My friend's boyfriend tried to make out with me!
Q. i liked this guy for a few months and i found out 5 days ago that my friend is dating him yes i was heartbroken but soon i git over it and just went on in life. But one day he texted me to come over at that moment i relised i still liked him but u ...
A. 19 February 2016: The reason you felt heartbroken is because you realized he can't be yours. Therefore, if you can't have him then don't bother with him. You went to his house and realized it's a mistake and you disconnected from him. So there is your answer what to ... (read in full...)
Does this mean that a person could possibly be bi?
Q. If you're turned on by naked girls sometimes, does that mean you could possibly be bi? My first porn that I watched had something to do with boobs and it turned me on a lot and ever since then I'd been turned on by boobs. But boobs are boobs ri...
A. 19 February 2016: In vast number of cases, porn preference and persons sexual preference have nothing to do with one another. Women often ask the question whether they are lesbian if they watch lesbian porn and the answer is "mostly no". It's mostly because in a ... (read in full...)
The problem is that after ten years of marriage we never have sex !! How to deal with this stress?
Q. I need some help. I've been with my husband now for 10 years. I'm 27 and he is 43. Obviously there is an age gap but it has never been an issue up until now. The problem is sex. We never have it. Its very rare and he says its because of stres...
A. 19 February 2016: Sometime after 40, virtually all men see their major hormones cliff dive, of which testosterone is the most important because it drives energy, removes stress and induces desire for sex.
So sure, stress could be the symptom but it's cause is... (read in full...)
How do I get over shock divorce?
Q. I am still very distraught and sad over my divorce that happened over a year ago. Mainly because I did not want the divorce to happen, nor did I see it coming. I was very much in love with my husband, we were married for 3 years and together for...
A. 18 February 2016: "I obviously need to just get over this, but the question is how? I still care about him and love him a lot."
A prerequisite is for you to do exactly the opposite of how you answered the above question that I quoted you. Your love for him, and... (read in full...)
My husband has started texting women he's met through facebook. Should I worry?
Q. My husband and I have been together about 7 years and he has recently been texting women through Facebook. He says it’s all innocent flirting. These women are in other countries. I expressed to him that I was uncomfortable with him talking to these ...
A. 17 February 2016: There is nothing innocent about him flirting. It's just an ego boost that he can get another woman to pay attention at him. You need to put a stop to it, but also perhaps look at the romance between you two because this could mean something is ... (read in full...)
How do I politely tell this man that I don't wish to stay in contact?
Q. How do I let someone know politely that I don't want to be in contact with them any more? So there's a guy who I used to be kind of friends with in another city. I've met up with him a handful of times and we chatted occassionally on skype. For the ...
A. 17 February 2016: with him not being physically around you, this is very easy: block his number, email, Skype account... whatever. Then don't ever look back. You are not obligated to tell him anything. Ultimately, after you go no contact with him, it really does not ... (read in full...)
Where do I draw the line with LDR BF who is becoming provocative and sexually disrespectful?
Q. Hi there, I’m after some advice about a new relationship. It’s long distance and we met online. He’s a bit older than me and has been married before. He’s not really my type but pursued me, was incredibly lovely to me at the beginning, we ha...
A. 17 February 2016: The overt sweetness is affront with which he seduces someone to accept his covert stench. Lot of faulty people use this ploy to seek out their victims. Yes, you are right - run for the hills, and don't look back.
And don't pull back, but cut the ... (read in full...)
Is it love or just habit? Can a husband truly love his wife if he cheats for years?
Q. Can a man cheating on his wife for four plus years really love her? Even if he was straying because of sex- something that he is not getting in his marriage? He doesn't love the other woman- don't know if he cares for her or just using her for ...
A. 17 February 2016: This is not an issue of love nor habit. No person has sex with others out of habit. Nor do you do that out of love for the person whom you are cheating on.
Just like everything else bad, there are million reasons why someone is doing evil stu... (read in full...)
He wants children now and I want to be married first
Q. Hello I've been with my boyfriend over a year and I love him. We plan a future together and we both want children. The problem is he wants to have children now and I want to get married first. I'm ready to get married but when I bring it up he ...
