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Well I wish I could claim that I waited until I was older and wiser before deciding to share my advise with others but the truth is that I have been handing out my version of the unvarnished truth for as long as I can remember.
I can clearly recall myself at 13 years of age telling my girlfriend's mother that she was raising her daughter all wrong and screwing her up in the process. The funny part is that she stood there crying and actually listened to me and never held it against me. Looking back now, I find it pretty amazing because these people were well educated and rich. And I was nobody special, just a friend that cared enough to open my mouth.
And that never changed, over the years people came to know they could come to me for truthful advise and I would give it to them straight, no sugar coating.
I have been married for 23 years to a wonderful man. I have 3 sons and 2 grandchildren, they call me GeeGee, which is short for groovy grandma, hence the agony aunt name, lol.
I have a degree in the allied health field and have worked as an EMT and as a beautician. So I have heard a lot of sad storied in my day and my heart goes out to all of them.
So I guess, this site is just a way for me to reach out and try to do the same for a bigger crowd. |
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17 March 2011: So you are young and in love, that is so sweet and romantic. I am happy for you. I really am, there is nothing better then being young and in love. It is a very special time for all of us. But what happens when it is over?? Maybe you have ...
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After 5 years, how do I tell my husband just how unsatisfied I am with our sex life? Or is it just what married life is about....bad sex that eventually becomes no sex?
Q. I have been married for 5 years. My husband has always tended to be a rather selfish lover. However I am now really struggling with this issue. He rarely does anything to pleasure me, and believes that sex is simply about his orgasm. He r...
A. 21 March 2011: Well no wonder the man is confused if you have been faking pleasure with all his normal moves all this time...
Why on earth did you do that? So you wouldn't hurt his ego like the last gf's did? And how well did that work out for ya?
All you... (read in full...)
I think he's going to dump me and I don't know how to stop it
Q. This is prior to one of my questions some of you helped me on: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/apparently-my-boyfriend-has-changed-his-relationship-status.html But i don't know what I can do anymore....I talked to him about he just says b/c of a...
A. 20 March 2011: That is not true. It just feels that way right now...
But it won't forver, trust me. Something better is waiting for you right around the corner. You just have to believe in it.... (read in full...)
Trying to cope with and manage my out of control teen son. How?
Q. this has really worried me. my son is 15 and is in year 10 he has a girlfriend and she is also in year 10 but 14 year old. My son is in a gang and he has got in trouble various times which has really upset me anyway yesterday i came home from wo...
A. 20 March 2011: You need a gesture of goodwill to break the ice and show him you are on his side. Try buying him a box of condoms and putting them on his bed. Then maybe he will soften up enough towards you to listen to your other concerns.
But tread lightly ... (read in full...)
Can you suggest a way to make having sex less painful??
Q. Okay this question strictly applies to sex ; theres no relationship problems involved. So if anyone has knowledge about this please respond. Okay, i'm a young female and whenever I lost my virginity two years ago. And i've had sex since. However, ...
A. 20 March 2011: Sounds like you need some extra lubrication. You can buy it in any drugstore. Also try it with you on top, because it gives you more comfort and control. If it still hurts you may need a doctors exam to see if you have some extra skin getting in ... (read in full...)
My baby's father has a double standard for us, what can I do here?
Q. hello i dont know wht too do with my babys father he cant stay home at all.... two weeks tops when he goes out hes out all night even all weekend at times yet he gets mad when i go out but when i do its usually me buying groceries and paying...
A. 20 March 2011: Going out all night when you have a child is wrong. And his behavior is controlling. Is he abusive to you in other ways?
Being mean to you, controling, possessive, and/or jealous and trying to isolate you in your own home is classic warning sign... (read in full...)
Is it ever too late to say you're sorry to a friend?
Q. I used to have this best friend, and we were close. You could possibly say that at times our relationship felt more than your average friendship, and it was a little mutual. We were always together and would find any excuse to hangout. ...
A. 20 March 2011: Thx, sorry it didn't work out for ya...... (read in full...)
I am inexperiened in love. And too embarassed that I'm a virgin. Should I reveal this to him?
Q. I have a problem that i feel quite embarassed about. I'm almost 27 years old, and i'm still a virgin. That makes me feel bad enough, but what makes me feel even worse is that i am currently interested in a man who is 23 years older than me. He appa...
