My boyfriend thinks I'm lying about my bra size. Should I be pissed?
Q. My boyfriend doesnt believe I wear a size d or double-d bra, I know he was just saying that because he wants to see my boobs, but for some reason I got really pissed about it. Is it normal for me to get mad at him?...
A. 5 January 2010: Yes, he's accusing you of lying and also trying to manipulate you into showing him your boobs.
Tell him to try a bit of romance rather than acting like a 12 year old.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Why would my partner be masturbating while they were asleep?
Q. has anyone ever caught their spouse masterbating while they thought you were asleep ?...
A. 5 January 2010: Have you ever woken up really REALLY in the mood for sex, but your partner is fast asleep and has an early start?
Have you ever had a partner who's incredibly grumpy and unsexy when woken up in the middle of the night?
It's a lot easier just ... (read in full...)
My first time was not a good experience and now has me doubting that I might be gay!
Q. im 20 yrs old and im wondering if am i gay??? because i just lost my virginity to a girl complete stranger i dont know i just met her and did it. i thought the sex was gonna be real good cause its my first time but it wasnt hers and it was good but ...
A. 5 January 2010: Seriously let me get this straight:
1. You have no attraction to men.
2. You enjoyed sex with a woman
BUT, it wasn't as good as in the films... so you might be gay?
Sweetie, you do know that films aren't real? Porn is NOTHING like reali... (read in full...)
Depressed, gained weight, and ost interest in sex
Q. I have an issue... I have been increasingly depressed... Summer has came and i've been sad...I'm exactly 200lbs... And i was wayyyy lighter last summer...I'm sad...I've been working out 5x a week- nothing helping. and I'm still 200lbs. I...
A. 4 January 2010: Are you on the pill?
If so then try a different one. It could explain everything.
As for the weight gain, go and talk to your doctor about why you can't shift it. Check there is nothing wrong with your hormones.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
He could be so cruel but now he's being so sweet but I don't know whether to stay with him or not?
Q. Dear Cupid, I am confused. My boyfriend and I have been dating for nearly 2 years now. He is an exchange student, in the states as a college athlete. We have a good relationship now, but he used to be very possessive and controlling. He was neve...
A. 4 January 2010: I've stopped reading half way through.
This guy is abusive. He will not change and he will keep making you miserable for as long as he's in your life.
I really hope you are a "smart girl" and wake up.
Read through what you have written he... (read in full...)
I want to gain weight but not too much!
Q. okay so i bought Ensure Plus yesterday and today i drank 3 of them i dont really like the taste but i was wondering how long do i have to drink it in order to gain weight and how many a day will help me gain 15 lbs in 2 months? i dont want a double ...
A. 4 January 2010: 15 lb in 2 months is a lot. It may not be possible to force your body to gain weight like that and drinking crazy diet drinks could just make you very ill.
Depending on why and where you want to put on the weight will influence the answers ... (read in full...)
How do I get my family to accept him?
Q. I know that I am old enough to make my own decisions but having my family support me is a huge deal for me. I am 26 and just recently separated from by husband of 6 years. We hhave 2 children 31/2 and 18 months. When my youngest son was hositali...
A. 4 January 2010: I'm pretty sure they'll want you to be happy and not expect you to be a nun forever.
Hint to the family member you are closest too that you might have met someone new. They should see from the smile on your face that you are happy again.
... (read in full...)
She has married someone else - but I miss her so much..
Q. Hi, I am 23 years old male.We were in a relationship since past 4.5 years(College time). After college, her parents forced her to get married with someone else. she tried to convince them for me, But finally she was also saying the same thing(I want ...
A. 4 January 2010: I'm so sorry that this has happened to you.
All you can do is keep trying to move on. Surround yourself with friends, and try not to let yourself think of her.
Look around at other women and try and see what is beautiful about them too.
It ... (read in full...)
My ex is stalking me, what can I do or say to him?
Q. My ex and I dated for about ten months and broke up in the beginning of September. He was the crazy, jealous, obsessive type who was very controlling and would get angry about everything. He didn't have a job, lost his license, and i had to pay for ...
