous, just lock it away and stop thinking about it. There are other more important things to worry about. Like. Not being a teen father.
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reader, muffy +, writes (11 August 2009):
 Alright sweetie,I'm a girl and I'm exactly the same.I'm VERY jealous and VERY competative.Instead of being jealous,be sorta proud.She's yours NOT theres.You can actually call her yours and they can't.When she hangs out with other guys trust that she will stay loyal to you.A good relationship has trust.8 months is a long time and if she's been loyal to you this whole time then you've got nothing to worry about.
I hope I've helped
Love always,muffy
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2009): If you haven't already, talk to her about it and explain why you get jealous. But if you become to jealous she will feel trapped and eventually end things, you need to give her abit of space to be with her friends and understand she needs her own time to herself.
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