A. 19 March 2011: You need to start being honest with this guy or you will mess things up between you. Tell him you like him but just aren't much of a drinker. You only need to tell him you are a virgin when you are ready too. You could even wait until he is taking ... (read in full...)
I dealt with my insecurity by wearing coloured contact lenses -- does that present a false image?
Q. This sounds stupid but i really want as many opinions on this as i can get. So here's the story, i'm attractive and i mean that in a non snobbish way! But yet ever since i started clubbing i've worn coloured contacts every time (very natural lo...
A. 19 March 2011: To me wearing them for yourself just because you like them is the best reason to wear them. Same goes for how you dress and wear your hair.... (read in full...)
How can I let her down gently? She was a virgin. I was drunk. Her family could be a problem
Q. hello. i slept with my best mates sister the other day. im 20 shes 18 it was just a drunken mistake at a party. but she thinks were together how can let her down gently and without her family finding out. also make thing worse she was a virgin. plz ...
A. 19 March 2011: Sorry but where I am from we teach our boys not to get in the backseat with a girl they aren't prepared to marry.
And being drunk is no excuse. So I don't see how dating her for a few weeks is to much of a sacfrifice to make.
He shouldn't ge... (read in full...)
She's moody, I want her to dump me. Love's faded. What can I do?
Q. So heres my story: Ive been with my girlfriend for nearly 4 years now, im 20 now and she is 10 months older, and have been with her since i was around 16, shes my first serious relationship. And shes the only girl ive ever slept with. We met ...
A. 19 March 2011: The right woman for a man is the one who makes him believe in himself that he can do anything, reach for the stars and grab them.
You like being with her because she makes you happy even when you're not doing anything special. She makes you feel... (read in full...)
Do couples share their passwords with each other or is it a trust issue to deal with?
Q. I have a question about trust. Im having an issue with my bf keeping his password from me. I know its because of trust and im trying to work thru it but with all thats happend its kinda hard to.my question is how many of you share your passwords ...
A. 19 March 2011: My husband and I share passwords with each other for convinence, but we respect each others privacy.... (read in full...)
Does this sound as though it is more serious then just a transvesite who will want to dress up from time to time?
Q. Wonder if theres anyone that can help me that understands about Transvestism/crossdressers/transgendered/gender physphoria. I have tried to do so much research regarding the subject as my partner told me a year ago that wearing womens clothes is ...
A. 19 March 2011: Yes from what I understand there is a difference between a man who just likes to dress up in womens clothes and a man that feels like a woman trapped inside a mans body.
What that means for your future I couldn't tell you, but you are right to... (read in full...)
Would it be wrong to experiment with him? As a FWB? He's not sure of his sexuality
Q. Hi :) just need some help. There is a guy in my year at college. He has told me he is unsure of his sexuality and that although he likes girls there is a guy he likes. I really think he is cute and really like him. I can't decide what to do as I wan...
A. 19 March 2011: I would worry about getting hurt by a guy that doesn't even know if he likes girls or boys. But if you can sleep with him without getting emotionally attached then go for it. Just make sure you always use protection since he is at a higher risk ... (read in full...)
How can I let her down gently? She was a virgin. I was drunk. Her family could be a problem
Q. hello. i slept with my best mates sister the other day. im 20 shes 18 it was just a drunken mistake at a party. but she thinks were together how can let her down gently and without her family finding out. also make thing worse she was a virgin. plz ...
A. 19 March 2011: Looks like you have a new girlfriend, enjoy!
Seriously though, is there anything you don't like about her when not drunk that makes her bad girlfriend material? If not... Why not date her for a bit and see how things go?
If you don't even t... (read in full...)
Is it his culture or is he just not for real?
Q. Hello..read on, Im starting from the beginning.. I have met an Arab guy. He was in awe when we met.1 week after meeting we slept together. It was going to happen from the start.There was serious attraction. Before we even slept together everyth...
A. 19 March 2011: There is only one reason why am man would be worried about bites and scratches. Because he is afraid that someone might see them. Maybe he is married, or just has another girlfriend but he is hiding you from someone.... (read in full...)
Do some girls like seeing two men kiss together? Or am the only one?
