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Should I have sex ?
Q. i'm a 15 yo virgin and i want to have sex by two reasons 1. most of my friends say that sex feels very awesome and it's wasting time if i'm a virgin 2. one day i will have a girlfriend but if i find out that she lost her virginity when she was 15....
A. 27 July 2009: It really isn't a race. Believe me if you are still worried about not having had sex in 5-10 times, then you are OK to say about die a virgin.
Once you have had sex once, the opportunities arrive too.... (read in full...)
How do I stop masturbating?
Q. How do I stop masturbating? I think it has become habit rather than necessity. I do at least twice to thrice a week, after doing it I always get feeling to not do it again, but I break promise made to my self. Please help overcome this habit, I...
A. 18 May 2009: Are you not in a relationship? Do I assume it's been a while since you have had actual sex and this is why?... (read in full...)
Should I go? Afterall, he's an absolute stranger!
Q. i met a guy after a night out randomly on the street in town when every one pours out from the clubs. He was very goodlooking and smart - not some tipsy guy. we exchanged numbers and now, a few days on, he wants to meet up for a drink. i want to go ...
A. 17 May 2009: So he doesn't feel too much of a stranger, why not have a good chat on the phone. I don't mean your life stories, I mean "How's your week going?" "What have you been doing" and stuff like that. This way you get an idea of the things he likes and his ... (read in full...)
A poll regarding virginity
Q. I am wondering at what age most people lost their virginity? This is a really interesting subject to me and I am just curious, I googled it and it says the average age is 16, but thats seems a little old to me. It also said like only half of the ...
A. 17 May 2009: I forgot to add that my husband was 19. He said he was a "late developer in that respect". That was only a year less than me. He's aged 40.... (read in full...)
A poll regarding virginity
Q. I am wondering at what age most people lost their virginity? This is a really interesting subject to me and I am just curious, I googled it and it says the average age is 16, but thats seems a little old to me. It also said like only half of the ...
A. 17 May 2009: I live in the UK and was 18 at the time. I am a bit older and am aged 33 now, so I assume people loose their virginity a bit younger now? Now I am talking like I am 70 ha-ha, perhaps a few years makes a difference?... (read in full...)
Should I go? Afterall, he's an absolute stranger!
Q. i met a guy after a night out randomly on the street in town when every one pours out from the clubs. He was very goodlooking and smart - not some tipsy guy. we exchanged numbers and now, a few days on, he wants to meet up for a drink. i want to go ...
A. 17 May 2009: Go for it, as you say you only live once.
Actually most guys I met, I met in a club on a dance-floor, or in a pub. So I guess in some cases that's not much different.
I assume any friend you were with that night, thinks you should go for it... (read in full...)
Boring relationship!
Q. I am in a relationship with a girl that is really boring and talks a lot about herself, she likes spamming me with text messages during school. post your comments on what to do please...
A. 15 May 2009: Simple conversations can get round a lot of problems. Are you meaning that she's louder/more outgoing than you and you don't get on? Some girls are more chatty, you just have to work at getting your word in ha-ha. Texts is the compromise I guess. I ... (read in full...)
He keeps asking me if I'm a virgin!
Q. I went out on one date with this guy, and then the next day we were talking through text messages and he asked me if I was a virgin or not. I told him I didnt feel comfortable answering that at this stage yet and he said thats ok I dont have to ...
A. 14 May 2009: Ordinarily he would be able to tell if you are a virgin or not. With how you react when he's near and tries to make out or go further... He will be able to tell if you are used to that kind of thing or not.... (read in full...)
Is it better to wait for sex?
Q. So I'm 19 and a virigin. I have a bf who's also a virigin (he's my first ever bf) and he really wants to have sex. We came kinda close to doing it once but we've never gone all the way. Part of me really wants to wait til marraige but part of me ...
A. 14 May 2009: Some people wait but only have sex with the one partner. That's the person they marry, but don't necessarily wait until their wedding night, they wait for the best part of a year before having sex. So there are different versions of waiting. ... (read in full...)
