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Well I wish I could claim that I waited until I was older and wiser before deciding to share my advise with others but the truth is that I have been handing out my version of the unvarnished truth for as long as I can remember.
I can clearly recall myself at 13 years of age telling my girlfriend's mother that she was raising her daughter all wrong and screwing her up in the process. The funny part is that she stood there crying and actually listened to me and never held it against me. Looking back now, I find it pretty amazing because these people were well educated and rich. And I was nobody special, just a friend that cared enough to open my mouth.
And that never changed, over the years people came to know they could come to me for truthful advise and I would give it to them straight, no sugar coating.
I have been married for 23 years to a wonderful man. I have 3 sons and 2 grandchildren, they call me GeeGee, which is short for groovy grandma, hence the agony aunt name, lol.
I have a degree in the allied health field and have worked as an EMT and as a beautician. So I have heard a lot of sad storied in my day and my heart goes out to all of them.
So I guess, this site is just a way for me to reach out and try to do the same for a bigger crowd. |
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17 March 2011: So you are young and in love, that is so sweet and romantic. I am happy for you. I really am, there is nothing better then being young and in love. It is a very special time for all of us. But what happens when it is over?? Maybe you have ...
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My fiance always asks her exes for help, without asking me first!
Q. I've been seeing my girlfriend for about 2 years, and we've been talking about getting married. She says I'm the man of her dreams, that she loves me, that I'm the only person who really cares about her, that I have everything she wants in a man, ...
A. 16 March 2011: No I don't think I would be. In fact I'd pitch a fit! lol
I think my conflictions about whether I gave you good advise or not is why I wanted my husbands input. Because even though we may not always agree, I do value his opinion a great deal. An... (read in full...)
Does breaking up with him mean bad Karma for me?
Q. So after being with my boyfriend of almost a year (4 weeks till anniversary), he broke up with me. I mean its not like i was sad or anything. Because i was already planning on it. See my boyfriend moved 3 1/2 months ago to another state. He said he ...
A. 16 March 2011: You are a normal girl with a good head on her shoulders, and you are wise to realize that it probably wouldn't have lasted no matter what you did, not at your age, especially not long distance.
The only thing you did wrong was end it by cheating... (read in full...)
What is the next step?
Q. Ok I dont know where to start with this... So my friend posted up some pictures on fb and there was the most attractive guy in one of them. She went ahead and tagged his fb in so i checked it out (ok seriously im not being a stalker... admit...
A. 15 March 2011: Well to get his attention, you have to try and set yourself apart from the crowd in a good way. So dress to kill, but don't overdue, but not to sexy or to much makeup, think classy. Plus most guys like meeting girls who seem different from all the ... (read in full...)
Am I pushing him away by asking about marriage every couple of months?
Q. Hi everyone, Just wondering what your opinions are on my current predicament. Thank you in advance for reading and advising. I'm 27, my boyfriend is 32. When we began dating 2 years ago we were clear that we didn't want to date for long as we'd...
A. 15 March 2011: My advise to you would have been to be patient and stop pushing him. Until I read that he hasn't even introduced you to his family as his fiance or his girlfriend....
What the heck is up with that??
This is a huge red flag that your instincts ar... (read in full...)
How do I tell him that I'm starting to feel smothered?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for give or take 7 months. Ok so, I moved into my own place a couple of months ago. For the past month, he has been sleeping over almost every night. Also for the past month, he has been laid off of work. I wake ...
A. 15 March 2011: Just say look, I love you and I'm not going anywhere but this is the first time I have ever been on my own, in my own place and I need a little time and space to enjoy it. I hope you understand.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend of 7 months is not into sex anymore
Q. My boyfriend of 7 months is not that into sex anymore. He says that he still wants to be with me but is just not that into sex at the moment. Its not a huge deal but I am concerned. I don't want to push the subject too much but need some feedback. ...
A. 15 March 2011: You guys have been through a lot and he has stuck by you through it all in everyway that matters... Please give him break with the sex. It isn't you, and yes guys can go thru dry spells too from time to time.
Try not to worry about it unless h... (read in full...)
My fiance always asks her exes for help, without asking me first!
Q. I've been seeing my girlfriend for about 2 years, and we've been talking about getting married. She says I'm the man of her dreams, that she loves me, that I'm the only person who really cares about her, that I have everything she wants in a man, ...
A. 15 March 2011: PS: I aksed my husband to also read your letter, because I thought he may have a point of view different from my own to offer you. And I was right... So I think it is only fair to share it with you.
