Why is he still keeping in touch? Even though we are no longer having sexual relations?
Q. I did a bad thing. I was in a a relationship when I met a guy through a mutual friends. We exchanged phone numbers and started texting. After going out as friends for drinks, we ended up sleeping together. After that, we have done a few more tim...
A. 24 January 2016: That's exactly what I am saying except cheating men don't need to have problems with his GF or wife to cheat. There maybe logistical problems like time, opportunity or chance he can get busted. But cheaters don't need emotional pain to cheat. In ... (read in full...)
Why is he still keeping in touch? Even though we are no longer having sexual relations?
Q. I did a bad thing. I was in a a relationship when I met a guy through a mutual friends. We exchanged phone numbers and started texting. After going out as friends for drinks, we ended up sleeping together. After that, we have done a few more tim...
A. 24 January 2016: "Could he also like the attention and having conversations or is he mainly doing what my friend said- playing a friend to stay in touch?"
He already gets attention from his GF, so the contact he is keeping with you is not about attention but abou... (read in full...)
Should I even bother with a man who still has his ex's photo on the wall 10 years after she has passed away?
Q. I went met this guy online. We talked for 9 months before making plans to meet in person. He was a very nice guy, but has an annoying side to him. He liked to win when we had our little spats. Anyway, we went on a couple of dates finally, and they...
A. 24 January 2016: Q: My questions is, should I bother apologizing to him?
Yes, you should apologize to him first chance you get because it is none of your business what pictures he hangs in the wall. In fact, the picture he has shows that he has lot of compassi... (read in full...)
Why is he still keeping in touch? Even though we are no longer having sexual relations?
Q. I did a bad thing. I was in a a relationship when I met a guy through a mutual friends. We exchanged phone numbers and started texting. After going out as friends for drinks, we ended up sleeping together. After that, we have done a few more tim...
A. 23 January 2016: Your friend is right: your guy is most definitively "pretending to be friends so that we can keep in touch and have sex in the future." Maybe you are not, but if you understand his game, you are doing it as well just by the fact that you are ... (read in full...)
I keep bombing on the Statistics exams! Help?
Q. Advice please? I only need ONE class to graduate with a Bachelors, and that would be Statistics. This class is kicking my behind not because the material is hard, but the exams are timed short and I simply cannot compute that fast and so I failed ...
A. 21 January 2016: Math is a function of practice. So before the test, do ALL the problems that have been assigned for that unit at least 10 times over. By doing them, I mean sit in a chair with pencil and grind over and over, noting your speed and accuracy. Don't ... (read in full...)
Has anyone ever had an experience that felt like they met their soulmate?
Q. I know that it is scientifically impossible to state that there is a such thing as destiny, but it would be the same bias to say that merely freewill exists as well. I'm wondering if anyone here has ever falling in love with a person beyond the ...
A. 21 January 2016: Yes, there is such a thing as soul mates but that is always in the hindsight, meaning after the pair has spent sufficient enough time such that they still have, not just love, but the zing for each other as when they first met.
There... (read in full...)
She wants everything. Should I walk?
Q. Been going out with a woman, for a month, she tells me if I want to continue to see her, I have to buy her gifts, cards, flowers, and take her out two times a week. Do I walk away? She said she will give me two days to make up my mind. I sure know ...
A. 18 January 2016: Since you don't think that she is a winner, then, I think, you answered your own question. If you find what she wants as something you don't want to do then don't bother with her. In my view, you don't even have to call her in two days on this. Just ... (read in full...)
He's married but he still calls me
Q. I was seeing this guy for about 2 years to come to find out his married the horrible part is he met me two weeks after he got married and I didn't find out until my co-worker noticed him on Facebook which I don't have a account but how can a man ...
A. 18 January 2016: You are doing the right thing. Stay no contact, and do not look through FB or other social media for him. ... (read in full...)
How to handle this? What other important past information has my husband hidden from me?
Q. My husband and I have been married for 2 years dated 4 years prior to that. Tonight, I just found out my husband has been married 3 times prior to our relationship. I knew of one marriage, but he has never openly disclosed these other 2 marriage...
