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Selfish one night stand. Could I get pregnant?
Q. Ok the other night I decided to go to out with my sister and ended up finding a cute guy.So anyways took him back home was drunk and horny and slept with him using no protection and I am not on any type of bc,I told him that. He never came in me a...
A. 7 April 2009: I was in this situation once, and really panicked. I did the sensible thing the next day and got the morning after pill, because to fall pregnant by a guy you don't even know is unthinkable. I don't know how long ago this was, but the morning after ... (read in full...)
One night stand problems!
Q. This is going to sound really really bad, but I really need some advice. I go to college and the other week Ii had a one night stand with this guy. I always thought he was good looking, but never really liked him, but I was really really drunk an...
A. 7 April 2009: I know where you are coming from. Having said that I doubt many friends would stop you from having a one night stand. Even while you are both still at the club and you ask your friend if she thinks you should or not; chances are most girls would ... (read in full...)
One night stand problems!
Q. This is going to sound really really bad, but I really need some advice. I go to college and the other week Ii had a one night stand with this guy. I always thought he was good looking, but never really liked him, but I was really really drunk an...
A. 7 April 2009: I just thought of something. Did you or are you going to confide in your friend that you went clubbing with? I don't mean in a way to fall out over. I mean about these two guys, and the issues you mentioned here. This is especially as you were out ... (read in full...)
One night stand problems!
Q. This is going to sound really really bad, but I really need some advice. I go to college and the other week Ii had a one night stand with this guy. I always thought he was good looking, but never really liked him, but I was really really drunk an...
A. 5 April 2009: Phew I am glad you were safe. It's true alcohol does make you want sex ha-ha. I would just put this down to experience and forget it. Focus on your studies and your female friends and put all 3 of them out of your mind. Why not socialise in a ... (read in full...)
One night stand problems!
Q. This is going to sound really really bad, but I really need some advice. I go to college and the other week Ii had a one night stand with this guy. I always thought he was good looking, but never really liked him, but I was really really drunk an...
A. 5 April 2009: Emily summed up what I was trying to say well when I was saying don't confuse one with the other etc. Physical connection/lust is very different from the feelings when you really like somebody. Indeed perhaps if you were not so drunk, would you ... (read in full...)
One night stand problems!
Q. This is going to sound really really bad, but I really need some advice. I go to college and the other week Ii had a one night stand with this guy. I always thought he was good looking, but never really liked him, but I was really really drunk an...
A. 5 April 2009: I am not sure what the circumstances surrounding your break up from your ex were, but were you quite hurt? Is there are part of you or him that wants to get back together and that's why your ex went mad? As I don't know the situation, only you know ... (read in full...)
I need help!!! I'm on birth control but don't use condoms... is this bad!
Q. Ok.. so my boyfreind and I have been together 7 months and we are sexually active.. I'm on birth control and we don't use condoms.... he cums in me every time. We are protected with the birth control but are we still at risk??? I need help!...
A. 2 April 2009: I guess the chances of both the pill and the condom failing at the same time are minimal, so that could give peace of mind. I am sure the statistics depend on how often you have sex too. I have used two methods at once at times. This person may/may ... (read in full...)
How to learn to drink in moderation?
Q. When I go to bars, I sometimes drink too much. Usually when I am with certain friends or when I am bored. Can anybody give me some advice on how to learn to drink in moderation? ...
A. 2 April 2009: Avoid the 5% beer and other stronger drinks. I think the best is not to keep up with others who probably drink more, and stick to a slower pace and make your drinks last. Avoid buying rounds and get your own only. Take out only a set amount of money ... (read in full...)
Am I boring because I don't like to go clubbing?
Q. Hi, i don't really like going clubbing but i do socialize alot in different ways i go to house parties and like meet new people quite often but clubbing just isn't my scene. because i don't like clubbing does this mean i am boring? ...
A. 2 April 2009: In many respects this is a fairly short-lived problem. Because making the assumption that in your mid-twenties or so you all have serious boyfriends and working towards marriage then nights out in a nightclub gradually become less of a priority. No ... (read in full...)
Do these things take time?
Q. I'm seventeen years old and have a boyfriend of 2 months who's a year older than me. We get along really well and I have strong feelings for him, but I'm one of these people who aren't really familiar with the sexual side of relationships, I've had ...
A. 1 April 2009: He hasn't told you he loves you because after just 2 months you are not in love. I believe love happens gradually and you don't truly love somebody until after say 6 months or so. You can be very fond of somebody and care for eachother before then, ... (read in full...)
Do we need to use protection and should I ask him to be tested?
Q. Do we need to use protection? Me and my boyfriend fool around, lately naked. We don't actually have intercourse, he just insterts his penis in the opening not inside, he doesn't ehh cum or anything, he has been sexually active before with at least ...