In a nut shell he finds the idea of remainin... (read in full...)
Should I let him go, so he can be with someone closer to his age?
Q. I'm a mature beautiful woman. I've met a man 14 years younger than me. We have been together for almost 2 years. I have had many relationships. He has not. He is the first man that I feel is my match, my love. He knows I would do anything for him. ...
A. 15 March 2011: I think you should let him go, as time goes on the age thing is going to become a bigger issue for the both of you. And I don't think you will feel as good about yourself or the relationship, when say he is only 50 and you are 64. Especially if he ... (read in full...)
Should I let him go, so he can be with someone closer to his age?
Q. I'm a mature beautiful woman. I've met a man 14 years younger than me. We have been together for almost 2 years. I have had many relationships. He has not. He is the first man that I feel is my match, my love. He knows I would do anything for him. ...
A. 15 March 2011: I think you should let him go, as time goes on the age thing is going to become a bigger issue. And I don't think you will feel as good about yourself or the relationship, when he is only 50 and you are 64. Especially if he never gets to marry or ... (read in full...)
My fiance always asks her exes for help, without asking me first!
Q. I've been seeing my girlfriend for about 2 years, and we've been talking about getting married. She says I'm the man of her dreams, that she loves me, that I'm the only person who really cares about her, that I have everything she wants in a man, ...
A. 15 March 2011: She seems to have developed a sort of social network of ex's that she has come to utilize whenever she needs something done, this one for taxes, another for computer problems and so on... And she thinks to herself, This is what I have done for ... (read in full...)
Please help me, should I stay with my lazy fiancé?
Q. I need help. I have been with my partner for just over two years now and he proposed to me last october. I really love him but I've been having alot of doubts if he is really the one for me and if our relationship will ever last. I have been hav...
A. 15 March 2011: PS: Please Read the article on this site about Debating your relationship, it will help you alot.... (read in full...)
Please help me, should I stay with my lazy fiancé?
Q. I need help. I have been with my partner for just over two years now and he proposed to me last october. I really love him but I've been having alot of doubts if he is really the one for me and if our relationship will ever last. I have been hav...
A. 15 March 2011: Your parents are not as dumb as you may think they are. Maybe you should listen to them if they have a bad feeling about this guy.
I can remember being your age and fighting with my mom over my boyfriend. She was always yelling at me don't do ... (read in full...)
What if he forgets about me?
Q. So I have been dating my boyfriend for 7 months. I'm 19 and he's 34. We have had a lot of problems in our relationship, however, one of the things I'm completly sure about is that I love him and that he means everything to me. But he never has time ...
A. 15 March 2011: NOOOOO! Do not cave now and tell him you miss you.
It is good he thinks you are busy having a life of your own. You should be having one anyways. But you need him to wake up to the fact that you are not going to sit at home and wait for him ... (read in full...)
I miscarried and it was HER fault!!!!
Q. recently i fell pregnant now im only 14 so initially i was freaking out about it. i had told my boyfriend and he was going to support me on wanting to keep the baby. i told my best friend everything and she was happy for us although i never told my ...
A. 15 March 2011: I think you are understanding what most of us have been saying. I am so proud of you!
I think all you needed was a chance to tell someone what you think she did to you and be heard, and now that you have had a change to vent all that pain and... (read in full...)
He won't let me leave him!
Q. I've been in a relationship for 4 years now. He abused me for the first time through my pregnancy and since then when ever we have a fight where I want him too leave he finds a way to be aggresive. I don't want to be with and havnt wanted too be ...
A. 15 March 2011: Well I guess shelters are the first place he would look for you. But what happened when he found you, did he make you feel pressured into going back to him? And what did the people at the shelter do then to make him leave, or for you what did they ... (read in full...)
Fiance doesn't love me anymore, says he hasn't for a year
Q. please help my fiance has ended our relationship after 5 years and i dont know what to do. im so in love with him and i miss him so much. ive tried to limit contact but we have a child together so its really hard as he wants to speak to him ...
A. 15 March 2011: Your very welcome, dear lady!
I think your are going to be better than okay, real soon. You're going to be great!
The best revenge is always success.
... (read in full...)
He's a nice guy other than his possessiveness!
Q. i'm so confused what to do in my relationship bcuz he treats me gud n evrything n i kno he ws trying to change but sumtimes he looses his controll. he is a very jealous person he duznt lik me wearing short skirts.pants or revealing tops . also he ...
A. 15 March 2011: Read the article on this site called "Seriously debating whether to break up or not?"
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/seriously-debating-whether-to--break-up-or.html
Because that is what you should be debating.
