Is the weather to blame for my low sex drive, or the fact I never get a night to myself?
Q. The weather has certainly gotten a lot colder in recent weeks. As a student, I try and save money by leaving the heating off in my house. My girlfriend is the same. The past couple of times we've had sex I have not had an orgasm, which is pretty ...
A. 13 January 2010: You don't need a break from sex, you just need to have a break from her!
You need to stand up for yourself and tell her that you just need a day off with your mates doing boy stuff.
Then go out and have a day of drinking and farting and what... (read in full...)
Best way to dump a sensitive long distance boyfriend?
Q. Hi. Recently I figured I really need to break up with my boyfriend. We've been in a long distance relationship from the start, and although I've been able to handle it quite well so far, lately it's really been getting into me. We have been t...
A. 10 January 2010: I know he's not like that now, my point was that my ex BECAME like that because he thought it was the best way to stop me from dumping him once he knew I was unhappy.
As for your boyfriend, You don't say how old you are but it says 18 to 21 so I'... (read in full...)
I have a bucket list about sex
Q. so i'm young. but ive already done stuff, witch was a mistake i got caught up in the moment. and i really regretted it. but now i have this "bucket" list all these things i would like to do before i graduate high school. abd there are a few sexual ...
A. 10 January 2010: YEY!!!!!!
I'm so glad you've decided to wait.
And married lady gives an EXCELLENT point.
You don't stop making lists. I had a list of stuff to by leaving school, a list of stuff to do before leaving uni, A list of stuff to do by the time ... (read in full...)
Best way to dump a sensitive long distance boyfriend?
Q. Hi. Recently I figured I really need to break up with my boyfriend. We've been in a long distance relationship from the start, and although I've been able to handle it quite well so far, lately it's really been getting into me. We have been t...
A. 9 January 2010: I'm a bit of a long distance expert. Not through choice! It's a horrible horrible place to be.
My first boyfriend was just like yours. So I stayed with him, and stayed miserable, and tried to tell him how I felt but that just made things worse as... (read in full...)
Is the weather to blame for my low sex drive, or the fact I never get a night to myself?
Q. The weather has certainly gotten a lot colder in recent weeks. As a student, I try and save money by leaving the heating off in my house. My girlfriend is the same. The past couple of times we've had sex I have not had an orgasm, which is pretty ...
A. 9 January 2010: You can't spend every single day together in a relationship as that is a sure fire way to ruin everything.
You NEED time apart from each other or you'll just both change and then get bored of each other. Then she'll meet a rugged guy who does his... (read in full...)
Still in love with my ex husband after 3 years (kind of) apart
Q. Hi everyone,I have been having relationship problems for just over 3 years now and have come to the conclusion that I could do with outsiders views and suggestions. OK here goes...My Husband(who i"d been with for 11 years) and I moved into our drea...
A. 9 January 2010: Well I think you have to decide what you want, and whether you want it from him, as you don't sound entirely clear.
Do you want a normal man in your life, who lives with you and loves you, OR do you want THIS man in your life in a less than usu... (read in full...)
17 year old virgin with no boyfriend?
Q. Is it bad to be a 17 year old virgin whose never had a boyfriend?...
A. 9 January 2010: Nope, it's great.
Have a look at all the spotty immature pathetic and childish little boys in the years below you at school.
Are you really really upset that you didn't give yourself away at a young age to a guy just like that?
Wait ti... (read in full...)
What are your thoughts on unassisted home births?
Q. I am pregnant and tempted to have an unassisted pregnancy/birth ... I've never liked doctors or hospitals and I'm very much a control freak and a free living hippy all in one. :) I trust my body and i don't want someone to take away my control, ...
A. 9 January 2010: You say pregnancy is not a medical condition, it's just life.
But you seem to think life is some wonderful magical fairly tale.
It's not. It's survival of the fittest and involves a LOT of death.
Have a look at mortality rates for mothers ... (read in full...)
Ignoring affairs...
Q. I am married and I have to say quite happly, my life is wonderful apart from the fact my husband constantly cheats in me.. Sometimes the affairs last weeks some months but never years, he never stays away from home and I know that 80% of his ...
A. 9 January 2010: Wives back in the day have lived with this for years.
Back when your wife was someone you married to provide you with a son and heir and good social connections.