A. 17 January 2016: I know of a situation similar to yours about a woman who is close to my family. Her husband claimed he has never been married, but come to find out, after they had children, he was divorced. So he lied. That was a nail in the coffin on their already ... (read in full...)
Should I reveal all to the wife of my ex? My Bf will leave me if I fail to tell her
Q. Hi, I recently started dating an amazing guy, everything has been great and we are thinking about getting married. While talking about our pasts he found out that up until the day I met him I was still friends with an ex boyfriend. The...
A. 17 January 2016: First, the affair you had with the married guy, although really bad, does not in any way involve your BF therefore he has no claim on how it should be handled. In other words, he cannot determine how that affair is to be handled, therefore, even ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend turned 40 and has become sad and depressed. Does this happen to everyone?
Q. My boyfriend is 9 years older than me and we have been together for just over 3 years. When we met he was 36 and he seemed really full of life and we had so much fun! We talked about everything and anything and had sex a lot. He will be 40 ...
A. 17 January 2016: I felt panicky in my early 30s when during a game I suddenly realized that I am no longer good enough to be on the field playing competitive sports. So like your guy, I became depressed and just could not get over the fact of how the news "You are ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend keeps bringing up my ex
Q. My current boyfriend keeps bringing up my ex and it disturbs him immensely because initially when we got together when my boyfriend asked about my ex i said he was nice and I have good memories with him and don't want to say anything bad!this ...
A. 15 January 2016: He is likely hung up on your comment about your "good memories" of your Ex rather then your ex himself. He probably translates "good memories" with a threat to his relationship with you either because: you two don't have sufficiently many memories ... (read in full...)
Confused after discovering her sexting: is she going to rekindle an old flame? Do I leave her or make it work for the kids?
Q. I caught my wife of 13 years sexting an old "friend" from her old neighborhood. I accidently received a pm from a social site (she used the site to sign into a music app on my phone and didn't sign off) and it contained explicit details of her ...
A. 14 January 2016: Some cheaters are sorry that they got caught cheating while others are sorry that they've done it. If I had to pick which your wife is, I would pick the first one, because she denied her dating account and would have continued sexting the guy had ... (read in full...)
Anger management hell with father in law
Q. I need advice about my how to deal with my husband's family, in particular, his dad.. He is old school and I get the distinct feeling he has little respect for women. His current wife is number 3, who was a mistress he got pregnant and brought ...
A. 14 January 2016: ---- technical difficulty --- continued from under----
You'd be surprised in how many "progressive" people are equally stubborn about certain modern subject matters that saying something to the contrary would trigger endless accusations of being... (read in full...)
Anger management hell with father in law
Q. I need advice about my how to deal with my husband's family, in particular, his dad.. He is old school and I get the distinct feeling he has little respect for women. His current wife is number 3, who was a mistress he got pregnant and brought ...
A. 14 January 2016: Even though you have lot of anger, justifiable at that, it does not necessarily follow that you must act on that anger. It may feel good as an emotional relief, but going bunkers on him again is pointless because it will win you nothing, it will ... (read in full...)
Why would a married man keep in touch with his mistress while on vacation with his wife?
Q. Why does a married man who is on vacation with his wife keep in constant touch with his mistress while he is away? And tells her he misses her and can't wait to be with her again?...
A. 12 January 2016: That's one of the ways that he keeps his mistress strung up in a meaningless relationship. He is vacationing with his wife, enjoying his life and finds time to send pointless messages so that the mistress can keep fantasizing that he actually cares ... (read in full...)
Will he ever commit or am I risking a heartbreak?
Q. I have been "seeing" a man for almost 8 months. It started as an office flirtation as both of us were going through a divorce. I don't think either of us expected it to go anywhere. We started going to dinners and movies and he introduced me to his ...
A. 11 January 2016: "Do men just tell women they love them or does he really mean it"
There are men who will say these sorts of things to string the woman along in a pointless relationship, so I see your apprehension about this guy. Even though what you describe... (read in full...)
Why couldn't he have come back in my life before I got married
Q. I feel my life is a movie right now and I need help please. Years ago when I was 22 (I'm now 34) I met and fell in love with this guy, my age and we were together almost 2 years. I was convinced he was "the one." He then got an opportunity to s...
