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Should I feel ashamed about being curious about sex?
Q. ok alot of people i kno that is my age are having sex. Nobody pressures me into it cuz they already kno rite off the back i would curse them out lol. But im starting to ask myself wat does it feel like when you have sex because i'm so curious. ...
A. 28 June 2008: Do you think that your friends are actually having sex?
I always remember loads of questions like "Do you know what ... means?" etc. Doesn't mean that they know from first hand experience. Could be they have older sibling or cousin in the know... (read in full...)
I had a comtraceptive implant in March and now I'm torn between being safe and dirty or unsafe and clean
Q. First a little background info. I had the contraceptive implant back in March and the doctor did say that it would take about three months for my periods to sort themselves out. In the first couple of weeks my period was constant then stopped but ...
A. 28 June 2008: Hi Sorry to hear your troubles. I agree you might be unlucky with this kind of contraception. Which other kinds of contraception have you had or are yet to try? You could go back to the family planning clinic and discuss the issues. It does defeat ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for wanting to know how old she was when she lost her virginity?
Q. I am having trouble coping with the fact that my girlfriend won't tell me how old she was when she first had sex. I know who it was with, just not how old she was. I also want to know how many different guys she's been with and who they are. To a ...
A. 26 June 2008: By nature, I was always curious about these things. What it is you just want to feel like you have some common ground and not feel like she has 'slept around' and that you would be just 'another number'. Perhaps to you this is about finding ... (read in full...)
Would having oral sex mean I would be losing my vriginty?
Q. my boyfriend and i want to have oral sex.but i don't want to lose my virginity. so my question is can i lose my virginity if i have oral sex?...
A. 26 June 2008: I assume you are referring to the hymen breaking? Even if this happens you are strictly speaking still a virgin until you actually have sex.
It sounds like you are slowly getting nearer to and ready for having sex. Do I assume you see this as ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to be feeling like this??
Q. do you think im out of order to be unhappy and upset over this? well basicly im 16 and i live in the uk, ive just left school and at the moment ive just finished my exams and am looking for a job like most others my age. ive been goin out with my ...
A. 25 June 2008: Hi I really feel for you.
It doesn't sound like you need to grow up at all. The opposite in fact.
Perhaps your family just see you as being good enough to help out while you are waiting for a job or a college course?
You are very good to ... (read in full...)
He's invited me over but I'm a bit scared in case he's too pushy!
Q. arrghh ok so I've been recently getting to know a guy at my school. He told me he liked me and got me roses for valentines. So far he's been nothing but sweet to me, we're really getting along. but I've heard things about him, he's very promiscu...
A. 25 June 2008: How are things?
It is probably too late, but I would recommend to meet for drinks in a pub or something like that and go home afterwards.
If you do go to his place, say before you enter the door that this is as long as you don't have sex, ... (read in full...)
What is the average age to lose your virginity?
Q. what is the average age to lose your virginity? it's just that i'm a 20 year old male and i haven't had sex ever. yet when someone asked when i lost my virginity and i said i hadn't they called me a weirdo. am i quite old not to have had sex?...
A. 24 June 2008: I was 18.
Don't worry about it; all in good time. Things happen when they feel right, with the right person etc.
Good luck.
Fiona x... (read in full...)
What is the likelyhood of me being pregnant from this??
Q. Hey ... my b/f and I were naked, and he was on top of me - he pre-cummed, but it was on my mons pubis, a good 3 inches away from my vagina. I cleaned it up without letting it drip any further ... what is the likelihood of me getting pregnant from ...
A. 24 June 2008: Please don't take offence to what I wrote. After all I don't think people always do plan to have unprotected sex. After all a guy can take things further without you expecting that to happen, which was where I am coming from. If that happened you ... (read in full...)
What is the likelyhood of me being pregnant from this??
Q. Hey ... my b/f and I were naked, and he was on top of me - he pre-cummed, but it was on my mons pubis, a good 3 inches away from my vagina. I cleaned it up without letting it drip any further ... what is the likelihood of me getting pregnant from ...
A. 22 June 2008: As the other two said, don't worry about it.
However please be more careful, as the next step would be unprotected sex and unplanned pregnancy. Or the morning after pill which is a horrid thing to take.
Take care.... (read in full...)
How do I know when it is OK to be sexually active? I'm 15.
Q. im only 15 yrs old how do i know when im sexualy active because i want to have sex but then i dont want to but i really do want to have sex badly with my bf and how do i tell my bf im ready to have sex with him?...
A. 22 June 2008: For what it's worth, I don't believe you are ever truly ready, until you actually start have sex; if that makes sense?
You don't mention the age of your boyfriend or how long you have been together. Nonetheless don't feel pressured, and there is... (read in full...)
My boyfriend thinks I'm only with him for sex...
