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Well I wish I could claim that I waited until I was older and wiser before deciding to share my advise with others but the truth is that I have been handing out my version of the unvarnished truth for as long as I can remember.
I can clearly recall myself at 13 years of age telling my girlfriend's mother that she was raising her daughter all wrong and screwing her up in the process. The funny part is that she stood there crying and actually listened to me and never held it against me. Looking back now, I find it pretty amazing because these people were well educated and rich. And I was nobody special, just a friend that cared enough to open my mouth.
And that never changed, over the years people came to know they could come to me for truthful advise and I would give it to them straight, no sugar coating.
I have been married for 23 years to a wonderful man. I have 3 sons and 2 grandchildren, they call me GeeGee, which is short for groovy grandma, hence the agony aunt name, lol.
I have a degree in the allied health field and have worked as an EMT and as a beautician. So I have heard a lot of sad storied in my day and my heart goes out to all of them.
So I guess, this site is just a way for me to reach out and try to do the same for a bigger crowd. |
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17 March 2011: So you are young and in love, that is so sweet and romantic. I am happy for you. I really am, there is nothing better then being young and in love. It is a very special time for all of us. But what happens when it is over?? Maybe you have ...
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Why can't I go?
Q. I've been with my girlfriend over 2 months now and things are going great apart from one thing, I can't cum for her apart from masterbating :( She has given me blow jobs and we have lots of continous sex but I just can't cum and it's really gett...
A. 11 June 2011: Then it might be a good idea to see a urologist to make sure everything is working 100% the way it is supposed to. Good Luck...... (read in full...)
Why can't I go?
Q. I've been with my girlfriend over 2 months now and things are going great apart from one thing, I can't cum for her apart from masterbating :( She has given me blow jobs and we have lots of continous sex but I just can't cum and it's really gett...
A. 27 April 2011: Is this a new problem for you? Or did you have this problem before you started taking anti-depressants?... (read in full...)
I desperately want to save my marriage, but I don't know what to do...
Q. My husband and I have recently separated. We've been together for 23 years and married for 18. We have two children. My husband initiated the separation, but, for reasons I won't go into now, there are many things that I have done to help create the ...
A. 18 March 2011: Good for you! I am glad we were able to help....
So from now on I hope you continue to move forward from a place of inner strength, and not weakness anymore. Because that is when the real healing can begin.... (read in full...)
I desperately want to save my marriage, but I don't know what to do...
Q. My husband and I have recently separated. We've been together for 23 years and married for 18. We have two children. My husband initiated the separation, but, for reasons I won't go into now, there are many things that I have done to help create the ...
A. 17 March 2011: You just described all the most comman reasons a good woman
gets pulled into having an affair, without ever intending to have one.
You need to stop thinking of yourself as some strangely flawed woman that normal loving wives can't relate too. ... (read in full...)
Should I speak to him or avoid him, knowing what I know now?
Q. hi..in my class there is a guy who in the beginning passed lots of comments on me being with his friends..(not bad comments)..he used to watch me always during class hours..(my friend said this and i have even noticed couple of times)..and my ...
A. 17 March 2011: Do you like this boy? Would you want to be his girl?
If you do then just smile and be friendly, and wait for him to tell you he likes you and wants to be your boyfriend.
But if you do not like him, then yes you should tell him you are not ... (read in full...)
Where do we go from here? Finally she might like me but I don't know what to do now!
Q. I am a 15 yr. old freshman in highschool and I need some advice on what to do about what is quite possibly the best thing that's (almost) ever happened to me thus far in my life. Her name is (girl) and I'm absolutely gaga about her. We've be...
A. 17 March 2011: Well caring enough to ask is a good first start.
Spending some time here on this site is another.
Honestly, read through 20 or 30 of the relaionship questions posted by hurt and angry women and girls on this site. And read the articles too... (read in full...)
