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I am married and have been with my husband for a total of 14 years. That is longer than most people I know. Although before that I have had other relationships experience, eg 3months, 6months 10 months, a couple of weeks here and there and the occasional ONS when I was 20.

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My wife wants a boob job... why does she think I don't find her attractive

Q.   My wife wants a boob job because she doesn't think I don't find her attractive not sure where she got that idea. I told she doesn't need one and being a drama queen. I admit do look at other women and I do flirt with other women at work (she caught ...

A.   10 November 2008: Does she have low self-confidence? I am often of the view that cosmetic surgery has its places but it's often for those who don't have real health worries to focus on. There are many people not fit to work, or have to go in for operations... I would ... (read in full...)

My new workmates aren't very nice... should I get a new job?

Q.   hi, i've just started work three weeks ago at a new place. on my first day, when i was introduced to colleagues, they just looked up from their work and nodded. there are five people i have to work directly with, only one of whom is friendly. the ...

A.   6 November 2008: From my experience, the most friendly workplaces are when you are all young together. Otherwise things can be hit and miss. I would play things by ear, and you could still settle in. I don't know if some of this is because people are busy,... (read in full...)

My girlfriend is willing to do anything just to clear her face of acne, and it's causing problems between us.

Q.   Am I really being selfish? My girlfriend of nearly 2 years is currently on the pill, and has been since nearly the beginning of our relationship. The problem is she is 23 and almost 24, and she still has achne break outs, and feels she is missing ...

A.   17 September 2008: I have had acne problems, so I know it's a nightmare. I saw a dermatologist, had various creams etc. The thing that actually works and keeps it in check is MD Formulations. It's a range of skin-care products that's only available in certain ... (read in full...)

Is it normal to fantasize about other men when you're in a healthy relationship?

Q.   Ive been with my boyfriend for 3 1/2 years and he treats me really well. Im 21 and he is 25. The only problem is that i sometimes dream and think about having sex with other men, i really dont know why this is. We have a healthy sex life so its not ...

A.   8 September 2008: As long as it's the past and the past stays in the past. As long as you are not thinking these thoughts while you are having sex with your boyfriend. If you are, or visualise your ex so you can handle it, or some kind of thing along those lines, ... (read in full...)

Please help me - I've been raped and it's destroying my life!

Q.   i feel so dirty! i always wanted to save my virignity for marrage, and even if i didnt wait until marrage i wanted to wait until i had settled down with the right guy and i knew i was fully comfortable! well, even though i am in quite a good ...

A.   3 September 2008: I don't believe in too much fate and everything happens for a reason or bad things happen for a reason however... I am so glad you had the best possible outcome; no pregnancy, no diseases. You never know what happens in the future for the man, bec... (read in full...)

When did you first have a boyfriend/girlfriend - that actually lasted a few months?

Q.   Poll: When was the first time you had a relationship, and what age did you have your first kiss? I'm not talking about a peck on the cheek or peck on the lips type of kiss, I mean a toungue kiss? And when did you first have a boyfrien...

A.   3 September 2008: Aged 18 and it was for 6 months. He was my first, although not the first I kissed etc of course with. Fiona.... (read in full...)

Is it normal to fantasize about other men when you're in a healthy relationship?

Q.   Ive been with my boyfriend for 3 1/2 years and he treats me really well. Im 21 and he is 25. The only problem is that i sometimes dream and think about having sex with other men, i really dont know why this is. We have a healthy sex life so its not ...

A.   3 September 2008: Are these thoughts your memories from past encounters, or a one night stand or something? Or is it a fantasy of getting attention? Fiona.... (read in full...)

I don't know which to pick, going on holiday for two weeks before I go back to school. Or work experience.

Q.   hey everyone, this isnt really a relationship issue/question, but ive been panicking about this for a while. I'm going into year 11 thhis september, and in october im going on holiday for 2 weeks, and at the same time theres work experience, so I ...

A.   21 August 2008: You could arrange your work experience for a different time eg 1/2 term break, or xmas break. Nobody in the workplace would notice. Fiona.... (read in full...)

