2 months and no "I love you"
Q. Hi, My boyfriend and i have been together now for two months. He treats me really nice and i feel very lucky to have him in my life. Tee problem is that he has said he really likes me and has feelings for me and misses me when i am away. bu...
A. 18 December 2008: I know myself that you don't actually love somebody until 6-8 months. Yeah you can be smitten, really fancy, be fond of etc, but love is different.
I think too many people use the words "I love you" too easily, and often as a way of getting ... (read in full...)
How long do you need to be in a relationship to consider sex?
Q. Ladies please answer. How long do you need to be in a relationship to consider sex? What things need to be considered? What things does the relationship need to have to consider sex? Ladies do you like to take things in stages (ie kissing, mak...
A. 17 December 2008: I could write a book on all this. With my first lover, I waited 2 months, and held back like above. Relationships can end at any point, but it depends what you want. If you want to wait until you know you really like each-other and know you have ... (read in full...)
What do you think about proposal? Should it be a surprise?
Q. We went ring shopping last week, so probably he's proposing to me soon - but mn, it's as strange feeling expecting a proposal when it's supposed to be um, a surprise. I don't really care about the ring, but I really dreamed of a surprise! Even so he ...
A. 16 December 2008: Perhaps in reality it often isn't a surprise. After all perhaps one or both of you need to sound out the other persons intentions and aims, to be sure you are both after the same thing, i.e. the relationship is heading in the right direction.
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Is there any medicine that induces abortion? Can she be pregnant?
Q. I and my gf had sex on 29 nov. generally Her period happens on 5th of every month. but in this month(dec.), it delayed by 10 days already. Is it showing that she is pregnant?? If yes, Is there any alternative to abortion nw?? What can we do, if we ...
A. 15 December 2008: There are abortion tablets that can be taken within the first couple of weeks of being pregnant. However few people get these prescribed because they don't know they are pregnant within the tight criteria that the drug permits. Otherwise no. Fiona.... (read in full...)
She had condom-less sex before, but won't with me! What can I do??
Q. i have been dating my GF for over a year. we are madly in love and she says she has never loved anyone as much as she loves me, and i know from various sources she wants to marry me one day. we have never had sex without a condom. she is on birth ...
A. 24 November 2008: I think she wants to have peace of mind about not getting pregnant before you are married. There is no harm in that, after all contraception is supposed to be 98-99% reliable, and they all seem to compare well, and you think what are the chances of ... (read in full...)
What is to be expected on a first date?
Q. I need some help, I am in the early 20s and have never had a boyfriend. This guy I work with has asked me out and I want to say yes because I like him, but I am scared because I have never been on a date, and as I am older than most I would lik...
A. 21 November 2008: I agree, be yourself. No doubt you will go out for a drink and chat about music, films etc and find out what you have in common.
Chances are, he'll initiate the kissing. But be careful in case he expects more or invites you back.
Fiona.... (read in full...)
His mom is so strict about us when I'm at his house.
Q. My boyfriend (who is 18) and I (turning 19 in a just a couple months) have been together for two years and lately, things have sort of... slowed down for us, sex-wise. It also kind of has to do with his mom wanting to interrupt us all the damn time ...
A. 21 November 2008: I remember all this! There isn't much you can do about it, unless the other person in the relationship has parents who are more laid back and don't mind.
I hate to say this, but it doesn't change until you have made the break and you are married!... (read in full...)
Christmas is coming up and I don't know what to ask for!
Q. I'm really stuck...everyone keeps asking me what i want for Christmas and i really have no idea what to ask for??? any suggestions for a teenage boy welcome:) Thanks:)...
A. 12 November 2008: I can be like you, and decide I know what I want in February for some obscure reason ha-ha. Money is always an option to buy clothes you do want in the sales. There must be books/dvd's/cd's you want.
Getting on to the charity idea. Plenty of peopl... (read in full...)
He says I'm overreacting to his drug use...
Q. hi, i seem to be at a dead end with my new relationship and suppose i need feedback and a little advice on what exactly i should do. ive been in a relationship for 5 months now and he is great he is very affectionate, wonderful lover, interact...
A. 12 November 2008: I don't think you are over-reacting, as it's a serious issue. It makes things all the harder when everybody likes him, and you are wondering where the relationship is going.
You have known him long enough to see the warning signs.
I don't want ... (read in full...)
I feel he takes advantage. What can I do as I'm so fed up right now ?
Q. Hello, my problem isnt huge, but i feel like from your profile you can help me with my situation. I am so fed up at the moment and sometimes tearful. Im 29 and live with my boyfriend, and he does absolutley nothing to help me around the house apart ...
A. 11 November 2008: This is such a common problem and have been there myself. I am a realist and not a "clean freak". Our house can be clean or clean-ish but not necessarily tidy.
