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30 May 2011: I just broke up with my boyfriend of six yrs, my only serious relationship at this point. The most startling feeling I have is after weeks of build up of anger, bitterness, and hurt towards my partner, the ambivalence and second-guessing I'm now ...
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My teacher is 2 different people around me! When we are alone he is great, but in front of others he makes me the butt of jokes!
Q. hey guys. so i'm in a really confusing situation, my teacher is 43 i think hes married because at the begining of last year he wore a wedding ring but now doesn't, and i'm well 16. and the problem is things are tense and i dont know why, and i c...
A. 17 November 2012: your staying away from him (and vice versa) sounds like it's for the best! Glad you aren't as wrapped up in his every move anymore, and try not to let him stop you from doing things you want to do. When I would see him I would keep it to a hello.... (read in full...)
She's cool and doesn't deserve my games
Q. Been fwb with this girl from work 4 3 months. She's new I flirted, she crushes on me and I'm flattered but tell her I get kinda lazy in relationships, so she agreed to fwb. Well damn she got to me with her amazing blowjob skillz, and to top it ...
A. 14 December 2010: tell her you don't want to use her anymore for oral sex and because you value her as a friend, you want to be on THOSE terms rather than ones based on your satisfaction. if you want to remain friends, I don't know what the benefit is of telling her ... (read in full...)
Is my fiancee cheating with his co-worker?
Q. Well,I just got engaged and my fiancee has been acting strange. I usually pick him up from work and everyday all he talks about is his female co-worker. He apparently talks to her about everything, even the problems in our relationship. Apparently, ...
A. 13 December 2010: i don't care if he thinks it's funny, he should be thinking about how, regardless of your reaction, it still matter that you're hurt! If i were you i would give him an ultimatum and tell him to stop what he's doing; i don't think hes cheating, since ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to fall pregnant even with protection?
Q. Is it possible to fall pregnant even with protection? I haven't had a period in 2 months and I never missed one in my life, I took a pregnancy test and it came out negative. Could there be a different reason why I have not had my period or was the ...
A. 13 December 2010: I would go to the doctor cause either you took a defective pregnancy test and you are pregnant, or something else might be wrong with your reproductive system that they can get your periods regulated, although if you're on the pill they already ... (read in full...)
I need to study, not be with this boy!
Q. dear,aunt...one boy luv me n he want me to be with him forever...actually the problem iz that i dont want to be bound in such relation...i wnt to complete my study...but he dont understand me...and i make desicion to broke up with him and i said him ...
A. 9 December 2010: Well that's too bad that he doesn't want it to stop, a relationship is not going to work if you dont want to be in it. doesn't he want to see you happy and do what you feel is best for you? don't let him tell you what to do, study and ignore him... (read in full...)
My soon to be nutritionist cousin eats like a pig!
Q. Hi I have a cousin I live with who is studying to be a nutritionist. Most people's jaws drop upon hearing this because she is pretty overweight. She is always talking about food (I have never seen anything like it). I am beginning to think she has a ...
A. 9 December 2010: I would get endlessly frustrated with this too, but I think there are bigger battles to fight, and this one could be not only a big one but an unecessary one. if you really can't help yourself i think teh best route would be to ask how many people ... (read in full...)
My teacher is 2 different people around me! When we are alone he is great, but in front of others he makes me the butt of jokes!
Q. hey guys. so i'm in a really confusing situation, my teacher is 43 i think hes married because at the begining of last year he wore a wedding ring but now doesn't, and i'm well 16. and the problem is things are tense and i dont know why, and i c...
A. 6 December 2010: i do not know why this man delights in messing with your head, i hate him just hearing about him, but stick to the back of the classroom, study hard so he has no reason to dock you points, and if he DOES give you a grade you dont deserve, take it up ... (read in full...)
My teacher is 2 different people around me! When we are alone he is great, but in front of others he makes me the butt of jokes!
Q. hey guys. so i'm in a really confusing situation, my teacher is 43 i think hes married because at the begining of last year he wore a wedding ring but now doesn't, and i'm well 16. and the problem is things are tense and i dont know why, and i c...