Please don't be stupi... (read in full...)
He won't let me leave him!
Q. I've been in a relationship for 4 years now. He abused me for the first time through my pregnancy and since then when ever we have a fight where I want him too leave he finds a way to be aggresive. I don't want to be with and havnt wanted too be ...
A. 15 March 2011: Call a shelter for battered woman first chance you get, they can help get you and the kids away from him. They will give you a place to stay while you get back on your feet and maybe go back to school.
Do it now before he gets you pregnant... (read in full...)
Shy boy, bbw lover
Q. im very attracted to bbw (big beautiful women),but im also extremely shy so i need to know how i can build up the courage to actually talk to a woman or whats a good dating site for meeting bbw....
A. 15 March 2011: There are sites that you can search for to meet BBW.
But why go to all that trouble, just look around you, BBW are everywhere. And since they often have trouble getting dates in our size obsessed society I would guess that your odds of getting a fi... (read in full...)
Whenever I voice a complaint to my gf, she says it's petty. What should I do?
Q. What do you do when your partner makes you feel that everything you discuss with her is petty. Things like voicing how you feel about her dancing with other guys, how she makes me feel when she says i am talking nonsense when i am being serious ...
A. 15 March 2011: What she is doing has a name, it's called not validating the other persons feelings.
And if something is important enough to you to bring it to her attention and have a discussion about it, then it should be important enough to her to listen u... (read in full...)
When a guy says a girl is "cool," what does he mean?
Q. Hey, Two questions, what do men mean when they use the term "cool girl?" I recently told a guy I have been seeing that I like him, his response was " I like you too, and you are a cool chick", do I take that as he likes me as a friend, or he is...
A. 15 March 2011: It could go either way. Only time will tell. But it is a good start.... (read in full...)
They ignore you because they like you???
Q. Say you showed a lot of interest in someone for a whole year, but they often ignored you when you tried to get their attention. So the next year you ignore them back and stare straight past them like what they did to you. But when they send a nice ...
A. 15 March 2011: Did he send you the rose or did you send it to him?
If you sent it to him and he still hasn't asked you out or even tried to talk to you more at school then I would give up on him.
If he sent it to you, then he probably does like you and is ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend makes me feel so underappreciated...
Q. I feel like I'm ready to have a break down, My boyfriend an father of my son makes me feel so under appreciated, we are both unemployed an collecting unemployment he makes double I do I asked him to help pay for things he won't do it I pay for ...
A. 15 March 2011: How did he get those records with out a court order?
You need to get a lawyer to repetition the custody order.
You shouldn't be punished for getting depressed or for seeking help to deal with a bad situation. Unless you were neglecting t... (read in full...)
Something just doesn't feel right...
Q. My GF and I have been dating for almost 3 years. We see each other weekends, and sometimes during the week,when we not seeing each other,we chat on an Instant Message application.Normally she lets me know she's online to chat.Its usually in the ...
A. 15 March 2011: Tell her you know she has been chatting online with this other guy just about everyday, and see what she says. Tell her that it's ok she can tell you the truth, and that you won't get mad but you need her to be 100% honest with you about it, ... (read in full...)
I don't want to be useless at sex when I'm only 17.
Q. Dear all, Im 17 and I have recently began a serious relationship with a lovely guy. We re currently two months in and completely besotted with each other. However I have a problem, I don't think im very good sexually - I've had sexual exper...
A. 15 March 2011: I am certain it is not you, they just have a little more control over holding it back during oral sex. And because they like it so much they want it to last as long as they can. If he takes too long then just say "Hey I'm getting a little tired ... (read in full...)
Should I get back together with a bf who has hurt me so much?
Q. Call me stupid or dumb but i don't know what to do.. i have been with my first love for three and a half years and we had a rough relationship. he has done a lot to me in the past but some how i still love him We weren't together for six months but ...
A. 15 March 2011: There is a great article on this site that can help you figure out what to do. Please check it out.... (read in full...)
Invited to ex's wedding but I don't think I can handle going
Q. I just found out that my ex-girlfriend recently got engaged. We dated roughly 6 years ago, and for some reason this recent news I find ver upsetting. A little history: When we met she was studying english in Canada. She was my first and onl...
A. 15 March 2011: I think you should just tell her the truth, that you want to be happy for her but still have feelings for her that are making it hard for you, and see what she says?
She will either tell you she still cares about you too, as more than a friend, ... (read in full...)