A. 11 January 2016: You need to go no contact with this old flame. For 10 years he has been pursuing his own goals and not you. Had you mattered to him, he would for sure know how to accommodate his desires so that you were included in them. Regrettably, that isn't how ... (read in full...)
Does a cheater cheat on everybody they are with and are they always cheating with multiple partners at once?
Q. Everybody always says cheaters are cheaters and will cheat on everybody they are with. Like it's gospel. So if you are with a man who has cheated on a partner in the past, it seems to be guaranteed he will do the same to you. Is this right? A...
A. 9 January 2016: I've known, hung around and met lot of men who were cheaters, and none of them had any feelings for the woman they cheated with, although they cared about the woman on whom they cheated. They had sort of a culture amongst each other that it is ... (read in full...)
I often get a bad feeling when something threatening may happen, should I act on it this time?
Q. So before I get to the question, I have to tell a story. I am currently a junior in high school. When I was in 8th grade, I had a very "unsteady" feeling in the air I breathed, but I said nothing. Only a few days later (within the same week) my sc...
A. 3 January 2016: I do grant you that there is an unexplainable power of premonition that some people have. You maybe one of them. However, your premonitions are specific only in hind sight. In other words, even though you may feel some trauma ahead, you cannot tell ... (read in full...)
My fiance and I broke up. How can I get through this?
Q. I was in a relationship for 4 years and we were engaged to get married in the summer of 2016. I really loved him I was so looking forward to marrying my best friend. We talked about children often, and he was just my whole world. Every time ...
A. 2 January 2016: First, I think you've done right by having him choose either you or that other girl, friendship with her or not. The fact is that marriage means one, so if the half of it, which is you, disagrees, especially if there are suspicions of infidelity, ... (read in full...)
How can I ever accept and forgive what she did?
Q. I realize I am being a complete hypocrite and I hate it but I can't change how I feel. BACKGROUND: I grew up in a Bible-based church where soul-winning, youth conferences, missionary work and Bible memorization were expected. Most children wer...
A. 31 December 2015: Even though you see your situation as very complicated, it might be so complicated because there are lot of issues in this drama that are improperly construed.
First, every sin is unique whereas all purity is the same, therefore, your attempt ... (read in full...)
Husband's left for Pakistan. I'm in a terrible dilemma
Q. My husband has decided to return to Pakistan, I know he does miss his country. He knows I do not really want to go there as I am not a family person and he has a large family. He has basically told me that if I do not go with him then he will get...
A. 31 December 2015: Well, if tables were turned and my woman was blackmailing me with threats of divorce over a trip, I don't think I'd be married for too long. The point that is so amazing in your case is how the threat of divorce is used over something as trivial as ... (read in full...)
I feel like she's put me on reserve while she dates someone else but I don't want to ruin things either. What can I do?
Q. Ok I'll keep this brief. I met a girl at the weekend in a bar and we chatted for a while and it was all great. I added her on Facebook and today I plucked up the courage to ask her to meet for a drink. Her friend and her both told me she was single ...
A. 30 December 2015: You really don't have to call her and tell her to forget it. You can do that all by yourself without telling her that. You may feel bitter about the way she gave you a cold shoulder after a lead on, but you will run into that with girls who don't ... (read in full...)
How do I end this 5 year relationship with the man I love?
Q. Finally working up the nerve to end five years relationship. I'm 33, he is 39. I love him, but this cycle of feeling happy then miserable is wearing on me...a lot. Most recent event: he blew me off on Christmas. To help myself move forward wit...
A. 29 December 2015: You are correct: the hardest part is deciding that you will break up. We all know that it is an unpleasant experience, with lot of anxiety prior to and in the beginning of the conversation. To minimize this, I'd suggest that you plan where and how ... (read in full...)
This married man has me confused. Please help!
Q. I have a problem concerning a married man. I feel as though I have been 'played' but I am not sure how it happened. My head is all over the place. I am normally quite sensible and I'm definitely not interested in men who are with someone, married ...
A. 28 December 2015: What do you feel sorry for him about? That you didn't provide him the opportunity to cheat on his wife? Or to mess with you emotionally even more? Or tag you along as his other woman?
Since you have decided that there is no future, then be sure ... (read in full...)
How do I get rid of bad odor caused by too much sweating?
