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Well I wish I could claim that I waited until I was older and wiser before deciding to share my advise with others but the truth is that I have been handing out my version of the unvarnished truth for as long as I can remember.
I can clearly recall myself at 13 years of age telling my girlfriend's mother that she was raising her daughter all wrong and screwing her up in the process. The funny part is that she stood there crying and actually listened to me and never held it against me. Looking back now, I find it pretty amazing because these people were well educated and rich. And I was nobody special, just a friend that cared enough to open my mouth.
And that never changed, over the years people came to know they could come to me for truthful advise and I would give it to them straight, no sugar coating.
I have been married for 23 years to a wonderful man. I have 3 sons and 2 grandchildren, they call me GeeGee, which is short for groovy grandma, hence the agony aunt name, lol.
I have a degree in the allied health field and have worked as an EMT and as a beautician. So I have heard a lot of sad storied in my day and my heart goes out to all of them.
So I guess, this site is just a way for me to reach out and try to do the same for a bigger crowd. |
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17 March 2011: So you are young and in love, that is so sweet and romantic. I am happy for you. I really am, there is nothing better then being young and in love. It is a very special time for all of us. But what happens when it is over?? Maybe you have ...
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After all the numerous sexual encounters, I feel like I've messed things up with the first guy I've properly liked for so long...
Q. Dear Cupid, This is going to be long winded, so apologies beforehand; I just want to get all the details in. Her goes! I have a bit of a history with men. I went through an extremely promiscuous phase a few years ago. I wasn't insecure and...
A. 16 March 2011: It sounds like he still likes you but is nervous about opening the door to you again. So go for it, just don't let him down again. He is giving you a second chance.... (read in full...)
What if he forgets about me?
Q. So I have been dating my boyfriend for 7 months. I'm 19 and he's 34. We have had a lot of problems in our relationship, however, one of the things I'm completly sure about is that I love him and that he means everything to me. But he never has time ...
A. 15 March 2011: NOOOOO! Do not cave now and tell him you miss you.
It is good he thinks you are busy having a life of your own. You should be having one anyways. But you need him to wake up to the fact that you are not going to sit at home and wait for him ... (read in full...)
After all the numerous sexual encounters, I feel like I've messed things up with the first guy I've properly liked for so long...
Q. Dear Cupid, This is going to be long winded, so apologies beforehand; I just want to get all the details in. Her goes! I have a bit of a history with men. I went through an extremely promiscuous phase a few years ago. I wasn't insecure and...
A. 7 March 2011: Ask your friends to tell him that you miss him and wish you had given him more of a chance. And that you would like to see him again without any just sex, no feeling conditions.
If he still doesn't respond then you'll have to move on and let him ... (read in full...)
My son's father refuses to move out and I don't want my son to grow up in an unhealthy environment...
Q. Its been 11yrs and I want to end my relationship with ny son's father. We are not married. I haved asked him repeatly asked him to leave and he is still here. I really don't want for this to get ugly because of our son. Our son sees, hears us argue ...
A. 7 March 2011: Do you own your home or is it in his name too? Or is the rent lease in just your name? If so you have the legal right to call the police and have him removed. Even if you don't they may be willing to help you get him out. It doesn't hurt to ask. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend cheated on his last two girlfriends. Should I be worried?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for a little over a year now. Pretty much since the beginning of his relationship I knew he cheated on one of his exes..."Cheryl" with another girl named "Chelsey". He ended up dating Chelsey for five years until she ...
A. 7 March 2011: Trust him until he gives you a reason not to.... (read in full...)
Did he think I was desperate when our mutual friend gave him my number? And why did he accept the friend request on Facebook if he thinks that?
Q. Hi, I am 23. I met a guy (aged 24) on New Year’s Eve through mutual friends. He seemed really nice and we were getting on well. He was texting his ex at the time though so I didn't let it go any further than just friendly conversation. I found o...
A. 7 March 2011: Maybe he needed time to heal before getting into a new relationship. But he has had your phone number for months now and still has'nt used it. Take that as a sign and move on.... (read in full...)
I want to be someone worth loving, not a maid! Is this going to change? When will I just say enough is enough?
Q. I’ve been living with my boyfriend for a little over 2 years now, together over 3 and he is still dependent on everyone else. He doesn't pay any bills (if it’s mentioned he says he'll only pay for his own food), he has his mother do his wash, but ...