A. 1 April 2009: You have been scating on thin ice, risking falling pregnant, and that's if you want to hide away from the risk of catching something.
It sounds like you have been holding back from having sex, but to all intents and purposes it is sex. I am supri... (read in full...)
Coil problems!
Q. Hiya, I think I might be pregnant... I've had a coil for the last two and half years. Oover the last couple of months every time me and my partner have sex I have been having pains very deep pains inside... we decided to take things a bit slower and ...
A. 20 March 2009: From what I know you would know if it had fallen out. Go to the family planning clinic and they can check it's position is OK. If they cannot find it too easily, you'll be sent for an ultrasound at the hospital. Sometimes the threads can loop ... (read in full...)
I'm embarrassed that I haven't had sex yet
Q. Well to start things off, I am a 22 year old virgin. It is very hard living in a day and age where all your friends talk about sex and their recent conquests and you have no idea what it is about. I have been told that I am a pretty attractive guy ...
A. 19 March 2009: Have you ever seen your doctor about the tight foreskin problem? It would appear that this is a common aspect of men's health. Certainly use a condom for a sore penis as this offers protection in that respect as well as the known infections and ... (read in full...)
Confused! First time sex!
Q. okay so yesterday i had sex. it was great but i was in pain for 6 or mre mins but i didnt bleed i wanted to know if this is normal?? and also after we were done i was so sore and tired i didnt want to move i also had to pee alot is this norm...
A. 18 March 2009: I didn't bleed either, so it's likely that your hymen broke playing sports instead. Not sure about the pain, but perhaps you were not relaxed or turned on enough because you were nervous? Being tired I imagine because it's a physical and emotional ... (read in full...)
How can I get my parents to give me a little more freedom?
Q. POSTER AGE INCORRECT: 13 I believe I have found the love of my life. But, a few weeks ago, I found out we might be moving. I'm only 13 but I couldn't stand having to be away from my boyfriend. And, my parents are being bitches about it. My dad i...
A. 18 March 2009: Perhaps a lot of us wish we had more freedom when we were growing up. When you have arguments with your parents it's like the worst thing that can happen at the time isn't it. Whenever I had arguments about more freedom, permission and not being ... (read in full...)
We had dry sex, he had boxers on, I had none.
Q. ok me and my boyfriend have been together for awhile and were planning on gettin married but were waiting on the whole sex thing. but we have dry humpted more then 10 times he has had shorts and boxers on but i havent and yes he has came but from...
A. 17 March 2009: Now that you have "dry humped" it's only a matter of time before you actually have sex. So please be careful and use a condom so you don'thave to worry. Also please don't forget when it comes down to it rather than have it in mind to use a condom in ... (read in full...)
Is it possible for my vagina to become tight again?
Q. Hiya. I'm a virgin and wondering... If i was to have sex now once evry month.. then did not have sex or anything for 5years in a row. would my vagina become "tight" or still stay loose. thanks...
A. 14 March 2009: I don't believe I have stretched much.
From your wording, I get the impression that you are just about ready to have sex with your current boyfriend, perhaps you have been together a few weeks, and assume you'll be together a while? By the soun... (read in full...)
I'm still a virgin and afraid I won't know what to do
Q. I am 16 years old and my boyfriend is 21. We both want to have sex but im still a virgin and im scared he wont like it or i wont know what to do or it will really hurt and i am completely in love with him and we are engaged what do i do...
A. 13 March 2009: In that case just one person is nice for you because he knows what to do, but hasn't slept around so to speak. I really don't think you have anything to worry about. Fiona.... (read in full...)
Can a girl get back their virginity back?
Q. can a girl get back their virgin after she stop having sex for 3 yr? i had sex my ex bf, and i about to marry with other man after 3 yr. can he know that i am not virgin?...
A. 13 March 2009: In any case a guy can tell if you are a virgin or not by how you act when you are together. A virgin would be more tense when making out or foreplay because they are not used to the contact, whereas a non-virgin is more relaxed because they have ... (read in full...)
I'm still a virgin and afraid I won't know what to do
Q. I am 16 years old and my boyfriend is 21. We both want to have sex but im still a virgin and im scared he wont like it or i wont know what to do or it will really hurt and i am completely in love with him and we are engaged what do i do...
A. 12 March 2009: I assume he's older and more experienced, so that will help if one of you knows what to do so to speak. As for being embarrassed about being a virgin, believe me I was 18 when I first had sex. I am sure he knows that you are a virgin, he will tell ... (read in full...)
Sleeping with a first date
Q. I went on a date with an incredable guy and we had amazing chemistry, the only trouble is that chemistry also led to us sleeping together. He admitted it had been a while for him (as it had been for myself) and that he didn't think any less of me ...
