He wouldn't want to be with me if he knew about my debt!
Q. theres a guy i really like but i have a major problem i know he likes me and theres the possibility we might start dating but im very scared because my previous ex left me in serious financial trouble and although im sorting it i would be mortifie...
A. 19 December 2009: Yes you are in debt, but it's not like you spend it all on shoes and handbags.
You are sensible and are getting this sorted out.
The only thing you did wrong was letting your ex put you on the paperwork.
So yes, you are a bit poor for a few... (read in full...)
Nice restaurants, drugs and wild sex..not a great way to start!
Q. I had been seeing this guy I met in a bar for a couple of months. Our relationship had been about excess, nice restaurants, drugs and wild sex (we slept together on the first night.) At first he pursued me but then it seemed like he slightly made ...
A. 19 December 2009: Yep you had a fling. And now it's over. He's not going to be back.
He never wanted anything else but a crazy girl to amuse and challenge him.
He didn't want a girlfriend.
If you want a boyfriend then be a girlfriend, and make them wait and g... (read in full...)
He never has time for ME!
Q. im fed up with him i honesly in my mind dont wanna go thru the drama anymore but my heart wont let me end it i dont know know how 2 just leave him alone please someone help me n my dilemma.he doesnt abuse me in any kind of way he just doesnt have ...
A. 19 December 2009: It's ok him saying "Things will change."
But unless he can tell you WHEN, then it's no good waiting around.
If you are this upset then you have to walk away.
Love is ok, but happiness is ALWAYS the most important thing.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
The girl I like is already taken, where can I find another like her?
Q. Hello this is my first time here =) Well i am a cool guy, have friends(popular in school), good looking, and kinda profound, but Ive never had a girlfriend or had sex, last girl i tried to get, well she was 1 year older,i talked to her and all w...
A. 19 December 2009: It sounds like this is the first time you have met a girl who is beautiful and intelligent.
Well the good news is that there are lots of them out there!
You will meet many more girls like this.
She was only number 1.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
He keeps me hanging on, surely this means he likes me?
Q. hello all i need a male perspective pls, i have been friends with a bloke for bout 6 years i always thawt he was amazing but he is in a relationship, so i never let on, about 2 years ago i found him looking at me alot and doing things that were ...
A. 19 December 2009: It's not always about sex for men. But to be honest, yes I think this guy is using you.
He stays with his girlfriend but gets the urge for good feelings, cuddles and a bit of an ego boost, so every couple of months he comes to you.
If he l... (read in full...)
Sex before marriage, is it so wrong?
Q. I'm a 20-year-old virgin and I'm starting to think that I might just possibly be ready for sex...I'm not sure, but I'm also very nervous. I'm not Christian, but I grew-up in a mainly Christian household and when it comes to premarital sex-"the fear ...
A. 19 December 2009: Personally I do not believe it's wrong if you do it in the right way.
Everyone has their own morals and you need to figure yours out.
But the way I see it is that if you wait for marriage before sex you will:
a) rush into marriage young
b) ... (read in full...)
I wonder how people "know" when they meet the person they'll marry for the first time
Q. You hear so many people say, when you meet the one "you just know" and "I knew I would marry him". How many people feel this strongly on a first meeting? Did you know this would be the man you would marry when you first met him? ...
A. 19 December 2009: Sorry to disappoint you but there will never be full on fireworks and a choir of angels to announce the arrival of your handsome prince.
What you DO get is the feeling of a connection. You meet someone, and there's that spark, perhaps a bigger s... (read in full...)
Which do girls prefer - virbrator or penis?
Q. hey, well im 16 and ive been scared recently because my girlfriend got a vibrator, and im afraid it will replace foreplay, and my actual penis. im about average size (maybe smaller) and im still a virgin and leading towards sex. But im worried that ...
A. 19 December 2009: Just to add to what Satin says really:
Vibrators are great, but they are no where as good as real sex with someone you love.
It is exactly the same as you having a wank. Yes it gives you an orgasm. But there's no kissing, there's no love,... (read in full...)
Am I being too judgemental about his past?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for over one year and he loves and adores me and is very loyal. He has had many girlfriends before me, mostly lasting only 3 months. I feel comfortable with this except the one he had before he met me, which on...
A. 19 December 2009: Have you been exactly the same through your whole life? If he met you 5 years ago there is NO WAY that you would have been in a bad phase?
I am sure at some point you have experimented with something, or been through a bad phase, or rebelled... (read in full...)
Won't see him for over a week, hope the feelings don't change
Q. it is now the christmas holidays and i wont see my boyfriend for over a week,, we can keep in contact by texting but i hope things wont have changed after not seeing eachother for this lentgh of time. what can i do to stop this from happening? ...
A. 19 December 2009: Yeah, my husband goes away for 6 months at a time with the army.
If either of you are that childish that you can't last a week away from each other then you would probably have split up over something really stupid anyway.