A. 7 March 2011: You sound like a mature young woman who is ready for mature relationship and he sounds like an ungratful child. What on earth do you see in him?
Get him off your sofa and out of your life. You deserve so much better.... (read in full...)
I am still in love with my ex, and I need advice to get over him! Please help!
Q. I still love my ex. I was with him twice, and it’s been 10 months since we split up. The thing is, I can’t stand to suffer in silence so I managed to confess it all to him. I really just want him back, but I know it’s not going to happen, so I ...
A. 7 March 2011: Set aside 15 minutes a day to think about your ex, all the good things and the bad. Think about him and only him for those 15 minutes. Then get up and do something else until the next day. Don't allow yourself to think about him the rest of the ... (read in full...)
Why would an ex text me out of the blue asking for sex? Is he confused?
Q. Why would an ex text me out of the blue asking for sex, and saying she hasn’t had sex with anyone since me? I know this is a lie and so does she. She cheated for the last years of a long relationship. Is she desperate, as her last boyfriend dumped ...
A. 7 March 2011: She sounds confused and manipulative. I suggest you change your number and/or avoid her.... (read in full...)
This a question for the girls. I lost a lot of weight and l have loose skin. Would you date someone like me?
Q. This is to all the females: I am 20 years of age and would like to know if girls would go for a boy who is skinny and has a bit of loose skin? I was fat and lost a lot of weight quickly and in the process have loose skin and I am skinny. I tr...
A. 7 March 2011: Of course they will, personality and kindness mean far more than looks.... (read in full...)
He's wonderful, but I'm just not very attracted to him romantically anymore. What should I do?
Q. I have been dating a man since October. He is interesting and kind, I can find no faults in him. We live 45 minutes apart, but it's not that much of a big deal. Lately I have only seen him once in 7 weeks, and it doesn't even bother me... Sometimes ...
A. 7 March 2011: Let him go as gently as you can. Someone else will love him and appreciate him for who he is.... (read in full...)
I told my husband our relationship wasn't working out, and we should move on! Did I do the right thing? I need emotional support!
Q. Yesterday, I spoke with my husband, and told him that things just weren’t the same anymore. I didn’t feel loved by him and things are just different now, so it would be better for us to move on. We have tried and tried but he just doesn’t want to ...
A. 7 March 2011: When did he tell the other woman he was single? Before or after he found out you were pregnant again? Can you raise another child on your own? Do you still want him back and want to work things out or not? If you do, then I think you should ask ... (read in full...)
Parents want to meet my boyfriend, but I'm not ready for that. How do I explain that to my parents?
Q. I am back together with my ex boyfriend after splitting up for 4 months. After constantly seeing each other (as we moved in the same circles), we became closer and decided to get back together, however before that we only dated for 3 months and our ...
A. 7 March 2011: As an adult I can understand where you are coming from. But as a parent, I can understand how your parents must feel as well. It doesn't matter to them if you are planning to marry the guy or not, they just want to met the guy you are spending ... (read in full...)
If he is in love with me why is he keeping other girls around? And why won't he put a pic of us together, or change his status on Facebook?
Q. I met my man 7 months ago. A mutual friend gave him my Facebook address, he added me as a friend, and three months later he contacted me. We chatted for 8 hours the first time we spoke, which had never happened to me before, so I took it as this is ...
A. 7 March 2011: This man is not trust worthy, yes it sounds good that he is planning to move closer to you, but why would he not want anyone on facebook to know that you too are together? Unless he plans to continue talking with the other women.
If you do go fo... (read in full...)
I'm 20 and pregnant. Happy but worried. I need some reassuring words to know this is going yo be okay!
Q. I'm 20 and I'm pregnant. I am on the pill and I've never missed one, although I am on anti-depressants so maybe that has stopped them from working? My doctor never mentioned it, so I think I've just been really unlucky. Except, I wouldn't class it ...
A. 7 March 2011: Have faith, I'm sure you will be fine. At least you guys have jobs and love each other. That is half the battle right there.... (read in full...)
Where do I go from here? What should I do next week?
Q. This is a long and complicated story, but here goes. My boyfriend and I got together in almost two years ago - we started out as the most perfect couple, but about a year into our relationship, he went to university and things changed. We drif...
A. 7 March 2011: Maybe you made a mistake by sleeping with your friend but you don't deserve to be treated the way he has been treating you either. Especially since it only happened because he didn't have time for you in the first place. And the incident on the ... (read in full...)
