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Well I wish I could claim that I waited until I was older and wiser before deciding to share my advise with others but the truth is that I have been handing out my version of the unvarnished truth for as long as I can remember.
I can clearly recall myself at 13 years of age telling my girlfriend's mother that she was raising her daughter all wrong and screwing her up in the process. The funny part is that she stood there crying and actually listened to me and never held it against me. Looking back now, I find it pretty amazing because these people were well educated and rich. And I was nobody special, just a friend that cared enough to open my mouth.
And that never changed, over the years people came to know they could come to me for truthful advise and I would give it to them straight, no sugar coating.
I have been married for 23 years to a wonderful man. I have 3 sons and 2 grandchildren, they call me GeeGee, which is short for groovy grandma, hence the agony aunt name, lol.
I have a degree in the allied health field and have worked as an EMT and as a beautician. So I have heard a lot of sad storied in my day and my heart goes out to all of them.
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17 March 2011: So you are young and in love, that is so sweet and romantic. I am happy for you. I really am, there is nothing better then being young and in love. It is a very special time for all of us. But what happens when it is over?? Maybe you have ...
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Why can't I go?
Q. I've been with my girlfriend over 2 months now and things are going great apart from one thing, I can't cum for her apart from masterbating :( She has given me blow jobs and we have lots of continous sex but I just can't cum and it's really gett...
A. 11 June 2011: Then it might be a good idea to see a urologist to make sure everything is working 100% the way it is supposed to. Good Luck...... (read in full...)
She said she loved me but then left and never said goodbye!
Q. why would a woman of 2 yrs say they love and need you and now wouldnt even talk to me . she never said goodbye. does she feel guilty of something she did and cant face me . i hurt so bad. all i ever did is love her and be loved back.she made me ...
A. 1 May 2011: Was this an online relationship? If not then there has to more to it... Please give us some more to go on.... (read in full...)
How do I trust him when he's posting these things on Facebook?
Q. I don't know what to do!I just found out that My boyfriend talks flirtatious to other women on Facebook! One if his comments on his wall says "anyone want to talk dirty" wtf? Then he goes and says that they couldn't handle him and these girls are ...
A. 1 May 2011: I think it is an ego thing with some guys. Maximum attention, and ego boosting for a minimal amount of work. And the anon poster is right, for some men it becomes addicting. The feed off of it and won't willingly let it go.
The sad truth is that ... (read in full...)
Confused about my sexual orientation
Q. Ok well im not really asking for advice but you can leave messaages bout it if you want im saying all this to vent it out somehow ok... so im 14 and really confused about my sexuality , i know i dont need to know but it runs through my mind 24 /7 be...
A. 1 May 2011: I think you should stay away from this girl until you get your feeling under control. You are like a cork in a bottle right now and the last thing you need is more pressure. What would happen if you accidently blurted out to her how you felt one ... (read in full...)
Why do I freak out when they get close?
Q. Why is it when sometimes i go on a night out, i want to meet good looking guys and be close with them. But when i do get close, this feeling kicks in for me to get away. Which is odd? Because before when i see that guy or i am just talking to him, ...
A. 1 May 2011: It could be many things. Maybe your instincts are telling you these guys are not as good as they may seem on the surface and you should listen to your gut.
Or maybe you are nervous because you are somewhat inexperienced and afraid of not bein... (read in full...)
She isn't ready, I don't want to wait around, what to do??
Q. Me and my gf split at the end of january, as i said some nasty things about her ability at work etc (i was an idiot) we lived together and i moved out about 6 weeks ago. We've met up a few times to see how things go, but everytime it goes well i ...
A. 1 May 2011: Wait around or not, that is a choice only you can make.
I'm not sure how long you two were together, but I think you really hurt her when you left and I am sure it wasn't the first time. That kind of pain doesn't heal overnight. And neither does... (read in full...)
Drama in relationship, but should I have broken up with her??
Q. Ok we started out good first time. The first times were great and stuff but as the relationship went on things started to change. Our first argument was over her telling me I might not be the girl for her because she feels alive around other guys. ...
A. 1 May 2011: Yes you were 100% right to break up with her and to reject her phony offer of friendship. This woman would only make you miserable. Don't let her. You can and will do better.... (read in full...)
Is it his mom? Or is he just making up excuses not to see me?
