A
female
age
51-59,
GeeGee255
writes:So you are young and in love, that is so sweet and romantic. I am happy for you. I really am, there is nothing better then being young and in love. It is a very special time for all of us. But what happens when it is over??Maybe you have a big fight on day and boom! it is over as suddenly as it began. Maybe you think he is planning to break up with you soon and you are worried about it. Maybe you want to break up with him? Either way you mustn't fool yourself into believing that it is going to last forever at your age no matter how bad you want it too, or how much you think you love him. It just won't. So please, please do yourself a favor and forget about this lasting forever nonsense until you are out of college and/or at least around 24 years of age.People grow up and change so much between the age of 13 and 23, it is like they become a whole new person. Everything about them changes, what they want out of life, think and feel. And because they have changed so much, the direction of their life changes as well. So much changes about them, that the relationship just can't keep up and eventually it pulls people apart no matter how much they loved each other.So if you date, you need you understand this simple truth going into it, and prepare yourself for it, first in your head and your heart, and second by not letting any boy become your whole world to the exclusion of everything else.You need a good balance of time between school, friends, family, activities, and a BF. If you don't maintain this balance and spend all your free time with a boy then you are going to feel lost and broken hearted everytime someone breaks up with you. So be smart, never put all your eggs into one basket. Yes, that is what the old saying means, and it happens to be true for a lot things in this life. That's why it is still around. Reply to this Article
Share |
You can add your comments or thoughts to this article A
male
reader, Wamaidza  +, writes (10 April 2011):
 Surely that is the plain truth we get attracted to the light as moths do and latter have ourselves to perish in the fire!Your advice is superb esp to the adolescents and young adults for even l, one time l could not believe my eyes being lèft in the broad day light having taken the bull by the horns for her!My effort seem wasted but l know l did my best.Like others,l do support that we and others in that age bracket to put education first and our interests as we heed to strong advices like yours.Thanks and post more.GeeGee.
A
female
reader, GeeGee255 +, writes (17 March 2011):
GeeGee255 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thx DB!
You are right as usual, it does apply to boys as well.
...............................
A
male
reader, dirtball +, writes (17 March 2011):
 Great first article GeeGee255! This applies to a lot of young boys too. I remember investing everything I had in that first love. It cost me a lot. Friends... Gone. Family... Alienated. Me... Lost, cheated on, with a present that kept giving.
At a young age, we feel everything very strongly. That intensity often leads us to do stupid things in the name of love. It's because we haven't learned how to allow our reason to interpret what we're feeling.
Life's all about balance. Making someone your "everything" is not balanced, and it's setting you up to travel down a very dark road.
Again, great article GeeGee! Keep 'em coming.
...............................
|