Distance is a... (read in full...)
B/f's parents are WAY TOO overprotective! How do we deal with this?
Q. So, here's the deal. My boyfriend's parents are way too overprotective. So much it drives me and him crazy. He's going to turn 19 in a couple of months, and yet they don't let him stay out longer than 12 am. We went to a party once and everyon...
A. 19 December 2009: University is expensive!
If he's getting that paid for him then he can put up with them for a few years yet.
Or he can do what the rest of us do and get a student loan and be prepared to get in debt for his degree.
If he has to be in ea... (read in full...)
I have never been sober when I've kissed
Q. Hey, well I still have the whole intimacy problem. Iam with this dude for 2 months now and I've never kissed him sober. Actually I never kissed anyone sober. I dont know what my problem is and I cant get over it. Am I the only person with this ...
A. 18 December 2009: Why don't you see him on an afternoon in a place where you can't drink?
Go and take a walk in the snow and it will happen.
Get some romance in your relationship!
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
We broke up 3 months ago and he still isn't ready to be friends
Q. i broke up with my boyfriend 3 months ago--- why isnt he ready to be friends..? im reallly in love with him still. and im over the whole boyfriend-girlfriend thing but i really wana be friends with him and he wont let me in.. he says it hurts too ...
A. 18 December 2009: He can probably see that you don't want to be friends.
You are in love with him and therefore you can never have a normal friendship. What you want is to get back in his life.
Accept that you can't be friends until you are both over eachother a... (read in full...)
Semen found on backside of boyfriend's underwear?
Q. I saw dried semen on the back (outside) of my boyfriend's underwear. There was more on back side than inside the front of underwear. We live together and after sex he always go right to sleep, (I generally don't), so he doesn't clean up or wipe with ...
A. 18 December 2009: He was having a wank when you came home unexpectedly, so he shoved his pants back on a bit too fast, and then had to swap them round when you had your back turned.
I know you want to hear that he may be having sex with men because that's what you... (read in full...)
This is THE weekend I lose my virginity, I need to prepare myself
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year and we both decided to give our virginity to each other this Saturday night. I just want to know how should I prepare myself mentally and physically? ...
A. 18 December 2009: Well if you are truly ready to lose your virginity then you'll have already done a fair bit of other stuff with him.
Prepare as you normally would, knowing he might want to see you in and out of your pants.
It shouldn't be too different to the... (read in full...)
Is fingering wrong when you plan to stay a virgin?
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for about 3 1/2 months now. We dated earlier in the year for about 2 months and then we broke up and didn't talk for pretty much the entire summer, and then he asked me for a second chance so I agreed. He is not...
A. 18 December 2009: All guys will want sexual pleasure.
It's natural for them to want their girlfriend, and if they didn't then something would be very wrong.
If you want to wait till you are married then that's fine, let him know that so he doesn't get his ... (read in full...)
Does my husband just want his cake and eat it too?
Q. my husband thinks its alright to keep in contact with his ex's. this has been an issue for me because i found messages from 1 of them telling him how much she loves him and misses him. so when i confront him he gets angry with me and says that "am ...
A. 18 December 2009: No you aren't being insecure, but he knows you'll leave him alone when he shouts at you.
I think you need to tell him this needs to stop.
It's not acceptable and shows no respect for you or your marriage.
I'd walk out for a few days and s... (read in full...)
Will I always be alone without a relationship?
Q. I’m turning 19 soon, and I’ve never had a boyfriend. I’ve never been kissed. I’ve never been on a date. I’ve never even had a guy express interest. I’ve never even heard rumors that any guys might be interested. I didn’t attend any school dances, ...
A. 18 December 2009: My advice is to go up to a girl who is fairly nice but you know is a very straight talker and ask her for a favour.
Take her to one side and ask her for her advice on why you miss out on guys.
It could well be something that people think but... (read in full...)
Is my compulsion to make women orgasm an addiction?
Q. Dear Cupid, I'm a 28 year old man and I think I'm addicted to making women orgasm. When I'm with a woman I'm intimate with, I just crave making her cum. It really turns me on, but I actually feel almost compelled to do it. I love, LOVE going...
A. 18 December 2009: Yes you are strange, you should put yourself in a crate and post yourself to the Natural History Museum in London as the "World's Best Boyfriend."
Chill out!!
If you wanted to go round stabbing people then you would have a problem.
This... (read in full...)
Am I right to ignore him?
Q. Recently, i've been ignoring the guy i like because we got really close and then suddenly turned on me one night and started talking really nastily.... I am right in doing so? Should i just walk away from it now to save more hurt or should ...
A. 18 December 2009: My personal rule is:
If someone is not nice to you, then don't speak to them any more.
If people on here could just follow that then there would be no more domestic violence and a lot less unhappy people in the world.
