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Why has my BF stepped up, now that he's heard that another guy likes me?

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Question - (2 February 2016) 4 Answers - (Newest, 2 February 2016)
A female age 36-40, anonymous writes:

Why would your BF of over 2 years suddenly start paying more attention to you?

It seems he was taking me a little for granted......

UNTIL...

He found out there was some good looking guy asking his friends about me and saying how beautiful I am with a great body....

Since then my BF has stepped it up in the bedroom. Taking me out. He seemed to be getting comfortable in the bedroom but pulled some wild sex on me and more sexting and showing me how much energy he has. He has been more tired lately. He knows I am highly sexual. And has really stepped up his game.

Why the change?

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A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland +, writes (2 February 2016):

aunt honesty agony auntHe fell in to a routine and he has probably just been reminded of the girlfriend that he has. It has showing him that he needs to make more off an effort. Appreciate this, but don't use others finding you attractive against him. Don't play any games. Just enjoy the changes.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (2 February 2016):

Honeypie agony auntMaybe he just don't want to to "look for greener grass" when he is right there. I think it's a GOOD thing that he stepped it up, and I sincerely hope that you don't "play" on the fact that there is another guy interested.

Relationships gets to be routine, it's the order of things. But it doesn't HAVE to feel like routine. He got a little "mental competition" and decided to make sure you know he isn't taking you for granted or feel unwanted.

I hope he doesn't think all it takes is a handsome guy's attention for you to be impressed.

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A male reader, Garbo United States +, writes (2 February 2016):

Garbo agony auntAn answer to your question is in your post: because there is another guy and he thinks you may go for him. It's sort of like preventive medicine: he noticed a viral outbreak so he figures to strengthen the immunity system. Knowing from experience, he probably has a wrench feeling in his gut which he isn't telling you about. So he is likely very tense. I wonder why does he feel that his relationship with you is threatened just because some guy is "asking" about you, unless he sees more in that situation? Perhaps you may want to remove those thoughts he maybe having.

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A female reader, missblossom Germany +, writes (2 February 2016):

It's pretty obvious. He doesn't want to lose you to that guy, so he tries to keep up with you.

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