A. 16 February 2016: This looks like a dead end situation for you unless he realized that his decision will drive you away from him. Your position is perfectly normal: you want security for your motherhood and your child so that there is proper father. His decision, ... (read in full...)
33 year old wife being hit on by a couple
Q. oman, my husband took a promotion at work to get into management. I didn't understand why he needed to take it because he gets the jobs that no one else wants and is constantly away from home for long periods of time. This has put a strain on our ...
A. 16 February 2016: You are on a crossroads of making a mistake every cheating wife does: instead of running to your husband to fix your marriage and get the attention you crave, you, instead, run to strangers thinking that they will fill the void of your neglect when ... (read in full...)
Is masturbation interfering with our sex life?
Q. I've been pretty addicted to masturbation/porn since I was 16-17. I'm now 28 and married. I still masturbate about 1-2 times a day, I fear it's affecting my sex life. In the past 6months I've begun to notice that I have trouble keep an erection...
A. 15 February 2016: Yes, masturbation is your problem and too much of it can cause physical and mental barriers to erection and sustaining it fully. Like ever muscle, penis has its limits on strength so too much physical use kills its potency.
That potency also req... (read in full...)
would you be checking out hot babes on the internet while your girlfriend is sitting next to you?
Q. Guys, help me out here. I know men are visual, I've heard that many times. They like to look at the female body, my question is, would you be checking out hot babes on the internet while your girlfriend is sitting next to you? and making comments, ...
A. 15 February 2016: There is no jealousy and you don't have a problem. He does.
He is either immature as in teenagers needing to reaffirm verbally to one another which woman is hot, as a way to firm up the preferences. Or he is culturally boundaryless and does not... (read in full...)
Do I love him enough to look past the fact he already has 3 children by 2 different mothers?
Q. I have been in a new very loving and very strong connection type relationship for about 5months now. We both feel like we have never felt with anyone before. Here is the problem. He had a previous fiancé 2 years ago but also has 2 children with ...
A. 13 February 2016: Male Anon:
What's contraception got to do with being a "quality man"? In fact, it is the opposite: an inferior man relies on contraception, whichever you say is the most effective, in order to mask his inferior ability to choose the right woman to... (read in full...)
Do I love him enough to look past the fact he already has 3 children by 2 different mothers?
Q. I have been in a new very loving and very strong connection type relationship for about 5months now. We both feel like we have never felt with anyone before. Here is the problem. He had a previous fiancé 2 years ago but also has 2 children with ...
A. 11 February 2016: If you were my sister or daughter I would tell you to run away from this guy because he has no clue how to be a father. A quality man thinks before he impregnates. A good father chooses one woman to have children with because his children require ... (read in full...)
Do I throw away a 3 year relationship based on a "gut feeling" my BF is cheating on me?
Q. Please help me. I cannot live this way anymore. I am on the verge of throwing away an almost 3 year relationship with a man I love and adore because of a "gut feeling" he is cheating. How do I deal with this? I am right at the edge. I hav...
A. 10 February 2016: Before you actually give up on your guy over irrational suspicion, I'd suggest that you go and see a therapist and explain the feelings that you have. Not being able to "take it" even though you don't have proof may suggest some sort of anxiety ... (read in full...)
A threesome has turned into a disaster. My wife wants to spend the night with guy without me
Q. my wife and I have been married for twenty three years, recently she said she wanted to try a mmf threesome. She met a guy online who is older than her and after getting to know him we agreed to do it. The first two times we all had fun, the third ...
A. 10 February 2016: Someone is always extra in any arrangement larger than two, and your situation proves the point. Your marriage is not dead yet, but it will be and should be once she hooks up with that guy, whether you approve or not. Like others have said, she ... (read in full...)
Why does he keep flirting with me when he is married?
Q. Guy at work was flirting with me for about 6wks then I asked him out for a drink. He refused stating if he was not married he would, than proceeded to let me know how flattered he was,and lets continue to be friends. So I said I was sorry for ...
A. 10 February 2016: He is flirting because: it boosts his ego, his wife can't bust him and you make it available. Him refusing you on account of being married means that he can't go out for "drinks" on your time but only his, to avoid being busted by his wife. Also, he ... (read in full...)
