Do I have a problem? My sex drive is through the roof!
Q. I'm a active healthy, woman, I work, go to school, eat and exercise, and as of lately, my sex drive has gone through the roof, I masturbate at least 2-5 times a day, I don't want to call anyone over because the two men I got gets tired, do you think ...
A. 7 December 2009: It could be that your hormones have gone a bit crazy this month.
This happens sometimes due to lots of things. I bet you have had months where you've had really bad PMT and been miserable for a week or so?
If it hasn't gone away by next mon... (read in full...)
Is this normal? Am I reflecting psychological issues about my absent father onto him?
Q. A few months ago i started seeing a ob-gyn, cause i have problems conceiving etc. this is a man that is old enough to be my father and i'm almost 30. I feel a strong weird connection with this man, on one of my visits i was bummed out when i saw t...
A. 7 December 2009: He's powerful, being nice, and has the power of being able to give you a baby.
It's hardly surprising that your subconcious is projecting all kinds of crap onto him.
If you are trying for a baby then I assume you have some kind of man around to... (read in full...)
I'd like opinions on this gift!
Q. Hi all, My girlfriend has been saying that she wants a watch for a while and has said that she would treat herself to one when she gets a better job. She has an interview for a very nice job this friday and i thought if she gets it i can treat he...
A. 7 December 2009: To be honest, (and having been rejected by about 10 interviews this last year) she may well feel really guilty about accepting this watch if she doesn't get the job. She will KNOW that you bought it as a congratulations and she failed.
There... (read in full...)
I am worried about being embarrassed during anal sex!
Q. i am a 17 year old gay male and am ready for receiving anal sex. I have fingered myself on many occasion and found this quite enjoyable. However, I am worried about being embarrassed during anal sex, due to my anus smelling or tasting bad. I am also ...
A. 7 December 2009: You are going to be using condoms and lube as satindesire has wisely said to that will solve a lot of your problems.
But what you are worrying about it all just the natural stuff.
Sex is a messy smelly hairy noisy scary thing. If you're good a... (read in full...)
How do I nurture my needy girlfriend and show her that I love her more?
Q. So my girlfriend and I have been goin out for 8 months, things have been great, but now all of a sudden she says "i dont nurture her". I wait on her hand and foot when we are together, always giving her compliments as well. her ex boyfriend was ...
A. 7 December 2009: She's demanding that you love her MORE and "nurture" her???
This girl sounds like she's very demanding!! Are you sure you want to keep trying because it sounds like nothing you do will ever be good enough.
She doesn't need a MAN to nurture h... (read in full...)
I don't feel like 'oh my god I did it' or anything like that... is something wrong with me?
Q. I’m 27 and the other week had sex for the first time. I’m not religious so I wasn’t waiting for marriage, I just didn’t find the right guy to sleep with while I was dating…and in the past guys left me because I wouldn’t give in to sex early on in ...
A. 7 December 2009: It's the same with most things... the build up to it is so intense that when it's all over you are left with a massive anti-climax.
The important thing is that you are happy with how it turned out and with sex, it's something that gets better a... (read in full...)
I have two friends who generally are not very respectful.
Q. i have 2 friends who generally are not very respectful. they both think their amazing and a lot of people don't. but anyway we were having a conversation and one of them told me that she treats the upperclassmen in the drama department like ...
A. 7 December 2009: Clearly, your friends are idiots and they are soon going to learn that this will come back and slap them in the face.
What you need to do is stop hanging out with these girls as you are better than that and you don't want people turning on you j... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's divorce isn't going through because she shreds the papers and mails them back.
Q. Hello all. I recently started dating a man who I have cared for deeply for a very long time. When my exboyfriend left me, he was really good to me and let me know that I was worth something, even if my ex didn't think so. We've been friends for...
A. 7 December 2009: Clearly, yes, this is a problem.
I don't know what he's done to the poor woman but he needs to go round there and make peace with her.
Tell him he needs to go and make friends with her again, and give her some closure so SHE can feel ready t... (read in full...)
Should I marry him?
Q. I made a rash decision to have a baby girl with a man whom I dont love, but he loves me very much. He is 10 years older than me, and at a point in life where he wants to start a family. I don't love him, but I want my daughter to have a family. ...