I feel like she was expecting me to make a move and was surprised I didn't! I am new to dating again, and I need advice!
Q. I am looking for some dating advice. I met a girl online. We have had 2 good dates and the weekend was the third. We had a great night out and we ended up at her place. She said I could stay but no funny business, so I probably took that to ...
A. 7 March 2011: Calm down you haven't done anything wrong, in fact I think you are going everything right. Showing a girl respect is never a bad thing. Your plan is a good one. So go for it.... (read in full...)
He is willing to finish with me rather than let go of the very things that are hurting me.
Q. Am i overreacting in thinking that my boyfreind's cheating on me? I think he's gone from looking at porn sites(now16 in all,no problem,we've watched some of them)to having sms txt and calls to his mobile phone.He's very careful not to leave hi...
A. 7 March 2011: If he wasn't up to no good he wouldn't need to hide these things from you now would he? So love him or not I think you have to do what is best for you. Since you already know he'd rather continue to hurt you then change his ways.
You deserve ... (read in full...)
I got pregnant from a one night stand. Can I pass this baby off as my boyfriend's?
Q. I've been in a serious relationship for the past 2 and a half years with my Algerian boyfriend except for the last 8 months I’ve been living with my mother in a different country . Of course things haven’t been going too well for us since we’ve ...
A. 7 March 2011: You may be able to get away with it for awhile but what if your boyfriend takes the child to the doctors one day and sees his blood type in his file? What if the child has health problems or needs an operation or a blood transfusion one day? Do ... (read in full...)
Has enough time passed between her "promiscuous youth" and now for me to trust that it really is the past?
Q. I have been dating my current girlfriend for a few months now, and aside from a couple of rough spots things have been going well. Those rough spots were pretty bad though... Once after a lot of drinking, she said I was "small" compared to her past...
A. 7 March 2011: Whew, okay I understand where your concerns are coming from. And I would keep my eyes on her. But unless she cheats on you or continues to say mean things to you when she drinks, I would try not to hold the past against her. I am sure you w... (read in full...)
I started seeing a friend that I have had a crush on for years. She is now back with her old boyfriend, but she's pregnant and it could be my baby! Please advise!
Q. I've known this girl for six years and we've always been really good friends. I always thought she was gorgeous and wanted to be more then friends with her. She started dating a friend of mine when she first got out of high school and they dated ...
A. 7 March 2011: "Only way I'm looking at it is she is confused and accustomed to the norm with him, and afraid to step out of the box and give me an honest chance, even though she always said she’d never go back and talked down about him". That sounds very plau... (read in full...)
I love him but can't accept that he loves me too
Q. I dont knw how to get this out...i was in relationship with a guy since 6yrs until v broke up last month...it was me who liked him,drew closer to him,known him n made a love proposal but later i realised that he loves me more than i do..he has been ...
A. 7 March 2011: You will never be happy with this guy or anyone else until you find out why you treated him that way and refused to believe that he loved you. For some reason you seem to think you don't deserve to be loved and something or someone had to h... (read in full...)
I don't want everyone knowing I like him!
Q. Hey I'm 13 and I've liked this boy scince I was 9 an I flirt a lot with him and he knows I like him, but I asked him out and he's told everyone in his year and its started coming into my school now, and I don't want people asking me about him cause ...
A. 7 March 2011: Try to say something funny and laugh it off when ever someone mentions him to you. The more you let them know it bothers you the more they are going to bug you about it.
Say OMG I like a boy call CBS news, then laugh and tell them to get a life a... (read in full...)
Hes afraid to date me because he doesn't make much money
Q. Do you think this guy likes me ?. A friend of his saw me with him today ( i had bumped into him in town, and i had met him a couple of times before ) and when his friend saw me with him, he asked who i was and he said that he had been talking about ...
A. 7 March 2011: It sounds like he likes you, but a guy likes to be able to take a girl out and show her a good time, pay for the date and all that.
So you either ask him out saying its your treat or you wait for him to ask you when his situation improves... (read in full...)
Has acting out on our sexual urges (and achieving disappointing results) ruined what might have been a promising friendship? Please advise!
Q. (Disclaimer: Apologies, this might get a little too long and quite detailed, but it's been bothering me non-stop for months.) Last August, I met a 34-year old musician who, it seemed, I shared similar interests with (We got to talking when he sat a...