Stuff him. If he come... (read in full...)
Am I stupid for wanting to feel loved?
Q. this may sound bad but i need help im 13 and i just broke up with this amazing guy now i kinda feel like a slut since him ive just been askin guys out and been turned down not because im ugly but cause they really dont know me now i kinda asked out ...
A. 17 December 2009: Nah, you're just young and silly.
We've ALL done stuff with stupid pervy guys and regretted it afterwards.
That attention is one of the best feelings you can get.
But the biggest and best lesson you can learn early on is that it's NEVER EV... (read in full...)
I took the second morning after pill late, am I at high risk of pregnancy?
Q. I took a morning after pill that has two tablets. I was supposed to take the second pill 12 hrs later but I lost track of time and took it 48 minutes late. Am I still okay? Can I take another morning after pill? ...
A. 17 December 2009: 48 minutes shouldn't make that much difference.
But if in doubt go back to the place you got the pill from and get their advice.
Is their nothing in the leaflet about this?
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Advice on how to squirt?
Q. how do I squirt?...
A. 17 December 2009: Do a search for squirt on this site. This question gets asked a LOT!
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Is love just reciprocated obsession?
Q. How can you know if what you're feeling is love.... or something else, such as obsession? When you compare the two states, the only real difference seems to be perspective. Is love really just reciprocated obsession?...
A. 17 December 2009: If it's obsession then you'll both dramatically flop off at the first sign of trouble.
If it's love then you'll accept faults and put effort into making things work after the first rush of "OMG HE/SHE IS PERFECT!!!!!123" has worn off.
Give it... (read in full...)
I am going travelling with a 2nd cousin and might fool around with them as well!
Q. I am a 19 year old girl who is on a gap year before university. I am going travelling for 7 months with my second cousin (we share great grandparents). In the past we have fooled around when drunk, just kisses and using hands, and there is sexual f...
A. 16 December 2009: If both of you have absolutely no interest in each other AND you can both honestly say that if he met a girl, fell for her and wanted to pretty much cut contact with you, then you wouldn't be bothered.
Well friends with benefits is fine.
... (read in full...)
Women's feelings about "needing time"
Q. i cant really make this clear, because im not seeking a clear answer, i just want a generalization from female members, what are reasons for a girl telling a man she wants time to work on herself? I ask because ive recently had a neighbor with whom ...
A. 16 December 2009: Well she's still going to care about him. So she can talk to him still and even give him a friendly hug.
But if he gets a bit over huggy and she doesn't feel comfortable then she's going to push him away.
She's trying to keep him at a friendl... (read in full...)
Can't achieve and erection with his wife, but he can with other women??
Q. Does it ever happen ,that your husband can't get it up with you, but if he can with someone else? My husband has bad erectile dysfunction, but the doc thinks he can do it, it is just on his mind. Well, I don't know ,what do you think?...
A. 16 December 2009: My husband doesn't try it with anyone else to be honest.
If yours is cheating on you then that's one problem.
If he's just having issues with erections then it has nothing to do with anyone else.
Get him to see someone about his stress... (read in full...)
Is love enough when everything else in the relationship is crumbling?
Q. Hello all, I have been with my Fiance for 3 and 1/2 yrs. I don't know what to do. She has 3 children from a previous relationship, (that I love so much) but I am trying to leave them out of this equation, because I cannot stay w/someone just for ...
A. 16 December 2009: Well if you can't communicate you will need help to sort it out.
Tell her it's reached the point of no return and get a counselling session booked.
After a few of them you can see if progress is being made, or if not then you can have an amic... (read in full...)
How do I tell my friend to stop flirting with my boyfriend?
Q. my best friend is always firlting with my boyfriend that i have been dating for a while and i dont know how to tell her cause i dont want to lose her as i did before and she means everything to me but i don't know what to say to her help meeeeeee...
A. 16 December 2009: You don't have to make it a big thing. She's probably only messing about because she knows he's yours and it's all fun.
Just say calmly and quietly to her when you are next alone together that it makes you feel jealous when she does it. You know... (read in full...)
I'm afraid my mom is pregnant...
Q. Ugh, I think my mom's pregnant. I'm 16 and an only child, my parents are married and I love how my life is. I don't want anything to change and i'm in shock.. I feel like crying... My mom is 38 and she got pregnant last year, too, but had an ...
A. 16 December 2009: Part of growing up is that things change and you can't be that little girl to your mum forever and ever.
Yes this is not great for you but unfortunately life is not great all the time.
You'll be moving on and out of the house in a couple of y... (read in full...)
Is love enough when everything else in the relationship is crumbling?
Q. Hello all, I have been with my Fiance for 3 and 1/2 yrs. I don't know what to do. She has 3 children from a previous relationship, (that I love so much) but I am trying to leave them out of this equation, because I cannot stay w/someone just for ...
