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Well I wish I could claim that I waited until I was older and wiser before deciding to share my advise with others but the truth is that I have been handing out my version of the unvarnished truth for as long as I can remember.
I can clearly recall myself at 13 years of age telling my girlfriend's mother that she was raising her daughter all wrong and screwing her up in the process. The funny part is that she stood there crying and actually listened to me and never held it against me. Looking back now, I find it pretty amazing because these people were well educated and rich. And I was nobody special, just a friend that cared enough to open my mouth.
And that never changed, over the years people came to know they could come to me for truthful advise and I would give it to them straight, no sugar coating.
I have been married for 23 years to a wonderful man. I have 3 sons and 2 grandchildren, they call me GeeGee, which is short for groovy grandma, hence the agony aunt name, lol.
I have a degree in the allied health field and have worked as an EMT and as a beautician. So I have heard a lot of sad storied in my day and my heart goes out to all of them.
So I guess, this site is just a way for me to reach out and try to do the same for a bigger crowd. |
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17 March 2011: So you are young and in love, that is so sweet and romantic. I am happy for you. I really am, there is nothing better then being young and in love. It is a very special time for all of us. But what happens when it is over?? Maybe you have ...
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Is it ever too late to say you're sorry to a friend?
Q. I used to have this best friend, and we were close. You could possibly say that at times our relationship felt more than your average friendship, and it was a little mutual. We were always together and would find any excuse to hangout. ...
A. 20 March 2011: Thx, sorry it didn't work out for ya...... (read in full...)
Fiance doesn't love me anymore, says he hasn't for a year
Q. please help my fiance has ended our relationship after 5 years and i dont know what to do. im so in love with him and i miss him so much. ive tried to limit contact but we have a child together so its really hard as he wants to speak to him ...
A. 15 March 2011: Your very welcome, dear lady!
I think your are going to be better than okay, real soon. You're going to be great!
The best revenge is always success.
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Should I get back together with a bf who has hurt me so much?
Q. Call me stupid or dumb but i don't know what to do.. i have been with my first love for three and a half years and we had a rough relationship. he has done a lot to me in the past but some how i still love him We weren't together for six months but ...
A. 15 March 2011: There is a great article on this site that can help you figure out what to do. Please check it out.... (read in full...)
Invited to ex's wedding but I don't think I can handle going
Q. I just found out that my ex-girlfriend recently got engaged. We dated roughly 6 years ago, and for some reason this recent news I find ver upsetting. A little history: When we met she was studying english in Canada. She was my first and onl...
A. 15 March 2011: I think you should just tell her the truth, that you want to be happy for her but still have feelings for her that are making it hard for you, and see what she says?
She will either tell you she still cares about you too, as more than a friend, ... (read in full...)
I feel disgusted at the male penis. Is it just me or anyone else feel this way?
Q. Penises just completely disgust me. I literally feel like i am going to throw up. And thats just from looking at it. I've been told there's great looking penises and horrible penises, but I just think they are all nasty. I don't want anything to do ...
A. 14 March 2011: If you were attracted to other girls I would have thought you would have known it by now. Maybe you should go out with a lesbian and find out.... (read in full...)
Is it possible to love but not be in love anymore?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend and father of my children for 5 years and it seems like I have fallen out of love with him but I still love him just not in love is that possible??...
A. 14 March 2011: It is possible, and a sign that you are letting each other drift to far apart. You both have to work on reconnecting with each other now that the kids aren't little babies anymore. Have a date night at least once a week. You don't always have to ... (read in full...)
My wife is pregnant and our sex life has stopped. Is this normal?
Q. Me and my wife had a great sex life but shes pregnant one and half months from now. We both missings our days but we're afraid of losing pregnancy. What should we do?...
A. 14 March 2011: Unless she is having complications or has had a miscarrage in the past, sex is safe right up until she delivers. Not only is it safe but can have certain benifits as well. You just have to try other positions that keep your weight off of her b... (read in full...)