Q. Hi, alright, for starters, im 17, 18 in july, and me and my boyfriend grew up together, he lived 3 houses away from me, and we have been dating for almost 3 months. He is 16, and im 17, almost 18, in the first month, his mother was upset and angry ...
A. 1 May 2011: I think you are going to have to wait 2 more years for anything to have a chance with this guy. Right now he is still legally and emotionally a kid, while you are almost a fully grown adult. But the older you both get the less those two short ... (read in full...)
I want to be happy since our breakup but I'm not sure how to be!
Q. My ex broke up with me on mid Dec. It has been truly hard for me because I do love her. She has acted like a royal c*nt because i refused to stay friends. I mantained no contact for a while... recently, I have picked up the phone when she calls, all ...
A. 27 April 2011: Do yourself a huge favor and stop picking up her phone calls. You are doing everything else right as far as I can see from what you wrote. Give yourself some credit for getting out of an unhealthy relationship and for wanting better for yourself. ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend's family finds ways to keep us from seeing one another!
Q. Dear cupid I really am so down. I need help , well advice me and my girlfriend have an amazing lelationship. Really. We love each other Now the problem is she has an over emosional big sister and a really agrivated brother. So when she doe...
A. 27 April 2011: Talk to her about everything, your family, her family, your doubts and fears about losing her because of all the problems you are both facing as a couple just to be together. Always be honest with her, and tell her how you feel about her. As long ... (read in full...)
My same-sex best friend is in love with me, and I don't feel the same.
Q. Here goes, I think that my best friend is in love with me. Today, she posted something on my facebook wall and it just did it. We are both female, I'm 19 and she is 20. We both used to be really close friends, until she moved about 400 miles ...
A. 27 April 2011: Just be honest with her. Tell her you love as a friend and care about her, but that all her lesbian talk is freaking you out. Make it clear that you have no desire to have sex with her, despite what you may have done with that other friend in the ... (read in full...)
Why can't I go?
Q. I've been with my girlfriend over 2 months now and things are going great apart from one thing, I can't cum for her apart from masterbating :( She has given me blow jobs and we have lots of continous sex but I just can't cum and it's really gett...
A. 27 April 2011: Is this a new problem for you? Or did you have this problem before you started taking anti-depressants?... (read in full...)
Is it his mom? Or is he just making up excuses not to see me?
Q. Hi, alright, for starters, im 17, 18 in july, and me and my boyfriend grew up together, he lived 3 houses away from me, and we have been dating for almost 3 months. He is 16, and im 17, almost 18, in the first month, his mother was upset and angry ...
A. 27 April 2011: I am sorry his mother is so against you two being a couple.
I know it hurts. Do you have any idea why? Does she hate all his girlfriends or just against his dating anyone at his age. Is she afraid he will get someone pregnant? Or are you the only... (read in full...)
Has the removal of my implant stopped my periods altogether
Q. i had my implant removed over 3weeks ago now and still havent had a period the nurse told me that it would arrive 10 days (latest) after it was removed. so 3 weeks on iam worried and thought i might be pregnant as iam currently not using any cont...
A. 1 April 2011: It can take a year or two for their periods to return to normal for some women. Since you now want to have a child you should probably go to see a fertility specialist. He can give you medicine to help get your cycle back to normal.... (read in full...)
Why did my ex un-friend me on facebook when she found out I was dating someone
Q. I date this girl for about 4 years. We broke up in August very amicably. We both loved each other but knew because of our circumstances could not get married. So I found out on fb 2 months later that she had met someone then she got engaged to ...
A. 29 March 2011: Because even though you have both moved on, it still hurts to know that you are with someone new. Following an ex's life day by day on FB is a form of self inflicted torture for some. So it's better to remove the temptation.... (read in full...)
He left me when I was a month pregnant and I never hear from him until a year later when he wants to marry me!?
Q. Hi everybody,Please help!My boyfriend left me when i was a month pregnant.I take care of myseslf during all my pregnancy time.I had never heard about him and I did not know where he was neither.I took over everything on my own,no child support,and ...
A. 25 March 2011: A few questions please... Why did he say he left you without even giving you a way to contact him? What made him come back now? Why would you have to give up your career for him? And last why is he in such a hurry to marry you now, without p... (read in full...)
My wife had a one night stand for years ago but won't tell me his name. What do you think?
Q. my wife cheated (one night stand) on me 4 years ago. it was a one night. she just confessed what she calls everything.....But she will not tell me her friends name. What's up with that??? The reason that it is important is this guy works at a f...