A. 16 December 2009: Love is not enough.
But since you don't give any details of what kind of problems you two are having it's really hard to advise further.
Many times, a relationship can be saved with a big sit down and crisis talk.
Tell her it's getting... (read in full...)
Is it worth pursuing a relationhsip knowing it can't be sexual unless we're married?
Q. I have been seeing this guy for a little over 2 months now. When we first began seeing each other, it was already understood about his standpoint with God. His faith is strong and he furthers his relationship with Him everyday. I respect that. ...
A. 16 December 2009: Hmm, well the big question is, do you think this guy could be the one you marry and stick with for the rest of your life?
If the answer is "maybe", then stick with it, see what happens.
If the answer is "He's lovely but I don't see it happening... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend backing off?
Q. I'm so confused that I really don't know where to start. Basically my boyfriend's best friend came on to me around a month ago, he got quite pushy but I turned him down repeatedly even though I am a woman and i'm not blind, he is a good look...
A. 15 December 2009: Talk to him about it.
There's no magic advice we can give you to make this better.
Sit him down, just the two of you, and tell him how you feel he's pushing you away.
It could well be that he's feeling a lot of pressure since you've ju... (read in full...)
How do I make my friend stop touching me?
Q. My best guy mate keeps touching me? He comments on the size of my boobs and touches my ass and my boobs, its not as big an issue as it used to be but ive told him not to and its really starting to piss me off now. What do i do to make him stop ...
A. 15 December 2009: Slap him in the face or yank his hair when ever he does it.
He'll soon get the message.
He does it because he doesn't respect you and knows you'll let him carry on because you are silly enough to think he's your "friend."
You'll probably... (read in full...)
Scared my jealousy is making me a bad friend.
Q. My mate is overweight, spotty and has bad teeth, the only attractive physical feature she has is that she has big boobs. She cheats on every single guy she meets (literally) and she has sex with any guy that looks at her. Thing is, i'm sick of guys ...
A. 15 December 2009: Do you know WHY all the guys want her?
It's because word has got round that she's really easy to get sex from.
They want sex and she's giving it out.
They don't LIKE her, they don't RESPECT her, and deep down you know that she doesn't ha... (read in full...)
I am crushing on a celebrity and my friends are teasing me!
Q. hi again aunts, im just curios about something, ok so ive completely fallen for joe off the x factor i mean come on he is fit, any way i told my friend i like him and 4 of my friends who are boys keep saying hes gay an this really annoys me and my ...
A. 15 December 2009: They are teenage boys. They will pick on you about anything.
They will pick on him and you about anything.
They are stupid. My husband did exactly the same thing to his sister's friends who fancied Stephen Gately when Boyzone first came out. ... (read in full...)
He stole my jewelry, told me where it was, but its not there!
Q. i have been seeing a man for a while now, he is an alcoholic who is on and off the wagon. we have had a few problems with him stealing from anyone including myself, when he has done this he admits it when i question him, he was on probation for ...
A. 15 December 2009: If he was stealing to fund a habit then he was probably so off his face that he has no idea where it's gone.
If you don't want to be with him then dump him. I think it's fair enough to say you can't forgive everything he's put you through.... (read in full...)
Women's feelings about "needing time"
Q. i cant really make this clear, because im not seeking a clear answer, i just want a generalization from female members, what are reasons for a girl telling a man she wants time to work on herself? I ask because ive recently had a neighbor with whom ...
A. 15 December 2009: It could be lots of things.
She may love him and care for him but not be IN LOVE with him any more. So she's taking this time to figure out if she actually wants to be with him or not.
There could be someone else who has tempted her and ... (read in full...)
I can't lose weight no matter what I do!
Q. I'm wondering why I can't lose weight no matter what I do. I've changed the way I eat and I exercise regularly, however, I haven't lost a pound. I vary my workouts so that I've been eating super healthy: oatmeal, salads with no dressing, little ...
A. 15 December 2009: Hmmm, well something should be happening.
Unless you are so skinny there is no more left to lose of course.
I think your best bet is to talk to a medical professional and check there is nothing wrong with your metabolism, or anything like th... (read in full...)
I want to have sex but will need to go to toilet first and I can't do this!
Q. i am gay and am ready to receive anal sex with my friend but im to embarrassed to ask to go to the toilet when at his house,so we never end up having sex cus I dont want to. He never asks me if we will have sex, but i know he wants to. So I have to ...
A. 15 December 2009: How about you just say you need to pop to the loo when you first arrive at his house?
If you've been travelling for a while then he's not going to think anything of it.
Also, if this is your first time doing things together then why not jus... (read in full...)
What are some cute and creative gifts to make for your boyfriend?
Q. What are some cute and creative gifts you can make/give to your boyfriend for Christmas?...
A. 15 December 2009: Knit him a scarf in his favourite colours.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
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