If you want to be like that and stay with him then basically you just have to be ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is not ready to have sex. I feel so rejected!
Q. My bf of two and a half years will not have sex with me. I have never had sex before and REALLY want to with him but everytime I try to initiate it, he turns me down. I have spoken to him about this three time over the past year but he has come ...
A. 9 January 2010: Well unfortunately, if he's not ready then that's his choice.
Is he waiting for marriage?
I think you need to consider this relationship very carefully. What do you see in terms of the future. Could this be a man you'd marry? If so then talk ... (read in full...)
My ex is lonely and wants warmth in his bed. What should I do?
Q. My ex and I hung out for 4 hrs tonight (hadnt seen each other for 4 mo).We talked alot/caught up - good times. Last chick he dated left him confused/kinda sad - he left me the same way after we broke up.It was random and it hurt.(I think we ...
A. 9 January 2010: Awww not sex.... yeah I bet he has the best of intentions about just cuddling you. But within 5 minutes when he's in your pants, I also bet he won't stop and be a gentleman THEN!
You are playing a dangerous game and you may feel like you could ha... (read in full...)
Crying for no reason
Q. My name is darla. Ive been crying for no reason. I would hear a song from my past and get teary eyed. Yesterday I was in school And couldn't figure out a math problem so I got teary eyed and the tears wouldn't stop. what is wrong with me and is it ...
A. 9 January 2010: Hahaha, people are saying you have an emotional disorder just because you got annoyed with something and a bit misty about a song????
Jesus, if that's the case then I have an emotional disorder every month.
It sounds to me like you have really ... (read in full...)
Did he really mean it when he apologised??
Q. It finally ended. The guy I have been liking for months, the one who told me he liked me back, texted me one night and said, "I don't think you should wait for me anymore...I'm sorry." He then went on explaining how so much shit has happened in his ...
A. 9 January 2010: The poor guy sounds like he's having a rough time. He tried to talk to you about it so he obviously trusts you and sees you as a friend. But here you are having a go at him because you aren't getting what you want.
Why not have a think about wh... (read in full...)
Can you get an abortion pill at 14?
Q. hello, i havent started my period because i am just 14 but 4 weeks ago i lost my virginity and i bled quiet heavily afterwards, we didnt have a condom on and i went and got the morning after pill 68 hours later and i told my doctor i had started ...
A. 9 January 2010: You shouldn't have lied to your doctor.
You are probably not pregnant by the sounds of it as you got the morning after pill and haven't started your periods.
You can get an abortion through your doctor or through the family planning clinic.... (read in full...)
Friend keeps breaking dates
Q. i have kept making dates with a female friend but alwyas get an excuse for her not turning up. yet when she wants me there for a date or somthing else, she gets upset if i dont show on time. what can i do to make this an even playing field so to ...
A. 8 January 2010: Next time she stands you up, just let her know you're a bit pissed off about the whole thing.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
How can I make my husband crazy?
Q. Iam a 22yrs old gal young married, love being advertous, funloving, loved to be recognised. My husband is a little rigid i want you to help me with tips that i can use to make him let lose of himself i mean make him crazy ...
A. 8 January 2010: Unfortunately, the man you married is the man you married.
You can try and encourage him a bit but you can't expect him to become someone else.
Live your own life ad find new interests that you can both enjoy together.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
In love with my best friend, but unsure if he loves me back.
Q. I told my guy friend I loved him about a month ago after a fight. For the last year it seems like we keep getting into little fights over absolutely nothing. We have been friends going on seven yrs. now. I met him at work when I was still with my ...
A. 8 January 2010: He's told you that he doesn't love you in that way. No one knows what IS going on in his head. Probably not even him.
But for now, you know where you stand.
Take some time away from him. Go cold turkey and TRY HARD to get over him. You have to... (read in full...)
How can I satisfy my wife?
Q. I have multiple sclerosis and i cannot achieve an erection. I want to share the enjoyment my wife would have with a man who can provde her with an erect penis. We play and touch but nothing replaces an erection. Any advice?...
A. 8 January 2010: It's ALL about the emotional intimacy for us girls. Has she SAID there is a problem? I know you must be feeling awful about this, but it really may not be the problem you think.
