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How can I have a one night stand tonight?
Q. Considering a one night stand tonight. I know you can't choose when and where these things happen, but tonight is a good opportunity. Anything I can do to make it happen? Thanks. p.s. It's been over a year since I last had sex, and I can...
A. 29 May 2008: Here's something for you, although I am female, I find this sort of thing entertaining LOL, and possibly true to life:
http://www.advancedmacking.com/onenight.html
By the way, please don't forget to use a condom.
from Fiona... (read in full...)
How can I have a one night stand tonight?
Q. Considering a one night stand tonight. I know you can't choose when and where these things happen, but tonight is a good opportunity. Anything I can do to make it happen? Thanks. p.s. It's been over a year since I last had sex, and I can...
A. 29 May 2008: Make sure you look your best etc.
I bet you know how to flirt LOL, or had opportunities in the past?
Just make sure you stand near, or edge towards single-looking girls, and make eye contact. You have to survey the place and select a target ... (read in full...)
My bf fingered me and I asked him to stop but he didn't...is this a sort of rape?!?
Q. my boyfreind fingered me a couple nights ago. it felt good but i didnt want to come in front of him so i told him to stop but he didnt. i started crying and ran out. he felt really bad and apologized for doing it. but is that considered some kind of ...
A. 27 May 2008: I agree, you are way below the age of consent, so please be careful.
Nonetheless, you have the right to stay no or stop, if something doesn't feel right, which you did.
You don't mention the age of your bf? So I can assume he is a similar age... (read in full...)
I'm scared about getting married! Any advice?
Q. I've been with my fiance for 4 years and we are engaged to be married this summer. We have a very stable relationship and love one another very much but I am feeling very unsure about getting married. This is most likely beacuse he is the only ...
A. 27 May 2008: First of all congratulations!
Age-wise, I am sure you are ready, because we got married when I was 26.
In many ways it is a bonus you have not had many serious boyfriends. One way or the other, you know if it is right or not, it should feel "... (read in full...)
I wonder if I have physically lost my virginity by practising horse riding!?
Q. everyone says that having sex is less painful if you've broke yourself in. How does this include the sport horse-riding, I have been horse-riding for 9 years now so does this affect me!?...
A. 24 May 2008: Yes many sports are likely to break the hymen, which was what happened with me (Hockey).
That way, my first sex didn't hurt one bit.
You are a virgin until your first time.
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I am not very close to my mum and don't know how to tell her about my period start.
Q. I know everyone has the problem of telling their mum that they have started their period, but i just cant bring myself to do it, me and my mum arent really close like best mates. And i dont want to tell my friends coz im a late starter at 14!!!???...
A. 24 May 2008: Hi, I feel for you, because I was one of the last girls to get my period. Because of that I asked my Mum to get some sanitary towels for when I need them, as I knew it was only a matter of time.
Then it was easier to say, once that day arrived.... (read in full...)
When do you know you are ready for sex?
Q. When do you know that your ready for sex !???!...
A. 24 May 2008: When you are over 16, and possibly even 18, as 18 is the law in some parts of the world.
Whn you are ready you won't be asking. There is so much peer pressure, and pressure from boyfriends, so don't fall into this trap. When you are too young, i... (read in full...)
Sexual life after marriage? How does it change?
Q. I'm a 29 year old male, and have been thinking about how relationships change after marriage. Maybe you can share from your experiences? I am particularly concerned with the fact the few couples that I have discussed with have told me their se...
A. 24 May 2008: When you are married and see each other every day; it is easy to get cought up with everyday things. For example the food shopping, mowing the lawn.....
I think everybody is different, but once a week is ok.
If you are reducing to once every co... (read in full...)
My parents won't let me go out. I feel like running away.
Q. I feel depressed and I believe its because my parents wont let me do anything. I now feel like running away to give myself a better future (it will be hard on my own) and to be happy again but is it worth risking being disowned by my family? and ...
A. 24 May 2008: Many of us grow up wishing they had more freedom, or wish their parents were not so strict. I know that was often the case for me.
