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writes:This is prior to one of my questions some of you helped me on: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/apparently-my-boyfriend-has-changed-his-relationship-status.html But i don't know what I can do anymore....I talked to him about he just says b/c of a lot of stuff going on right now and he just needs to think, but i have a feeling that he is going to dump me and I dont know what I can do....I want to try to save this relation ship as much as I can can you please help me....please!!!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, GeeGee255 +, writes (20 March 2011):
 That is not true. It just feels that way right now...
But it won't forver, trust me. Something better is waiting for you right around the corner. You just have to believe in it.
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reader, Sjroller14 +, writes (20 March 2011):
Sjroller14 is verified as being by the original poster of the question thnx for trying to help but he dumped me and nothing can or will mend my broken heart. /3
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reader, GeeGee255 +, writes (18 March 2011):
Please read this article, it might help you.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/to-all-young-girls-with-a-boyfriend.html
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (18 March 2011):
 First: if he's got a lot of "stuff" going on, keep in mind it may not necessarily reflect on you, or be anything to do with whatever you are doing or not doing. That's the first thing.
Second: I know you're very anxious - and that's natural - but do try to relax and DO NOT pressure him! If he has a lot of concerns, even if they're nothing to do with you, a lot of pressure and "hassle" is the very last thing he needs right now.
Do your best to relax and be pleasant, supportive and friendly when you're with him. See if you can use a little humor, and make your time together as enjoyable as possible.
You see, you want him to associate you in his mind with good things, so that he feels you've "got his back" (are supportive of him) and value him for who he is......
If he does not IM, text or email you for a few days, even a week, don't panic! You can always send a friendly "hi how are you" sort of message" if you've not heard for at least three days (assuming you usually are in daily contact, that is, but if you normally communicate two-three times a week, I'd wait a bit longer if you don't hear).
Tell us: do you find him to be generally honest, speaks his mind, doesn't play games with you and is considerate of you? If so, then I encourage you even more to try to relax and not worry.
See, sometimes, the more we attempt to "fix" something that might not even be broken to begin with, the worse it becomes......you sound like a sensible girl, so hopefully you won't "go there"!
Good luck! Hope this helps.
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (18 March 2011):
Well. You need to suppose why is he going to dump you, at least. I mean, he didn't tell you he will, so you don't have a reason behind this "future action". You need to figure out why is he going to dump you.
Let's suppose he's going to dump you because you are doing something wrong. You need to know what in order to change your behaviour.
If he's going to dump you because he doesn't feel love any more. There is nothing you can do about it.
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