Please keep communicating with her because it could be she goes alo... (read in full...)
Should I seek help for my eating disorder or seek help from my boyfriend?
Q. I have an eating disorder I thought was very controlled but due to lots of things happening in my life right now it's getting bad again. My Boyfriend lives two hours away and he can tell something is wrong, but he already thinks I'm depressed and ...
A. 8 January 2010: Talk to your boyfriend by all means but please please please don't use him as a mental health nurse. It's not fair on either of you to do that.
An eating disorder is like any other disease.
You wouldn't go to your boyfriend if you got mild bro... (read in full...)
Should I put some space between us? He doesn't want to commit.
Q. Ive fallen for a guy, who treats me like his girlfriend, but told me he doesnt want to commit. I want to put some space between us, but cant stand not talking to him. Any ideas, on how to let go without any pain!...
A. 8 January 2010: You can't have a pain free time when getting over someone.
You just have to treat it just like giving up smoking.
Go cold turkey, and hang out with lots of friends and keep your mind busy so you don't have time to miss him.
You are doing t... (read in full...)
Was I the bad guy?
Q. i broke up with my ex because he made me feel like every girl was better than me and i was never enough for him.he left me in clubs and would disappear then come back to me, if i disappeared would demand to know where i was. he didn't like me with ...
A. 8 January 2010: He was a dick, you dumped him for being a dick.
He then lied to you and used you.
You need to move on and get some self respect. Find a man who doesn't have massive double standards and treats you properly.
The only thing you are doing wron... (read in full...)
He stood me up to be there for his ex. Should I give up on him?
Q. I met this guy at a get together I was at with some of my friends. We ended up talking for the whole time and by the end of the night we had exchanged numbers and were planning to talk/hang out sometime. He asked me to be friends on facebook and it ...
A. 8 January 2010: Sorry this has happened to you.
You can't blame someone for not hanging up on a girl who says she is going to kill herself so he can go and watch his new girl cheer.
He'd have to be a pretty stone cold bastard to do that.
But he's made h... (read in full...)
He says we will be together but he never wants to see me or talk to me. What is going on?
Q. Hello okay I have this problem I've been with my partner for almost a year..we use to spend every day with each otha now its like he never want 2 spend tyme with me he's says I'm annoying he barley wants 2 talk 2 me on the phne..n when I askd him ...
A. 8 January 2010: So he doesn't want to talk to you or see you... why are you still chasing him?
He's clearly just stringing you on for what ever reason.
If a man's treating you badly and not being a good boyfriend then LEAVE!
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
He has gone all weird, I didnt want our friendship to end this way
Q. I find that things get a bit weird between me and this guy. We came out for a meal in the summer, he paid and the conversation was cool. I visited my old school recently to catch up with some friends and to basically, see him since I didn't do so ...
A. 8 January 2010: Sounds like he's got himself in a mood about something, maybe he wanted you to be his girlfriend and you've not been in touch since the summer so he feels rejected.
Ask him what's going on and talk about it.
If he won't tell you then cut con... (read in full...)
He says he wont do it again, but then he does ..........
Q. I'm so mad right now i really need some advice! Yesterday i went to my friend's house to watch a movie and talk. Before, I called my bf to let him know where i was going and that i wasn't going to be home, so he should call me on the cell phone l...
A. 8 January 2010: Well the first thing you need to do is stop dating 13 year old boys. It's illegal and wrong.
Oh wait... he's not 13? He's just acting like one?
What you need to do is tell him that throwing a little tantrum like this and storming off and... (read in full...)
I ended an unhappy relationship and now he wants me to apologise
Q. Thank you first off for taking the time to read my post. I've been dating my currently ex bf for 3 years and have lived together for about 5 months. For the past few days we've been very unhappy. I was upset because he started acting like he w...
A. 8 January 2010: Awww, how convenient, it's all your fault and that means you have to take him back and be EXTRA nice when he treats you like rubbish.
You tried to talk to him and he wouldn't listen.
He's an idiot and you can't let him manipulate you l... (read in full...)
He says he feels comfortable with me but doesn't want to get too close!
Q. hi guys,when a guy says he wants to be more than friends but is wary and doesn't like getting too close but feels comfortable with you what does that mean?a bit confused!opinions greatly welcomed!...