Please don't run, you will be running for ever, and it doesn't change the problems.
It sounds like you are int... (read in full...)
My boyfriend keeps hinting me that we should have sex... how do I get more into the idea?
Q. I am really worried because my boyfriend keeps hinting that we should hav sex but although i am a little scared i really want too, what can i do to help myself get more ammune to the idea???...
A. 24 May 2008: You seem too young, and the fact that you are questioning the opportunity, means that you are too young.
If you were ready, you wouldn't be asking, and you would have already had sex.
Please don't be pressured, there is more peer pressure ab... (read in full...)
Is this my period?
Q. I have been having a small white dicharge for some time now, and then just recently a brown/black substance came. I think its my period but im not sure, its not runny or gooey just kind of inbetween, i havnt spoke to my mum about it, I dont really ...
A. 24 May 2008: You might just get your proper period next month. In that case you will be relieved, and be able to tell Mum.
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I'm 17 and have an 8 inch penis!
Q. Hi, I have a problem, a really big huge problem. I am 17 next month and my penis is just over 8 inches long. I realise that this is unusally big for a lad of my age and I would not mind only a rumour has started at school that I am rather well ...
A. 24 May 2008: In common with most school gossip, it stems from jealousy.
There is worse you could be teased for, take it as a complement.
So don't be in a rush to fulfill people's expectations of you, and don't put yourself under any pressure.
Tak... (read in full...)
He keeps pushing me to perform sexual acts I'm not comfortable with, can you help?
Q. I am engaged and have been with my fiance for just over a year. We have a loving relationship and things are mostly amazing. Recently tho he has been pushing me to perform sexual acts I am not comfortable doing. For example, right now he keeps ...
A. 24 May 2008: I not do oral btw. So I am sure we are not that unusual.
Just talk things though and insist that he keeps calm.
I think he expects you to cave in; but stick to your principles, if you are really against it. It shouldn't become the most importa... (read in full...)
I cannot feel the threads on the IUS!
Q. A girly topic here.. Has anybody had any probs with their IUS? This weak I cannot feel the threads, I know it is still there because I felt the very tip of one thread. I know there is no perforation, as I am not in agony. I do feel a ...
A. 23 May 2008: Hi
Just had my appointment with the family planning doctor.
She couldn't een feel the tip if the coil, just inside the cervix, like she said she normally can. Did a pregnancy test, which was ok.
Have to go to the hospital for a scan on W... (read in full...)
I don't want to lose the spark in our relationship, but it's getting that way because of money issues.
Q. Dear Cupid, my boyfriend and i have just bought a house and we are finding it hard with money, we are coping, just, but can't find the time to save money. We want to go out and do things but we can't afford it, so we stay home and watch the tv. I ...
A. 22 May 2008: We have loved walks in the country. This can be anything from 2 miles to a proper hike. You are not spending money there, spending time together, chance to talk, and chance for exercise. We have called into a pub for a drink, and got a take away ... (read in full...)
How do I know he really likes me and is not just sex?
Q. So I met this guy and after knowing him for 48 hours we made out in his car. I knew that night he was different and I really liked him. The next day he left for vacation with his family. While he was on vacation we texted everyday, like 200 times a ...
A. 22 May 2008: Two weeks is really early days.
It sounds great though, and sounds like you have fun.
I remember when we first knew eachother, I figured that there is the fun part of the relationship, the friensip part, and the sexual part. If all three feel r... (read in full...)
How did you proposed or were proposed to?
Q. I kno there's a lot of married people on dear cupid. So I want to know how did your husband propose to u or guys did your wife ask u. Just curious...
A. 22 May 2008: We were in a crowded bar. Which was more like a general question.
I said I am not going to say yes or no here, not romantic enough.
A week later we went to look at rings, and he booked a nice table in a nice restaurant, to be romantic.
All... (read in full...)
Is it just me or is anyone else feeling concerned about the amount of unfaithfulness goin on here?