A. 10 March 2009: Why should a guy think anything less of you, when he has just done the same thing, equally as willingly. As I say you won't get a guy who would say that it's too soon.
Fiona.... (read in full...)
Anyone had sex on a first date that turned into a relationship?
Q. I just wanted to know if anyone has ever had sex with a guy on a first date and it turned into a relationship? Men and Women please both answer. Thank you....
A. 10 March 2009: We had sex on the first date, not the night we met in the nightclub, but a week later. We are married and still together, which is over 10 years later!
I get the impression it's against the odds.
Before that I was really preoccupied with... (read in full...)
Is it OK to take a shower together if you haven't slept with him?
Q. I have been seeing this guy for a couple of months, we kiss and that's about all, I want to take thinks slow, he has suggested I stay at his (I think he wants sex) and we can have a nice bath/shower together. Do you think its a good idea to have ...
A. 10 March 2009: I guess it's often the case that the guy wants sex before the girl, and will try to nudge things in that direction...
Having a bath or shower is clearly part of that, and could be his way of making your first time together special and intimate... (read in full...)
My latest boyfriend refuses to lick me clean after sex!
Q. My latest boyfriend refuses to lick me clean after sex, is it too much to ask? It's his mess after all? All my previous boyfriend's were happy to do it....
A. 16 February 2009: I agree, that you cannot force these things on people, I don't like the sound of it either ewww.
Different people we sleep with holds different memories that you associate with that person. This is clearly something that you remember well in that ... (read in full...)
Do men appreciate valentine's cards or is it just women?
Q. Do men like valentine's cards or is it a bit tacky?...
A. 12 February 2009: We both get eachother a valentines card. I do my best to find a small gift. We have a meal out, but not on valentines itself. This is because we find that the "valentines special menu" is over-priced for reduced quality.
So I believe it's importan... (read in full...)
In my 30's and never had sex yet...
Q. OK this is kinda hard to explain... I'm in my 30's and STILL a virgin. This is very embarrassing! and I have to make sure anyone I know never finds out ever! I have had boyfriends but it never goes further than kissing before I then freeze or make ...
A. 5 February 2009: I am not sure how far you have gone so to speak. The journey towards actually having steps would need time at each base, doing everything but first. That way you get used to the idea as full sex is only a step away from being fingered etc. Fiona... (read in full...)
How long should we wait before we sleep together?
Q. Im currently kinda seeing a guy that lives far away from me we have only been together twice but we email and ring each other a lot in between the times I go to see him. I just wanna know how long we should wait before we sleep together? I really ...
A. 5 February 2009: In that case if you stay over at somebody else's place and not his, then you have no pressure, you do what feels right and only stay over if it feels right. You can of course spend the night together without the sex, but if you do you are certainly ... (read in full...)
Why is there so much pressure for virgins to give in?
Q. i've come across alot of teen girls on here who say they are virgins and are not ready for sex, yet they want to do it just to please the guy. please tell me why girls feel so pressured into having sex when they don't want to. why do SOME guys not ...
A. 4 February 2009: I am not sure what age you are talking about. Say at 14 I am sure less girls are having sex than you think. Say at late teens there is as much peer pressure from other girls as the boyfriend "I don't know what you are worried about, just go for it" ... (read in full...)
How long should we wait before we sleep together?
Q. Im currently kinda seeing a guy that lives far away from me we have only been together twice but we email and ring each other a lot in between the times I go to see him. I just wanna know how long we should wait before we sleep together? I really ...
A. 3 February 2009: Do I assume that because you live a journey away from each-other, your date would involve staying over, or him staying over with you then and this is why you ask? Somehow if this is the case, it's easy to have sex sooner than you would have done in ... (read in full...)
2 months and no "I love you"
Q. Hi, My boyfriend and i have been together now for two months. He treats me really nice and i feel very lucky to have him in my life. Tee problem is that he has said he really likes me and has feelings for me and misses me when i am away. bu...
A. 18 December 2008: I know myself that you don't actually love somebody until 6-8 months. Yeah you can be smitten, really fancy, be fond of etc, but love is different.
I think too many people use the words "I love you" too easily, and often as a way of getting ... (read in full...)
How long do you need to be in a relationship to consider sex?
Q. Ladies please answer. How long do you need to be in a relationship to consider sex? What things need to be considered? What things does the relationship need to have to consider sex? Ladies do you like to take things in stages (ie kissing, mak...
A. 17 December 2008: I could write a book on all this. With my first lover, I waited 2 months, and held back like above. Relationships can end at any point, but it depends what you want. If you want to wait until you know you really like each-other and know you have ... (read in full...)
What do you think about proposal? Should it be a surprise?