Is it fun to watch a girlfriend have sex with another guy?

Q.   im thinking about asking my girlfriend to have sex with another guy while i watch. is this fun?...

A.   21 August 2008: I don't pretend to understand what some people are into. Do you want to become ex-boyfriend/girlfriend? Not sure how long you have been together and if you want to risk throwing away what you have? Fantasies are fantasies. We had sex at a new ... (read in full...)

What's your view? I don't want to believe I got played...

Q.   Kinda long..sorry..I met this really cute guy at a night club. We danced last few songs. Got his number. A few days later I go to his place. We kiss and hug (didn't hit 3rd base), but after we talked and laughed for a few hours. I then saw him again ...

A.   8 August 2008: I am beyond knowing the workings of a male mind LOL. It does sound a contradiction in terms in some ways. From experience this second date thing is a crucial point, where one of you could decide you don't have anything in common or somethin... (read in full...)

Sex seems to be causing trouble since our pregnancy scare....

Q.   Me and my boyfriend, have sex quite alot, and its great! we had this one experiance that we thought i wos pregenent. it wos quite a scare and i cried to him, and he did the same back, not becos of the situation buh becos it scared us. he said he ...

A.   8 August 2008: The strange thing is that we all like to think we can control things, and avoid pregnancy. That's why contraceptives were invented right?! I agree that there is way too much peer pressure surrounding sex, and starting things too young. But once ... (read in full...)

I'm too shy to go on top. My boyfriend keeps asking me to. Tonight I'm going to try. Any advice?

Q.   Im quite a shy girl, and tonight i'm going on top for the 1st time. I lost my virginity to my boyfriend im with now. That was about two weeks ago. And he has asked me to go on top several times. And i say next time alot. Or i dont want to. He asked ...

A.   8 August 2008: I had a few boyfriends before the guy I met when I was 21 (who is now my husband). Before I met him, it never occured me to go on top, and the situation/opportunity never arose, cos nobody suggested it to me, and I was used to meeting forward guys. ... (read in full...)

Should we be less rough with sex?

Q.   hey, well I recently started having sex and i thought because i'm not use to it that's why i get soar but last time i realised that it was more than a bruise and i tore the rim of my vagina and i realised that's what it was the other times.. so ...

A.   7 August 2008: There is being "vigorous" as we call it LOL, and being too vigorous. Not good. Fiona.... (read in full...)

Should we be less rough with sex?

Q.   hey, well I recently started having sex and i thought because i'm not use to it that's why i get soar but last time i realised that it was more than a bruise and i tore the rim of my vagina and i realised that's what it was the other times.. so ...

A.   7 August 2008: Blimey! You two must have been rough! Not had that problem myself. But consensual sex should not hurt either of you, least of all as bad as this. Take it a bit easier I would say. Fiona... (read in full...)

Please help me - I've been raped and it's destroying my life!

Q.   i feel so dirty! i always wanted to save my virignity for marrage, and even if i didnt wait until marrage i wanted to wait until i had settled down with the right guy and i knew i was fully comfortable! well, even though i am in quite a good ...

A.   7 August 2008: I was quite touched by what your boyfriend said! He is so sweet! Good luck with things and any chat with Mum you feel able to do, and hope you find the right time (if you can feel able that is). Fiona... (read in full...)

Porn does not sexually arouse me - is this normal?

Q.   hi. im a guy and im turning 17 years old next month. my friends always go on about how porn is great etc etc, so i thought id try it. but it doesnt get me excited pretty much at all. ive tried, lesbian, gay, threesomes, groups, man and woman, anal, ...

A.   7 August 2008: I dunno, perhaps you just prefer the real thing? Perhaps your girlfriend, or if you don't currently have one, your next girfriend will be pleased. The trouble is being in your teens, and late teens is that everybody goes on about stuff cos its'... (read in full...)

Please help me - I've been raped and it's destroying my life!

Q.   i feel so dirty! i always wanted to save my virignity for marrage, and even if i didnt wait until marrage i wanted to wait until i had settled down with the right guy and i knew i was fully comfortable! well, even though i am in quite a good ...