Body isn't quite perfect after childbirth
Q. I am a 27yo F. I have a 6yo daughter. I use to have a flawless body pre-baby. Post-baby, is.... jus.... terrible. My skin on my stomach is saggy... no matter how much I work out it is here to stay. I look and see other women complain and all the ...
A. 17 March 2011: Then your scars really are a mark of courage and sacrifice. And you should bare them proudly. (In your heart if not a 2 piece) And to hell with any guy that can't see that.... (read in full...)
My 16 year old daughter wants to move away to be with her boyfriend, what is the right thing for us to do?
Q. Our 16yr old daughter wants to leave home to live with her boyfriend and his family. They are both 16 and have been going out together for about two and a half years. He, the boyfriend, went to live with his mother after the xmas holidays. His mum ...
A. 17 March 2011: When I was 16 I begged my parent to allow me to stay with my grandparents while the rest of the family went away on a long vacation, because I didn't want to be away from my boyfriend for that long. I cried, and carried on for days.
So finally, they... (read in full...)
Apparently my boyfriend has changed his relationship status to single!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 3 months. Him and I have had our fights but have always over come them. Now as i came to school today I am told by several of my friends that he changed his relationship status to single. I am freaking...
A. 17 March 2011: Sweetie, maybe he is planning to break up with you soon maybe he isn't, but either way you mustn't fool yourself into believing that it is going to last forever at your age no matter how bad you want it. It just won't. So please do yourself a favor ... (read in full...)
He only wants to be FWB, but I think I want a relationship!
Q. So basically I liked this guy for a year and he didn't like me and we became good friends meanwhile I kept flirting with him. Then on valentines day which is also his bday he told me he liked me so we went out and made out (only kissing tho) we were ...
A. 17 March 2011: You are way to young to have sex, and even if you were older you don't want to give up your virginity to someone who only wanted to be a fwb. You would hate yourself for it later.
But that doesn't mean quite the same thing at your age. So tell me ... (read in full...)
How do I show him I like him so we don't end up as just friends?
Q. I hooked up with one of my (sort of) friends 3 months ago, and then went off to school. I knew he liked me but knowing Id be gone for such a long time, I assumed it would be a one time thing. We kept talking and all, but he initiated most of it. He ...
A. 17 March 2011: Relax, is sounds like he likes you too. So just be natural and smile, look into his eyes and touch him a lot, hands, arm, knee, while standing close to him.
As for what to say, I am a big fan of being honest, say I have been thinking about yo... (read in full...)
G/f's moods from ADD?
Q. i have a bit of a problem my gf she has ADD and i'm ok with it but the problem is when she takes her medication for it she becomes extremely moody almost everything i do that would be perfectly fine without medication is turned to a fight its gotten ...
A. 17 March 2011: What medicine is she taking? That does not sound normal to me at all. And I know ADD very well.... (read in full...)
Body isn't quite perfect after childbirth
Q. I am a 27yo F. I have a 6yo daughter. I use to have a flawless body pre-baby. Post-baby, is.... jus.... terrible. My skin on my stomach is saggy... no matter how much I work out it is here to stay. I look and see other women complain and all the ...
A. 17 March 2011: Some womens skin get justs saggier than others after child birth. Mine did too, even thought I lost all the weight. Plus I had a hernia operation and a hysterectomy that left it cris crossed with a scar that looked like a big anchor, and stretch ... (read in full...)
Normal guys don't turn down hot girls, do they? Is he lying or gay?
Q. Okay so I'm a 16 year old girl and I like(d) a guy in my class, we really started talking a lot more this year and I know that he liked me a couple of years ago. So There were signs that he liked me too, like , he wrote to me and he never had ...
A. 17 March 2011: To me it just sounds like this boy is not sure he is ready for sex yet and when you asked him, Do you want me, he didn't know what to say without embarrassing himself or insulting you.... (read in full...)
Excluded from my man's social life!