A. 3 December 2010: will you have him next semester too?... (read in full...)
I jokingly asked a girl to be my g/f, she accepted and I already have a girlfriend!
Q. Well uhm, I am having a bit of a problem, and I dont know how to fix this, so Im hoping I can find people who can help me with this problem. I have a girlfriend, and I have been with her for a year, we have had our fun and everything.. but...
A. 28 November 2010: why don't you just block her from your IM list? It might be jerky but you also doesn't seem right to be trapped by some desperate online girl..friend..thing. ... (read in full...)
My teacher is 2 different people around me! When we are alone he is great, but in front of others he makes me the butt of jokes!
Q. hey guys. so i'm in a really confusing situation, my teacher is 43 i think hes married because at the begining of last year he wore a wedding ring but now doesn't, and i'm well 16. and the problem is things are tense and i dont know why, and i c...
A. 25 November 2010: first, think about it, get your friends' opinions, try to make sure that you're not being overly sensitive due to your close relationship with him. it does sound like he could be trying to cover his tracks for his at the very least, a close ... (read in full...)
He thinks I'm into him when I'm really not!
Q. I met this guy over the summer while I was on vacation in California (I live in Idaho, he lives in CA). I only saw him once, and all we did was talk. He seemed nice and we exchanged numbers. We texted each other occasionally over the summer, but now ...
A. 11 November 2010: Block him.It's getting creepy for just a one time meeting and he clearly wants more than just a casual friendship like you want. ... (read in full...)
He expects me to be Miss Perfect but I want to be me!
Q. OK, so me and my boyfriend got together like 3 weeks after him and his former fiance broke up cuz I guess she was cheating on him. He insists that he loves me, but lately he has been a bit.... Rude, I guess you can say. He told me I needed to lose ...
A. 11 November 2010: DO NOT stay in this relationship, he's a control freak and it's just going to get worse. please don't lose weight for this guy, you're taller too, does he want you to shrink so you can be just like him or what he wants you to be? ... (read in full...)
B cup size, will they get any bigger?
Q. Well, thisnis kinda embarrassing but I'm 13 years old and I want to know if my breasts will get bigger. Cause they are like a B now but I would like them to be a little bigger. What do you think???...
A. 11 November 2010: I think I was taught that you're fully developed around age 18, so you might still have a bit of growing to do. ... (read in full...)
Who says "Fo Sho" these days?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for a year. I have known him all my life, we grew up down the road from each other when we were younger. We never really kept in contact too much over the years, would chat for a bit if we ran into each other. We ...
A. 11 November 2010: I've always been a hater of the "goodtimes" myself, but people only say that when they have no real response to what you've said to them, which brings me to the point that I think that he's just trying to fill up dead air space. Maybe you should cut ... (read in full...)
How can I make him explode again, without the aid of porn?
Q. I love my boyfriend 5 months. We are both virgins but engage in oral sex. My problem is the blowjob. FYI I love to please him. I've given him 6 complete ones so far. (there were others in between but dont count because we were distracted interrupted ...
A. 10 November 2010: If it takes his hand to get him close, maybe you should be working on your hand job technique?... (read in full...)
Gay Intervention for a "straight" friend
Q. Okay so this is a strange situation I'm gonna explain to you guys and I'm not too sure myself on the right path to take with it but you guys have given me great feedback before so I'd like to know your opinions on what I should do next... Firs...
A. 9 November 2010: I am not gay, but I would not want to be put in the position where I am forced out. How is it really anyone's business besides MAYBE yours and his?what is supposed to be accomplished by saying, "we all know how gay you are and how your friend ... (read in full...)
I go out of my way for him, but what does he do for me?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and a half. We have lived together almost the entire time. Although I am almost 30 years old, I had never been in a serious relationship before. He is the first guy I have ever loved. We have had ...
A. 9 November 2010: I think one thing that's helped in my own relationship with a live in bf is to make a chore chart for each of you so that you don't take up his slack. maybe you can make him a dinner and straight up say, next time, you do this for me, and we'll ... (read in full...)