I find that when the wife is ill or busy working long hours or studying men can easi... (read in full...)
He wants to meet for sex, but I want a relationship.
Q. I have a problem. You see there is this guy who i have known for years. We were very close in school. But when I went off to college, we kind of grew apart, We didn't speak as much or see each other. I've always had a thing for him. Recently we ...
A. 10 November 2008: I can only say set some ground rules and make your intentions clear. There is no harm in saying "no" or saying that you don't believe in sex on the first or second date. That way you will know his intentions by if he sticks around or not (believe ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a boob job... why does she think I don't find her attractive
Q. My wife wants a boob job because she doesn't think I don't find her attractive not sure where she got that idea. I told she doesn't need one and being a drama queen. I admit do look at other women and I do flirt with other women at work (she caught ...
A. 10 November 2008: Does she have low self-confidence? I am often of the view that cosmetic surgery has its places but it's often for those who don't have real health worries to focus on. There are many people not fit to work, or have to go in for operations... I would ... (read in full...)
My new workmates aren't very nice... should I get a new job?
Q. hi, i've just started work three weeks ago at a new place. on my first day, when i was introduced to colleagues, they just looked up from their work and nodded. there are five people i have to work directly with, only one of whom is friendly. the ...
A. 6 November 2008: From my experience, the most friendly workplaces are when you are all young together. Otherwise things can be hit and miss.
I would play things by ear, and you could still settle in.
I don't know if some of this is because people are busy,... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is willing to do anything just to clear her face of acne, and it's causing problems between us.
Q. Am I really being selfish? My girlfriend of nearly 2 years is currently on the pill, and has been since nearly the beginning of our relationship. The problem is she is 23 and almost 24, and she still has achne break outs, and feels she is missing ...
A. 17 September 2008: I have had acne problems, so I know it's a nightmare. I saw a dermatologist, had various creams etc.
The thing that actually works and keeps it in check is MD Formulations. It's a range of skin-care products that's only available in certain ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to fantasize about other men when you're in a healthy relationship?
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend for 3 1/2 years and he treats me really well. Im 21 and he is 25. The only problem is that i sometimes dream and think about having sex with other men, i really dont know why this is. We have a healthy sex life so its not ...
A. 8 September 2008: As long as it's the past and the past stays in the past. As long as you are not thinking these thoughts while you are having sex with your boyfriend. If you are, or visualise your ex so you can handle it, or some kind of thing along those lines, ... (read in full...)
Please help me - I've been raped and it's destroying my life!
Q. i feel so dirty! i always wanted to save my virignity for marrage, and even if i didnt wait until marrage i wanted to wait until i had settled down with the right guy and i knew i was fully comfortable! well, even though i am in quite a good ...
A. 3 September 2008: I don't believe in too much fate and everything happens for a reason or bad things happen for a reason however...
I am so glad you had the best possible outcome; no pregnancy, no diseases. You never know what happens in the future for the man, bec... (read in full...)
When did you first have a boyfriend/girlfriend - that actually lasted a few months?
Q. Poll: When was the first time you had a relationship, and what age did you have your first kiss? I'm not talking about a peck on the cheek or peck on the lips type of kiss, I mean a toungue kiss? And when did you first have a boyfrien...
A. 3 September 2008: Aged 18 and it was for 6 months. He was my first, although not the first I kissed etc of course with. Fiona.... (read in full...)
Is it normal to fantasize about other men when you're in a healthy relationship?
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend for 3 1/2 years and he treats me really well. Im 21 and he is 25. The only problem is that i sometimes dream and think about having sex with other men, i really dont know why this is. We have a healthy sex life so its not ...
A. 3 September 2008: Are these thoughts your memories from past encounters, or a one night stand or something? Or is it a fantasy of getting attention?
Fiona.... (read in full...)
I don't know which to pick, going on holiday for two weeks before I go back to school. Or work experience.
Q. hey everyone, this isnt really a relationship issue/question, but ive been panicking about this for a while. I'm going into year 11 thhis september, and in october im going on holiday for 2 weeks, and at the same time theres work experience, so I ...
A. 21 August 2008: You could arrange your work experience for a different time eg 1/2 term break, or xmas break.
Nobody in the workplace would notice.
Fiona.... (read in full...)
Is it fun to watch a girlfriend have sex with another guy?
Q. im thinking about asking my girlfriend to have sex with another guy while i watch. is this fun?...
A. 21 August 2008: I don't pretend to understand what some people are into. Do you want to become ex-boyfriend/girlfriend? Not sure how long you have been together and if you want to risk throwing away what you have? Fantasies are fantasies. We had sex at a new ... (read in full...)
What's your view? I don't want to believe I got played...