I'm married so why am I having an affair with a co-worker?
Q. I put myself in a very difficult situation and don't know where to go from here. Recently I had an affair with a coworker.I'm a married woman and feel horrible about it. I wasn't planning on it, believe me. When I look back, I realize that we both ...
A. 10 February 2016: "My marriage aside, what am I doing with this guy?"
What were you doing with this guy in the first place? You both can't have each other, so why be with him. If you wanted just sex, you got it and it's over. There is no more to be gotten out of t... (read in full...)
Is it worth it to force my wife to talk about a 2 year affair she had years ago? We never talked about it and she doesn't want to now
Q. Ladies....Do you think its worth trying to insist that my wife and i talk about a two year affair that she had MANY years ago, that at the time, we never really did talk about,other than me telling her to end it or else it was going to be the end ...
A. 6 February 2016: You never state what is the purpose of you revisiting that episode when, long ago, you put a closure to it by giving her the ultimatum to end the affair or divorce. She evidently chose you. That closure was good for you then, so what's wrong with it ... (read in full...)
Is it cheating or just a friend thing????
Q. Hi i have a serious question. First, I have a friend that I text behind my boyfriend's back. My friend is someone i met at work like some of my other friends. But some how he is a close friend cuz of the things we like. He knows i have a boyfriend n ...
A. 5 February 2016: What you are doing is called sexting. It is a modern version of phone-sex that used to be a thriving business for some home bound women responding to men with affinity to prostitutes.
So is it wrong? Very much so, and you know it or why would yo... (read in full...)
Would a guy invest his time for texting almost every hour and everyday only to get sex
Q. Hello everyone! I am wondering, if a guy would invest his time for texting almost every hour and everyday only to get sex (my fear)? I don't know him in real life, we met online. He's charming and all that stuff. We've been texting about ...
A. 5 February 2016: "Should I ask him what he's looking for? Would that help in any means?"
Asking him what he is looking for will not get you an answer that you should necessarily believe. Online romance is "crippled" by the fact that you get not to evaluate... (read in full...)
Would a guy invest his time for texting almost every hour and everyday only to get sex
Q. Hello everyone! I am wondering, if a guy would invest his time for texting almost every hour and everyday only to get sex (my fear)? I don't know him in real life, we met online. He's charming and all that stuff. We've been texting about ...
A. 4 February 2016: Yes, it is possible. In fact, the reason most men are on social apps is sex, even among the so-called "dating" sites. I cannot speculate what his motives are but statistics point that sex is the probable motive. And it's understandable because phone ... (read in full...)
Is my husband taking advantage of me because I contact my ex
Q. I called my long time ex yesterday and my husband took it to the extreme. It was an honest text. A prophet at church shared some light about my life. I immediately told my husband a certain ex of mine told me the exact same thing. Out of curiosity ...
A. 3 February 2016: Don't contact your ex. Reason why he is your ex is because romance has ended, which means the only reason you were with your ex is romance, so now that you have contacted him it is about the "prophet"? This is not about trust, but about principle. ... (read in full...)
Is this cheating? I don't understand myself anymore!
Q. Hay, I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now. We really love each other and we're planning to move in together soon. So here's my problem or should i say I don't really know if it's already a problem. I've met a man who is nearly 20 years...
A. 2 February 2016: Most definitively, break all connection with the older guy. If there is no future, then why tempt your self into infidelity. For sure, all infidelity starts by feeling so good, and then it slips into a nightmare. It isn't a nightmare for you yet, ... (read in full...)
Shall I continue with this charade, in an effort to expose his cheating ?
Q. Hi, I am little embarrassed to say this but I just found a profile of my bf on match.com, the profile is active and it has his name and age and a couple photos also.. He says he's single and looking for female from 21-34. He's 29. I am 37... I feel ...
A. 2 February 2016: The bind date plan sounds great in imagination, but in reality such pay backs rarely have any impactful change, nor is it reconciliatory action. Let's be realistic, once you show up on that blind date it is doubtful that he will respond as "Oh gee, ... (read in full...)
Why has my BF stepped up, now that he's heard that another guy likes me?