A. 25 March 2011: Unless she was raped, this is just between you and her, and should stay that way... It's a little late to call some guy out on a one night stand that happened over 4 years ago.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend stopped talking to me and a girl answers his phone every time I call!
Q. Hi aunts! So I need some advice on what to do in this situation. Me and my boyfriend of 2 months broke up 2 days ago. He was at a party and I was going out to. Well I called him and was asking who was ther and stuff nothing mean though. And he said ...
A. 25 March 2011: A man in love that didn't want to mess his relationship with his gf up would not have left another girl use his phone at a party to harrass you. Yeah, I'd say it's over.... (read in full...)
In an un happy marriage and in love with my first love. How do I get back with my ex?
Q. Ok so let me start from the beginning. I am a good person who until recently has never cheated on another man in my life. I am very unhappily in a verbally and somewhat physically abusive marriage of nearly 10 years. We have an 8 year old ...
A. 25 March 2011: You are already doing it by leaving your husband first before trying to contact this man again and getting your own life back. Not sharing your love life with your other friend is also a good idea. After that it is up to your lover. You have taken ... (read in full...)
I feel my partner is hiding something from me...
Q. My partner and i have had many breaks but feel he is hiding something from me, last yr we had a split for a few months and he went on fb (which he never does usually) someone told me that they had seen other females on his friends list and told me ...
A. 25 March 2011: If you were on a break then what does it matter???? Unless you both promised not to see other people during the break, you shouldn't even be wasting your time worrying about it. He is with you now, right?... (read in full...)
Will my body issues turn my fling off?
Q. So I'm kinda worried right now. I have this fling ( we were on a no commitment zone) and we were planning to get into the sack after his vacation next month. Although we've seen each other in person, this will be our first sexual experience. The...
A. 25 March 2011: A couple of trips to a tanning salon might help them fade. But he probably won't even notice or say anything bad about them. If he does then he wasn't worth it in the first place.... (read in full...)
Should I be angry at my boyfriend for sharing his fantasy??
Q. Last night while I was in bed with my boyfriend making love, he asked me if I had any fantasies lately. I said no but asked him if he did. Earlier on ITR I introduced a little kinkiness to our sex life by talking about fantasies together to turn ...
A. 25 March 2011: Your the one who invited fantasy into your bedroom and made him feel like he could tell you anything as long as he never had any intentions of acting on it. So no, I don't think he used bad judgement or could have known how much his fantasy woul... (read in full...)
Betrayed by my own sister!
Q. It all started when i was in 7 grade i had this big crush on this guy name Adam. we would flirt all the time! oh how he gave me the butterflies! we had very little classes in school together and we never saw each other out of school! but it was ok ...
A. 25 March 2011: It was very wrong for your sister to sleep with Adam knowing how you still felt about him. What probably happened is that you talked about him so much to your sister, how wonderful he was, how sweet and great he was and how much you loved him that ... (read in full...)
Its just strictly "friends" but I'm not sure she sees it that way
Q. I'm having a problem with a woman I work with. We've recently began working together so are spending time together and getting to know eachother. Turns out she's gay. As am I. We also have a lot of shared interests. I think she's an awesome girl ...
A. 23 March 2011: I think she just wants to know if you find her attractive.
It's become a challenge to her. But how you handle it is up to you. ... (read in full...)
Are men afraid of their emotions?
Q. Why do men pull away when things in the relationship seem to going so well??? Are they afraid of their emotions?...
A. 23 March 2011: Men are afraid of change and tend to cling to the old a familar ways of bachelorhood. Even when it doesn't make sense to do so to the woman in their life.
It is also the reason why the death rate for men go way up for 5 years following the deat... (read in full...)
Too available for my girlfriend? or She's too clingy?
Q. My girlfriend expects to talk for hours every single day. I've run out of things to talk about and uses that against me. We only see each other about 4-5 days a month on weekends due to the fact she works in another city. I'm not in school right now ...
A. 23 March 2011: Yes it does sound a little like high school, but with no job and no school you don't have much of an excuse to get out of it. I'd start trying to weed it down gradually. Like each evening between 8 and 10 or something. No calls during the day ... (read in full...)
Is he backing away because he's in the military?
Q. This man and I have known one another since he early 90's. We have history. We got back in touch in 2009 and saw one another. When we saw one another, he laid things out on the line. I am attracted to you... I am a very busy person but I mak...