Q. Is there a way to decrease a persons sex drive? I'm horny all the time and it's causing tension with my boyfriend because he thinks I'm only with him for sex, I want to prove him wrong....
A. 17 June 2008: A funny thing all this. There are people who worry about having enough sex and then you have a concern about having too much sex. Just thinking of the irony of your situation.
Do I assume you had sex on the first date? If so no doubt that wil... (read in full...)
Something I might regret later?
Q. i have a thing with this guy; were like really close and all but he wont ask me out cause i'm moving in august =/ and we have phone sex sometimes but now that we started to hang out more we get more "physical" . if you know what i mean. i really w...
A. 17 June 2008: I used to agonise over the 'do I don't I thing'.
It sounds like you are only one step away from sex to me. I would say if you have done 'everything but' then you are no doubt OK with having full sex; and this is only a matter of time.
You cou... (read in full...)
I came home late for the first time and now he's mad at me!!
Q. My bf is so mad at me because I went out a few days ago and came home very late...like 6am! However, it was very innocent. My friend and I went to a club. Where we went the clubs don't close til 5am. And also this is my 1st time ever staying out ...
A. 17 June 2008: There is a part of most of us who cannot get to sleep until our other half is home safe. I suspect he was worried for your safety, and how you got home etc. He could have been paranoid about thinking you met another guy.
Compromise is the key,... (read in full...)
Should females tell their male partners the truth about their sexual past?
Q. I read loads of questions about this and seen it myself with a freind, Should females not tell their male partners the truth about their sexual past? if they're going to freak out what's the point? My workmate once boasted to me about how many b/f ...
A. 17 June 2008: It is a tricky thing. On one hand you would expect the guy to have had 'a few' girlfriends before you, and if he said 'only one' would you believe him he he. The ultimate issue is feeling that the other person has had a significant number of ... (read in full...)
Could someone please clear up the 'Hymen Situation'?
Q. I am really confused about the 'hymen' situation, i have been horse-riding all my life - so has my hymen broke!? or will you just never know.... is sex easier when your hymen is broke?? :S...
A. 16 June 2008: There is a high chance your hymen will have already broken. One day, did you find a small amount of blood in your panties? Possibly feel a twanging sensation at one point before finding the blood?
If so then sex will be easier when the time com... (read in full...)
My girlfriend mimicked the noises I make during sex! Am I right to be angry/
Q. Hi All, please help The other night me and g\f were having drunken sex when she suddenly laughed, joke about the noises i was making and then started mimicking the noises i obviously make during sex IE grunting etc When she did this i just ...
A. 14 June 2008: After a few drinks, anybody can say or do things they don't mean, and don't realise they hurt.
Don't worry about it too much; but if you are really fed up about it just mention that you don't want her to do this again.... (read in full...)
My parents say I'm emotionally immature. What can I do?
Q. I'm 17 years old, female, and was recently told by my parents I'm emotionally immature and have been noticably since the age of 8. This was a bit of a shock to me; I didn't realise I was significantly abnormal, and it upset me a lot. My parents want ...
A. 14 June 2008: Sorry to hear of your tough times.
I cannot help but feel that you had an argument and you were told this then? Perhaps you could ask your parents the specifics, of where they are coming from.... (read in full...)
What are anti-depressants?
Q. what are anti-depressants? My dad told me that they make you happier. I would like to go on them if thats the case but I'm too scared to ask for help. I've been depressed for a long time now. I really need help!...
A. 12 June 2008: I agree, please do seek help at the doctors if you need it. That way you will know if tablets might help you or not.... (read in full...)
I just started masturbating... any tips?
Q. hii x i am a 13 year old female x i have been masburating for a couple of weeks now . i need some more techniques !! can you give me some advise x x x plz x ...
A. 12 June 2008: It is a tricky thing to advise; other than do whatever feels right and good to you.... (read in full...)
I'm in a sexless marriage!
Q. My husband and I have been married almost three years now and we barely have sex. We got married sooner that expected because I got pregnant. We had sex all the time before we got married, but after I think we have three times. When I try to talk ...
A. 12 June 2008: I can imagine that his anti-depressant tablets are lowering his libido; and he should speak to his doctor about this. In addition, I believe lack of sex in marriage is a symptom of illness in itself; and if you are ill it is the last thing that will ... (read in full...)
We're on a temporary break but he thinks we are drifting apart for good, how can I reassure him?
Q. hi,me and my other half have been together for a year and a half now and although i love him we recently had a argument,i told him i was going to lay off for a while give each other a break coz i was not in a good mood. we hardly get to see each...
A. 11 June 2008: I have never had a proper break in a relationship. Apart from a few days. So how long has it been, more than 2 weeks? Do you feel upset and hurt and realise what you are loosing? Sometimes an argument can make you realise what you have and a ... (read in full...)