Q. Why would your BF of over 2 years suddenly start paying more attention to you? It seems he was taking me a little for granted...... UNTIL... He found out there was some good looking guy asking his friends about me and saying how beaut...
A. 2 February 2016: An answer to your question is in your post: because there is another guy and he thinks you may go for him. It's sort of like preventive medicine: he noticed a viral outbreak so he figures to strengthen the immunity system. Knowing from experience, ... (read in full...)
My fiancé almost never wants to have sex, is there a way we can compromise?
Q. My fiancé and I have been together for three years and i am sure we really love eachother however there has been a reoccurring issue in our relationship for about a year now...he almost never wants have sex. we have been living together for about ...
A. 1 February 2016: You don't specify which opiates you were abusing but things like Oxycontin, Percocet, Vicodin, and Methadone have been documented to reduce testosterone in men as well as kill the ability of the body to make any testosterone. You should go to a ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid I'm starting to get some kind of sex dysfunction but I'm not sure why this would happen
Q. 51 y.o. male here. I no my body very well and I take care of it. I workout every other day and I take vitamin and enzyme and amino acid by the handful. I use the Paleo diet, only drink mineral water, eat a lot of eggs everyday, I avoid gluten and ...
A. 1 February 2016: I'm with Honeypie. Go see the doctor and be sure you show him the list of all the supplements you take. ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for a guy to only want anal and never vaginal sex?
Q. I recently met a guy from a dating site. The first time we met, we engaged in anal sex without a condom (he had a fantasy of ejaculating inside my anus) as a way to avoid pregnancy. Everytime we meet he only wants to have anal and never vaginal. ...
A. 1 February 2016: Seems like he has a massive anal fetish that is satisfied only at your expense. No, this isn't normal in the least because he does it without any regard for you. You should not do this to please him. You should have sex to please you BOTH. ... (read in full...)
My wife of 22 years has no remorse over her cheating. Should we divorce, or do what we want?
Q. I just found out that my wife cheated on me and not the first time and she does not even feel remorse. We have been married for 22 years, both in our 40s. She looks amazing for her age. Men always liked her. we have a grown child and empty nesters....
A. 31 January 2016: For starters, stop having sex with her immediately then go get yourself checked by a doctor to make sure you don't have STD. Her sexual promiscuity is dangerous, to you as well.
As for your wife... She has decided all on her own that she will run... (read in full...)
Is it hard to find a person who is your perfect sexual match?
Q. Do you think it takes goimg through lots of people to find your sexual match? I mean somebody you are totally compatible in bed with? Unlike any other? You can be attracted to many people but that does not always mean mind blowing sex wit...
A. 30 January 2016: "Do you think it takes goimg through lots of people to find your sexual match?"
Overwhelming number of studies indicate that the opposite holds true whether it's sexual satisfaction or strength of marriage. In other words, if anyone seeks to be se... (read in full...)
I walked in on my wife while she was performing oral sex. Should I end the marriage?
Q. Me and my wife have been married for 12 years now.I never expected this from her.One day when I got home from work I walked in on her giving head to another man.He immediately ran out of the apartment,didn't even have time to get dressed.In our ...
A. 29 January 2016: To break up or forgive ... is your decision to be made and whatever you decide is a correct decision for you. The image of what you saw her doing will, indeed, linger in your mind for a very long time, perhaps for ever, and it will always be a ... (read in full...)
My husband won't stop badgering me about having a threesome
Q. My husband of 18 years has been pressuring me to have a threesome with another man. I am not comfortable with this but he keeps insisting that he wants to share me with either a friend of his or one of my choice. I am 60 and not real comfortable ...
A. 28 January 2016: You should stay with your word, which is don't do it. Never, ever do sex that isn't comfortable to you. If this MMF is something you don't want to do, then be sure you don't do it.
You are not an object to please people sexually. Instead,... (read in full...)
Why does an extra marital affair last 3 years and still going strong?
Q. What are the reasons an extra marital affair lasts going on 3 years?? Do most of them not end sooner? And realistically how much longer can it continue? Why does a married man stay this long with another woman? Surely it isn't a lapse in j...