A. 23 March 2011: It sound like that is exactly what is going on. He cares for you, but for right now his duty comes first and he doesn't want you to get hurt. Or himself.... (read in full...)
If he gives oral to me do I have to return the favor?
Q. My boyfriend and I have started getting more sexual, he has fingered me and I have given him a hand job, but he wants to go down on me, if I let him, does this mean I have to go down on him as well? I've never given oral before and I don't think I'm ...
A. 23 March 2011: I think it is ok to let him pleasure you orally, even if you aren't ready to do for him quite yet. You will be soon enough. But please don't go any farther with this boy until you get yourself on the pill. You are only 2 moves away from full blown ... (read in full...)
I lost my virginity and now he says he doesn't want a relationship
Q. Two nights ago, I had lost my virginity. The first time, I really do love this boy, even though we had have a rough past. Very rough. He's the type of boy I had kissed when we were in about grade 7 and I had felt a "spark". He hurts me to the point ...
A. 23 March 2011: He is probably scared because he knows it meant more to you then it did to him. Some guys are jerks and will say whatever they have to say to get what they want. I love you doesn't mean shit without the actions to back it up.
Personally I'd rath... (read in full...)
Why does b/f always want me to talk about his ass?
Q. Dear Cupid My bf asking me to finger and kiss his ass. Even when we do sex talk, he always wants me to talk about his ass. Is he bisexual or gay?...
A. 23 March 2011: I agree it is a very erongenous area, and not gay at all.
In fact it's the total opposite, that he is so open to new things and about what he likes. This guy sounds like he would be a very good lover.... (read in full...)
Can anyone explain his mood changes?
Q. I've posted on this before. basically my ex had a huge problem with my sex life before him, and it ruined our relationship. After about 3 months after we broke up, he texted me saying he had changed. The guys before him, didn't bother him anymore. ...
A. 23 March 2011: Of course he will miss you, you were together a long time and that is why you are both having a hard time letting go and separating with all this back and forth nonsense.
That is also the reason you should block his texts. To avoid temptati... (read in full...)
Violent sister destroying relationship with my dad!
Q. Okay, so here goes. My little sister is ruining my relationship with my dad. My parents divorced when I was little, and both of them have found new parntners. I'm fine with that. My dad went off to have two children with another woman, one of wh...
A. 21 March 2011: It sounds to me like she may feel threatened by you. Middle children often do. She is not the oldest, or the smartest, and she's not the cute little baby either. You get to do so many things she is not allowed to do. Go to parties and have ... (read in full...)
Once I found out a girl likes me, I lose interest!
Q. Ive been sorta keeping my eye out for a possible relationship with someone, and lately with some of the girls I've met I feel like they could be worth getting to know more but once I find out that they like me or they say yes to a date I don't seem ...
A. 21 March 2011: I'm glad to hear that's not the problem, and you understand you must love yourself before you can really love someone else. And that you do.
We can only give you possibilities to think about. The actual answer has to come from inside yourself... (read in full...)
After 5 years, how do I tell my husband just how unsatisfied I am with our sex life? Or is it just what married life is about....bad sex that eventually becomes no sex?
Q. I have been married for 5 years. My husband has always tended to be a rather selfish lover. However I am now really struggling with this issue. He rarely does anything to pleasure me, and believes that sex is simply about his orgasm. He r...
A. 21 March 2011: Well no wonder the man is confused if you have been faking pleasure with all his normal moves all this time...
Why on earth did you do that? So you wouldn't hurt his ego like the last gf's did? And how well did that work out for ya?
All you... (read in full...)
Once I found out a girl likes me, I lose interest!
Q. Ive been sorta keeping my eye out for a possible relationship with someone, and lately with some of the girls I've met I feel like they could be worth getting to know more but once I find out that they like me or they say yes to a date I don't seem ...
A. 21 March 2011: Maybe the other aunts are right, if so then great you have your answer...
But there is another possibility. Is it possible that you think a girl would have to be crazy to like you? And if they do like you then there must be something wrong wi... (read in full...)
Husband is totally off sex!
Q. I don't know what to think. My husband really confusing me. Please help to figure out him, and give me some ideas. He is totally off sex, and I dont know why. He was very sexual person before. And than once he lost his erection 6 years ago at t...