Q. Hi, I'm 16 and a girl. I've got a really bad problem. :( It's about sweating! I sweat a lot! The climate here is about 25'C on average. I can still handle the sweating part, but the odor not at all! I get it from my dad's side of the family...
A. 28 December 2015: Try Cinnamon supplements. Many people report that their body odor has disappeared after taking this inexpensive supplement. Cinnamon is a powerful bacterial killer. By cinnamon I don't mean candy or cakes, but actual pill. ... (read in full...)
How can I talk to my Dad about masturbation? I am trying to give up masturbating
Q. I am 15 and have been masturbating for maybe around a year and I ve really been trying to give it up. I feel really guilty and stressed and I wanna tell my dad but I feel like it would really change how he sees me, since we re pretty much bros I ...
A. 28 December 2015: There is no need to tell anyone that you masturbate. What you do privately is your own business. Nor will you gain anything by telling your dad. Pretty much everyone, women included, knows that young boys masturbate, so there is no new news there. ... (read in full...)
Lost virginity may wreck upcoming marriage
Q. I am from Nigeria. and i want to become a virgin again. I don't know if you can help me with what wil make me to become a virgin again? My wedding is coming up and don't want my husband to be mad at me. Please do help me. I do want your reply as ...
A. 27 December 2015: You cannot become virgin again. Once your hymen is torn, it's done and there is no going back. In some Mudlim states, doctors perform operations to restore the hymen but it's inconclusive how successful and safe that procedure is. ... (read in full...)
Is paying for sex the best option, when a guy is 25 year old virgin, and has a porn addiction?
Q. I'm a male virgin who's never kissed a girl and I have a porn addiction. I watch it everyday, multiple times a day, and of course masturbate like crazy. It becomes a compulsive need to get home from work, or any social gathering and start looking up ...
A. 27 December 2015: Since you are addicted to porn and you masturbate too much, your actual sex experience will be very bad irrespective of if its a legitimate girl or a prostitute. So from the perspective of cost effectiveness, you paying for sex will not bring you ... (read in full...)
Had the best day with my boyfriend but he did not rely to my Good night text. Should I be worried?
Q. I sent my BF a "Good night" text late last night. Till now (mid aft) he still has not responded. We spent the day together yesterday and he gave me a gorgeous crystal bracelet. It was the best day. And I felt we were very close. I texted him...
A. 25 December 2015: Yes, this is you worrying about nothing. I don't know why he hasn't responded but after him investing so much time in you, and going out of the way on a bracelet... Etc. and you are souring over a response to a "good night" text?! Nor do you want to ... (read in full...)
Confrontation. Was it right to not confront him? Does it seem as if I didn't stand up for myself?
Q. I dated a guy for 2 months then he stopped responding to my messages one day. I didn't confront him about it or anything, I was actually about to be going on a trip so I didn't have time for the drama. 2 weeks later while I'm on my trip he tells me ...
A. 23 December 2015: You did good. You don't want to waste time on him. And don't let this get the better of you: him being neglectful about communications means you are nowhere on his priority list. Just go no contact, especially if he tries to contact you again. ... (read in full...)
We "click" but he's married! Did I do the right thing?
Q. Hello. Thank you in advance for reading this. My dilemma is that I met a man with whom I have a strong connection, understanding and physical attraction....but unfortunately he is married with 2 children. We met via a study forum and met ...
A. 22 December 2015: I think that you need to cut all ties with this guy. He maybe "nice" in your eyes but would his wife find such talk that he is having with you as "nice" as you do? And would she think they are nice on top of the problems he claims they already ... (read in full...)
Dating has changed since I was last on the scene.
Q. I am recently seperated after 18 years (still married and wearing wedding ring) and been going out more so my question is 3 part... 1) what do men think of a lone woman sitting in a bar? Sad? Desperate? Prey? Easy? 2) A man bought me a beer a...
A. 20 December 2015: 1) it all depends why the man is in the bar for to begin with. Suppose the bar is known for hook ups and one night stands then that is what you are seen as: a possible orgasm not to be seen afterwards.
2) to lot of men, married women are a no go ... (read in full...)
She took the presents and ran
Q. Hello was dating this woman for a short time. I just gave her Christmas presents, then next day she broke up with me. Should I ask for them back?...