Q. Hi there everyone! I have been with my partner for a year now. I am 28 and he is 23 ( a ickle age gap!!). He came back from afghan back end of 2009 (before I had met him). He has now quit the army and has come back to live at his parents house wh...
A. 17 March 2011: Many times guys stay casual friends with some of the guys they grew up with because they have known them for forever, but they have changed a lot over the years, and have taken different paths in their lives.
Some become alcoholics and some got... (read in full...)
Do I just tell him it upsets me when he doesn't respond?
Q. My boyfriend and i have been going out for a year now, and he harldy ever rpelies to my texts, I find it quite annoying, Sometimes i really need him to because i'm feeling down and need cheering up or just want to check if he is okay. How can i ask ...
A. 17 March 2011: A few more details would help us better answer your questions, like...
How many times a day do you text him?
Did he use to respond more then he does lately?
How is the relationship going otherwise?
With knowing more about it all I can do is s... (read in full...)
I don't want to send dirty texts to another guy!
Q. Ok, so me and my boyfriend have been dating for over 5 years, so trust isn't an issue. He is out of state and wants me to do something crazy(sexual) to get him turned on. Nude pictures have already been done and he told me I could do anything except ...
A. 16 March 2011: Don't send texts to another guy, even if he asks you to. That is a little creepy to me. Because next time he may want you to go a step farther, and farther until it gets out of hand. And what guy would text you like that just for you to play a ... (read in full...)
Why is sex not pleasurable?
Q. To put it simply, Me and my boyfriend have had sex quite a lot of times, but i have not once had an orgasm but i told him i have :/ what am i doing wrong? Why is it not pleasuring me? And should i mention it to him?...
A. 16 March 2011: Sex is not that good because neither of you have very much experience yet.
First of all. You need to know your own body before you can tell someone else what you like. And you can't be shy about it.
2nd. Man on top positions do not "hit the spo... (read in full...)
I cant cope with my fiance being bisexual!
Q. My Girlfriend and i have been together some time now and we are engaged, we're quite young but i know i feel strong enough to make this commitment as does she, however she has cheated on me twice before but promises me that it was stupid mistakes ...
A. 16 March 2011: To me none of these things makes her a bad person. They just make her a very young imature girl who is not ready to be engaged, or even in a committed relationship.
And I am sure she does love and doesn't know why she keeps "slipping up" with oth... (read in full...)
I hate having sex with him, is this normal?
Q. I hate having sex with my husband,but I still love him even after 13 years of relationship. He was my first and only sex partner...Is that normal? What should I do?...
A. 16 March 2011: No wonder you don't want sex, it is not your body that is the problem it is your heart and your mind telling you that you are very unhappy with him and the relatonship in general.
No woman wants sex after fighting with her husband, let alone on... (read in full...)
I love my girlfriend, but the only thing holding me back from "taking the plunge" is her weight...
Q. Allow me to first say, I FULLY understand the amount of unhealthy pressure and anxiety that society puts on women to look perfect. That being said, here's the low down: I'm 24, she's 22, and we have been dating for roughly 2 years now. I have alwa...
A. 16 March 2011: I hate to say that I am disappointed with all the comments that say "Ah well you know she is only going to get bigger once she has kids".
Well that is only true if you don't keep your weight under control while you are pregnant or take care of ... (read in full...)
I'm not satisfied with the amount of money he sends me each month, but I am pretending to be ok with it. What should I do?
Q. Hello everyone, My hubby working as a truck reloader (permanently), 34 years of age, American guy.I'm filipina 26 years of age. I'm processing my papers already to move soon. He sent money to me every month almost 500$ if needed so I have ...
A. 16 March 2011: Look your husband is sending you what he can, and you are able to buy medicine for your mom, pay your bills and get what you need for the most part. Maybe you are not rich, but you are not starving either. right?
So you need to stop telling ... (read in full...)
I'm falling in love with him but I'm worried he only wants me for sex! What should I do?