Fiance doesn't love me anymore, says he hasn't for a year
Q. please help my fiance has ended our relationship after 5 years and i dont know what to do. im so in love with him and i miss him so much. ive tried to limit contact but we have a child together so its really hard as he wants to speak to him ...
A. 14 March 2011: You need to find the strength to go on and rebuild your life without him. If you can't do it for yourself, do it for your child who needs you. Try your best not to think about your fiance, or try to make sense out of why he left you like he did, ... (read in full...)
I feel disgusted at the male penis. Is it just me or anyone else feel this way?
Q. Penises just completely disgust me. I literally feel like i am going to throw up. And thats just from looking at it. I've been told there's great looking penises and horrible penises, but I just think they are all nasty. I don't want anything to do ...
A. 14 March 2011: One last question that I haven't seen asked yet.
It is just the penis itself that offends you, or is it maybe because you think they are dirty and unclean?
Sometimes strong feeling of disgust like you describe, goes back to childhood and ho... (read in full...)
How do I stop being extra possessive about my girlfriend?
Q. hi. i am a 21 yr old guy. i m into a relationship with a gal 1 and a half yrs younger to me from past 3yrs. i think m extra possessive. i always comment on her clothes which are deep neck or short waist. i don't like this cuz of which i irritate her ...
A. 14 March 2011: All you can do is tell her how nice she looks when she wears less reveiling clothing and maybe you could offer to take her shopping and buy her an outfit or two she looks good in and is more appropriate to you taste as well.
Has she ever seen the... (read in full...)
Invited to ex's wedding but I don't think I can handle going
Q. I just found out that my ex-girlfriend recently got engaged. We dated roughly 6 years ago, and for some reason this recent news I find ver upsetting. A little history: When we met she was studying english in Canada. She was my first and onl...
A. 14 March 2011: I don't think you have moved on as well as she has. She is fine with just being friends with you, and that is all she wants or expects from you now. And you need to face that before you even think about going to Japan.
Because even if this gir... (read in full...)
I think I have issues with love.
Q. I think I have issues with love. Every time I fall for someone I really like (and they like me back) I start to act really weird. When I am around them, I like them and feel loved but when I'm away I start to judge my feelings for them and start to ...
A. 14 March 2011: You need to figure out where this is coming from. Start with your relationship with your parents and how you grew up. If it was unstable and filled with loses, as I suspect. Look up information about people with abandonment issues to see if it ... (read in full...)
Myself, My girlfriend and her ex!!
Q. Hi, i have a girlfriend that i love, but she keeps asking me to open up but the thing is i don't know how to? And also she sais that we need to be close so that we will work out, which i understand, but when i sit their and cuddle up to her she ...
A. 14 March 2011: It is hard for anyone to open up to someone they aren't even sure they can trust and her behavior with the ex is only making it harder for you I think. In time you will learn whether or not she is the person you think she is and as the trust builds ... (read in full...)
Is it ever too late to say you're sorry to a friend?
Q. I used to have this best friend, and we were close. You could possibly say that at times our relationship felt more than your average friendship, and it was a little mutual. We were always together and would find any excuse to hangout. ...
A. 14 March 2011: Sometimes you just have to wait for life to put this guy in front of you again. So don't force it for now, wait for a sign that the time is right to try again. ... (read in full...)
To my utmost horror, I'v realized my girlfriend still does cocaine. Should I stay and try to make it work, or leave?
Q. my girlfriend and i have been together for 13 months, and have only had a handful of fights. we're both pretty upfront about what we've done in our past-- one instance being that she tried cocaine a few times. we talked about it, and i told her i ...
A. 14 March 2011: You did the right thing. Maybe you can get her to stop before she gets so hooked she can't get out of it and really screws up her life. Because it sounds like she isn't doing it that often yet at this point.
But if you let her get away with eve... (read in full...)
What is sexy to men?