A. 20 March 2011: So he says living without sex, possably for the rest of his life is fine with him. But you are not. So what does he say you should do about your needs? Learn to live without it too? Or does he have anyother suggestions???... (read in full...)
Husband says I can't handle criticism
Q. hi! ours is a love marriage. Both of us are doctors. No matter how much work I do at home, it doesnt satisfy him. For ex, when my maid didnt come, i cleaned the house, washed dishes and clothes, cooked, went to work and after coming back i prepared ...
A. 20 March 2011: He is being a nit-picking-control freak. How much does he do around the house? Not much I am guessing, because that's your job right?? Well you have the same job he has, you are both doctors working crazy hours. So why should you have to cook and ... (read in full...)
Mistress being dragged into marriage, please help!
Q. he lost his wife to ovarian cancer 4 months ago and has 2 kids,8 year old and 11 months.i have been his mistress for 2years.i have a son from a previous relationship but he lives with his dad.Problem:he wants me next to him always and wants us to ...
A. 20 March 2011: He wants someone to step in and play instant wife and mother to his children. And he thinks that you will stay with him if he traps you with another child. This man needs time to grieve his wife and so does his older child. He is either not ... (read in full...)
Because of my husband's child from a previous marriage, my family hardly ever gets my husband for just OUR family time together...
Q. I am having a massive life crisis, and seem stuck in a rut I don’t know I want to be in. I have been with my husband for eight years, we have two children together and he has a child from a previous marriage. His other child lives 3 hours ...
A. 20 March 2011: Tell him both his families need equal time and attention. That you are unhappy and have been thinking of leaving him if things don't change. Give him a chance to turn things around but in the meantime go back to work. Not only will it help you feel ... (read in full...)
I think he's going to dump me and I don't know how to stop it
Q. This is prior to one of my questions some of you helped me on: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/apparently-my-boyfriend-has-changed-his-relationship-status.html But i don't know what I can do anymore....I talked to him about he just says b/c of a...
A. 20 March 2011: That is not true. It just feels that way right now...
But it won't forver, trust me. Something better is waiting for you right around the corner. You just have to believe in it.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is completely passionless
Q. I am 24 years old, and have been with my 27 year-old boyfriend now for 2 years. On paper, everything is perfect - we get on great, he makes me laugh, we have a flat together and both have great jobs in the city. The only problem is, he's complet...
A. 20 March 2011: I agree with Youwish, if the passion isn't there now it probably never will be. Next time he mentions getting a house I'd tell him, that you don't think it's a good idea. Tell him that you love him but you want and need more passion in your life, ... (read in full...)
Trying to cope with and manage my out of control teen son. How?
Q. this has really worried me. my son is 15 and is in year 10 he has a girlfriend and she is also in year 10 but 14 year old. My son is in a gang and he has got in trouble various times which has really upset me anyway yesterday i came home from wo...
A. 20 March 2011: You need a gesture of goodwill to break the ice and show him you are on his side. Try buying him a box of condoms and putting them on his bed. Then maybe he will soften up enough towards you to listen to your other concerns.
But tread lightly ... (read in full...)
I think he's going to dump me and I don't know how to stop it
Q. This is prior to one of my questions some of you helped me on: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/apparently-my-boyfriend-has-changed-his-relationship-status.html But i don't know what I can do anymore....I talked to him about he just says b/c of a...
A. 18 March 2011: Please read this article, it might help you.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/to-all-young-girls-with-a-boyfriend.html... (read in full...)
After 5 years, how do I tell my husband just how unsatisfied I am with our sex life? Or is it just what married life is about....bad sex that eventually becomes no sex?
Q. I have been married for 5 years. My husband has always tended to be a rather selfish lover. However I am now really struggling with this issue. He rarely does anything to pleasure me, and believes that sex is simply about his orgasm. He r...
A. 18 March 2011: The first thing I would do is instill a permanent new policy in your bedroom, and enforce it without fail.
You can call it the me first, you second rule.
Any questions?... (read in full...)
Why can't I go?
Q. I've been with my girlfriend over 2 months now and things are going great apart from one thing, I can't cum for her apart from masterbating :( She has given me blow jobs and we have lots of continous sex but I just can't cum and it's really gett...
A. 16 March 2011: Anorgasmia, the name for what you are describing, can be a side effect of many medications, Tylenol, Advil, Paxil and other antidepressents.
The only way to know for sure is to see a urologist about it. If it bothers you enough.... (read in full...)
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