Q. Ok listen GIRLS, we think boys are pigs, most of them, there are things guys like, for example, guys like stripper chicks, and we like stripper dudes. And this question has been in my mind for awhile, since dudes like to see two chicks kissing, do ...
A. 19 March 2011: Not so much. And this coming from a die hard QUEER-AS-FOLK fan.... (read in full...)
I don't feel anything for my husband and I don't know if I ever did
Q. Hi, I am a married woman with a major problem. I don't feel anything for my husband anymore. I don't know if I ever felt anything for him. He entered my life at a time where I was very emotionally vulnerable and I craved a relationship. ...
A. 19 March 2011: I agree with Janniepeg, stay away from that other guy, you are just looking for a way out at this point, anyway out, and are vulnerable to anyone who shows you a little kindness and attention.
Maybe he really is a nice guy, maybe he isn't. How much... (read in full...)
I assume sex is supposed to be fun but it isn't!
Q. Heyyy. So my boyfriend and I have been having sex for a few months. The thing is I don't really like it. I mean, everything but the actual sex is great. I assume it's supposed to be fun and feel great...but it doesn't. My boyfriend says it feels ...
A. 18 March 2011: The ugly truth is that sex just isn't that great for a significant number of teenage girls. It takes time (years)and practise to get it right. Your young partner needs more experience, and you need to get know your own body better. So you can show ... (read in full...)
I think he's going to dump me and I don't know how to stop it
Q. This is prior to one of my questions some of you helped me on: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/apparently-my-boyfriend-has-changed-his-relationship-status.html But i don't know what I can do anymore....I talked to him about he just says b/c of a...
A. 18 March 2011: Please read this article, it might help you.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/to-all-young-girls-with-a-boyfriend.html... (read in full...)
I get attached to one girl... how do I stop this?
Q. I have the nice guy syndrome, but I think I'm slowly getting over it as I'm getting more and more attention from girls. I poke fun at the girls and then the girls generally reply with a flirtatious "you're so mean!" I tend to get more attention ...
A. 18 March 2011: I married the nice guy the rest of the girls over looked, and am so glad that they did. Because he is mine now and I am never letting him go. (19 years and counting)
So don't dispair, once the girls your age have gone the bad boy route, and have... (read in full...)
How can I change his opinion of me?
Q. Hello, So I was curious about how to get a guys attention. I want this guy to view me in a different light, and I need help on how I should act. I'm not looking to change my personality, just tips to get him interested. So this guy, let's cal...
A. 18 March 2011: The harder you are to get, the harder ge will laugh about it after he "gets" you....... (read in full...)
Should I tell my husband his mother is pressuring me to have a child?
Q. Hi, I am married since three years and we have healthy sex life we understand each other and both of us work in good organization. I am 26 and my hubby is 33. Me and my hubby have agreed that we will not have child till we have sound economic ...
A. 18 March 2011: Tell your husband what his mom is saying to you. Just be like guess what your mom said to me today. And keep telling him, until he starts to get the picture of how much she pressure she is actually putting on you. It is much better for you guys ... (read in full...)
Every couple of months he goes weird for a few days....is this normal?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been going out for over a year now. He is great and we get along great. It's just every couple of months he goes weird for a few days where he seems like he is avoiding me and my messages and we don't see each other, I know ...
A. 18 March 2011: Have you ever asked him what is on his mind during these times?... (read in full...)
I was still erect AFTER intercourse... is this normal?
Q. I need help, i had intercourse for the first time, we both enjoyed it the other day and i was wondering is it normal to ejaculate when ur popping her cherry i did! if so how come i kept an erection after until we stopped and was still erect for ...
A. 18 March 2011: Don't worry it is normal.It happens to guys sometimes when they haven't had sex for awhile, or in your case ever...
And as for your timing, you were just to excited to hold it back, and would have cum the minute you got inside her whether she was ... (read in full...)
I desperately want to save my marriage, but I don't know what to do...
Q. My husband and I have recently separated. We've been together for 23 years and married for 18. We have two children. My husband initiated the separation, but, for reasons I won't go into now, there are many things that I have done to help create the ...
A. 18 March 2011: Good for you! I am glad we were able to help....
So from now on I hope you continue to move forward from a place of inner strength, and not weakness anymore. Because that is when the real healing can begin.... (read in full...)