Best place to lose your virginity?
Q. I'm ready, and I'm gonna lose it. The question is where? Ideas anyone? The beach? The woods? Not some sleazy hotel room or my bed. This is the first time you'll always remember. I want to make it memorable in so many different ways, and...
A. 14 May 2009: Let's face it, I don't think anybody really enjoys their first time, its' more about getting the first time over with (and that's when you are with somebody you are fond of). I don't think having first time sex in an adventurous place would make it ... (read in full...)
How to not think long term when dating
Q. Hello I've had quite a few bad relationships in the past, and I think the issue was because I had low self esteem I didnt think I was worth better. I've had intensive therapy over the last six months to raise my confidence and at last I get it, and ...
A. 14 May 2009: Just have fun, see how it goes. Have lots of laughs, making the most of the time together. Don't give eachothers life stories too soon. Find out what you have in common, enjoy socializing together just the two of you, and in a group on other ... (read in full...)
Should I have sex ?
Q. i'm a 15 yo virgin and i want to have sex by two reasons 1. most of my friends say that sex feels very awesome and it's wasting time if i'm a virgin 2. one day i will have a girlfriend but if i find out that she lost her virginity when she was 15....
A. 13 May 2009: Perhaps you are not ready for sex yet, which is fine. Say next year, or whatever, you might meet a nice girl. Chances are she won't be a virgin, so at least you know to prepare for that, especially if she's older. There is plenty of time ahead, so ... (read in full...)
So what's the big deal about viginity?
Q. Okay so this really isn't a question. Truth is I don't see why people make such a big deal about sex and virginity. I don't find it such a big deal losing it. I mean I'm 16 I'm still a virgin and I believe that you know you should wait until you ...
A. 8 May 2009: A milestone in life like any other. It does change you.
First time sex, is in fact not any good, and certainly doesn't live up to they hype or your expectations. I don't think many people enjoy it, it's more about the milestone and getting ... (read in full...)
When is enough really enough?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year and I want to know if what I'm feeling is just paranoia or is it real? My boyfriend is a tattoo artist and he's been going to clients houses to work. I get very "freaked out" by this because he ...
A. 6 May 2009: Is he working long hours? Is is necessary to work these odd hours? Surely there isn't that much demand for tatoo art at all hours of the day and night? Surely people could be fitted in during the day as a normal appointment time? Are these clients ... (read in full...)
Love, marriage and monogamy...
Q. I have a question about love, marriage and monogomy. When two people love each other and are married, is it normal for both of these people to be seriously attracted to other people, to the point of one having an affair and the other having to use ...
A. 5 May 2009: With any luck and common commitment and work from both sides, the love will stay between you. Granted the love can change a bit, and feel different, but the love shouldnt' go. So in a loving marriage, I doubt affairs are the norm.
Fiona... (read in full...)
Love, marriage and monogamy...
Q. I have a question about love, marriage and monogomy. When two people love each other and are married, is it normal for both of these people to be seriously attracted to other people, to the point of one having an affair and the other having to use ...
A. 5 May 2009: I hope affairs are not the norm, or else what's it all for.
Why would you willingly throw away everything that you have? Relationships are not all bad, granted there are the tough times and big arguments. But there are also the great times, t... (read in full...)
I feel really self conscious when I'm on top as everything jiggles about!
Q. I feel really self conscious when me and my bf have sex when I'm on top. I'm 5 feet even and about 130 pounds. I'm not fat, just curvy. I feel like when I'm on top he's sees everything moving, and finds it unattractive so I try not to make eye ...
A. 2 May 2009: Have you tried with the lights off then?
I think being on top is more about the feel of it physically, rather than how you feel in terms of being self-conscious. Chances are he probably likes you on top, so try without a light on, then you don'... (read in full...)
Should I have sex ?