Friends vs. Relationships
Q. Have you ever been in a situation where you want to be with someone, but another person isn't happy about it, and therefore is standing in your way? Perhaps you've liked a sibling's friend, or a friend's relative, or someone your friend likes as ...
A. 15 March 2011: Great story! Thanks for sharing, I am sure it will be helpful to some one else who is struggling with the same dilema. It takes a mature person to admit their mistakes and learn from them, you should be proud of yourself.... (read in full...)
I miscarried and it was HER fault!!!!
Q. recently i fell pregnant now im only 14 so initially i was freaking out about it. i had told my boyfriend and he was going to support me on wanting to keep the baby. i told my best friend everything and she was happy for us although i never told my ...
A. 15 March 2011: Honey, I was in a bad car accident when I was 5 mths pregnant and the baby was fine because he was protected by my body and all the fluid around him. So while I can't say for sure 100%, I highly doubt that girl hit you hard enough to make you lose ... (read in full...)
What is involved in a woman having a physical examination?
Q. Hey i just turned 16 so i have to get a physical i was wondering what do they do for girls? I know for guys they hold there penis and make them cough so im worried the girl's physical might have something to do with there private parts. Thanks....
A. 15 March 2011: Your family doctor will probably just want to check your eyes and heart and lungs and immunizations and stuff, unless you tell him you are having a problem "down there" or that you are sexually active.
So I wouldn't worry about it. If he or she d... (read in full...)
We broke up, I told him what I really thought about him, but now I want him back
Q. My ex boyfriend broke up with me about a month and half ago but I'm still in love him. I miss him so much and I really want him back. When he broke up with me I was so hurt and angry that I said some really mean things to him. At that time, I told ...
A. 15 March 2011: I think you may just regrett your harsh words and feel bad that you lashed out at him in pain. So now you feel guilty, and like you can't let it go until he forgives you.
You also probably wish things hadn't ended that way between you and wish... (read in full...)
They ignore you because they like you???
Q. Say you showed a lot of interest in someone for a whole year, but they often ignored you when you tried to get their attention. So the next year you ignore them back and stare straight past them like what they did to you. But when they send a nice ...
A. 14 March 2011: Did he pull you aside to confess that? And would you like him if he does like you?
Then yes, I'd give them another chance. But that's it, if he continues to play games, or makes you do everything for more than the first date, then move on ... (read in full...)
He told me he didn't want me but he won't stop.why
Q. hi guys 17 months ago i walked in on my first love having sex with his xgf and i was so hurt i overdosed woke up the next day in the hospital mental ward. my stomach was pumped but i don't remember. i had to stay in the mental ward for 3.5 months ...
A. 14 March 2011: What a loser, if he just wanted to know how you are doing since the breakup and the overdose, he could have just asked his siter or your brother.
So pretending to be another guy on a dating site, can only be viewed as an act of sabatoge and will... (read in full...)
I have cut contact with her. Where do I go from here?
Q. I met a girl in the first week of my final year of university, the first week of her first year. We had a wonderful relationship and seemed to be really happy together throughout. In the final weeks of the relationship we started to talk about what ...
A. 14 March 2011: Once you have moved on and found love again with someone new, it won't bother you at all. Until then it's probably better if you don't even try. ... (read in full...)
Does age really matter? It bothers me!
Q. I know, it's a very common question. But does age really matter? I am a woman dating a men a few years younger than me. He obviously doesn't mind me being older, but it always bothers me! I hate thinking about his age, for awhile I didn't want peo...
A. 14 March 2011: A 17 or 18 year old, dating someone in their twenties will always raise a few eyebrows, but once he is 23 and you are say 26, the difference will fade to nothing. So if you really like him and is of legal age then don't worry about what other ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't want me to use our picture as my Facebook profile picture?
Q. My LDR boyfriend told me today that he didn't like me putting a picture of us as my Facebook profile picture online. After he added me he told me that he had all kinds of people, good friends and almost strangers, on Facebook and he didn't want t...
A. 14 March 2011: You need to see my questions and comments about LDR.
Just click on my name and it should pop up.... (read in full...)
Why do men play mind games with the women they like?
Q. Why do some men (single or married) play mind/head games with the women they are attracted to but not in a relationship with? What's their deal? And why all the game playing??? Why do they pay attention to a woman and then ignore her and go back and ...
A. 14 March 2011: Of course it's the chase. Didn't you ever hear the old saying, that a man chases a woman until SHE catches him? ... (read in full...)
Does it seem like I don't trust him?