I worry that she will become what I did and get herself into awful situations. How can I help her out?
Q. Hi- I'm female from the UK- and I'm in a dilemma. When I was 15,I went through a horrendous phase which involved me doing many things I regret. There is no need to go into detail with what happened, but I went 'off the rails' and got into some...
A. 7 November 2010: one way or another, people get burned by others. if it's not going to be this time, it's going to be another time. it sucks but I think it's inevitable, especially in the middle school/high school years. If it would make you feel better, you can ... (read in full...)
Do I cut it off completely or hang around as a friend and hide my feelings for her?
Q. I meet this girl at work. She was much younger 23 to my 42. We really hit it off. Unfortunately she was married to an abusive husband and needless to say things where complicated to a point where I finally walked from the drama. She has since ...
A. 3 November 2010: It sounds like you're in either the friends or friends with benefits zone and since she's not looking for anything other than that, in fact, apparently that's already too much for her, then you should just let her take the lead on letting it fizzle. ... (read in full...)
I think I'm ugly
Q. Well,I think Im ugly,,,,,,I have a flat but,bushy eyebrows but that all wrong.But guys where I live hate flat butts.:( Then the girls I hang with are all really pretty,and have all been in a relationship,had a kiss or whatever,but me?Nope.The guy I ...
A. 30 October 2010: these are all changeable things! you can go to a salon and get your brows waxed, and doing squats is supposed to give your butt a really good shape. but all that will probably not change how you'r having trouble gathering the courage to do something ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend just grabbed me and "did it". He didn't see anything wrong with that!
Q. Hi All - I need some insight on this. So yesterday I went to see my bf and we both knew we were hooking for sex before he leaves for the weekend to see his mother. Anyway, when i got there he was just uninterested. I touched him, he didnt touch m...
A. 29 October 2010: Just in case there's confusion, muslims aren't the only people that rape women...
Girl, I'd get out of this relationship, even if this is the first and only time this ever happens, can you imagine what other things he'll choose to ignore? He migh... (read in full...)
I feel like I have lost another family member, I don't know what to do anymore....
Q. Hello. Im hoping somebody can help me get some answers to whats wrong with me at the moment. I am 37 years old and feel like im going mad. I shall start at the begining. When I was 6 months old, my biological mother left me out in the rain over ...
A. 28 October 2010: you've been through so much, your story really tugs on the heartstrings, but I have a couple of thoughts. First, if you've had a boyfriend, or have had a girl friend who has, there's a decent puppylove stage where you just want to spend every ... (read in full...)
My friends always say the teacher is staring at me
Q. hey :) I know I have asked this before, but I got no help :( thank you to the people who did comment though, I just need more help please I don't know what to do im really sorry its so long, but please I need your advice .... I'm a littl...
A. 28 October 2010: I didn't read the original post, but if you're uncomfortable wth him, which it sounds like you are since you tried to avoid him one of the days after an incident, why don't you see if you get transferred into a different class? Or, just talk to a ... (read in full...)
Should I keep my baby? It's all up to me....
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend for 6 months, and now im 4 weeks pregnant. Im 19 years old and I don't feel I'm ready to be a mother. I want an abortion but I'm scared to kill my baby, most of all, I'm afraid he won't be there during and after the ...
A. 27 October 2010: There's the middle ground of putting your baby up for adoption, so that you don't financially, or educationally, change your life course too much (to some extent you could emotionally grow/change from this choice though), and then you don't have to ... (read in full...)
Should I go for the long distance guy or overlook my feelings for him and try harder on my relationship with my boyfriend?
Q. Okay, so i have a boyfriend who i have been with for 2 weeks, but weve liked each other for a while. i really like him and want to be with him and all my friends and my family likes him. he helped me through my last relationship with my cheating ...
A. 27 October 2010: If you're already struggling with a two week relationship, you should just get out of it now. but, to be honest, I'm not a fan of the other relationship choice either, but that's becaue long distance is extremely emotionally trying, difficult to ... (read in full...)