Q. i'm a 15 yo virgin and i want to have sex by two reasons 1. most of my friends say that sex feels very awesome and it's wasting time if i'm a virgin 2. one day i will have a girlfriend but if i find out that she lost her virginity when she was 15....
A. 2 May 2009: I think there is more peer pressure about having sex than anything else. I also don't think that at 15 we are ready and it's better to wait a couple of years.
You don't know if the first person you sleep with will be a virgin or not. If she is n... (read in full...)
A question about virginity for all the boys out there
Q. This is mainly aimed at boys but girls can answer too, i would like to know, if a girl said that she wanted to lose her virginity to you but didn't want to be in a relationship with you, would you mind? Or would that be a problem for you? Thanks....
A. 1 May 2009: My perspective is, how can something be truly casual and no-strings if you already know eachother quite well. That sounds like it's getting near to friends with benefits.
What's wrong with actually going out with him? Are you worried how well you... (read in full...)
A question about virginity for all the boys out there
Q. This is mainly aimed at boys but girls can answer too, i would like to know, if a girl said that she wanted to lose her virginity to you but didn't want to be in a relationship with you, would you mind? Or would that be a problem for you? Thanks....
A. 1 May 2009: Generally if you offer sex on a plate, lads would jump at the chance! Guys wouldn't object to the no-strings either. However because you ask, are you really a virgin? I ask because most of us want some sort of romance and anticipate that you'll be ... (read in full...)
Everywhere I go I see couples and it makes me feel jealous! How can I stop feeling this way?
Q. I'm struggling with single life. When I go out with friends, or when I hang around with my flat-mates I always see couples and it makes me feel jealous. Last night, I looked across the room and saw my flat-mate and his girlfriend playing together...
A. 1 May 2009: In many ways, this is a nice topic. Often people think that relationships are all bad, and wonder if relationships going sour are the norm.
You sound a nice guy who would be happy with a nice girl. You sound like somebody who wants to make the... (read in full...)
My boyfriend thinks it would be a turn on to watch me having sex with our dog!
Q. Hi everyone, I am 26 and have been with my current bf for almost 3 years. We have a great relationship, he is perfect in many ways. We get along great and have a great sex life. We are both very open at trying new things sexually and I will admit ...
A. 1 May 2009: OMG! Sorry that's not on at all is it!
Fiona... (read in full...)
Half penetration sex, am I still a Virgin?
Q. Hi, My BF's penis went in me about half way, the head was fully in and we did this a few times. He didnt push all the way because I want to keep my virginity but i cant help but think have I already lost it from what we wer doing. We tested ...
A. 28 April 2009: Are you sure you still have the hymen intact? Mine broke at school playing hockey of all things. I am sure you would remember if you felt an odd twang and a little blood in your pants after sports or whatever. Even in that situation, you are still a ... (read in full...)
Condom split, could I get pregnant?...
Q. me and my boyfriend had sex using a condom and he came, about 45 mins later we had sex again and the condom split, the top ripped off the condom, could i get pregnant from the pre-come or the come from the 1st time?? ...
A. 28 April 2009: First of all, don't panic. Just get the morning after pill. Many of us have had that at some point, it does give bad stomach cramps and you'll get a heavy period. But at least you'll have peace of mind that you are not pregnant.
I have never ha... (read in full...)
Half penetration sex, am I still a Virgin?
Q. Hi, My BF's penis went in me about half way, the head was fully in and we did this a few times. He didnt push all the way because I want to keep my virginity but i cant help but think have I already lost it from what we wer doing. We tested ...
A. 28 April 2009: Let me give some friendly perspective. On one hand you said you wanted to keep your virgininty; perhaps because you hadn't known him long enough? On the other hand you let him slightly insert his penis.
There is no difference psycholo... (read in full...)
I think my partner's parents have some peculiar habits. What do you think?
Q. My partner has divulged that his mother sat topless at the dinner table once in front of him and his brothers (he was about 12 or 13 and is the eldest). Apparently she said she had wanted to see their reaction but her husband told her not to be s...