Q. Is it just me or is anyone else getting scared as hell of the amount of unfaithful married couples goin on here? This makes me super frightened to be married! Dosnt anyone believe in a commitment these days? No wonder the divorce rate is sky high, ...
A. 21 May 2008: I totally agree with VegasGirl15, and ditto everything she says. I am all for working through your problems, you make marriage vows for a reason, not to go off with somebody at the first hurdle.
Any relationship has its ups and downs. I like to ... (read in full...)
I cannot feel the threads on the IUS!
Q. A girly topic here.. Has anybody had any probs with their IUS? This weak I cannot feel the threads, I know it is still there because I felt the very tip of one thread. I know there is no perforation, as I am not in agony. I do feel a ...
A. 21 May 2008: Yea, that's why I am worried as I got used to checking the threads correctly. I know what you mean, it takes time to get used to doing it right though.... (read in full...)
I had sex two weeks ago, and I've been experiencing pain in my lower stomach...what could it be?
Q. thank you for the answers you were a great help,now i have a small problem,i made love with my boyfriend 2 weeks ago and since then i experience pain on my lower stomach and when i urinate cupid might i be infected or what,also i noticed some ...
A. 21 May 2008: If you have pain when you urinate, you poss have a urinary tract infection. Do you feel like you need to pee loads and often, yet only pee an egg cup full?
I used to have the depo-provera injection, so don't worry about the spotting, I had that... (read in full...)
She is amazing but her past puts me off...
Q. Im in a relationship with someone. I love her. She is amazing. She is, ultimately, what I have ever desired about in a woman. Except, I fear she is a slut... Slept with about 20 people, one a couple weeks before me... A couple months before that ...
A. 21 May 2008: Ironically you have added to your gf's "numbers" by sleeping with her. I have to say, by the sounds of it rather willingly LOL. Just ask, yourself, how did you come to have sex, or how did it happen? The same would have happened before.
Ideal... (read in full...)
Welcome to Unprotected-Sex - The City of Sin
Q. Hey! Welcome to Unprotected-Sex. More and more tourists visit Unprotected-Sex every year, and we're sure there'll be more! While you're stopping, why not relax with the guy you met just a few minutes ago over a few vodkas at Cinema Syphilis...
A. 21 May 2008: Good article!
You missed you could go for the morning after pill, to prevent an unplanned pregnancy. But suffer an agonizing period - another fly in the ointment.... (read in full...)
I'm only 10 and my friends are talking about sex. I don't understand!
Q. I am only 10 but all my friends are talking about blow jobs. . . But i dont know what they are could someonw please help me so i know what my friends are talking about ?...
A. 21 May 2008: I remember thinking I was the last to know about these things. When I was in the last year of junior school (aged 10-11); everybody was asking "Do you know what....means?"
Believe me, they don't know from hands-on experience. They only know bec... (read in full...)
I had sex with him before I was ready, any advice?
Q. Hi, I've been with my boyfriend for 5 months now. It was all going great, until 4 days ago. It was the first time i'd slept at his house, but not the first time we'd slept in the same bed. We were messing around, and he asked if I wanted to do ...
A. 21 May 2008: I don't think anybody is truly ready the first time.
Nonetheless I can't help but feel you were too young at 14. I had a chance to and didn't by the way.... (read in full...)
I'm panicking because I'm 3 days late!
Q. I am in an absolute panic. My period is 3 days late, I had protected sex (my partner wore a condom) but I keep going into a panic that it may have broken. I'm 21, and I have just started jogging for an hour a day (which I did not do before) could...
A. 20 May 2008: I know how you feel, I have been so paranoid in the past.
If you have been careful and used condoms each time, and no split or slip, then you should be fine.
I remember once, I was 2 weaks late, and it was all I could think about. I got a ... (read in full...)
Id like to date someone but the guys I meet only seem after one thing!
Q. hi,im 23yrs old i have been single for about four years and have been happy going out with my single mates but lately ive missed being with someone but i have found it very hard to meet genuine men the men i meet down town come up to me and talk to ...