I had my copper coil misfitted and did have unprotected sex before my first check up - your advice, please!
Q. Okay, 6 weeks ago, i got the copper coil, which was painful to have put in, (im 17 and never had a child) and then at my check up yesterday they found it actualy was half way out meaning i wasnt protected at all. I have been having a lot of unprotec...
A. 11 June 2008: I know what you mean, it is painful, I have the IUS the merina coil fitted. I was told that if it would fall out, then this would no doubt be when it is new. Therefore it is hard to say if it was inserted badly or if you were just unlucky.
I rec... (read in full...)
Missing Tampon??
Q. hi, pretty embarassing question here. I'm not sure whether ot not I have a tampon inside of me still or not. Yesterday, I used one and I'm not sure if I took it out or not. I've looked with the use of a mirror and cant seem to see anything...
A. 11 June 2008: No probs! As you say, I am sure you would feel something that doesn't resemble skin and flesh; after all the vagina isn't too long so to speak. Don't worry about, as long as you are ok.... (read in full...)
We flirted and kissed, then texted a week later, now I'm afraid to contact him in case he's busy or not interested...
Q. Well last Saturday week I was out in town with my friend and I meet this fella and we were flirting away, anyway we kissed and he also gave me a nick name which was a compliment. So he text me this saturday night to see where I was and why wasn...
A. 10 June 2008: Hey!
Go for it, there is nothing to loose! If you don't text you won't know if you can have some fun.... (read in full...)
Do I end it or not?
Q. so im dating(1.5 years) a guy 4 years older than me. lately ive been feeling a little disconnected and its starting to really bother me. the romance is dying, he's always busy, and he recently told me he was applying to a job which was on the other ...
A. 10 June 2008: Naturally relationship takes different forms over time. I believe there is a fine line between fading love, and feeling more level headed, and possibly a bit of lost passion. Does that make sense? Where is your gut instinct?
It wouldn't... (read in full...)
Whats wrong with me, why do I still love my ex after everything that he did to me?
Q. Me and my ex broke up about a month and half ago. I still hurt and miss him, i cry alot, and im trying to meet other guys but i find it hard. My ex raised his hand at me on one ocassion, he said he didnt mean and it was sorry. I forgave him!...
A. 10 June 2008: Hi
I am sorry to hear about your bad times.
Be kind to yourself, and give yourself more time to get over things.
I am sure you feel like this because the relationship wasn't all bad. I think it is always hard when you get on with his fami... (read in full...)
Missing Tampon??
Q. hi, pretty embarassing question here. I'm not sure whether ot not I have a tampon inside of me still or not. Yesterday, I used one and I'm not sure if I took it out or not. I've looked with the use of a mirror and cant seem to see anything...
A. 10 June 2008: I hope you are OK, and you managed to get an appointment, and if so, it went OK. Do let us know how you get on.... (read in full...)
After you lose your virginity does your cycle gets thrown off course?
Q. I've heard that after you lose your virginity your cycle gets thrown off course, I was wondering how long is too long though? It's been 36 days since the start day of my last period, and 19 days since I lost my virginity. My periods usually ...
A. 10 June 2008: I am so relieved for you! I bet you are so glad you are not pregnat. Although he used a condom, it doesn't stop you being paranoid and worried though does it?! Done enough of that myself.... (read in full...)
Is it possible to have sex without protection and still not get pregnant?
Q. is there a time when you can have sex without protection and stil not get preg?...
A. 9 June 2008: I have never trusted the rhythm method. It is very old fashioned in my mind, and I guess why contraception was invented because people wanted something reliable. With the rhythm you have to be still open to the chance of pregnancy.
So in this ... (read in full...)
General tips about traveling alone and exploring inexpensively?
Q. I'm travelling on a budget - first stop in America. What things are there to do in Los Angeles and how can I travel around and explore cheaply. Please can anyone give any tips. Or just any general tips for travelling alone and things to look o...
A. 9 June 2008: Make sure somebody at home knows your itinery, and do phone home.
Don't loose sight of things you wouldn't do at home - re safety such as walking alone after dark etc.
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Why is it that guys I met never ever wanted to wear condoms?
Q. Why is it that guys never ever want to use condoms? I mean when you first meet someone, everyone goes on about how you should have safe sex, but when it comes down to it guys do not want to wear them? Don't guys who get them stop unwanted pregnan...
A. 7 June 2008: Just to add, I recon many guys assume you are on the pill without asking. Who knows, but you need the peace of mind.... (read in full...)
Why is it that guys I met never ever wanted to wear condoms?
Q. Why is it that guys never ever want to use condoms? I mean when you first meet someone, everyone goes on about how you should have safe sex, but when it comes down to it guys do not want to wear them? Don't guys who get them stop unwanted pregnan...