After 5 years, how do I tell my husband just how unsatisfied I am with our sex life? Or is it just what married life is about....bad sex that eventually becomes no sex?
Q. I have been married for 5 years. My husband has always tended to be a rather selfish lover. However I am now really struggling with this issue. He rarely does anything to pleasure me, and believes that sex is simply about his orgasm. He r...
A. 18 March 2011: The first thing I would do is instill a permanent new policy in your bedroom, and enforce it without fail.
You can call it the me first, you second rule.
Any questions?... (read in full...)
Disgusted and fed up with my pathetic, sexually aggressive, miserable husband...
Q. My husband and I have been married for 4 1/2 years. We have a one year old son. And I am unhappy. I have second guessed my decision to marry him since almost day one. I had a miscarriage withing the first month of our marriage. I didn't want to h...
A. 18 March 2011: How old is your husband? Because he acts like a bratty 12 year old.
A decent man would have been kind, caring, and suportive after his wife lost a baby until both her mind and her body had a chance to heal. No matter how long it took. To violentl... (read in full...)
Should I give up on him or should I wait?
Q. Hey so theres this guy i REALLY love. We never went out or anything but i felt something special in him and he saw that something in me too. Things were getting somewhere and then he moved. I still really love him and im constantly thinking about ...
A. 18 March 2011: Honey the only reason this boy has been able to stay so perfect and unblemished in your memories is because he hasn't been around in real life to mess them up.
If he had not moved away you might have gone steady for awhile, and had some good tim... (read in full...)
Is it possible that she truly loves me after everything she has done?
Q. a while ago i had asked a question that concerned my gf having drunken intercourse with another man she hardly even knew soon after our break. now when we got back together she has told me she had always still loved me very much and was completely ...
A. 18 March 2011: Yes! I believe she still loves you.
But if you had asked me if I thought she can be faithful to you from now on, or whether the two will still be together 2 years from now, the answer would have to be no. She is to young/immature to be in a com... (read in full...)
How do I make a good impression on his father?
Q. I've been dating a great guy for 4 months, I'm 19 and he is 20. He's met my family and they really like him, he can be a little shy but he feels much more comfortable now. In fact he invited me to a concert (out of town) with him and his parents ...
A. 18 March 2011: Be yourself, but more like your Sunday going to church self.
Dress classy, and use minimal makeup. Smile, be friendly, and ask him a lot of questions about himself. It will make him think you are smart and interesting. And the things you learn may ... (read in full...)
I want to help my nephew with his personal problems, what should I do?
Q. My 18 year old nephew wrote this on Facebook and when I read it, it broke my heart. He is the son of my brother and he's living with his momma and stepdad. He's growing pretty rotten I see btw he writes. I starting to keep in touch with him and ...
A. 18 March 2011: What should you say to him?? My first question would be what should I say to his parents! Ask your brother if he saw what his son wrote on FB, and tell him you are very concerned about him, and that he needs to talk to his ex immediately and find ... (read in full...)
Advice on how to explain to him that I wont have sex with him before marriage?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have a bf and we're now 5 months together. So far, everything is going well with us. We encounter problems and yet we manage to fix things up and that's good. I have just one concern in regards with one of his requests from me...
A. 18 March 2011: Is it good to stick to your values and beliefs but at 30-35 years of age, I wonder if you are taking things a bit to far? Why have you never married?... (read in full...)
Is it possible that gold-digger can turn into a mature and loving wife?
Q. Dear All, I have a small question “is it possible that a gold-digger turn into a mature and loving wife” I ask this question with a reason, as I want to give my wife a second change (ok I am lying I want to give myself a second chance). Let me ...
A. 17 March 2011: Yes you should go talk to her, it sounds like you have both learned a lesson and could be very happy together again.... (read in full...)
Do I go back and raise my children with their very dependant father, or do I let what I have found with my highschool sweetheart grow?
Q. I need to work out what I should do. I was married for 13 years to a man, call him Pete, who hurt me so very deeply, he had an affair for 6 months with a very close friend, and at the beginning of our marriage he was out all the time drinking, doing ...
A. 17 March 2011: Your soon to be ex realizes that he screwed up big time all those years ago when he cheated on you. You know and he knows it to. That is why he is angry. He is made at himself, and he feels more scared and alone then he has ever felt before in his ... (read in full...)