A.   7 August 2008: Firstly I am really sorry to hear of your tough time. Do what everybody else said and get the medical help, and get some counselling to help you through. Get counselling with a lady who specialises in this kind of thing. That way you will not feel... (read in full...)

Should we have a threesome with this girl??

Q.   My wife and I recently went through a "rough" patch in our marriage, she basically was on the verge of leaving me because of my depression and generally feeling sorry for myself. That's all sorted out now, I'm walking on air and we are better than ...

A.   7 August 2008: If you ask me she is over-stepping the boundaries. She is supposed to be a friend and a babysitter, ie a friend of the family. I cannot see any outcome other than heartache between you and your wife, and bad atmospheres. Why risk ruining a m... (read in full...)

Haven't had a period since 2 months ago, tests came up negative, what to do next?

Q.   ok readers i'm 16 and me and my boyfriend have been going out for 9 months so before you say i'm too young to be having sex or what ever just know i love him and i'm not asking for your opinon on how young i am ok so we have been having sex and u...

A.   6 August 2008: I was always prone to irregular periods, and skipping. It can be random. At least you know you are not pregnant, which must be a relief, cos you wouldn't have thoguht of much else. It can be random for us girls, stress, exams, diets all sorts of... (read in full...)

Can we get married without parental consent?

Q.   Is there a way for a couple in the Philippines one being a US citizen and the other a Philippine citizen age 20 and 23 consecutively to get married without parental consent? Our parents do not agree with our marriage but we are both sure that once ...

A.   6 August 2008: Ahhh I get it now! The hold that finances have over people. At least in financial terms there is no longer a hold, 'just' the past hurt so to speak. I just hope you can all work it out as you need peace of mind and support, and they might have ... (read in full...)

One night stand...but I don't regret it, should I?

Q.   Right, straight to the point! I lost my virginity on a one night stand, and it doesn't seem to bother me that I slept with a random boy. Am I stupid for not being bothered that I don't want to be involved in a reltionship with him? Please hel...

A.   6 August 2008: Nobody's commented for a while so... Are you OK? I don't think you are stupid or anything, just made an unusual choice for your first time that's all. You actually read so much where there is the assumption that the guy is some kind of pred... (read in full...)

Can we get married without parental consent?

Q.   Is there a way for a couple in the Philippines one being a US citizen and the other a Philippine citizen age 20 and 23 consecutively to get married without parental consent? Our parents do not agree with our marriage but we are both sure that once ...

A.   6 August 2008: Crikey, things are complicated. Perhaps you should just explain where I am coming from. ie a relationship based on common interests/goals etc, free from drugs, gambling etc etc ie you have average lives expectations. So what's the issue? Loyalty and ... (read in full...)

It was only one little mistake!

Q.   I'm only 15 turning 16 and two months and I have a big problem. I did something so stupid I'll never be able to forgive myself every again. I met this 20 year old guy on a website and we really hit it off. We started "dating" the day we met. We ...

A.   5 August 2008: It's a while since anybody has commented, so I am just wondering how you are? Have you had your periods? Don't be too hard on yourself, you wouldn't have gone to the room to play scrabble or something. Things just happened quicker than you expe... (read in full...)

I need some advice about having sex for the first time.

Q.   Can anyone tell me about their 'first time' at sex? I've been with my boyfriend 3 weeks so i'm not thinking about it soon, i just want to be prepared. I've 'dry humped' before and my last partner tried to finger me but i felt uncomfortable so...

A.   5 August 2008: You need to have gone out together for a while, at least a month-two months, or whatever feels right. At least enough time to feel you have common interests. Otherwise shortly afterwards you would split saying you didn't have anything in common ... (read in full...)

Can we get married without parental consent?

Q.   Is there a way for a couple in the Philippines one being a US citizen and the other a Philippine citizen age 20 and 23 consecutively to get married without parental consent? Our parents do not agree with our marriage but we are both sure that once ...

A.   5 August 2008: I am not talking about any legalities here. But you really need backing for your own sanity and your own support. You have to ask why you don't have thier blessing? You give no details. Surely if you are both average people with average views and ... (read in full...)