Q. what is your ideal weight and look of a woman? I am 15 and i wanna know what men think is sexy. I dont wanna look tramp-ish but not too nun-ish. I wear short shorts and tees often and I wear regular converses. I have mid length brown wavy hair. I ...
A. 14 March 2011: You should read the article on this site called what men look for in women. It tells you everything you need to know.... (read in full...)
What can I possibly do about his actions ?
Q. Please ..I really need help all .. My man and I have been together around eight years , and have had a wonderful and exciting relationship , we originally met overseas and I am devoted to him . He is a great lover and wonderful provid...
A. 12 March 2011: Even if you could learn to live with the fact that he will never stop cheating on you, you have to face the facts that he is risking your life with his sexually irresponible behavior.
Is that really the kind of life you want?... (read in full...)
Should I get back together with a bf who has hurt me so much?
Q. Call me stupid or dumb but i don't know what to do.. i have been with my first love for three and a half years and we had a rough relationship. he has done a lot to me in the past but some how i still love him We weren't together for six months but ...
A. 12 March 2011: You obviously have a brain so you need to get your heart on board with your head. One is no good with out the other.
You need to wait for someone that both your heart and your head can agree upon. Your head is telling you this guy is no good for... (read in full...)
Wife slept with another man with my permission but now I'm finding it hard to deal with.
Q. My wife and I have been married for five years and love each other very much. We've been very honest in our relationship and have always shared our fantasies and flirtations with other people. She has always had a desire of sleeping with another ...
A. 12 March 2011: You need to stop pretending that you are ok with this to her and be honest. She will understand that you were ok with her being with another guy in fantasy, but in reality you aren't handeling it so well.... (read in full...)
Why am I having no success?
Q. I'm 18 and dreadfully inexperienced with women, I feel like I'm the only one who hasn't been intimate with a woman. Even if it is just a snog... I'm not naive and have been meeting women and trying to make an impression, but it usually leads to...
A. 12 March 2011: A girlfriend is not the key to feeling more secure. That has to come from inside yourself.
It sounds to me like you are trying to hard not to appear desperate, and women can smell that from a mile away. So stop trying so hard and love will com... (read in full...)
Why did he act this way after breaking up with me?
Q. This is a follow up to my question that I posted about a week ago (http://www.dearcupid.org/question/where-do-i-go-from-here-what-should.html) I attended a party last night and my ex (quick backstory - he broke up with me over Facebook last we...
A. 12 March 2011: He was just being nice, but that's all. He doesn't hate you or want things to be ackward when you run into each other socially. But his words and his actions are all telling you that he doesn't want to get back together. And you need to except ... (read in full...)
Is it my fault she got so messed up at my party?
Q. I had a house party because my parents were away, my brother said it was ok too. we both invited a lot of people and the people we invited brought more people. i invited my ex, the girl i want a relationship with. as the night went on, people got ...
A. 12 March 2011: No it wasn't your fault, she should have been more careful and her boyfriend should have taken better care of her.
But I'd still think long and hard before I threw another party if I was you. ... (read in full...)
Help! My father and brothers treat me very badly!
Q. hi i am a 40yrs married woman i had a bad marital life as a result i tried to emotinally depend on my parents for help they always gave me the rough shoulder inspite of that i tried to help them whenever they needed me i would go to any extent to ...
A. 12 March 2011: I think you already know that the gold is not worth your self respect and your sanity. Get out and let your brother care for the old man.... (read in full...)
What if your guy doesn't remember your middle name, your favourite color?
Q. We are told often throughout life via many venues how to tell if a man truly loves you. If you have been dating for some time (over a year), is him not remembering your favorite color, middle name, etc...a clear sign? is how info is store with a ...
A. 12 March 2011: Remembering those kind of things is sweet, but not a good indication of how much a man loves you. Some men just pay better attention to the little things then others.
If he shows you that he does know and remember other things you care about, y... (read in full...)