A. 7 December 2009: If you marry him then you will be using him for his parenting skills and love and money.
If you meet someone you really love then you will eventually leave and break his heart.
If you leave now you will also break his heart but at least you won... (read in full...)
She tells my sister she likes me but acts like she doesn't!
Q. Hellow as you can see im tigger and im a female ther is this girl that ii like and I told her that I like her see the thing is I never liked a girl befor but when I first seen this girl something about her jus pulled me to her I told her I liked her ...
A. 6 December 2009: Why not ask her why she's acting like this?
Or better yet, ask her out.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Why do girls stay with the bad guys?
Q. Why do girls always stay with guys that they either dont like or are mean to them? I liked this one girl a few years back and i wanted to be with her but she had a boyfriend, and she would tell me that she kinda liked me and could see something bu...
A. 6 December 2009: They do it because they are idiots.
Any girl with a brain would leave a man who didn't treat them right.
Try and meet girls with some common sense.
You do meet these girls who are taken, and then KEEP seeing them until you are smitten kn... (read in full...)
I can't force myself to go on anymore
Q. Hi everyone, I have broken up with my boyfriend about 3 months ago and we had been together almost 8 years. He went to study abroad and we therefore decided to split, but its very very hard and i cry everyday. The thing is im also suffering from p...
A. 6 December 2009: Go back to your doctor and get back on the pills.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is a bar star! What do I do?
Q. My boyfriend is a barstar and I need some advice Im not a fan of his behavious and dont know what to do. We have been dating for almost 4 months. He goes out almost every weekend to the bar and almost always gets drunk, passes out at home and wake...
A. 6 December 2009: He likes going to bars..... So you can either demand that he changes his life and friends and becomes the person you want....
Or you can find a guy who doesn't like bars to be your boyfriend.
I love going to bars, and yes sometimes people... (read in full...)
How do I get my fiance's ex-girlfriend to leave us alone?
Q. My fiance's exgirl friend wont leave him alone. Last night she texted him and asked him how big his dick is. She knows we are together and we are getting married,but she doesn't stop trying to get him back. I've tried talking to her calmly but it ...
A. 6 December 2009: So you'd rather use violence and get a criminal record for assault, than use the law to your advantage?
Your boyfriend will be quite unimpressed with you when he has to bail your bleeding face out of the police station.
You have clearly alr... (read in full...)
How do I block porn sites on my computer?
Q. Hello, I have been trying to block porn websites from my computer and I followed it tells me to do : open Internet explorer tools Internet options click on security tab restricted site sites add the porn site which you want to block...
A. 6 December 2009: You should be able to download some free parental controls software pretty easily.
Google it and see what you come up with.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
My life is boring and I get jealous of other peoples lives!
Q. I'm 15 and my life is so boring i don't get to go out much because i don't know anyone so i stay at home all the time. I have one friend but he's boring as a stick he's the type of good person i wanna go out with but he doesn't like to do anything i ...
A. 6 December 2009: Yep, being a 15 year old SUCKS.
My life was the same as yours. But the one thing I can say is that it gets SO MUCH BETTER in a couple of years time.
Just bide your time, work hard at school and then when you head off to uni in an amazing city ... (read in full...)
Can I be pregnant if the guy cums on my inner thigh and I had jeeans on?
Q. Can I be pregnant if the guy cums on my inner thigh and I had jeeans on?...
A. 6 December 2009: Nope.
Take a test if you are worried.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I don't want to ask or accuse him of cheating when I'm not sure but I don't want to be played!
Q. hi i'm amanda, i'm 17 and so is my boyfriend, josh. we've been dating for 7 months. ive been really upset lately and i don't know what to do about it. i have a feeling that my boyfriend is cheating on me. He's always around his ex girlfriend, ...
A. 6 December 2009: Talk to him and tell him that since you've been cheated on in the past it's bothering you that he spends so much time with her.
Tell him you trust him but need a bit of reassurance and for him to perhaps spend a bit less alone time with her.
... (read in full...)
I feel stuck in my own personal rut and I don't know how to get out of it!
Q. My boyfriend and I split up today. We had our first arguement 2 months ago and things went downhill from there. His response to the arguement was to ignore me for half a week, my response was feeling very insecure and felt I was walking on ...
A. 6 December 2009: Well the good news is that you are rid of your useless boyfriend! Yey!
Cut contact with him and your life will improve pretty fast.