Was my wife really a virgin, if she almost had complete intercourse, but not quite?

Q.   I've never obsessed over my wive's past before. She was a virgin (so she said) when we got engaged and moved in together. I knew of a few past boyfriends where they did some 'heavy petting', but that's it. This past weekend, we had a romantic n...

A.   5 August 2008: You are still a virgin if you have your panties on of course. But I think you are hinting at lies and is she keeping stuff from you. You are wondering if more happened ever. Face it if she had a penis inside her virgina for a few seconds even... (read in full...)

What noises should I make during sex??

Q.   well im going to be losing my virginity soon as me and my boyfriend are ready for sex. but im really worried about how itll feel like but most of all what kind of noises to make. i mean, just soft moans or screams? what should i be saying?? what do ...

A.   5 August 2008: It's vital you be yourself. Don't worry about making noises, as you can sound like you are faking it. Most of what you see in the movies isn't real life in terms of the noises people make. Be calm and safe and use a condom. Fiona... (read in full...)

How can I get my man to cry during sex?

Q.   I'm just a little curious I would like to know how many men out there have actually cried during sex and why?? I want to try to get my man to cry any tips, tricks, and or advice to help me with that on a serious note I've heard about men crying ...

A.   28 July 2008: Please clarify your intentions and where you are coming from with the cry issue. No guy I have ever been with has cried during or after sex. Feel a bit confused by your question that's all. Fiona. xx... (read in full...)

My ex said she had a one night stand, why is this cutting me up?

Q.   Okay, here's the situation... My Ex-Girlfriend I broke up with in November was my first love and real relationship, I broke up with for treating me horribly and because I suspected she had Hypomania calls me everyday. She gets drunk then calls...

A.   25 July 2008: I used to say I would never have a one night stand, and take offence by others actions in these ways. That was of course until I had a one night stand. Sounds stupid, but we can all do different things at different points in life. Your problem ... (read in full...)

What can I do to stop leading guys on into liking me as more than a friend?

Q.   What can I do to stop leading guys on into liking me as more than a friend? I just have a very outgoing personality and I just want a guy friend!...

A.   25 July 2008: I remember all this! I would think I am not being flirtatious just friendly. Lads often confuse being friendly and outgoing with flirtatious and coming onto them. Perhaps the two do go hand-in-hand and you cannot truly flirt if you are s... (read in full...)

My boyfriend's going to leave me because I can't satisfy him in bed!

Q.   I think my boyfriends going to leave me because i don't satisfy him sexually. Basically, we have great sex and i usually get 2 or 3 orgasms. my boyfreinds circumsised so he can go on for ages (which is good) but he never gets one inside me and al...

A.   24 July 2008: Being circumsised doesn't stop a guy 'finnishing' so that won't be the reason. Sex when you are a teenager = can you think of anything else?! I am at a loss of why there is a problem. Other than trial and error and try new things or someth... (read in full...)

Before we met, my BF was not working for 5 years, do I leave him until he finds a stable job?

Q.   hi all my boyfriend and i have been dating for a year now and before we wasnt dating he wasnt working for 5years , the thing is im worried i mean 5 years is long time to be out of work . hes 23 and im 27 ok not in a stable job but im working m...

A.   24 July 2008: There is a huge stigma surrounding benefits and not working. Is he ill/disabled? If not he should be in work, and having goals etc. We know people who have been made redundant and later that year they got a new job. Or perhaps others are not i... (read in full...)

How do you deal with a member of a group who won't give?

Q.   Hi, I'm studying events management, and a group of girls in my class are manageing a large event for our final semester of studies. We need to come up with a name for the group and we are deciding between Zap Events or Vibrant Events. The majo...

A.   24 July 2008: Zap events possibly reminds me of Lazar Quest or some shooting activity or gaming related. Vibrant perhaps covers more and I guess you have to go with the majority. Vibrant perhaps suggests more about the personality and fun. Have you got the ... (read in full...)

We broke up, he has a new girlfriend, does he still think of me?