Girls: why do you get emotional about sex???
Q. Why do girls act like they hate all boys, when they themselves know that the guys they are choosing to be with are known to only use girls for their bodies? This is a question i've been wondering for a while. Girls want sex more than guys. Period. ...
A. 17 March 2011: I don't believe that girls want sex as much as boys do.
I believe girls want love and think sex is the best/only way to get it.... (read in full...)
I fell out with my ex and now I'm losing our mutual friends!
Q. hi sory this can be a bit long but i need ur help !! i was in relationship with a guy for 3 yrs later i broke up with him because things werent working out for me, rather i was not ready to commit.i had casual relations every time but this turned ...
A. 17 March 2011: I agree with AngelDlite's comments and would like to add that your friends could just be hurt that you didn't trust them enough to confide your troubles to them the way they have alway confided their problems to you. You missed out on a chance to ... (read in full...)
'veiny' looking marks make me shy about showing my body
Q. i have these wierd veiney lines along my hips...i dont know what a boy would think of them. i dont wont to have sex yet, but i'm pretty sure that they'll still be there when i do. im just so afraid of what he will think of me....
A. 17 March 2011: Boys have them too, so don't worry about it.... (read in full...)
I broke into his house, got arrested, kids won't forgive me but I need him!
Q. Hi My boyfriend and I had a huge fight over someone saying I said something about him that i didnt. he is feeling a little off right now and paranoid as his x wife and him are fighting custardy after his 13 year old daughter saying she wanted to ...
A. 17 March 2011: If Karl is a real man who still loves you he will come to your aid as soon as he learns about the cancer.
Unless of course, you have a history of doing these sorts of ill though, impulsive things. He should give you the benefit of the doubt th... (read in full...)
To all young girls with a boyfriend
Q. So you are young and in love, that is so sweet and romantic. I am happy for you. I really am, there is nothing better then being young and in love. It is a very special time for all of us. But what happens when it is over?? Maybe you have ...
A. 17 March 2011: Thx DB!
You are right as usual, it does apply to boys as well.... (read in full...)
I'm worried that he doesn't love me anymore. What should I do?
Q. I Have been with my boyfiend for nearly 4 years. Our sex life is pratically well..non exsistant! this started to happen since maybe september ish time last year ( 2010)sex maybe once a week is accetable?? or not even that every couple of weeks! F...
A. 17 March 2011: @ DB I think we gave her the male & female version of the same advise, yours is better written though... :)... (read in full...)
I'm worried that he doesn't love me anymore. What should I do?
Q. I Have been with my boyfiend for nearly 4 years. Our sex life is pratically well..non exsistant! this started to happen since maybe september ish time last year ( 2010)sex maybe once a week is accetable?? or not even that every couple of weeks! F...
A. 17 March 2011: I think you are right, something has changed with him. he stopped wanting sex with you as much as he used to, and now he is suddenly interested in porn when he never was before. Maybe he is losing interest, or bored, maybe it is something else. ... (read in full...)
Help me be more indepenent!!
Q. I am in a relationship of two and a half years. I love my boyfriend, but I need to start being more independent. I don't have many friends, mostly because I just don't have time to socialize with school being a big priority. I am also a bit soci...
A. 17 March 2011: The funny thing about some guys, is the more you do create a life for yourself, and start to have fun, friends, hobbies places to go, people to see things to do, the more they suddenly want to be with you and don't like it that you are going ou... (read in full...)
I desperately want to save my marriage, but I don't know what to do...
Q. My husband and I have recently separated. We've been together for 23 years and married for 18. We have two children. My husband initiated the separation, but, for reasons I won't go into now, there are many things that I have done to help create the ...
A. 17 March 2011: You just described all the most comman reasons a good woman
gets pulled into having an affair, without ever intending to have one.
You need to stop thinking of yourself as some strangely flawed woman that normal loving wives can't relate too. ... (read in full...)
Is it ever too late to say you're sorry to a friend?
Q. I used to have this best friend, and we were close. You could possibly say that at times our relationship felt more than your average friendship, and it was a little mutual. We were always together and would find any excuse to hangout. ...
A. 14 March 2011: Sometimes you just have to wait for life to put this guy in front of you again. So don't force it for now, wait for a sign that the time is right to try again. ... (read in full...)
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