Next, you need to sort your job out.
Now you are single, the world is your oyster! Why not get a job in a s... (read in full...)
How do I get my fiance's ex-girlfriend to leave us alone?
Q. My fiance's exgirl friend wont leave him alone. Last night she texted him and asked him how big his dick is. She knows we are together and we are getting married,but she doesn't stop trying to get him back. I've tried talking to her calmly but it ...
A. 6 December 2009: Could you ask his sisters NOT to pass on his number?
If you try and settle this woman to woman it's going to get messy and she;s probably going to use it as an excuse to start a fight.
Get him to tell her that he WILL call the police if he hea... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for me to expect her to pay a little more attention when I talk about things I'd like?
Q. I always listen when my wife is talking about the items she'd like, then I can get her the perfect gifts for Christmas and her birthday, even if it's months away. All year I mention things I'd like, just as she does, and around Christmas she always ...
A. 6 December 2009: Do what I do. Make a list and stick it to the fridge in November.
Then add things to the list as you think of them.
It's less subtle but gets results.
Good Luck!! xx
... (read in full...)
How do I get my fiance's ex-girlfriend to leave us alone?
Q. My fiance's exgirl friend wont leave him alone. Last night she texted him and asked him how big his dick is. She knows we are together and we are getting married,but she doesn't stop trying to get him back. I've tried talking to her calmly but it ...
A. 6 December 2009: YOU don't do anything. If YOU try to talk to her calmly then it will make the situation worse.
If you want her to leave you alone then HE has to get rid of her.
Tell him you are sick of this and you want HIM to deal with HIS ex. Get him to e... (read in full...)
Does anyone know the fastest way to get in shape?
Q. Does anyone know the fastest way to get in shape?please im desperate,my 25 anniversary is coming up ? I need to get in shape in just a couple months and was wondering if you had any diet and exercise ideas that are cheap and give results? please g...
A. 4 December 2009: Eat healthily and go for a walk. Or go for a swim if there is a pool near by.
There are no magic methods.
You just need to burn off more calories and take a few less in.
Borrow a dog and go for a long walk this weekend.
Good Luck!! ... (read in full...)
What can I do to make him pay more attention?
Q. What can I do to make him pay more attention? I've been in a relationship thats coming upto 3 years!! My bf's completely changed, doesn't make an effort with me, doesn't make time for me but when I suggest we should break up he can't say no, bu...
A. 4 December 2009: Just to say I agree entirely with Caring Guy.
This thing has run its course so dump him and move on.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
My mother is jealous and hurt because she thinks she's not involved enough with planning my wedding!
Q. I am getting married soon. And preparing for the wedding. Nothing has been really stressfull for me yet because it is a small wedding. My mother is upset at me because she says that I am not sharing anything with her and that when a daughter ...
A. 4 December 2009: Ask her what more she wants?
It's probably a case that it's more then emotional side that she wants to be in on than the practical.
So you can let her do the seating plan and pick the table decorations but if you only get EXCITED and boun... (read in full...)
She broke up with me. I'm unsure of the next move.
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for 2 years. I am 33. She is 35. About a year ago she went through a period of being more distant than normal, but it came down to her needing to take more space for herself, which I welcomed. It passed and we ...
A. 4 December 2009: You're dating a girl in therapy... she's going to have lots of issues going on.
I'm all for you being "there for her."
But you run a SERIOUS risk of having her use you as an emotional crutch until she's ready to move on and date some other ... (read in full...)
My theory is that all men exaggerate, so most women have no idea what size penis they are having sex with.
Q. may seem like an odd post. My girlfriend keeps going on and on about how massive my penis is. but its not its average. its 6" long and 5.4" girth. She says it all the time and if she holds it in two hands she laughs and says god its massive. ...
A. 4 December 2009: She's being nice to you.
When you say that she is the sexiest woman on earth is that factually correct?
No, she is sexy to you, and you want to make her feel good.
You are big to her and she wants to make you feel good.
We women have s... (read in full...)
How can I rely on someone who acts like this?
Q. i've been in a relationship for the past 4 years and i try to make things work out, but now, i'm exhausted! Since my bf and I spent the hollidays with his family last year, we decided to go to my home town, and spend at least christmas with my mothe...