Q. Ok, so I know I have asked for some help regarding to this situation before...anyways, i need more help. for those who didnt saw my other questions, well this is the thing. I met a guy like a month ago. and well we have been going out as "friends". ...
A. 16 March 2011: Many gay men are serial daters, it just part of the lifestyle to them, but not all both my cousins had relationships that lasted 20 years, like anyone else you just have to meet the right person who already wants the same thing you do, not try to ... (read in full...)
The way these guys talk about me is hurtful, what should I do?
Q. hi..i speak friendly and socially to all my classboys..but in front of me they speak as a friend and behind me they speak like they love me..this hurts me a lot..do i need to ask them directly or leave that way till they say directly to me or i ...
A. 16 March 2011: All boys talk to each other about women to some degree when we are not around. Things they would never say to our face, some of them are even more respectful then others though. Those are the ones to avoid.
And if you can find one that refu... (read in full...)
My ex-girlfriend seems to be trying to make me jealous!
Q. Pardon my ignorance, but when a girl breaks up with her boyfriend of a year, and gets another one three weeks later...isn't she supposed to be happy with her new bf and moved on... ...but, My ex keeps asking people how I am and saying "Make sur...
A. 16 March 2011: If she it tries again, just look at her and say, I'm over you! Stop embarrassing yourself, and walk away.... (read in full...)
Do people put too much weight on the institution of marriage, and too little value on the PERSON they marry?
Q. I sometimes worry when I see a young person "pushing" for marriage, and seeing marriage as the ultimate goal in a relationship, while worrying little about the "issues" that exist within the relationship and on building a healthy relationship and ...
A. 16 March 2011: You have some very valid points. You should make this an article.... (read in full...)
After all the numerous sexual encounters, I feel like I've messed things up with the first guy I've properly liked for so long...
Q. Dear Cupid, This is going to be long winded, so apologies beforehand; I just want to get all the details in. Her goes! I have a bit of a history with men. I went through an extremely promiscuous phase a few years ago. I wasn't insecure and...
A. 16 March 2011: It sounds like he still likes you but is nervous about opening the door to you again. So go for it, just don't let him down again. He is giving you a second chance.... (read in full...)
He's disappeared, not sure what to think?
Q. Hi, Me and my boyfriend have been together for over a year. We recently spent Valetines Day together where he went all out to celebrate, making reservations at a wonderful restaurant, romantic picnic in the day and wonderful gifts. Hes a...
A. 16 March 2011: Call him if he answers tell him you have been worried sick about him. If you can't reach him and get no return phone call. Ask one of his friends online if he is ok, that you are worried about him. And see what they say.... (read in full...)
Marriage has gone from husband/wife to mother/father
Q. I've been married for 7 years, and have two beautiful children who mean the absolute world to me. Since our first child was born, our relationship seemed to go from husband and wife to father and mother, with the entire emphasis of our relation...
A. 16 March 2011: Is is normal for sex to drop off after the babies are first born, but not to the extreme you are talking about. 12 mths without sex, twice?? That's crazy. I'm suprised you haven't cracked up long before now.
Any guess at all about what is going... (read in full...)
Should I get involved with her even though she has two children and has financial problems?
Q. Hi, I could really do with some relationship advice as I am unsure whether or not I am being wise in my actions or just letting my selfish attitude get in the way. Around five months ago I was asked out by a female friend of mine. She is a really ...
A. 16 March 2011: 1st. It takes two incomes for most households with children to make it today. This is not necessarily something you should hold against her unless you have other evidence that she is not good at managing her money.
2nd. The number one rule her... (read in full...)
Is it normal to be nervous about getting a pap smear?
Q. My partner is having a pap smear test done and feels very nervous about this. She wants me to hold her hand while it is being done. Can I ask if other women are nervous about this and would like to know what is involved. I think she is worried t...