A. 28 January 2016: Cheaters always stay where ever sex is available to them without any consequence. That can be for one night or one decade ... or as long as he gets it on the side so that his wife does not find out. The only thing cheating men care about, those who ... (read in full...)
I slept with my brother's friend and hated it
Q. I recently slept with my brother's friend. I knew the guy for a couple years and had a crush on him. We get along well and share common interests like playing boardgames so we always play games together with my brother. Whenever I hang out with that ...
A. 28 January 2016: You should, first, learn from this that before you sleep with a guy, you need to establish a relationship then sleep with him within that relationship. If you seek a BF, you will not get him by offering sex first in hope that he will, because of ... (read in full...)
He lied to me..he was cheating on his wife with me. Do I tell her?
Q. Dear Cupid I was dating a guy for a month, I was not attracted to him physically but sounded a nice decent person with a great job and everything. I asked him so many times whether he is single and he said he is and he never married since he...
A. 26 January 2016: Unlike others here, I think that you should gather up evidence, such as the timeline where he was when he met you, and provide very detailed picture of all those meetings, including that you found about his marriage via FB... Be very specific as in ... (read in full...)
I'm very self conscious about the cold sores on my mouth and worried about what others think
Q. I've been feeling really insecure and self-conscious recently because I have these two horrible cold sores on both corners of my mouth that look disgusting and really hurt! I know this may seem like such a small thing to be moaning about when there ...
A. 26 January 2016: You should be so dismissive to claim that your breakouts are treatable by hydrocortisone. Cold sores are euphemism for Herpes Simplex Type 1 virus, and this virus is totally different then the feared genital herpes. The breakout is instigated by too ... (read in full...)
Why is he still keeping in touch? Even though we are no longer having sexual relations?
Q. I did a bad thing. I was in a a relationship when I met a guy through a mutual friends. We exchanged phone numbers and started texting. After going out as friends for drinks, we ended up sleeping together. After that, we have done a few more tim...
A. 24 January 2016: That's exactly what I am saying except cheating men don't need to have problems with his GF or wife to cheat. There maybe logistical problems like time, opportunity or chance he can get busted. But cheaters don't need emotional pain to cheat. In ... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend has aspergers. How do I get him to open up?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend a while (he still lives with his parents hes 36 and has never lived on his own , he can afford to but i think its because he cant cope) and I've started to notice a lot of things about him that has made me think he's ...
A. 24 January 2016: Before you decide to ask him about your suspicions, I'd suggest you research on Aspergers as well as the relationship issues it poses. One good book to look at is "Aspergers Syndrome and Long-Term Relationships", by Ashley Stanford.
Anoth... (read in full...)
Why is he still keeping in touch? Even though we are no longer having sexual relations?
Q. I did a bad thing. I was in a a relationship when I met a guy through a mutual friends. We exchanged phone numbers and started texting. After going out as friends for drinks, we ended up sleeping together. After that, we have done a few more tim...
A. 24 January 2016: "Could he also like the attention and having conversations or is he mainly doing what my friend said- playing a friend to stay in touch?"
He already gets attention from his GF, so the contact he is keeping with you is not about attention but abou... (read in full...)
Should I even bother with a man who still has his ex's photo on the wall 10 years after she has passed away?
Q. I went met this guy online. We talked for 9 months before making plans to meet in person. He was a very nice guy, but has an annoying side to him. He liked to win when we had our little spats. Anyway, we went on a couple of dates finally, and they...
A. 24 January 2016: Q: My questions is, should I bother apologizing to him?
Yes, you should apologize to him first chance you get because it is none of your business what pictures he hangs in the wall. In fact, the picture he has shows that he has lot of compassi... (read in full...)
Why is he still keeping in touch? Even though we are no longer having sexual relations?
Q. I did a bad thing. I was in a a relationship when I met a guy through a mutual friends. We exchanged phone numbers and started texting. After going out as friends for drinks, we ended up sleeping together. After that, we have done a few more tim...
A. 23 January 2016: Your friend is right: your guy is most definitively "pretending to be friends so that we can keep in touch and have sex in the future." Maybe you are not, but if you understand his game, you are doing it as well just by the fact that you are ... (read in full...)
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