A. 20 May 2008: Believe it or not, I met my husband in a night club!
So I agree you find love when you least expect it somehow. I thought the same right up until we met.... (read in full...)
He wants naked pictures of me
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend for a little over 2 months. Its a long distance relationship. To be honest Ive never met him before yet. He is a friend of mines boyfriends brother. We enjoy talking to each other everynight for more than 4 hours. We just ...
A. 20 May 2008: I agree with A Capella, imagine if these pics ended up for all to see yuck!
If you know him a bit better, at least with the age of digital you could hand him a paper copy of a picture. In the days of taking films in to be developed it would be... (read in full...)
Had a drunken one-night stand, turns out it was the boss's daughter, but I don't want to see her again! Help!
Q. I had a stupid drunken one night stand, in the morning I felt really sick about it because i was not at all attracted to the woman...I couldnt even look at her. I was nice enough to her and left not wanting to see her again. I went to work and on my ...
A. 20 May 2008: I just hope she doesn't call into work to see her Dad, that would be awkward!
Would she really tell her Dad, surely most people don't tell their parents everything.
Be careful next time, and don't play too near home. Seriously a rotten coincid... (read in full...)
My online girlfriend is starting to ask for things that make me feel uncomfortable!
Q. Ok well I suppose it's like this I began internet dating over a while now and I found a good one I made some friends on it and got to know people well. I met a girl on there and we got to talking and everything was going fine she sent me a photo of ...
A. 20 May 2008: I am not sure if she is joking or for real?!
One way or the other you had better clear that up so you are clear. I don't blame you for not being up for her suggestions.
She could be just having a tease about it, to test you or something, howev... (read in full...)
Is it normal to have feelings for a one night stand?
Q. Alright so I'm just wondering if it is normal to have feelings for a one night stand? I know it defeats the purpose of it being a one night thing, but whenever I go with a girl for a night I end up wanting more than just a quick fling. Does th...
A. 20 May 2008: There are two types of attraction - love and lust.
Don't confuse the two mate.
If you really like a girl, don't have a one night stand, have a proper date and see her again before you have sex.
It is one thing having the no strings fu... (read in full...)
One Night Stand: Is there a general consensus on when to cum?
Q. Just a quick question, during unprotected sex, either in a relationship or a one night stand....what is the general consensus on where to cum? cheers for any answers...
A. 20 May 2008: I agree with the posted messages.
A dangerous game don't bother. Use a condom always.
Just peace of mind as you don't know what you could catch nowadays. Plus you don't wanna get somebody pregnant, or have her go for the morning after pi... (read in full...)
He is eager to recreate the one night stand, is this normal interest? Surprised by the repeated invitations!
Q. I am confused. I met this guy about two months ago online we exchanged pics and decided to meet up in a bar. After talking for about 7 hours suddenly it all happened we started snogging and then ended up back at mine and had the most amazing ...
A. 20 May 2008: A one night stand is one thing...
But a F*** Buddy - no way - not my thing anyhow. I would feel strange about that like kind of used, and where do you draw the line. IMAO a recepie for getting hurt.... (read in full...)
I sweat really bad, anyone knows how to stop it???
Q. this may seem a little funny but its a porblem that i dont konw how to solve. i sweat really bad. i use deoderant all the time and if its too hot ill look at my armpits and there will be massive sweat patches. even in school, i know that i ...
A. 20 May 2008: Awww
A prescription deoderant can be very harsh and leave your skin sore.
Have you tried:
Mitchum 48hr protection anti-persperant. Shower fresh, is in a green bottle. Try the roll on, not spray.
See how you find that. ... (read in full...)
Why has sex just become so casual nowadays?
Q. Why has sex just become so casual nowadays. I mean before people did not even think about losing their virginity before marriage. What I don't understand is how people just do 'it' with people they hardly know properly. Sex before marriage does ...
A. 19 May 2008: Sorry,
I mean the availability of contraception.... (read in full...)
Why has sex just become so casual nowadays?
Q. Why has sex just become so casual nowadays. I mean before people did not even think about losing their virginity before marriage. What I don't understand is how people just do 'it' with people they hardly know properly. Sex before marriage does ...