A. 7 March 2011: In my opinion this man has had this problem for a long time. It had nothing to do with you. Or his piercing. And I think he did really like you, he liked you enough to attempt to have sex with you, all the while hoping he could actually follow ... (read in full...)
If we can't date I'd rather just get over him but I see him 2-3 times a week
Q. I've had a crush on a guy I met in my martial arts class for six months. I was super attracted to him from the beginning and I started flirting with him. Because of our interactions, I started getting the feeling that my feelings were mutual, but I ...
A. 7 March 2011: Hang in there it sounds like you are handeling things with him as well as anyone could.
You just have to wait it out, he knows you like him, and you see him 3 times a week, so I am sure he will let you know when he is ready.
Trust your vi... (read in full...)
Have I chosen the right one?
Q. Hi, I am in love with a guy since 3.5 years and he loves me a lot , we had our part of fights as all relations do , the most important thing is our way of thinking is too different am a modern gal and he is narrow minded over possessive man I...
A. 7 March 2011: What stopped you from breaking up with your boyfriend and seeing the new guy? Was it love or loyalty?
If you really feel like you would be happier with the new guy then you owe it to yourself to try. How can you be happy forever with a man yo... (read in full...)
Am I a cheater? We weren't officially dating when I started seeing someone else!
Q. I had been seeing a girl for two years when we broke up last June. Although we were not "officially" in a relationship, we still went on dates, kissed, said we loved one another, and spent most of our time together. However, in November, I met ...
A. 7 March 2011: Did you ever tell girl #1 that she was free to date other people or that you planned to? If not then you should have. And yes it would be considered cheating by 99.9% of all women after 2 years of an exclusive relationship. I think you are just try... (read in full...)
How do I proceed with this situation?
Q. im in university and me and my housemate have started to get closer. we joke have a laugh all the time we talk alot sometimes go out for drink and i really like him also i feel this connection(i sometimes feel he likes me then i don't).what shall i ...
A. 7 March 2011: Do nothing with this guy unless you are ready and able to find a new housemate in case anything goes wrong between you. You need to think this one through very carefully before you act.
Once you have a backup plan in place, then you can ask him ... (read in full...)
How do people move on so quickly after experiencing a lost love?
Q. I have been healing for a long time from a severed relationship. I look at people around me who seem to just get up and start dating the next week. I look at Hollywood celebrities who after losing love just seem to move on to the next one so soon ...
A. 7 March 2011: Some people confuse lust and/or infatuation with real love. Others have just never learned how to be happy alone, which is why they keep repeating the same mistakes over and over. And some people hop from one relationship into another too qu... (read in full...)
Friendships never die.....................or do they?
Q. Hi, im not sure how to write about this. My best friend and I have been friends since we were 18 years old. We have now been friends for 20 years. We have shared many highs and many lows. We are completely different in terms of taste for guys, ...
A. 7 March 2011: You were a good friend for as long as you could be to this woman. You forgave her for the wrongs she caused you but ultimately had to end the friendship, and rightly so in my opinion. So now I think it is time for you to forgive yourself. None o... (read in full...)
A thank you to everyone here who's helped me
Q. I've been on dearcupid for 6 years now. Over the years, I have asked many questions, and have given the best advice I could from expeirence. I'm recently engaged to the most wonderful man I could ever hope for, and find that I can talk to him about ...
A. 7 March 2011: I'm sure I speak for everyone when I say "You're welcome! It is always great to hear about a happy ending...... (read in full...)
A guy fell for the 'fake' me on Facebook
Q. 6 months ago in september, i created a fake facebook profile with a fake name and fake pictures of a girl. In september i met this guy and we started a relationship. Now he is very serious and wants me to visit him, we almost make 6 months, i need ...
A. 7 March 2011: Oh boy.... I'd love to now why you did that in the first place. But for now you have a choice to make. Either tell him the truth and hope he still likes the real you and can forgive you, or disappear out of his life as painlessly as you can.... (read in full...)
Why did she contact me in the first place?
Q. So last week I get a random text from a girl I hadn't heard from in a couple of months. Our conversation goes something like: Her: Hey stranger Me: Hey you're still alive. Her: Barely. How have you been? Me: Okay I'm in the middle of exams. Y...
A. 7 March 2011: It seems suspicious to me that she stopped talking in the middle of a text. Unless she was driving or the house caught fire or something she should have gotten back to you by now. So to me it sounds like she may have a boyfriend. Maybe they had a... (read in full...)