How can he be too tired for sex?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have got into the habit of having intercourse everytime we see each other but recently he's been saying "I'm too tired" and things like that. He's making me feel like im unattractive and he doesn't want me, which is silly I...
A. 12 March 2011: How many times a week do you see each other?
If you see him a couple times a week then you should be glad that he doesn't always just want sex everytime you too are together.
But if you only see him on the weekend and the whole weekend passes w... (read in full...)
12 years and I just don't see the relationship going anywhere?
Q. I have been with this guy for 12 years now (off and on for the first few years) and I just don't see it going any where now. for the past few weeks we have been arguing everyday or every other day and it just gives me a head ache. i don't ...
A. 12 March 2011: It sounds like you were only 14 to 17 years old when you first met this man. Maybe you have grown up and changed as a person and realise you want and need something more in your life. 12 years is a long time to be together and still not be married. ... (read in full...)
My lover thinks she can move in with me in 2 months but I'm still married!
Q. I am 41, married 10 years, no kids and have fallen in love with another women (14 years younger). I know the other women now 1 year from another State. She visited me several times (when my wife was out of town) and I visited her often including her ...
A. 12 March 2011: If you have been so unhappy and want to leave, snd love your girlfriend more than your wife, then why haven't you left already???
I suggest you, file for divorce, rent an apartment and leave asap, or you WILL lose both.
Just tell your wife t... (read in full...)
I want him to want me... again.
Q. okay so i need advice pronto! so for a really long time i was pretty much head over heels for this boy, lets call him mike. so mike and i had a on and off dating relationship for a year. then out the of the blue, one of mikes friends, a playe...
A. 12 March 2011: Are you still going to the dance with Tim?
If so there is your chance to win him back.... (read in full...)
I feel like I need to know the details of his cheating, for closure....
Q. My ex boyfriend and I were together for 3 years on and off. He cheated on me twice that I knew of, and the trust issue became too much for me to bear. Aside from the cheating, we got along pretty well and didn't ever fight, etc. Anyway, we have ...
A. 12 March 2011: Knowing that he cheated on you multiple times with different women, should make it easier for you to forget about him and move on, not harder.
Stop beating yourself up over him. He isn't worth 2 seconds more of your time. He has already taken en... (read in full...)
Weekend fling. Now what??
Q. Okay, so I finally gave into one of my fantasies and had (protected) sex the other night with a complete stranger. It's completely out of my character for one, but I have to admit that this guy was the best I've EVER had in bed. I explained to him ...
A. 12 March 2011: He wore a condom so the percentage of you getting something from him is actually very low. And I wouldn't assume he has multiple partner just because he knows what he is doing. Maybe he does, maybe he doesn't, ask him. If he admitts to having a lot ... (read in full...)
My lover is pregnant and I'm afraid I won't be able to see the baby!
Q. I had an affair. We were both married, and we both agreed that we would get divorces for each other. We also live 1000 miles apart. She got pregnant from me (her husband has a vasectomy and knows its mine). But she decided there were too many ...
A. 12 March 2011: Yeah it kinda sucks how love goes right out the window when there's a baby to feed, doesn't it?... (read in full...)
I'm pissed that he is going to use everything I taught him about women and relationships and have a good relationship with another woman after making me suffer....
Q. Hi. Please help me to understand. I have had only one real boyfriend in my life. I've gone out with a few and had another relationship but only one long term serious relationship, of 2.5 years which ended more than 3.5 years ago. I have no feelings ...
A. 12 March 2011: Ask yourself this, is you were happily married or living with someone right now that you were madly in love with, would you even be thinking that much about this guy or be upset that he found someone else?
I doubt it.
If anything you wou... (read in full...)
I've been thinking about cheating or breaking up with my girlfriend because my relationship is not a balanced one...
Q. I look at my girlfriend and I think to myself how much I love her. I feel lost without her and I look towards going out with her. But I feel sometimes "unloved". I feel somewhat under appreciated and I've told her this many times before and she said ...