A. 4 January 2010: I'm pretty sure the police would rather go and have a word now, than wait for him to do something bad. Even if they any take any formal action at this point.
Tell him to leave you alone or you'll get the police involved, it should be enough t... (read in full...)
Husband told our friends I was clingy and now I'm troubled about what he said
Q. My husband and I have been married for 7 months and we've been together for 2 years. We've always had a great relationship-he loves to cuddle, he's taken me to new places and taught me new things. We go fishing together every chance we get during ...
A. 4 January 2010: I think you are over analysing a bit, but to be fair it was mean of him to say something like that and make you wonder.
You say his previous girls have been very distant... it could be that if you are normal he thinks you are clingy compared... (read in full...)
Should I listen to my Mum or break up with the boy I love?
Q. i need help i am in a long distance relationship with a boy called sean but my mum isn`t happy with the relationship. i love sean more than anything and we want to meet up etc but mum told me that she isn`t happy with me dating him and she is t...
A. 4 January 2010: You say you are in a long distance relationship...
Do you mean this is a boy you know and see fairly often but who is far away? Or a guy you've never met?
Your mum probably has her reasons and I think you need to talk to her calmly about wha... (read in full...)
My ex is stalking me, what can I do or say to him?
Q. My ex and I dated for about ten months and broke up in the beginning of September. He was the crazy, jealous, obsessive type who was very controlling and would get angry about everything. He didn't have a job, lost his license, and i had to pay for ...
A. 4 January 2010: You can't over react at this point.
If his has been going on for 4 months and he still isn't listening then it's time to involve someone else.
There was a man here in the UK who shot his ex girlfriend and 4 year old daughter just before Chri... (read in full...)
Does the problem lie with me? Is there any hope for this relationship?
Q. Hi Firstly a little back ground on my GF. She used to be a player and have flirt with other man. Now she has pledge her fatefullnees to me but still has many male friends. She talks about sex very casually to them and she seems to share many...
A. 4 January 2010: No the problem is with her. She agreed to cut contact and then she lied about it.
If she knows she is hurting you but carrying on doing it then she doesn't care about you.
I think the time has come to let her go off and chat with these men w... (read in full...)
I've been single for 8 months and I hate it!
Q. Ive been single for 8 months now and i havent had sex. I dont do one nite stands neuer had one never will. Ive only ever had longterm relationships.of 5 years and 3 year im 26 I dont want a one nite stand because that is not me having random sex ...
A. 4 January 2010: Yeah cuddles are great.
All you can do is keep dating. You'll meet someone eventually, you just have to give it time. Be selective though! If you get warning bells going off in your head, then dump the guy, don't waste your time just because ... (read in full...)
Does his reply mean he cares for me at least a little?
Q. I have a very dear friend (more like a crush) who is in Afghanistan deployed right now. I wrote to him for New Year's and I sent him in the note something like" I know I'm the last one in your friend's list,but I want you to know I care for you". I ...
A. 4 January 2010: In Afghanistan he's going to be so bored that he's going to write to anyone.
I really don't think you should over analyse every little nice thing he says though. You'll drive yourself insane, and what if he comes back and just wants to have a m... (read in full...)
Should I get the authorities involved about my psychotic mother?
Q. I posted on here a couple weeks ago about how I wanted to fly out and see my long distance boyfriend. I'm 19 and live at home and my parents are refusing to let me go. I bought the ticket and took off work already. Well my flight leaves tomorrow ...
A. 4 January 2010: As far as I'm aware you are 19 and therefore an adult. Get a taxi, but when you get back, move out.
Why don't they want you to go?
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
He dumped me because he likes me???
Q. Im a bit hurt, I just started seeing a guy about 6 weeks ago, he pursued me, and we met up once or twice a week for the past 6 weeks. Tonight he told me he likes me a lot and it frightens him and he would rather finish with me now than panic about ...