Q. Ok here is my issue, my bf is on a dating site and several months ago i asked him about it and he told me he only has it as a fun thing and that he does not subscribe to it, he gets messages and fans etc but would need to subscribe to the site if he ...
A. 14 March 2011: Guys that are happy, content and in love do not need dating sites.
I think he told you about the trust thing for one reason only, because he figured that sooner or later you would find out what he is up to and call him out on it. So he made a p... (read in full...)
I feel disgusted at the male penis. Is it just me or anyone else feel this way?
Q. Penises just completely disgust me. I literally feel like i am going to throw up. And thats just from looking at it. I've been told there's great looking penises and horrible penises, but I just think they are all nasty. I don't want anything to do ...
A. 14 March 2011: If you were attracted to other girls I would have thought you would have known it by now. Maybe you should go out with a lesbian and find out.... (read in full...)
I love him but he scares me. How can I get him to do right by me?
Q. I love my boyfriend very much. Even if he had failed me from the very first time he told me he liked me. He gets mad at me for no reason most of the time. Like he would break up with me out of no where, then we would get back together and for him,...
A. 14 March 2011: You will never find happiness or peace until you learn one important thing, to first love yourself.
Only then will you demand to be treated with love and respect in your relationships. The boyfriend who are with now, thinks why should I respect ... (read in full...)
After 2 weeks my boyfriend has suddenly gone cold?? Please help?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 weeks and we already have problems. He used to text me all the time and slowly stopped now he isnt texting at all. I wanted to hang out spring break and he promised he would but he didnt. I had a fight with ...
A. 14 March 2011: Be glad you found out that he isn't capable of giving you what you want or need after just 2 weeks, and dump him.
Cause if he is this bad now, I can only imagine how bad he will be a year from now.
This is the time when you too should be so... (read in full...)
Is it possible to love but not be in love anymore?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend and father of my children for 5 years and it seems like I have fallen out of love with him but I still love him just not in love is that possible??...
A. 14 March 2011: It is possible, and a sign that you are letting each other drift to far apart. You both have to work on reconnecting with each other now that the kids aren't little babies anymore. Have a date night at least once a week. You don't always have to ... (read in full...)
Fiance doesn't love me anymore, says he hasn't for a year
Q. please help my fiance has ended our relationship after 5 years and i dont know what to do. im so in love with him and i miss him so much. ive tried to limit contact but we have a child together so its really hard as he wants to speak to him ...
A. 14 March 2011: You need to find the strength to go on and rebuild your life without him. If you can't do it for yourself, do it for your child who needs you. Try your best not to think about your fiance, or try to make sense out of why he left you like he did, ... (read in full...)
I feel disgusted at the male penis. Is it just me or anyone else feel this way?
Q. Penises just completely disgust me. I literally feel like i am going to throw up. And thats just from looking at it. I've been told there's great looking penises and horrible penises, but I just think they are all nasty. I don't want anything to do ...
A. 14 March 2011: One last question that I haven't seen asked yet.
It is just the penis itself that offends you, or is it maybe because you think they are dirty and unclean?
Sometimes strong feeling of disgust like you describe, goes back to childhood and ho... (read in full...)
Invited to ex's wedding but I don't think I can handle going
Q. I just found out that my ex-girlfriend recently got engaged. We dated roughly 6 years ago, and for some reason this recent news I find ver upsetting. A little history: When we met she was studying english in Canada. She was my first and onl...
A. 14 March 2011: I don't think you have moved on as well as she has. She is fine with just being friends with you, and that is all she wants or expects from you now. And you need to face that before you even think about going to Japan.
Because even if this gir... (read in full...)
Should I get back together with a bf who has hurt me so much?
Q. Call me stupid or dumb but i don't know what to do.. i have been with my first love for three and a half years and we had a rough relationship. he has done a lot to me in the past but some how i still love him We weren't together for six months but ...
A. 12 March 2011: You obviously have a brain so you need to get your heart on board with your head. One is no good with out the other.
You need to wait for someone that both your heart and your head can agree upon. Your head is telling you this guy is no good for... (read in full...)
What if he forgets about me?
Q. So I have been dating my boyfriend for 7 months. I'm 19 and he's 34. We have had a lot of problems in our relationship, however, one of the things I'm completly sure about is that I love him and that he means everything to me. But he never has time ...
A. 7 March 2011: Don't panic I'm sure he will call tomorrow, because your not chasing him for once. Besides your 19 and still young and beautiful he should be worried about you getting tired of him or finding someone else who wants to spend time with you. So let ... (read in full...)
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