A. 19 May 2008: I would say the availability gives everybody more freedom, and removes most worries. In the past you wouldn't have taken risks, and got pregnant.
As for frequency and numbers of partners etc, people just see what goes on around them. You then see... (read in full...)
For those who do not believe in sex before marriage for religious reasons: where would you draw the line in a sexual activity?
Q. A question for strict religious people out there... I am an atheist and I just wondered where in sexual activity someone who doesn't believe in sex before marriage (for religious reasons) would draw the line? Would it be using your hands? Oral? Or ...
A. 19 May 2008: I was not somebody who chose to wait until marriage to have sex. However I can answer from the perspective of somebody who held back a lot, and turned down many opportunities.
If you are in a situation where you are doing everything but full sex... (read in full...)
Sex with 67 men in the past, is that high or low in your opinion?
Q. My wife had sex with 67 men before me...is that number too high or low for a woman?...
A. 19 May 2008: Do I assume you wife has slept with double the number of people than you, and that's why you ask?... (read in full...)
He didn't use a condom. Should I be worried about being pregnant?
Q. My boyfriend and i just had sex a couple of days ago. He didn't use a condom. I have been having major cramps ever since. I can't buy a pregnancy test because my mom will know!! Should i be worried about being pregnant? ...
A. 19 May 2008: Sorry to hear you are so worried.
You should have got the morning after pill, then you wouldn't be so worried.
These things can easily happen, and you won't make that mistake again, you will always remember a condom in the future.
Just ... (read in full...)
He didn't use a condom. Should I be worried about being pregnant?
Q. My boyfriend and i just had sex a couple of days ago. He didn't use a condom. I have been having major cramps ever since. I can't buy a pregnancy test because my mom will know!! Should i be worried about being pregnant? ...
A. 19 May 2008: Sorry to hear you are so worried.
You should have got the morning after pill, then you wouldn't be so worried.
These things can easily happen, and you won't make that mistake again, you will always remember a condom in the future.
Just ... (read in full...)
Good memories of one night stands?
Q. There are topics on regretting, or feeling hurt after a one night stand. This topic is about the opposite. They say having a one night stand changes you, or it stays with you. So does it stay with you in a good way? I was wondering if any of ...
A. 19 May 2008: Other people too coy to answer?! LOL
I think it is a turn on for somebody, when they meet somebody who is nervous, and obviously not done this before. It is down to the other person not to be too unsuspecting or easily shocked.
My first one ... (read in full...)
I've been told the guy I'm seeing is a playa. How do I talk to him about it?
Q. hey everyone! I'm a 17 year old girl from the UK. Lately I've been hanging out at a friend's flat most nights as there is always good company, and I've developed a crush on a guy I met quite recently who is often there. About a week ago we kissed ...
A. 18 May 2008: It is easy to fancy the wrong sort of guy, so to speak.
Possibly at a party.
Once I was told "Whatever you do, don't end up kopping of with ******" Of course I did, just snogging.
All part of life that sort of thing, but you have been... (read in full...)
Good memories of one night stands?
Q. There are topics on regretting, or feeling hurt after a one night stand. This topic is about the opposite. They say having a one night stand changes you, or it stays with you. So does it stay with you in a good way? I was wondering if any of ...
A. 18 May 2008: Thanks again for the replies.
I can imagine things would be more complicated if you knew the person so to speak.
I am sure the experience depends on how you handle it.
Wow you are sensitive, hope you were not hurt.... (read in full...)
Good memories of one night stands?
Q. There are topics on regretting, or feeling hurt after a one night stand. This topic is about the opposite. They say having a one night stand changes you, or it stays with you. So does it stay with you in a good way? I was wondering if any of ...
A. 18 May 2008: Hi thanks for the 3 replies.
For lonleytwo, gosh that must have felt odd, if you reconed she was married afterwards - not good!
It has got to feel right to do it.
I agree a fond memory occurs when you get a buzz out of it, and you know it i... (read in full...)
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