Wife wasn't happy about my marriage proposal, what can I do about it now?
Q. Hi there This is a question for men and women! I'm looking forward to get answers from both, male and female! I proposed my now-wife 1 1/2 years ago. She said yes, but was very disappointed by the way I asked. So I asked her a second time beca...
A. 16 October 2010: a couple thoughts: my dad brought up getting married, like did not get on one knee or anything, during grocery shopping, he was just like, so should we do that soon? and she was like completely delighted and flustered and loved it (so she says!), ... (read in full...)
How do I get him to propose?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 5 weeks now. Since day one we agreed it is a serious and committed relationship..two weeks after we started dating he took me to his home town for the weekend and show me around and also meet jis family it was ...
A. 16 October 2010: WHOA take it slow, you're only in your twenties. five weeks is approximately one hundredth of your lifetime so far..so this relationship, TIMEwise, represents 1% of your life. I think you need to slow down before you worry about proposals. Why are ... (read in full...)
She's not the same girl I was dating 2 years ago
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for 2 years now, and it doesn't seem like she is the same girl that I began dating so long ago. When I first met her, she had several friends, was funny, enjoyed hanging out with people and didn't necessarily ...
A. 12 October 2010: honestly she sounds depressed. you have a couple options. explain to her to go hang out with friends because you feel like she is overrelying on you and that while you're there to support her there's starting to be an imbalance of energy where she ... (read in full...)
Started acting sexual and just stopped for fear of letting people down.....
Q. So last weekend me and my girlfriend of over 2 1/2 years finally decided to get a little sexual (fingering, handjob.) I know we are kind of old for these acts, but they were still exciting and pleasurable. The problem is my girlfriend is a super ...
A. 7 October 2010: you need to respect her wishes. she's not ready to be sexual with you, and forcing the issue will push her away. give her time... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's parents are disgusting!
Q. I really love my boyf but his family are the pits. His mum is alcoholic and drinks cheap wine out of a coffee cup all day (so you don't realise!) His dad had a mild heart attack and was told not to smoke or drink anymore but still does b...
A. 7 October 2010: I think it's legitimate to say to your boyfriend that his parents make you uncomfortable, even the atmosphere, but I would probably not say that the house itself makes you uncomfortable. the dog, the cleanliness, you're making value judgments that ... (read in full...)
I am ignored when girlfriend is stressed, what am I doing wrong?
Q. When my girlfriend of 5 years gets stressed at work mainly she practically ignores me but continues doing things with her son family and friends and then get annoyed when I raise this issue and accuses me of not being supportive, what am I doing ...
A. 6 October 2010: It sounds like you want to help, you mean the best, but if the best is to just let her work it out herself, then you got to let her do that. she probably wants to handle the stress as she sees fit and she feels that your wanting in on the stress is ... (read in full...)
Why do I doubt my marriage?
Q. I started dating a man I knew of, but didn't really know in January we were engaged by mid febuary and married by mid march. Yes I know very quickly!! Everything was wonderful and really still is other than I continually have a doubt of some sort ...
A. 6 October 2010: Maybe I'm too traditional or idealistic, but haven't you already expressed your desire to invest time in this man by marrying him? It sounds like both of you have some trust issues with each other, but for no good reason. Where is your man being ... (read in full...)
Prove you want me back!
Q. If a girl you loved dearly for 6 years breaks up with you for another man cause of "Grass is greener on the other side" and she comes back to you after realizing the guy was just after "attached girls" to use and abuse them. She asks for another ...
A. 6 October 2010: Don't play mind games. I would just make her wait, to see if she really means it. Over time, she will either miss you more or get used to being alone. the desperation she's showing may just mean she doesn't like the idea of being alone and it ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is a great kisser! Should I praise him for this?
Q. Hello all. I've been dating my boyfriend for over a year now. He's never had a relationship before, never dated a girl actually and he's a virgin. I've had 2 previous relationships, but never had sex. I'm 22 he's 26. We haven't had sex yet, I'm...