A. 7 June 2008: It never ceases to amaze me the number of guys who want a one night stand and yet don't carry condoms. Be vary careful, and be sure to have condoms of your own, as you cannot rely on guys to have their own.
As for refusing to use one, never ha... (read in full...)
Missing Tampon??
Q. hi, pretty embarassing question here. I'm not sure whether ot not I have a tampon inside of me still or not. Yesterday, I used one and I'm not sure if I took it out or not. I've looked with the use of a mirror and cant seem to see anything...
A. 7 June 2008: I agree, just relax. Wash your hands and insert a finger and have a search. Surely they are big enough to touch.
Just go to get checked out, you don't want to risk an infection.... (read in full...)
I've tried everything but can't find my pc muscle!
Q. I'm a guy and I've tried everything but can't find my pc muscle :( I dunno what to do :( I mean i've tried locating the muscle when i stop my urine but can't feel a thing Are there any exercises i can do that doesn't involve actually finding...
A. 7 June 2008: http://sexuality.about.com/od/sexualhealthqanda/f/findpcmuscle.htm... (read in full...)
How long does it take to fall in love?
Q. do u actually think a person can fall in love in a month?...
A. 7 June 2008: I believe love is a very gradual process, that gradually builds up. Yes there is some affection and being fond of the person at first sight. I am too level-headed to believe in love at first sight as such. Although a girl I know said that when we ... (read in full...)
After you lose your virginity does your cycle gets thrown off course?
Q. I've heard that after you lose your virginity your cycle gets thrown off course, I was wondering how long is too long though? It's been 36 days since the start day of my last period, and 19 days since I lost my virginity. My periods usually ...
A. 7 June 2008: As I said I have had so irregular periods in my time, even from two weeks apart to 6 weeks apart. I remembe we hadn't known eachother long, and I was 2 weeks late. I was naturally worried and it was all I could think about, despite using condom ... (read in full...)
I'm 12 and want to have sex! I'm scared but I want to. Should I???
Q. i am 12 i want to have sex with my boyfriend. what should i do? i am so scarde but i want to, so should i have sex with him ...
A. 6 June 2008: You are way too young, the age of consent is there for a reason. It will feel different when you are 16 or 18, like the real thing rather than a kid playing at an adult's game.
It is natural to be curious.
I am even getting to the point whe... (read in full...)
I'm too embarrassed to tell my mum about my period
Q. i'm 12 years old and just started my period about a week ago. i haven't told my mum because it's to embarassing. i have tried a few times but can't bring myself to say it. also i have two older sisters who would make fun of me about it. what should ...
A. 6 June 2008: Just tell your mum. You should be reieved you got your period, and that you are not the last! In fact your mum will be expecting you to get your first period at some point.
It is just a milestone like any other that's all. One which she obvi... (read in full...)
Is it just me, or is anybody else disturbed by 10-13 year olds giving out blow jobs?
Q. I've been watching this board for a couple of days now, and I have to admit that I am shocked at the number of 10-15 year old girls that are asking questions about boyfriends, sex and blowjobs. Is this the norm these days that children start this ...
A. 6 June 2008: I am disturbed by the so called opportunities for kids. In my day (now I sound like an 80 year old) some people started having sexual experiences at age 14/15; which indeed is too young.
The law on age of consent is there for a reason.
Quite o... (read in full...)
Went on a date,we were intimate, its been two days and no word, is he interested?
Q. I met a guy, weve been on a kinda date. talking lots , drinking wine and end the end of it we got intimate. The night was amazing, we got on with lots of things in common. He would make references to the future like when u see my flat... and il ...
A. 6 June 2008: Every guy is different. In some ways sex on a first date can round of a lovely evening. It can be nice to get the first time over with, so you can relax into the relationship itself.
It is also possible not to sleep with a guy and he doesn't ... (read in full...)
Will I ever find that special girl, who's never had sex with anyone before me??
Q. Why does it seem like the whole world is having sex, when I've lived for 19 years and am still a virgin? My friends that I've known for many years are all in these serious relationships with girls that they liked for so long, and are now constantly ...
A. 6 June 2008: Times have changed, and it would appear that very few wait until marriage, or even only have sex with the one partner.
Don't see it as a bad thing if you meet a girl who isn't a virgin. We all have different life experiences.
Although if y... (read in full...)
After you lose your virginity does your cycle gets thrown off course?
Q. I've heard that after you lose your virginity your cycle gets thrown off course, I was wondering how long is too long though? It's been 36 days since the start day of my last period, and 19 days since I lost my virginity. My periods usually ...
A. 5 June 2008: I have been prone to irregular periods by nature, and I wouldn't have said that loosing my virginity had anything to do with it.
If you used condoms, then I am sure you will be fine, although it is a worry isn't it.... (read in full...)
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