Q. Kinda long..sorry..I met this really cute guy at a night club. We danced last few songs. Got his number. A few days later I go to his place. We kiss and hug (didn't hit 3rd base), but after we talked and laughed for a few hours. I then saw him again ...
A. 8 August 2008: I am beyond knowing the workings of a male mind LOL. It does sound a contradiction in terms in some ways.
From experience this second date thing is a crucial point, where one of you could decide you don't have anything in common or somethin... (read in full...)
Sex seems to be causing trouble since our pregnancy scare....
Q. Me and my boyfriend, have sex quite alot, and its great! we had this one experiance that we thought i wos pregenent. it wos quite a scare and i cried to him, and he did the same back, not becos of the situation buh becos it scared us. he said he ...
A. 8 August 2008: The strange thing is that we all like to think we can control things, and avoid pregnancy. That's why contraceptives were invented right?! I agree that there is way too much peer pressure surrounding sex, and starting things too young. But once ... (read in full...)
I'm too shy to go on top. My boyfriend keeps asking me to. Tonight I'm going to try. Any advice?
Q. Im quite a shy girl, and tonight i'm going on top for the 1st time. I lost my virginity to my boyfriend im with now. That was about two weeks ago. And he has asked me to go on top several times. And i say next time alot. Or i dont want to. He asked ...
A. 8 August 2008: I had a few boyfriends before the guy I met when I was 21 (who is now my husband). Before I met him, it never occured me to go on top, and the situation/opportunity never arose, cos nobody suggested it to me, and I was used to meeting forward guys. ... (read in full...)
Should we be less rough with sex?
Q. hey, well I recently started having sex and i thought because i'm not use to it that's why i get soar but last time i realised that it was more than a bruise and i tore the rim of my vagina and i realised that's what it was the other times.. so ...
A. 7 August 2008: There is being "vigorous" as we call it LOL, and being too vigorous. Not good. Fiona.... (read in full...)
Should we be less rough with sex?
Q. hey, well I recently started having sex and i thought because i'm not use to it that's why i get soar but last time i realised that it was more than a bruise and i tore the rim of my vagina and i realised that's what it was the other times.. so ...
A. 7 August 2008: Blimey! You two must have been rough! Not had that problem myself. But consensual sex should not hurt either of you, least of all as bad as this. Take it a bit easier I would say. Fiona... (read in full...)
Please help me - I've been raped and it's destroying my life!
Q. i feel so dirty! i always wanted to save my virignity for marrage, and even if i didnt wait until marrage i wanted to wait until i had settled down with the right guy and i knew i was fully comfortable! well, even though i am in quite a good ...
A. 7 August 2008: I was quite touched by what your boyfriend said! He is so sweet! Good luck with things and any chat with Mum you feel able to do, and hope you find the right time (if you can feel able that is). Fiona... (read in full...)
Porn does not sexually arouse me - is this normal?
Q. hi. im a guy and im turning 17 years old next month. my friends always go on about how porn is great etc etc, so i thought id try it. but it doesnt get me excited pretty much at all. ive tried, lesbian, gay, threesomes, groups, man and woman, anal, ...
A. 7 August 2008: I dunno, perhaps you just prefer the real thing? Perhaps your girlfriend, or if you don't currently have one, your next girfriend will be pleased.
The trouble is being in your teens, and late teens is that everybody goes on about stuff cos its'... (read in full...)
Please help me - I've been raped and it's destroying my life!
Q. i feel so dirty! i always wanted to save my virignity for marrage, and even if i didnt wait until marrage i wanted to wait until i had settled down with the right guy and i knew i was fully comfortable! well, even though i am in quite a good ...
A. 7 August 2008: Firstly I am really sorry to hear of your tough time.
Do what everybody else said and get the medical help, and get some counselling to help you through. Get counselling with a lady who specialises in this kind of thing. That way you will not feel... (read in full...)
Should we have a threesome with this girl??
Q. My wife and I recently went through a "rough" patch in our marriage, she basically was on the verge of leaving me because of my depression and generally feeling sorry for myself. That's all sorted out now, I'm walking on air and we are better than ...
A. 7 August 2008: If you ask me she is over-stepping the boundaries. She is supposed to be a friend and a babysitter, ie a friend of the family.
I cannot see any outcome other than heartache between you and your wife, and bad atmospheres.
Why risk ruining a m... (read in full...)
Masterbating but liquid is coming out: What is it?!
Q. Hey, embarrasing question coming up, i was masterbating last night and quite a lot of liquid was coming out and leaving damp patches. but im not sure what it was so it worries me, can you tell me?...
A. 6 August 2008: I am wondering if you are just getting normal wetness from being turned on? Your body's natural lubrications.... (read in full...)
Haven't had a period since 2 months ago, tests came up negative, what to do next?