A. 3 January 2010: Sounds like the guy has issues.
However, I will give you the same advice I give anyone in your situation of any age.
Tell him you want him back and that it will be too painful to be in his life as "just friends." Let him find out what he's go... (read in full...)
Is it possible to love someone but not want to be close to them or show it, or is he lying?
Q. Hi there I am in a similar situation to many of the former posters in this forum and do not know what to do...I am at my wit's end. I met my now husband in 2006 10 and when we first dated he was very affectionate and enjoyed sex and even initiat...
A. 3 January 2010: I don't think CO has anything to do with your marriage problems.
I take it you have been keeping things up at your end? Keeping the romance, and the little things?
I think he just needs a kick up the bum. You've been to counsellors, he'... (read in full...)
How to make her first time special? (and calm my nerves about it?)
Q. I have been with my gf for 4 months and she rocks my world. Our relationship is great, but we haven't had sex yet. She's a virgin and I'm beyond nervous about it. I lost my virginity when I was 17 and it was a drunken mess. I really want to make ...
A. 3 January 2010: If you have the cash then get a nice hotel room for the night, then buy her a nice meal, take her back and have it all set up so there is everything ready. (CONDOMS NEARBY!!!)
Have a drink with your meal but not too much.
And just take it rea... (read in full...)
I got off with my friend's girlfriend when she was drunk.... now what?
Q. Hey there! Something strange happened this new year's eve. I went to a friends place to celebrate. There were 4 of us (me, my brother, friend and the one who invited me). We got pretty drunk and at 1 am in the morning the girlfriend of th...
A. 3 January 2010: My advice is to keep it as a nice memory but NOT MENTION IT TO HE OR ANYONE!
She cheated on her boyfriend when she was VERY drunk. Do you really want to break them up and make him want to punch you?
She is your friend's girl and you betrayed... (read in full...)
He has feelings but doesn't want to get back together. How can I harness those feelings?
Q. Hi, my boyfriend and I broke up a while ago. We've been separated for the past 6 months due to job relocation. He's back. We've seen each other. I haven't gotten over him. I can't tell if he's gotten over me but I do know he doesn't want to get ...
A. 3 January 2010: If you get into the friends zone or ever WORSE the friends with benefits zone then you will never get him back.
He'll have everything he wants from you so why commit when it's simpler to just keep things as they are.
If you want him back th... (read in full...)
Advice for a recently ex-virgin please....
Q. so i lost my varginity 2 days ago and after i didint feel anything but when i woke up my stomach felt achey and strange and i also bled for the next 2 days but that just stoped today but i still have a weird stomach ache. we used a condom so i ...
A. 3 January 2010: Since you are very young, your body probably wasn't quite ready for sex and could well be bruised inside.
It's going to have effects on you but you'll probably be fine after a week.
The reason you didn't feel anything is probably as you ... (read in full...)
We're both virgins but he loses his erection whenever we try to change that!
Q. me and my boyfreind have been together for almost a year now. we really love each other but theres just one problem- we still haven't slept together. We both really want to but whenever we try it just doesn't happen. He looses his erection and can't ...
A. 3 January 2010: Caring guy has it in one.
It's nerves that cause him to lose it and he gets nervous that it's going to happen and round and round in circles you go.
Stop trying for sex for a while and just stick to foreplay. (although stick a condom on him if... (read in full...)
Was it a mistake to leave that V-mail?
Q. My ex and I broke up about a year ago and I contacted him in September and he called me back a few minutes later and I explained my regrets and how I know what went wrong etc etc Basically he wasn't looking to jump back in with both feet like we ...
A. 3 January 2010: You've had your say now so just leave it at that and move on.
Calling him and apologising once every couple of months and checking if he's angry with you won't make him want you back.
He can tell you are obviously still very very sensitive a... (read in full...)
Who is at fault: The girl for making inappropriate sexual comments, or the guy for not standing up to her and setting clear boundaries?