A. 17 April 2009: Ohh God only knows!
What always baffles me is how your and your partners parents can be so differerent and yet you like your partner, but have nothing in common with his parents, and your parents wouldn't have anything in common with his parents ... (read in full...)
Do girls like to suck "it"?
Q. Do all girls like to suck "IT" ? you know..(the man's thing)...and wut position do they like? cuz am trying to make my GF happy......
A. 16 April 2009: The main positions are you on top, you from behind. Or if you are more advanced her on top. Not all girls like to do BJ and are disgusted by it, so I'd leave that one for her to decide.
Fiona... (read in full...)
Why do we cry when someone dies?
Q. Hey y'all! Ummm I just need to ask this but why do we cry when someone dies? Or leaves us? Or anything like that why do you think we cry other than when we get hurt? Cause I can't help but cry everytime I see my fathers pictures and think of his ...
A. 16 April 2009: There are so many things that will remind you of him. For example photos, music, memories, everyday jobs he used to do, places you know he liked.... The list is probably endless of the things that will set you off.
Just hang on in there.
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I think love means sacrifice am I right?
Q. I have a question! Do you think that if a man loves a woman (and wants to be with that woman) that he should do whatever he needs to do to be with her Even if he has a lot like three business and lots of properties! i mean you only have one lif...
A. 16 April 2009: I would say love means loyalty, compromise and team work and having somebody to share your life, values and goals with.
I am not sure where you are coming from. Does your girlfriend think you are a workaholic and have no time together? In a loving... (read in full...)
Are one-night stands really the norm?
Q. I have a bad feelings about one night stands. I see that many people have had one night stands in their lives which I think is very slutty to me. If I had a girlfriend I wouldn't be with a girl who has had one night stands because I want someone who ...
A. 16 April 2009: The more I think about it perhaps to a degree one night stands are the norm perhaps as a couple of isolated occasions, rather than something people do all the time, year after year...
I can see both sides to it. For me if I am honest, I spent a ... (read in full...)
Are one-night stands really the norm?
Q. I have a bad feelings about one night stands. I see that many people have had one night stands in their lives which I think is very slutty to me. If I had a girlfriend I wouldn't be with a girl who has had one night stands because I want someone who ...
A. 15 April 2009: Peanut must have typed at the same time as me because I didn't see her reply. You said you are 16, so are you worried about people you know of your age having one night stands, or is it something you notice with say 18-20 year olds? Or perhaps ... (read in full...)
Why do we cry when someone dies?
Q. Hey y'all! Ummm I just need to ask this but why do we cry when someone dies? Or leaves us? Or anything like that why do you think we cry other than when we get hurt? Cause I can't help but cry everytime I see my fathers pictures and think of his ...
A. 15 April 2009: Awww huggs. Sorry to hear this. You are clearly going through a huge grieving process for your Dad. I dread the day when it's one of my parents. However I have had bereavements before and lost a close friend who was 27 at the time and it is awful. I ... (read in full...)
I know I love this guy so why am I unhappy?
Q. Idk what to do any more. I know i love this girl why am i unhappy? I cant figure it out. I've given this girl everything and she has given me everything. I know she is the one for me. I want to be with her but i'm having a hard time with this. ...
A. 15 April 2009: How long have you been together? After a while relationships do feel different, you still love each-other but it's in a more level-headed way rather than a head-over-heals distracting way that invades your thoughts in work etc.
Have you had one ... (read in full...)
Are one-night stands really the norm?
Q. I have a bad feelings about one night stands. I see that many people have had one night stands in their lives which I think is very slutty to me. If I had a girlfriend I wouldn't be with a girl who has had one night stands because I want someone who ...
A. 15 April 2009: This is a complicated issue isn't it. I would say about 50% or so of people have had one night stands at some part rather than "everybody" having done so, although it does feel like that doesn't it. May I emphasise the at some point, rather than it ... (read in full...)