Q. We went ring shopping last week, so probably he's proposing to me soon - but mn, it's as strange feeling expecting a proposal when it's supposed to be um, a surprise. I don't really care about the ring, but I really dreamed of a surprise! Even so he ...
A. 16 December 2008: Perhaps in reality it often isn't a surprise. After all perhaps one or both of you need to sound out the other persons intentions and aims, to be sure you are both after the same thing, i.e. the relationship is heading in the right direction.
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Is there any medicine that induces abortion? Can she be pregnant?
Q. I and my gf had sex on 29 nov. generally Her period happens on 5th of every month. but in this month(dec.), it delayed by 10 days already. Is it showing that she is pregnant?? If yes, Is there any alternative to abortion nw?? What can we do, if we ...
A. 15 December 2008: There are abortion tablets that can be taken within the first couple of weeks of being pregnant. However few people get these prescribed because they don't know they are pregnant within the tight criteria that the drug permits. Otherwise no. Fiona.... (read in full...)
She had condom-less sex before, but won't with me! What can I do??
Q. i have been dating my GF for over a year. we are madly in love and she says she has never loved anyone as much as she loves me, and i know from various sources she wants to marry me one day. we have never had sex without a condom. she is on birth ...
A. 24 November 2008: I think she wants to have peace of mind about not getting pregnant before you are married. There is no harm in that, after all contraception is supposed to be 98-99% reliable, and they all seem to compare well, and you think what are the chances of ... (read in full...)
What is to be expected on a first date?
Q. I need some help, I am in the early 20s and have never had a boyfriend. This guy I work with has asked me out and I want to say yes because I like him, but I am scared because I have never been on a date, and as I am older than most I would lik...
A. 21 November 2008: I agree, be yourself. No doubt you will go out for a drink and chat about music, films etc and find out what you have in common.
Chances are, he'll initiate the kissing. But be careful in case he expects more or invites you back.
Fiona.... (read in full...)
His mom is so strict about us when I'm at his house.
Q. My boyfriend (who is 18) and I (turning 19 in a just a couple months) have been together for two years and lately, things have sort of... slowed down for us, sex-wise. It also kind of has to do with his mom wanting to interrupt us all the damn time ...
A. 21 November 2008: I remember all this! There isn't much you can do about it, unless the other person in the relationship has parents who are more laid back and don't mind.
I hate to say this, but it doesn't change until you have made the break and you are married!... (read in full...)
Christmas is coming up and I don't know what to ask for!
Q. I'm really stuck...everyone keeps asking me what i want for Christmas and i really have no idea what to ask for??? any suggestions for a teenage boy welcome:) Thanks:)...
A. 12 November 2008: I can be like you, and decide I know what I want in February for some obscure reason ha-ha. Money is always an option to buy clothes you do want in the sales. There must be books/dvd's/cd's you want.
Getting on to the charity idea. Plenty of peopl... (read in full...)
He says I'm overreacting to his drug use...
Q. hi, i seem to be at a dead end with my new relationship and suppose i need feedback and a little advice on what exactly i should do. ive been in a relationship for 5 months now and he is great he is very affectionate, wonderful lover, interact...
A. 12 November 2008: I don't think you are over-reacting, as it's a serious issue. It makes things all the harder when everybody likes him, and you are wondering where the relationship is going.
You have known him long enough to see the warning signs.
I don't want ... (read in full...)
I feel he takes advantage. What can I do as I'm so fed up right now ?
Q. Hello, my problem isnt huge, but i feel like from your profile you can help me with my situation. I am so fed up at the moment and sometimes tearful. Im 29 and live with my boyfriend, and he does absolutley nothing to help me around the house apart ...
A. 11 November 2008: This is such a common problem and have been there myself. I am a realist and not a "clean freak". Our house can be clean or clean-ish but not necessarily tidy.
I find that when the wife is ill or busy working long hours or studying men can easi... (read in full...)
He wants to meet for sex, but I want a relationship.
Q. I have a problem. You see there is this guy who i have known for years. We were very close in school. But when I went off to college, we kind of grew apart, We didn't speak as much or see each other. I've always had a thing for him. Recently we ...
A. 10 November 2008: I can only say set some ground rules and make your intentions clear. There is no harm in saying "no" or saying that you don't believe in sex on the first or second date. That way you will know his intentions by if he sticks around or not (believe ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a boob job... why does she think I don't find her attractive
Q. My wife wants a boob job because she doesn't think I don't find her attractive not sure where she got that idea. I told she doesn't need one and being a drama queen. I admit do look at other women and I do flirt with other women at work (she caught ...
A. 10 November 2008: Does she have low self-confidence? I am often of the view that cosmetic surgery has its places but it's often for those who don't have real health worries to focus on. There are many people not fit to work, or have to go in for operations... I would ... (read in full...)
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