Q.   hi so went out with this boy we spent so much time together like 24/7 that we started arguing..i said thing that i shouldnt and mugged him off..so we broke up..he wouldnt go anywhere i was and would stare at me and tell people he hated me..we said ...

A.   22 July 2008: Some people are quite full on in a relationship and it can be nice to be on the receiving end of such attention. It is a nice compliment if you are told you are so special too. My mother would have said about getting too serious too soon to means... (read in full...)

I seem unable to carry a baby to full term. What are we doing wrong?

Q.   im almost 20 years old and have had 3 miscarriage with my husband in the past year.we lost a set of twins at 7 months in sept of last year and than lost another when i wasnt even 12 weeks in january 2008 and just lost another at 9 1/2 weeks july 3rd ...

A.   22 July 2008: So sorry to hear of your loss and your hard times. A friend of mine had a miscarriage and was told to wait x amount of time. It wasn't long, a matter of 2-3 months at the most. She has since had a lovely girl. There are no easy answers, bu... (read in full...)

She's my first proper girlfriend so should I buy her a sex toy? I'm also a virgin.

Q.   Me and my girlfriend were cuddling the other day and I asked jokingly "you don't have any weird sex toys I should know about do you" and she replied "I do have one blue dildo that my ex bought me... maybe you can buy me a better one!" We have o...

A.   21 July 2008: LOL sound like you have a nice and fun relationship together. I would see how things go together first and get used to being intimate first. Perhaps consider a sex toy as a birthday or christmas present later in the year? Just please her by be... (read in full...)

I can't sleep. I can't keep calm. I can't afford to get it wrong. I can't afford to fail. What? Oh. My driving test, of course!

Q.   This isnt about relationships but please help! I have my driving test on friday and im so scared becasue i cant afford to fail it, mainly because the test centre is closing down, so i wont be able to do another test there, i cant afford any more les...

A.   21 July 2008: First of all keep calm and relax and you must get sleep. Strange how we all feel vulnerable and nervous for the driving test. Good luck! I remember having a pre-test lesson which went badly, but the actual test I passed. Just be in a zo... (read in full...)

Do guys want a girl who already knows what she's doing?

Q.   Ok maybe someone can help me out... I haven't had sex with very many people at all and have yet 2 have sex with my current bf...I told him that I wasn't very experienced and I don't want 2 disappoint him..he said that it was fine and he was willi...

A.   21 July 2008: The irony is that you worry about your so called lack of exeperience and others worry that they have had too many prior partners or that somebody doesn't like their partner's history etc. At least you have some experience. Now you are no longer a... (read in full...)

How do you come to accept the sexual side of yourself??

Q.   How do you come to terms with your sexuality? I have difficulty with this. Once I had a few too many beers and things went gone further than I would have liked with a guy that I had met and a girl friend of mine. Full sex wasn't involved. I feel ...

A.   29 June 2008: Hi Sorry to read of your troubled times. Sounds like the night was an eye-opener for you to say the least! Not been in this exact situation, but have been in situations that have surprised me. Drink lowers your inhibitions, and can make you say ... (read in full...)

A young lady who is not ready for sex or to fall in love sleeps in my room...I want to have a sexual relationship with her!!

Q.   A young lady who is not ready to fall in love or sexual relation, she is very strict against love but everyday she is sleeping in my room.I want to make sexual relation with her.How it is possible.How can i convince her for sex and how should ...

A.   28 June 2008: How old is she? I noticed your age and was surprised that this is an issue that's all as you are not a teenager :) It's a given you are 'experienced' and used to a sexual relationships, and you would expect her to be too. How old is she? Ho... (read in full...)

Should I feel ashamed about being curious about sex?

Q.   ok alot of people i kno that is my age are having sex. Nobody pressures me into it cuz they already kno rite off the back i would curse them out lol. But im starting to ask myself wat does it feel like when you have sex because i'm so curious. ...

A.   28 June 2008: Do you think that your friends are actually having sex? I always remember loads of questions like "Do you know what ... means?" etc. Doesn't mean that they know from first hand experience. Could be they have older sibling or cousin in the know... (read in full...)

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