A. 16 March 2011: It isn't the most pleasant thing for any woman, but it isn't painful, and most of us get used to it by the time we are 25, especially after giving birth to a couple of babies.
Your partner is perhaps just a little more fearful and tense about th... (read in full...)
I love my girlfriend, but the only thing holding me back from "taking the plunge" is her weight...
Q. Allow me to first say, I FULLY understand the amount of unhealthy pressure and anxiety that society puts on women to look perfect. That being said, here's the low down: I'm 24, she's 22, and we have been dating for roughly 2 years now. I have alwa...
A. 16 March 2011: All you have to go is ask her to marry you, and she will probably ask you to help her get in shape for the wedding.
It is the 1# reason for a woman to go on a diet.... (read in full...)
I'm not sure what the point of a physical relationship is, is something wrong with me?
Q. Hi i really really need some advice. I am a female, Muslim, about 22 years old, virgin, never had a boyfriend and I live in Asia. I study in a college with co-education system. But i don't have male friends, because I'm from a conservative family. I ...
A. 16 March 2011: Men and women usually want a physically relationship for 2 distinct reasons.
Men typically enjoy sex for the pleasure, the conquest, and the reless. Some women enjoy it for the same reasons.
But for many woman it is usually more complicated... (read in full...)
I like the guy but I don't want to be in a relationship
Q. i have been in a steady relationship for a few days now and i really don't know what to do. i do have feelings for the guy and like him and that but i dont like being in a relationship itself so what options do i have? do i go along with it and hope...
A. 16 March 2011: Honey don't sweat it, at your age everything could change by next week. You could have a fight, he could decide he likes another girl, anything...
As long he is not trying to pressure you into sexual contact of any kind that you aren't ready fo... (read in full...)
My wife feels more like a sister to me than a wife, and it doesn't feel right to make love to her!!
Q. Hi I have a big problem. Over the years my wife and I have had many issues. I left her 9 months ago because I lost my feelings for her. I now find myself wanting to be with her and my children. I realise I do have feelings for her, but they are up ...
A. 16 March 2011: Your follow up explains everything.
I don't know what the professional name for it is.
But it appears that even though your head and your heart say they want to try again with her, your penis is still very angry with your wife.
She ... (read in full...)
Long distance and trust issues...what to do or say??
Q. How mad should I be at my gf? She let some guy write his name on her cleavage once and now she said she cheated on me by kissing another girl. I really love her and don't want to break up with her but what should I do? This is long distance for now ...
A. 16 March 2011: It is an age thing and a long distance thing. Neither one is very healthy for a long term relationship.
Have you ever thought about just telling her that you love her, but since you can't be with her right now that maybe she should use this tim... (read in full...)
Could this be an opportunity for my ex and I to get back together soon?
Q. A few months back, I started seeing a close friend of mine. We had this unbelievable chemistry, and I'd never felt that way about anyone before, Unfortunately things went a little faster then I hoped, and jealousy from our best friend began to ...
A. 16 March 2011: If and when he dumps his girlfriend he will probably come looking for you. The ball is in his court now, all you can do is wait and see what he does with it.... (read in full...)
My 5 months guy isn't fast at showing his feelings or emotions. How do we move things on more??
Q. I would really like a guys opinion on this too. Ive being in a relationship with this guy for nearly 5 months. He has just recently committed himself to this relationship and I am pleased that he finally has as it took some getting there. He is ...
A. 16 March 2011: In my experience I'll be there, is better than 100 I love you's.... (read in full...)
My fiance always asks her exes for help, without asking me first!
Q. I've been seeing my girlfriend for about 2 years, and we've been talking about getting married. She says I'm the man of her dreams, that she loves me, that I'm the only person who really cares about her, that I have everything she wants in a man, ...
A. 16 March 2011: No I don't think I would be. In fact I'd pitch a fit! lol
I think my conflictions about whether I gave you good advise or not is why I wanted my husbands input. Because even though we may not always agree, I do value his opinion a great deal. An... (read in full...)