A. 12 March 2011: Either your girlfriend is just more reserved then you are and has a hard time showing her feelings or she has become to comfortable with you and the relationship.
It is a natural fact that once the ski rockets and fireworks start to fade, people t... (read in full...)
Ever since I came out to my mom, we have had a strained relationship.
Q. I can't stand it! I feel as if I can't be myself around my mum! Ever since I came out last summer We have had a strained relationship. Before she would ask me about girls and stuff and I know it is an adjustment but now I don't feel I can talk about ...
A. 12 March 2011: Mom's love to feel needed. Try going up to her and saying mom I have a problem and need your help. Start off with an easy one, maybe a relationship problem but nothing sexual and see how it goes. If she at least tries to help you or give you ... (read in full...)
I love him so much and can't live without him, but my momma doesn't care!
Q. so i've been dating the same guy for about 1 year and 2 monthes (i've been counting lol). but ever since day 1 my mom hasnt likde him one bit!im gunna call him 'bob'. now 'bob' and i have made some... uh... really bad choices but even so... most of ...
A. 12 March 2011: Mommas are not as dumb as you may think they are. Maybe you should listen to her if she has a bad feeling about this guy.
I can remember being your age and fighting with my mom over boys. She was always yelling at me don't do this, and don't do... (read in full...)
Following my dream to be an ultrasound technician
Q. Dear Cupid, i am 16 yrs old going to 17. When im older, my dream career would be to become an ultrasound technician. I live in california, so what are the things i need to get in order to be certified as one? Is it a smart idea to go to a trade ...
A. 12 March 2011: Your local community college should have the courses you need to be certified. And in my opinion, college credits are always valued more over trade school certifications by the hospitals that will be hiring you.... (read in full...)
She seems to be more into him than I want her to be....i don't know what to do,
Q. my girlfriend and i have been together for 2 years, i know that she has been e-mailing a boy witch is better looking than me that goes to her college he`s the typical cool boy, unfortunatly im far bigger than him and will not let this go, the emails ...
A. 12 March 2011: Twice you wrote that you are bigger than him and will not let this go. That tells me two very important things, about you, maybe three.
1# You are a big guy that likes to use his fists to solve problems.
2# You are either immature or have a se... (read in full...)
Bleeding the second time after masturbation?
Q. So i'm a virgin but i masturbate. I have only used penetration (a vibrator) twice, the first time it bleed, which i saw as normal due to my hymen breaking, but my second time i also bleed, and more than the first! I thought you were only meant to ...
A. 12 March 2011: First of all did the bleeding stop after just a few minutes?
If it did then I expect that you only torn your hymen a little bit the first time. The second time you were perhaps a little braver and a little ruffer and probably torn the rest of it c... (read in full...)
Third date -- did I screw it up?
Q. help! did I screw up my third date? I like this guy, I think, he seems nice and we have a lot in common, and we went out three times (first time coffee, second time expo and chat in a bar, third time chat in a bar and movie) and he always did the ...
A. 12 March 2011: I don't think he was assuming, he was just hoping there would be a next time and was afraid to ask.
So he tried to play it off by talking about the next date, without having to come out right out and ask you if you would like to see him again.
... (read in full...)
How do I control a family situation that could spiral out of control?
Q. Hi Readers, Thank-you very much for your past support. At present my daughter is at Boarding School. What I suspected would happen has, with my Mother and now Sister calling me up to 4 times a day. Previous to my daughter going to Boarding School m...
A. 12 March 2011: Just stick to your guns, and tell them to butt out. It's your job to decide what is best for your daughter not theirs. Maybe it would help smooth things over if you accepted the horse. With your sister and your daughter.
As long as it is safe and ... (read in full...)
Should I follow my heart back to my first love or stay with my current good guy?
Q. well, i have been dating this guy for almost three months. We have been through a lot together, he was my friend through some extremely hard times in my life. and i appreciate it and do love him. but recently, me and this other guy and i have ...