Too scared to have sex!
Q. i'm 15 years old and im too scared to have sex. i had a boyfriend at this beginning of this year, and i'd done everything but sex. i started my periods when i was in year 5 and i have fully matured. when it came to having sex, he literally could not ...
A. 15 April 2009: When are you 16? Is it just a matter of time before you are 16 so to you the age of consent is academic rather than being 16 being about a year away?
To be honest we are all nervous and it is daunting at first, so don't worry about that.
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Incestuous thoughts from a 30 y.o. virgin male
Q. hello im allen 33 year old male from west virginia im unemployed and am living with my parents for last year my thing is i have always viewed porn and stuff. im a virgin but for last 10 to 11 months i have secretly lust for my mom from looking up f...
A. 15 April 2009: None of this is normal. There is a huge difference between love and respect for a family member (which is crucial) and a strange fantasy or whatever you want to define all this as!
We all go through hard times, so perhaps until you get another ... (read in full...)
I'm lonely and want something different in my life
Q. A few months ago I decided to give up on guys. But it feels like just about everyone has a boyfriend/girlfriend. I'm lonely and want something different in my life, to feel good again and have someone to care about. How do I get back on the dating ...
A. 15 April 2009: Relationships often come and go; I bet that this time next year, half the 18/19 year olds you know, won't be with their boyfirend by then! We are all single at different times and meet somebody great at different times.
I think the key is not t... (read in full...)
Yep, it's true - 30 year old virgin
Q. So guys and gals, I am a 30 year old virgin. I was a late-bloomer, then had a really busy career and moved around a lot and then it turned into this vicious cycle thing where I figured everyone would think I had had sex by then and I didn't want to ...
A. 15 April 2009: I don't think one night stands are for a virgin (of any age). As you said you moved around a lot, I am sure you would have had one night stands in the past, if you felt like it. There is obviously a part of you that wants things to be special or ... (read in full...)
If you knew the girl you were dating had a few one night stands would it put you off her?
Q. Guys, if your dating someone, is it a turn off to know the girl has had a few one night stands? and a 'friends with benefits' relationship? or is it not that a big of a deal?...
A. 8 April 2009: You have not been specific about numbers and circumstances. However over time the same person can change their outlook and views. Just because you have had a couple of one night stands recently or whenever, doesn't mean you cannot be faithful to Mr ... (read in full...)
Does sleeping with 4 guys in one year make me a slut?
Q. I have a question... At the age of 16 I lost my virginity to someone who I dated for only 2 weeks but we went on to be together for 4 and 1/2 years. I dated and slept with 3 other guys. 3 of the 4 guys I ended up being in love with but I am now 21 ...
A. 8 April 2009: We all have different experiences. I have slept with 6 guys between the age of 18-21 but I am now 33 and have been married to the last of the 6 for ages so it soon wasn't an issue because we met when I was 21.
When you are young there are a lot of... (read in full...)
Ladies poll - number, size, one night stands...
Q. Ladies Poll -- (1) How many men have you slept with? (2) Of that nimber, how many men would you say were well endowed, meaning say more than 8 inches and/or wide? (3) How many were one (or two night) stands? Thanks for your participation....
A. 8 April 2009: 6 men
Regarding the well-endowed issue, I'll be boring and say that probably most men are average and not that much different in that respect.
3 were one night stands.
Fiona... (read in full...)
Selfish one night stand. Could I get pregnant?
Q. Ok the other night I decided to go to out with my sister and ended up finding a cute guy.So anyways took him back home was drunk and horny and slept with him using no protection and I am not on any type of bc,I told him that. He never came in me a...
A. 7 April 2009: I was in this situation once, and really panicked. I did the sensible thing the next day and got the morning after pill, because to fall pregnant by a guy you don't even know is unthinkable. I don't know how long ago this was, but the morning after ... (read in full...)
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