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writes:helloi dont know wht too do with my babys father he cant stay home at all.... two weeks topswhen he goes out hes out all night even all weekend at timesyet he gets mad when i go out but when i do its usually me buying groceries and paying bills.i do go out for a few hours once in awhile time for myself.what should i do about him ? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2011): i did try to talk to him about it
it'll be fair if he went out as long as i did...few hours of going out
but to him it wasnt good enough..
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2011): I disagree with not going out!!! I have a 3 year old and I still have a life and make sure I dont put myself last. There is a difference in creating time for your self and if you dont you will not keep sane with having children. With him going out all the time that is wrong, but you should try talking to him, and let him know that this is not right. My daughters dad would disapear for days and even weeks, and would eventually come back. I am sure this is not the case, but later I found out he was using speed and sleeping with other women. He is no longer in our lives and has completly vanashied. Let him know that you dont agree with him going out all the time and try to compramise, and let him go out on certain days. Dont take his freedom away it will back fire on you.
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reader, soon567  +, writes (20 March 2011):
Its you!!! He treating you the way you're letting him. Put a freaking stop to this mess and now. No words needed anymore. He has half the kid so make sure he be a father at least half the time. If he leaves then change the locks. If you honest believe that you can't live without this cheating sack of then sit there and take it until he gives you an STD. Otherwise when he lives for the weekend tell him to take it all. Unless it part of his freaking job. Mean what you say and do it.
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reader, GeeGee255 +, writes (20 March 2011):
 Going out all night when you have a child is wrong. And his behavior is controlling. Is he abusive to you in other ways?
Being mean to you, controling, possessive, and/or jealous and trying to isolate you in your own home is classic warning signs. You may need to form an excape plan if things don't improve. I assume you have talked to him about this and got nowhere with him? If he doens't care enough to try and do better then you shouldn't care enough to stay. You and the child deserve better. With him or without him.
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