A. 12 March 2011: Sorry, but that is something you have to decide for yourself.
All I can tell you is that you can never go back, mainly because the human mind is flawed, it tends to remember the good and repress the bad. This is a basic truth, psycholo... (read in full...)
Should I break up now in anticipation of the long seperation?
Q. I have been going out with a guy for about 6 months. I may as well live with him for the time we spend together. And I'm falling in love with him. I haven't told him yet... I don't know if I even should. The thing is, I'm leaving in 6 months f...
A. 12 March 2011: You have to forgive him for seeing other girls before he fell in love with you. He is with only you now and that is all that should matter.
As for the 6 mths separation, well that's still 6 nths away and anything could happen between now and then... (read in full...)
What should I do with a friend who did this?
Q. So I want to hear what you are going to say about this :) I have a good friend,she's a year older,we happen to go to the same university and she's one of the people I trust. So does she. We are from the same town too. She had gone to visit her...
A. 12 March 2011: Your friend sounds like she wanted to meet with you but didn't know how to tell Ria to get lost. She didn't want to invite her along, but probably felt like it would be rude to say sorry I have to go now and you are not invited.
So try not to l... (read in full...)
I want my marriage to work, but at the same time I don't want to go an another year like this.
Q. Dear Cupid I have been married for 7 years now. But for the past year, things have been going bad in my marriage. i still have feelings for my husband but not the same love i had before. i don't think he feels the same way.we haven't had sex for ...
A. 12 March 2011: They don't call it the 7 year itch for nothing...
Believe it or not 7 years into a marriage is a critical milestone that can either make or break a marriage.
By this point in time you have grown too comfortable with each other and as a result ... (read in full...)
About my ex ldr I miss her a lot and don't know if it's to late to get her back?
Q. Well to make this short as I can But if you like to read go for it. Well I meet this girl on A on line web site in I fell in love with her. I can't help but to think about her all the time and every day. But do to the ldr thing again I lost her ...
A. 12 March 2011: PS: I should have added that the only way to fix this is to earn back both her and her parents trust. She can't see you if her parents are giving her a hard time about you.... (read in full...)
Are Asian women tighter?
Q. Do Asian Women have tighter Vagina's??? My friend said that asian women have tighter vaginas and are much better sexually for pleasure for men? is this true x...
A. 12 March 2011: @Chigirl
Ahhh thank you for correcting me no wonder I never had any luck with that one.
PS: my husband is 6'7" and wears a size 13 shoe. hahahah... (read in full...)
About my ex ldr I miss her a lot and don't know if it's to late to get her back?
Q. Well to make this short as I can But if you like to read go for it. Well I meet this girl on A on line web site in I fell in love with her. I can't help but to think about her all the time and every day. But do to the ldr thing again I lost her ...
A. 11 March 2011: How old is this girl? Is she is still in high school I can understand why her parents might not be to keen on the idea of a 20 something year old they know nothing about sneaking around with their daughter behind their backs. Or messing up her ... (read in full...)
Are Asian women tighter?
Q. Do Asian Women have tighter Vagina's??? My friend said that asian women have tighter vaginas and are much better sexually for pleasure for men? is this true x...
A. 11 March 2011: Your friend is seriously mistaken or pulling your leg. A woman's size, big boned or petite have nothing to do with the size of her vagina.
PS: and just in case you ever wondered, if a woman has a box of large size tampons in her bathroom... (read in full...)
I want him to want me... again.
Q. okay so i need advice pronto! so for a really long time i was pretty much head over heels for this boy, lets call him mike. so mike and i had a on and off dating relationship for a year. then out the of the blue, one of mikes friends, a playe...
A. 10 March 2011: Who do you want back Mike or Tim. I'm sorry but I am having trouble understanding the quetion. Other than the fact that Tim still talks to other girls. Maybe you could clarify your questions for us little more.... (read in full...)
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