A. 8 January 2010: It means he's a mess and he's making no sense.
Tell him to give you a call when he sorts his head out but you won't wait for him and are off to find a guy who is over the age of 14 and not scared of girls.
DO NOT SLEEP WITH HIM. Once he's h... (read in full...)
I have a bucket list about sex
Q. so i'm young. but ive already done stuff, witch was a mistake i got caught up in the moment. and i really regretted it. but now i have this "bucket" list all these things i would like to do before i graduate high school. abd there are a few sexual ...
A. 8 January 2010: Awww, we all had those lists. Mine included marrying the guy who presented Blue Peter and learning guitar to start a band.
I still haven't done either of those things and I'm 26.
Lists are great to make as a giggle, but it's not a binding co... (read in full...)
Marriage is good, sex stinks
Q. I am a guy who married someone who was a virgin and disliked oral (the thought of it), tried it reluctantly, but never really got used to it. Although I will freely and gladly go down on my wife, she does not reciprocate. My wife told me to have ...
A. 8 January 2010: This is exactly why I HATE the idea of waiting for marriage to have sex.
You now have kids involved when you should not have married this woman in the first place if you really are sexually incompatible for life.
I think counselling is a... (read in full...)
I could be just making a mountain out of a molehill but I can't help thinking it is devious behaviour.
Q. I feel really cross with my partner. We have been together for 2 1/2 years. One of my major hobbies is dancing. When my partner and I got together we chatted about our hobbies and felt it was important that we had separate hobbies because he ...
A. 8 January 2010: My husband won't dance with me except for very rare occasions like at a wedding.
However he has been known to get drunk and dance with his mates in a bouncing up and down madness, baggy trousers kind of way.
If he was dancing with this woman ... (read in full...)
I want to be able to reconnect with her sexually as well as personally.
Q. I have been married for 16 years. i have e.d. when my wife lets me have anal sex i dont stop when its hurting her. i take viagra and it is really hard to control myself. now my wife is having issues with self esteem and wants nothing to do with me ...
A. 8 January 2010: So hang on, she says stop during sex and you don't..... that's way beyond buying flowers territory, that's thanking her for not pressing charges.
So first off, anal is off the menu for you for a LONG TIME. You can't trust yourself not to rape you... (read in full...)
How EXACTLY should you kiss?
Q. How do people kiss with their mouth closed? like, everything besides french kissing. are both lips supposed to be touching? should your lips interlock (like only kissing one of the lips)? basically, anything more than a peck but less than french ...
A. 8 January 2010: Kissing isn't like that.
It's like asking "how in detail, do you form a connection with someone through conversation??"
It's different for everyone, and different people do different things. That's why kissing is so great, it's a way to get to ... (read in full...)
My mum's weight problem...
Q. My Mum has a weight problem which has got significantly worse lately, and I'm not quite sure if there is anything more I can do to help her. I have been really supportive of her since I was a child. I have done all I can to be encouraging and have ...
A. 8 January 2010: Unfortunately, you can't MAKE your mum lose weight.
It's the same with any other addiction. We get people on here who are determined to miserable, who are determined to stay with bad boyfriends, you can be as supportive as you want but unless t... (read in full...)
My mum's weight problem...
Q. My Mum has a weight problem which has got significantly worse lately, and I'm not quite sure if there is anything more I can do to help her. I have been really supportive of her since I was a child. I have done all I can to be encouraging and have ...
A. 8 January 2010: Unfortunately, you can't MAKE your mum lose weight.
It's the same with any other addiction. We get people on here who are determined to miserable, who are determined to stay with bad boyfriends, you can be as supportive as you want but unless t... (read in full...)
My husband's closeness with this other woman is now affecting our marriage! Please help.
Q. I recently posted a question on here regarding my fiance's 'friendship' with another woman. I got married last month and was told prior to the wedding that he had dicussed how I felt about the closeness of his relationship with the other woman with ...
A. 8 January 2010: I am all for friendships and even close friendships of people of the opposite sex.
It's healthy for a marriage for both parties to have friends on both sides.
But as I said earlier, your other half comes first, and if you get too close to som... (read in full...)
How to deal with my love for her and my trust issues, including her smoking?