What can I do to improve my erection or sexual performance, short of taking ED medication, and what effect will the advised measures have on me?
Q. I'm looking to maximize my physical sexual potential, and have seen a good deal about kegel exercises made. However, I'm still unclear as to when they can be effective. As a 17 year old, what, if anything, will Kegel exercises do for me, and if t...
A. 16 March 2011: No they just help you last longer.... (read in full...)
Ex came back making promises and left again!
Q. So, I am not the prettiest girl on earth but 5 years ago, I met my handsome boyfriend in university. We started talking for 3 months and one day I kissed him and since then, we started going out. We were 19 at the time. Since the beginning he was...
A. 16 March 2011: In the beginning, I think his parents liked you ok they just thought that maybe you two were not good together, as you guys were always fighting and breaking up and they could see how badly you were hurting each other. He was hurting you, you were ... (read in full...)
Why can't I go?
Q. I've been with my girlfriend over 2 months now and things are going great apart from one thing, I can't cum for her apart from masterbating :( She has given me blow jobs and we have lots of continous sex but I just can't cum and it's really gett...
A. 16 March 2011: Anorgasmia, the name for what you are describing, can be a side effect of many medications, Tylenol, Advil, Paxil and other antidepressents.
The only way to know for sure is to see a urologist about it. If it bothers you enough.... (read in full...)
Concerned about girlfriend
Q. Okay so my girlfriend and i have a great relationship, we are intimate, get along well and love each other a lot. But the last few days she doesnt seem herself. Our 2 familes kind of had it out over the phone because she came to my house to get ...
A. 16 March 2011: Maybe there is... maybe there isn't....
She will let you know when she is ready. This girl has a lot going on she has to deal with. So try not to make it worse by dumping your own fears and worries on her right now. Just be there for her when she... (read in full...)
Does breaking up with him mean bad Karma for me?
Q. So after being with my boyfriend of almost a year (4 weeks till anniversary), he broke up with me. I mean its not like i was sad or anything. Because i was already planning on it. See my boyfriend moved 3 1/2 months ago to another state. He said he ...
A. 16 March 2011: You are a normal girl with a good head on her shoulders, and you are wise to realize that it probably wouldn't have lasted no matter what you did, not at your age, especially not long distance.
The only thing you did wrong was end it by cheating... (read in full...)
My fiance always asks her exes for help, without asking me first!
Q. I've been seeing my girlfriend for about 2 years, and we've been talking about getting married. She says I'm the man of her dreams, that she loves me, that I'm the only person who really cares about her, that I have everything she wants in a man, ...
A. 15 March 2011: PS: I aksed my husband to also read your letter, because I thought he may have a point of view different from my own to offer you. And I was right... So I think it is only fair to share it with you.
In a nut shell he finds the idea of remainin... (read in full...)
My fiance always asks her exes for help, without asking me first!
Q. I've been seeing my girlfriend for about 2 years, and we've been talking about getting married. She says I'm the man of her dreams, that she loves me, that I'm the only person who really cares about her, that I have everything she wants in a man, ...
A. 15 March 2011: She seems to have developed a sort of social network of ex's that she has come to utilize whenever she needs something done, this one for taxes, another for computer problems and so on... And she thinks to herself, This is what I have done for ... (read in full...)
After all the numerous sexual encounters, I feel like I've messed things up with the first guy I've properly liked for so long...
Q. Dear Cupid, This is going to be long winded, so apologies beforehand; I just want to get all the details in. Her goes! I have a bit of a history with men. I went through an extremely promiscuous phase a few years ago. I wasn't insecure and...
A. 7 March 2011: Ask your friends to tell him that you miss him and wish you had given him more of a chance. And that you would like to see him again without any just sex, no feeling conditions.
If he still doesn't respond then you'll have to move on and let him ... (read in full...)
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