Q. When a girl is saying inappropiate sexual type comments to your bf, who is responsible? The girl, or is your bf responsible for standing up to her and making sure the boundaries are clear? My bf dosesnt see himself as having any responsibily in ...
A. 2 January 2010: My advice is to tell him again and when he says your feelings are invalid, then tell him "well that just means you don't care about me in the way a good boyfriend would do. That's not good enough for me."
Dump him on the spot and walk away.
... (read in full...)
I'm worried I might just be her safety net until she meets someone better!
Q. my gf broke up with me 3 months ago i dated this girl for three years.....two and a half were great. the last months we fought a lot but i was still suprised when we broke up...i just thought it was something we could get past...we took some time ...
A. 2 January 2010: To be honest I think half the problem is that you are letting her have complete control here and that is very dangerous.
You need to talk to her and tell her that although you know she never wants to hurt you, you think she's being very unfair k... (read in full...)
Do you think what happened meant something?
Q. I kinda have two questions. Firstly i'd your opinion on if you think anything could come of this and secondly i need some help talking to this friend of mine. Heres the situation. I've known him afew years now, always thought he liked me, i alwa...
A. 2 January 2010: To be honest hun he sounded drunk.
He may be all sweet and sensitive and cute, but think about this. You've liked him for ages and it's ALWAYS you that has to do the chasing.
Even if you hang round for another 3 years and he FINALLY makes a ... (read in full...)
Growing tired of my friend
Q. I have a friend who I've known now going on 11 years. We're now 25, but she has grown to be very competitive and brags all the time. I never try to compete or rub anything in her face but that's how she is. I always support her but she just see...
A. 2 January 2010: You know what you have to do so just do it.
Stop calling her and if you see her and she insults you then tell her that you are sick of it and don't want to hang out with someone who is nasty to you.
I understand you feel bad, but life is too ... (read in full...)
Ex: Its like he has 2 minds or something!
Q. Hi Aunts and Uncles. I have posted here before and got some helpful advice so I'm back again! I'm really confused about the behviour of my ex. We split up about a year ago but stayed in touch. During arguments he has threatened to change his ...
A. 2 January 2010: It sounds like he doesn't know what the hell he wants at this point.
If you want to get back with him and make it work then you HAVE to learn to communicate with him!!
Talk to him and be honest. Tell him you still love him and you want to know... (read in full...)
Marriage misery!
Q. I have been married a long 29 years. We certainly have had our down time. Having one now. Background includes some physical abuse that he will not admit to. He now stays in his room in bed all day everyday we are not at work. I have arranged ...
A. 2 January 2010: I think if you've tried counselling and you've stuck around till now then it's time to consider leaving. I know you say you can't afford a divorce but you can separate.
Extract yourself.
Get your bank accounts in order and find a place to go.
... (read in full...)
Compensation for accident?
Q. I slipped and dislocated my soulder as i was exiting a public transportation (TTC street car) the supervisor came and took notes he also told me just relax when i discharge from the hospital. i am planning on sueing them. do you think that 'ill ...
A. 2 January 2010: Well if you can't work and the company is at fault then you'll get enough cash to cover your expenses till you can work again.
Please don't go for any of this "give me cash for the pain and suffering involved." It sounds like you tripped over you... (read in full...)
No Contact Question
Q. So how does no contact work when my daughters involved?...
A. 2 January 2010: Only talk to him about your daughter.
If he texts / calls and wants to talk about anything else then don't respond, and just tell him you have to go.
You only need to arrange delivery of your daughter to him and collection again. Plus basi... (read in full...)
I'm almost 20 and I'm bored of porn. Is this normal?
Q. I'm 19 years old- nearly 20- and I'm already bored of porn. It does not arouse me at all any more. It often bores me or disturbs me. At best it amuses me, but it is never arousing to me. I find myself turning to my imagination, or remembering past ...
A. 31 December 2009: You've figured out the secret that most men will never ever get...
Porn is fake and boring. As a woman, I find it very rare to find porn that you can't look at and say "She's faking it. This is just aimed at dim drunk men."
The fact you can see... (read in full...)