Q. ok readers i'm 16 and me and my boyfriend have been going out for 9 months so before you say i'm too young to be having sex or what ever just know i love him and i'm not asking for your opinon on how young i am ok so we have been having sex and u...
A. 6 August 2008: I was always prone to irregular periods, and skipping. It can be random. At least you know you are not pregnant, which must be a relief, cos you wouldn't have thoguht of much else.
It can be random for us girls, stress, exams, diets all sorts of... (read in full...)
Can we get married without parental consent?
Q. Is there a way for a couple in the Philippines one being a US citizen and the other a Philippine citizen age 20 and 23 consecutively to get married without parental consent? Our parents do not agree with our marriage but we are both sure that once ...
A. 6 August 2008: Ahhh I get it now! The hold that finances have over people.
At least in financial terms there is no longer a hold, 'just' the past hurt so to speak.
I just hope you can all work it out as you need peace of mind and support, and they might have ... (read in full...)
One night stand...but I don't regret it, should I?
Q. Right, straight to the point! I lost my virginity on a one night stand, and it doesn't seem to bother me that I slept with a random boy. Am I stupid for not being bothered that I don't want to be involved in a reltionship with him? Please hel...
A. 6 August 2008: Nobody's commented for a while so...
Are you OK?
I don't think you are stupid or anything, just made an unusual choice for your first time that's all.
You actually read so much where there is the assumption that the guy is some kind of pred... (read in full...)
Can we get married without parental consent?
Q. Is there a way for a couple in the Philippines one being a US citizen and the other a Philippine citizen age 20 and 23 consecutively to get married without parental consent? Our parents do not agree with our marriage but we are both sure that once ...
A. 6 August 2008: Crikey, things are complicated. Perhaps you should just explain where I am coming from. ie a relationship based on common interests/goals etc, free from drugs, gambling etc etc ie you have average lives expectations. So what's the issue? Loyalty and ... (read in full...)
It was only one little mistake!
Q. I'm only 15 turning 16 and two months and I have a big problem. I did something so stupid I'll never be able to forgive myself every again. I met this 20 year old guy on a website and we really hit it off. We started "dating" the day we met. We ...
A. 5 August 2008: It's a while since anybody has commented, so I am just wondering how you are? Have you had your periods?
Don't be too hard on yourself, you wouldn't have gone to the room to play scrabble or something. Things just happened quicker than you expe... (read in full...)
I need some advice about having sex for the first time.
Q. Can anyone tell me about their 'first time' at sex? I've been with my boyfriend 3 weeks so i'm not thinking about it soon, i just want to be prepared. I've 'dry humped' before and my last partner tried to finger me but i felt uncomfortable so...
A. 5 August 2008: You need to have gone out together for a while, at least a month-two months, or whatever feels right. At least enough time to feel you have common interests. Otherwise shortly afterwards you would split saying you didn't have anything in common ... (read in full...)
Can we get married without parental consent?
Q. Is there a way for a couple in the Philippines one being a US citizen and the other a Philippine citizen age 20 and 23 consecutively to get married without parental consent? Our parents do not agree with our marriage but we are both sure that once ...
A. 5 August 2008: I am not talking about any legalities here. But you really need backing for your own sanity and your own support. You have to ask why you don't have thier blessing? You give no details. Surely if you are both average people with average views and ... (read in full...)
I have a problem "down there". I'm scared that it's abnormal and it might put future boyfriends off me
Q. My question is really embarrassing, but its one that I really do need some answers for. Ok, my problem is "down there". My clitoris sticks out of my vagina and it looks so ugly and horrible. I am still a virgin, but Im really worried that my future ...
A. 5 August 2008: I want to second everything that has been said. Don't get hung up on things. At least in years to come your guy will be able to find your clitoris, as in some cases some guys cannot. We are all built differently and have to accept our little quirks ... (read in full...)
Was my wife really a virgin, if she almost had complete intercourse, but not quite?
Q. I've never obsessed over my wive's past before. She was a virgin (so she said) when we got engaged and moved in together. I knew of a few past boyfriends where they did some 'heavy petting', but that's it. This past weekend, we had a romantic n...
A. 5 August 2008: You are still a virgin if you have your panties on of course.
But I think you are hinting at lies and is she keeping stuff from you. You are wondering if more happened ever.
Face it if she had a penis inside her virgina for a few seconds even... (read in full...)
What noises should I make during sex??
Q. well im going to be losing my virginity soon as me and my boyfriend are ready for sex. but im really worried about how itll feel like but most of all what kind of noises to make. i mean, just soft moans or screams? what should i be saying?? what do ...
A. 5 August 2008: It's vital you be yourself. Don't worry about making noises, as you can sound like you are faking it. Most of what you see in the movies isn't real life in terms of the noises people make.
Be calm and safe and use a condom.
Fiona... (read in full...)
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