He cheated and I don't understand how he could have done this to me
Q. my ex left me for another girl after 31/2 years. how can someone just do that how can he... he even kept me on the side until i showed up at his house and his new giel was there. earlier that day i told him to choose her or me and he said ...
A. 7 March 2011: He was young and stupid and he lost a good girl who was true to him. It might take a long time for him to realize what he lost and how badly he treated you. But trust me what goes around comes around in this world. He will never be happy until he ... (read in full...)
What if he forgets about me?
Q. So I have been dating my boyfriend for 7 months. I'm 19 and he's 34. We have had a lot of problems in our relationship, however, one of the things I'm completly sure about is that I love him and that he means everything to me. But he never has time ...
A. 7 March 2011: Don't panic I'm sure he will call tomorrow, because your not chasing him for once. Besides your 19 and still young and beautiful he should be worried about you getting tired of him or finding someone else who wants to spend time with you. So let ... (read in full...)
We've only been married 8 months and our relationship is suffering! How can I get him to give me more attention?
Q. Hi! I have been married for just 8 months. We haven’t even completed a year. We already feel like we've been married for years and can’t stand to be with each other in the same room! We fight very often. He always has time to have drinks with his ...
A. 7 March 2011: You need to wake this man up to the fact that he will lose you if things don't change immediately. Take back your power girl. Just be prepared to follow through, don't make empty threats. You have to mean it or he will never change. But first... (read in full...)
How do I prove my husband is impotent?
Q. Dear Cupid Please read the entire post I am basically from India married for 6 years. I never had any sexual exp before marriage, i.e. i was virgin when i got married, never had a bf too. I was scared of sex when i got married, since i di...
A. 7 March 2011: Dear India
In many states the physical inability to engage in sexual intercourse, if it was not disclosed before marriage is legal grounds for divorce. Talk to an attorney.
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Would you ever want your ex to apologize to you after a breakup?
Q. would you ever want your ex to apologize to you after a breakup? me and my ex broke up about 2 months ago. and we haven't talked in about a 1 month now. so we had a really bad break up and she's not responding to anything im saying. so i deci...
A. 7 March 2011: Yes, as long as you are not trying to get back together it would be ok for you to apologize to her and tell her she deserved better. Maybe she already knows all that but you still need to get it off your chest so you can be at peace with your ... (read in full...)
One day of my new boyfriend and we are getting in lots of fights!
Q. I got a boyfriend yesterday but now that we are dateing we get into a lot of fight and he makes this relationship akward . and we are greatfriends but i am not worried that it will ruin our friendship cuase it wont cuase this has happend to su ...
A. 7 March 2011: It sounds like you guys were better off as just friends if your fighting after one day. You know it and he probably knows it too. So end it. He sounds like he is trying to control you, and that worries me for you.... (read in full...)
Should I be patient with my wife as we try to work things out?
Q. My and my wife have been together 11 years, married 5 have 3 awesomw kids, About a year ago my wife told me she didn't think she was in love with me anymore, she ended up moving out,then I found out she was seeing someone who said he was my best ...
A. 7 March 2011: Have faith, don't give up, but don't wear out your welcome with her either. It is possible for people to fall back into love. I speak from experience. Unfortunately some times it takes a while to happen. Its different for every woman but sometimes ... (read in full...)
Married couple and opposite sex friend
Q. Facts: I've been married to my wife for over 20 year. About 15 years ago, her female friend was dating someone? Back then we were had regular BBQ in my house. Her female friend broke relations a year later. My wife kept taking to them on a re...
A. 6 March 2011: However it started, it appears your wife and this man have become good friends with each other over the past 15 years. So why does he tell his wife he is there to see you? And why doesn't he ever bring his wife to your home? I don't know, mayb... (read in full...)
I want him as my boyfriend or nothing at all! How do I tell him that?
Q. So I’ve been talking to this guy... I like him a lot. But he lives about an hour and a half away. We talk everyday, he calls me his future girlfriend, and stuff like that..but lately I've been feeling like I can't just keep talking to him.. I want ...
A. 6 March 2011: If Aunt Honesty's idea won't work for some reason then I think you need to explain to the boy that it's not that you don't like him, it's that you like him too much for a long distance relationship to work. Tell him it is just too painful for ... (read in full...)
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