Q. I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for five and a half months and we recently moved up to the same college together. We have been having troubles in our relationship, she has bad ptsd which makes her very angry and very stressed very ...
A. 7 January 2010: I know you are young so you need to learn this lesson and get it right now, or you'll have a pretty miserable life.
Being happy should always, ALWAYS be more important, than being with the one you love. She does what she wants and then says "bu... (read in full...)
Not the lifestyle I want
Q. okay i have this problem im 20 yrs old and i dont know why im having this doubt that i might be gay first of all i never fantisised bout a man i never looked at a man and said i want to be wit him or sexual toughts i always thought dat was wrong and ...
A. 7 January 2010: Hello again.
Seriously. You are not gay. If you read enough stuff on the internet you will convince yourself you are a zebra.
Stop obsessing and go and date some GIRLS and you'll find you forget this.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Does it look bad to have foreplay with someone you've been on a couple of dates with?
Q. Does it look bad if you engage in foreplay with someone if you've only been on a couple of dates?. We've known each other for a couplre of months maybe 3 but have only been out twice, used to talk daily. I'm curious because I like this guy, we ...
A. 7 January 2010: I'd hold out for as LONG as you can.
Just keep seeing him in public, in dating scenarios where there are too many old ladies wandering past to allow clothes to be removed.
If you want him as a boyfriend then make sure you let him know you rea... (read in full...)
He was out of order for reading my messages, now I'm so confused.
Q. So ive been chatting to this lad for about 4 months now, we have history but lost contact. We started chatting and getting very close, and i was confused at where we stood with each other, i asked him, he told me he wasnt able to commit to anything ...
A. 7 January 2010: You gave him your LOG IN details??
What did you expect? Every human being would have done just the same thing. Change your password.
As for how to react to him being jealous.... remind him that HE doesn't want anything serious and it's none of... (read in full...)
My mum is over controlling
Q. heres the thing.i just turned 18 and i have been with my mum for 2years now..she left when i was 11 or 12 and we started livin again when i was 16.she has all these rules like dont date,be home by 5pm and all that.she wants me to dothings her ...
A. 7 January 2010: You're 18 so why not get a job and move out?
You are legally an adult so you just have to tell her that you need some more space.
You say you got scared by her looking at you? If you are scared she may get violent then definitely move ... (read in full...)
Has it slipped his mind that I hate noisy bars and clubs? Why is he asking me to go there?
Q. I recently started dating someone who seems really nice and compatible, and things have gone really well between us so far. We've both admitted that we're starting to establish a real emotional connection, plus genuinely good chemistry, etc. ...
A. 7 January 2010: Lots of people "aren't into noisy bars and clubs" but he probably thought you'd feel bad if he went there with all his mates and didn't even invite you.
He hasn't understood that you are NOT "not into" bars, but are "given severe anxiety and pani... (read in full...)
My husband's closeness with this other woman is now affecting our marriage! Please help.
Q. I recently posted a question on here regarding my fiance's 'friendship' with another woman. I got married last month and was told prior to the wedding that he had dicussed how I felt about the closeness of his relationship with the other woman with ...
A. 7 January 2010: Nope, you've done all you can.
Marriage is about compromise and putting your husband / wife first. "Forsaking all others" is what he said in church after all. That doesn't just mean sex.
If he's not willing to forsake all others then he's... (read in full...)
In my senior years, remarried but I'm not happy.
Q. I lost my first wife age 58 16 years ago, also her sister age 56 who was widowed died the same year, life can be a pig, I remarried 12 years ago, the marrage was never consumated because she was raped as a child by her uncle who went to prison. My ...
A. 7 January 2010: Hello again.
You asked this yesterday and were told your best bet is to contact a solicitor. I really don't think we have any english family law experts on this relationship site I'm afraid.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Is my husband just using me???
Q. Me and my husband have been married about eighteen months now, our relationship is long distance as he works away so he views porn online of real life couples having sex. however he wants me to now go online and have sex in front of strangers too. ...
A. 7 January 2010: I don't think this is anything to do with love and respect.
This is to do with his fetishes.
If you want to do it then go for it. If you are not interested and he doesn't take that for an answer THEN it becomes about respect.
If he was using... (read in full...)
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