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writes:I've been pretty addicted to masturbation/porn since I was 16-17. I'm now 28 and married. I still masturbate about 1-2 times a day, I fear it's affecting my sex life.In the past 6months I've begun to notice that I have trouble keep an erection while having sex with my wife. I can get it up no problem but within 2mins or so if I don't cum then I lose my erection. Do I have E.D. Or is this something I can fix if I try to stop masturbating so often.
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reader, Serpico +, writes (16 February 2016):
Dude - you have an addiction and you need to address it, like now.
I dont have any problem with porn per se. I do have a problem when you cannot go without it for any appreciable length of time.
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reader, Garbo +, writes (15 February 2016):
 Yes, masturbation is your problem and too much of it can cause physical and mental barriers to erection and sustaining it fully. Like ever muscle, penis has its limits on strength so too much physical use kills its potency.
That potency also requires proper psychology to get it erect, such as porn or fantasy, and none of those mental things are real. That means that your erection during masturbation is induced by unreal circumstances so that over time your brain is conditioned to be aroused on unreal things and when you get into a real circumstance, with your wife, your brain cannot cope with it.
Obvious solution is to stop masturbating.
However, if you find yourself compelled to masturbate, I would strongly recommend that you get some therapy on that. It could be porn addiction if you watch it, but apart from porn, a compulsion like that could be an expression of anxiety or comfort seeking so that the release of dopamine after ejaculation calms your anxieties or discomforts. I'm not saying that this is your case, but noting that like all compulsions people do, this can also be one of those compensatory routines people do in order to balance our emotions.
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reader, eddie85 +, writes (15 February 2016):
 Yes, too much masturbation can effect your sex life with your wife.
Here are the reasons:
1) Probably when you look at pornography you are looking at the hottest of the hot women. Suddenly, you find yourself with your wife, who probably doesn't look anything like the women you masturbate to. Anecdotally speaking, I've read some reports that indicate that looking at a lot of pornography may hinder your ability to do it for real.
2) When we are in our teens and early twenties, guys can get off multiple times a day, fairly easily. We are loaded with testosterone and that makes it easier. Looking at porno can certain drain you and make you less likely to last as long.
I would certainly try abstaining or cutting back from looking at pornography for a bit and see if that makes a difference.
If that doesn't correct it, you may want to see a urologist to rule out any medical or hormone issues. Help is available.
Eddie
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (14 February 2016):
 Here's the key question: Is your eyesight deteriorating? Once that starts... you definitely ARE experiencing ED... and you have to go in to re-hab if you want to bring Mr Happy back to his youthful capabilities.....
Good luck....
P.S. I am now using 2.50 magnification "reader" glasses... and my $ex life is in the toilet!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2016): You've desensitized and may have to abstain from sex altogether. Being a married-man, this is not going to be an easy task. You've got to come clean to your wife and explain the situation. Your addiction is already affecting your love-life; so you've got to take measures to counteract the effects of your addiction.
Aside from considering abstinence from sex and masturbation for awhile; you cannot dismiss the fact you used the word "addiction" to describe the uncontrolled impulse you have. That means you feel your sexual-impulse or proclivity to masturbate is well beyond your self-control. That may require some mental-health counseling to help you beat the habit. It's a long-standing addiction, and you will not stop over-night.
By now, your wife is fully aware there is something wrong.
You should never dismiss seeking medical-attention when the matter is a physiological malfunction. That being said, you have to be sure there are no physical maladies or medicinal side-effects that may also be contributing to the erctile dysfunction. The fact you masturbate with such frequency, that's pretty much a no-brainer. It is definitely one reason you can be certain of.
Your medical doctor will rule-out all possible underlying causes of e.d. You have to be honest and come clean with your primary-care physician; so he or she can offer you the best advice or referrals to specialists. Sometimes there are multiple issues contributing to e.d., some being psychological as well. Get professional advice; but share with your spouse. She needs to know, or she will just assume you're cheating on the side.
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