A. 19 December 2015: I would think that it is obvious that any possibility of a relationship with this woman is now over. Given that, I would weigh the cost of the present vs cost of dealing with her to get it back. In other words, if the price of the present was modest ... (read in full...)
Feeling shattered. Two days ago I saw my wife cheating with another man. What can I do?
Q. I caught my wife having sex with another man. She says it was the first time she did this, but she did him with me just 30 feet away and right out in the open when i saw them. He says it was flirting that got out of hand. She says she don't...
A. 17 December 2015: First, all of the excuses that she puts forth are bogus. It being the first time she cheated on you does not mean that it takes two times for it to count. That she is sorry after the fact is nonsense because as a grown woman she should know that ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend mentioned an FFM as a 'passing thought' and now I'm worried he's tired of me
Q. Just trying to understand where my boyfriend is coming from. When he came to see me yesterday he was mentioning seeing two women together. How he was thinking about why men would find it appealing. He said that men like to see women climax. An...
A. 13 December 2015: I think that you are assigning significance to these sexual conversations that go beyond what they actually are. In fact these sorts of conversations are a good thing for a young couple because they establish boundaries of what's acceptable and what ... (read in full...)
I love my boyfriend but don't fee the same anymore and really like the new guy I've been seeing!
Q. Hi, so I feel like I have a very stupid question with a very obvious answer, but I'm so conflicted that I outside opinions! Long story short, I'm in a four year relationship by my bf, and have been seeing this guy that I work with. I've been see...
A. 9 December 2015: If he is a "good guy" then why is he cheating? In fact, right after he has sex with you, he will claim that his ties to his GF are more complicated then he said, because of his daughter, and other things...basically, claiming, now that he had sex ... (read in full...)
How can I forget I kissed another woman at my wedding
Q. My husband and I had an amazing ceremony and reception, but at the after party we both got extremely drunk. A song started playing about kissing a girl, and I shouted "I can't believe I'm married now I've never kissed a girl!" or something like ...
A. 8 December 2015: I don't think that you will ever forget it but as time goes by you will be bothered by it less and less. Regret is something that, regrettably, we just have to live with... and we learn from it not ever be in a similar circumstance. If others ever ... (read in full...)
Is it all my fault because I didn't tell him I wanted a serious relationship?
Q. So I really like this guy and he used to really like me but now I'm feel so sad that I have lost him forever. We first hit off and the meeting was quite magical. When we started conversing over the phone, he asked me if I wanted to mess around w...
A. 8 December 2015: Do you guys think that he will come back as well?
Why would you want him back? If the tables were turned, and he was a woman, I'd be glad and happy he ran away from me because, otherwise, I would have to run. You should stop being hung up on someo... (read in full...)
Should I confess all to my husband or should I not?
Q. I really need some advise without being judged because my guilt is turning into depression and I really don't know what to do at this point.I cheated on my husband with our neighbor. It all stems from a few months ago when my husband and I we...
A. 8 December 2015: There are moral purists who say that your husband deserves to know the truth, and let the chips fall where they may. If your husband leaves you because of it, oh well, because married couples must always tell truth to one another.
Others would cl... (read in full...)
Is it all my fault because I didn't tell him I wanted a serious relationship?
Q. So I really like this guy and he used to really like me but now I'm feel so sad that I have lost him forever. We first hit off and the meeting was quite magical. When we started conversing over the phone, he asked me if I wanted to mess around w...
A. 6 December 2015: This is ABSOLUTELY not your fault! This dude is a player and a rather confused man who does not know what he wants. Moreover, I'd say that he is rather a narcissist because why else do you ask someone you don't care about (which is you) whether you ... (read in full...)
Since masturbation is the only sexual gratification I've had, what can I do to make it less shameful?
Q. I am 24 and a kissless virgin. I am ashamed of the fact that I have no idea what it is like to be in an intimate relationship and that the only sexual gratification I can get is self given. I feel like by not having dated in high school and college ...
A. 4 December 2015: Go see a therapist so he can ascertain whether you may have depressive or anxiety issues. Perhaps you have a situation they you are unaware of and you could take care of that with a small medical dosage. Plus even if it turns out well, you will at ... (read in full...)
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