A. 6 October 2010: yea i don't think he's going to get that cocky about his skills, kisses are supposed to be expressions of love, and he'll probably just be happy he's conveying that love well to you... (read in full...)
Will she ever wake up and realize what she has?
Q. I recently broke up with my gf or 5 yrs. It's about the 15th time or so that this has happened very possibly for the last time. She has major men issues. She has never had 1 positive male role model in her life. I had sent most of or time proving to ...
A. 3 October 2010: it sounds like she needs to do some healing on her own, as she cannot recognize a good thing on her own. The pain of abandonment or abuse, whathaveyou, has left her too scarred and numb to do anything but push a possible human connection away from ... (read in full...)
Why would he ask if I thought what we did was bad? Of course it was!
Q. To cut a long story short, a few months ago i did a very stupid and selfish thing and ended up sleeping with a friend who has a girlfriend. Recently this friend and me were talking about what happened and he asked me if he thought what we did was ...
A. 26 September 2010: He clearly hopes you'll open to have it happen again. good for you for standing your ground and not screwing over the girlfriend anymore. You MIGHT want to consider telling the gf that he's looking for tail from you, but obviously this could blow up ... (read in full...)
Why haven't I heard back from him? I made it clear it was just casual.
Q. A few months ago I slept with a guy in another state that I had just met. He is a family friend of the friend I was visiting the state with. He had literally JUST broken up with his girlfriend, so I wrote it off when I saw him two weeks later and ...
A. 26 September 2010: yea but there are still going to be people that already live in his town and are a few minutes away; 4 1/2 hr is some dedication (and he might think, desperation). still if he wasn't into it i guess he could have blown you off entirely so just sit ... (read in full...)
Why is my boyfriend so angry and why did he stop responding to my messages?
Q. know it sounds childish but Need advice to handle this prickly situation...wid my bf..? ok my bf and me have been dating for 10 months...and yes he has some trust issues cos he has been cheated on before.He is pretty quick tempered..and moody at...
A. 26 September 2010: I would just ignore him til he comes back from vacation, and see where things stand with him. it might be over , for whatever reason, which doesn't sound like such a bad thing since he has such an attitude.... (read in full...)
Why haven't I heard back from him? I made it clear it was just casual.
Q. A few months ago I slept with a guy in another state that I had just met. He is a family friend of the friend I was visiting the state with. He had literally JUST broken up with his girlfriend, so I wrote it off when I saw him two weeks later and ...
A. 26 September 2010: He sounded interested but how 'casual' can casual sex be if you have to travel 4 1/2 hours to get it? ... (read in full...)
What is this thing inside me?
Q. I have like this weird feeling in my vagina like a ball in the back of it.and when i have sex my partner hits it and it does not bother me but it make me feel like i have to pass a stool what can that ball feeling be?...
A. 25 September 2010: WHAT! It's not a cyst. It's your cervix! At the nd of the vaginal canal is the base of your uterus, called the cervix. When you have a finger in there it should feel sort of like a tip of a finger or a marble. Here are some (drawn) diagrams. ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend cries all the time
Q. My girlfriend likes to cry... a lot. When I first met her, she wasn't overly emotional at all, I mean, she still showed emotion, but she never really cried. But when we started going out and became more serious, she just became more and more em...
A. 25 September 2010: I was going to write basically what denim and lace said; I was on the Ring (birth control )and my emotions went BESERK. It started invading other parts of my life, I burst into tears in class, was told to leave class, cried because 'what's going on ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has gone away for a few weeks and I'm worried I'm going to stop loving him!
Q. Hey My boyfreind went away a few days ago and hes coming back in 2 weeks i was missing him the 1st few days, i was thinking about him everyday and i was dreaming about him every night... but theres something about me if the person i love goes awa...
A. 24 September 2010: Girl, I been there. My bf was overseas for 7-9 months TWICE. It is very tough when you're not seeing your person day to day. I understand your concern about feeling like your love is fading, but honestly, I do not think there is anything wrong with ... (read in full...)
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