Leaving for the army! Should I marry him?
Q. My boyfriend of about 3 months told me an hour ago that he was leaving for the army in a few hours i dont know what to do he also asked me to marry him but im scared that he will get hurt im 15 and hes 19 anyone know what i should do? ...
A. 31 December 2009: The fact he gave you a few hours notice and lied to you about it till now is not a good sign.
The fact you are also asking the internet whether you should accept is also a very bad sign.
Tell him you'll try and wait for him but if it gets too m... (read in full...)
How do I not jeopardize our friendship?
Q. ok so ever since my friend and i got drunk, i've started to have feelings for her. we've gone as far as fingering each other, but we were both drunk when we did it. my trouble is i don't know if i should tell her i'm starting to have feelings for ...
A. 30 December 2009: Yeah, but I'm into a lot of sex, until I meet someone I like and then I am romantic because I actually LIKE that person.
It's worth asking how she feels about it and if she'd be willing to take a chance.
If she says no and it gets a bit awkwa... (read in full...)
We're both heading off to different schools so she decided there will be no sex, Is it worth continuing this relationship?
Q. I'm home from university and I've entered into a relationship of some sorts with a local girl. We've been seeing each other for a few weeks and we're having a nice time, but unfortunately we both know that this will all have to come to an end in a ...
A. 28 December 2009: Sorry hun, but she's made her choice.
She doesn't want to have sex with a guy who is going to leave her. So you will have to put up with that or if you can't take it then cut contact now.
It could well be that she is a virgin, or only been wit... (read in full...)
How do I not jeopardize our friendship?
Q. ok so ever since my friend and i got drunk, i've started to have feelings for her. we've gone as far as fingering each other, but we were both drunk when we did it. my trouble is i don't know if i should tell her i'm starting to have feelings for ...
A. 28 December 2009: So if you are complete opposites, why are you such good friends?
It seems to me that you have a good friendship and sexual attraction so you'd be great together!
Why not just go for it?
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I like her sober, but I don't like the clingy, crazy girl she becomes when drunk...
Q. Ok, so I have slept with my friend a few times now... She is cool when she is sober and I like her but when she gets really drunk she gets really crazy and clingy. I dont do clingy! I met her at the pub the other day and she was completely off her ...
A. 28 December 2009: So are you even wanting to be her boyfriend? Or just her friend and have sex with her?
Half the problem may be that she really likes you and feels like she's being used.
If you want to be her boyfriend then tell her but tell her you want to ... (read in full...)
Raped and having difficulty coping with the what ifs...
Q. On December 2nd 2009 I was grabbed on my way home and raped by a man I'd never seen before. I went to A and E and got given PEP. They said that if he was positive the chance that I will get it considering I'm taking PEP is less than 5%. I remote ...
A. 28 December 2009: I think you need more help than people on the internet can give.
Here are some websites with trained people who can give professional advice.
http://www.rapecrisis.org.uk
http://www.hiddenhurt... (read in full...)
Is my wife trying to break my attachment to her by being unemotional?
Q. Hi everyone whats all this about can you help me, im going mad. Over the last 12 months my marriage has broken up, we were together for 7 years. Myself and my wife have had affairs, She moved out some months ago. Two weeks ago we both admitted...
A. 28 December 2009: I'm aware this is basically one more way for you to get at your ex as she has commented below.
But "Why is she behaving like a prostitute?"
Seriously? You honestly believe that we are supposed to believe your honest intention when you slander... (read in full...)
Why did he do that?? Am sooo upset :(
Q. am working temporary for christmas sales.. and this guy there.. i liked him when i saw him.. i thought it was mutual cos everytime i look up hes looking at me..but i ignored him.. so he came up to me and started talking to me.. we work toge...
A. 28 December 2009: You're asking why he chatted up another girl?
Well hun, he's obviously not into you in any kind of serious way.
You're probably pretty and fun to flirt with but that's all he's after.
Just tell yourself he's a dick and you are lucky you fo... (read in full...)
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