A. 4 December 2009: The fact that he's willing to use you, and doesn't care if he upsets you... that means that you really do NOT want to get married to this man.
A man who loves you would not be so selfish. Please don't waste any more time on this man.
Leave h... (read in full...)
Are relationships just about love or is there more to it?
Q. My ex and I broke up about six months ago, but all the feelings are still there. Lately he and I have been talking about getting back together, but I told him I wanted to wait to meet up in person and see where things stand (I'm at school 800 miles ...
A. 3 December 2009: It's about WAY more than love.
Any idiot can fall in love, and love comes and goes. It changes and is very different at different times.
To make a relationship work takes effort, and thought, and respect, and forgiveness, and patience. And th... (read in full...)
Is flirting considered cheating?
Q. If your in a relationship, and you flirt with someone else would you consider that to be cheating? I haven't done this, i'm just curious to what people think......
A. 3 December 2009: If you're having a bit of a flirt and it's all in fun then no harm done.
With this kind of thing it's always more about the intention than the act.
If you flirted with a view to making someone jealous, or to lead a guy on then that's bad.
I... (read in full...)
Should I go against her advice and buy her a Christmas gift?
Q. Ive been "seeing" this girl for a couple weeks now, we hang out a lot, sleep over, bring each other food to work etc.., basically we get along very well and she has told me she likes me, but she is in the middle of a divorce and told me she dosent ...
A. 3 December 2009: I think she has made herself clear.
She does not want to be obligated to you and in debt to you.
How horrible would it seem of her to accept a gift and then when the divorce is through, start dating someone else?
She wants to keep things fri... (read in full...)
I'm worried his ex still likes him, how do I know he doesn't want her back too?
Q. I need help :( I'm insecure. And my esteem was starting to build up nicely with my new bf and then i found out he was still in contact with his ex, and they are close friends. Now I am back to where I started. I want to talk to him about it but...
A. 3 December 2009: If he wanted her back he would dump you and get back with her.
If he's with you it's because he wants you.
Just tell him you are feeling a bit insecure and ask him to reassure you that nothing is going to happen with her through them bei... (read in full...)
How do I emotionally detach myself from an unloving husband?
Q. How do i emotionally detach myself from an unloving husband? when i say unlove it means he is never mentally or emotionally attached to me... i have tried to please him in all way but he prefers to be left alone most of the times. the only way i r...
A. 3 December 2009: Why stay in the marriage???
If you are saying you want to live as a stranger to him then do it, but why don't you want to be with someone who LOVES you and wants to be with you?
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
My virgin boyfriend is holding back on sex!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 3 months now, and of course we have been fooling round for a while but its always foreplay. You see, we're both virgins and I'm willing to go a little further with the intimacy but he holds back. The ...
A. 3 December 2009: Well talk to him! If you are willing to lose your virginity to this guy you have to be prepared to have conversations about awkward things.
It may be he's not ready for sex and if that's the case then you shouldn't pressure him.
Talk to him a... (read in full...)
I want to ask my date to be in a really funny way ....
Q. So I need help, the winter formal at my school is in 2 weeks and I want to ask my date-to-be in a really funny way, I'm willing to embarass myself haha. Any ideas?! Thank you!...
A. 3 December 2009: Ok:
"Support my campaign for XXX to let me take HIM to the dance."
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I want to ask my date to be in a really funny way ....
Q. So I need help, the winter formal at my school is in 2 weeks and I want to ask my date-to-be in a really funny way, I'm willing to embarass myself haha. Any ideas?! Thank you!...
A. 3 December 2009: Write it on a big bit of cardboard, get to school early and stand by the school gate holding it up like a protester.
Start a "Campaign for XXX to let me take her to the dance."
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
My best friend is turning into macho man!
Q. This started yesterday. My best friend slept over at my house. We were just lying around and he just started acting weird (e.g. staring at me). Then he said something really weird, he's like, "You know I love you, right?" I wasn't sure how to reply ...
A. 3 December 2009: He likes you and he's trying to tell you.
If you don't like him back then you have to tell him NOW. Don't drag this out as you'll hurt him really badly.
Tell him how you feel and let him have time away from you to get over you.
Good Luc... (read in full...)
Did I bring all this on myself?
Q. When i was going out with my boyfriend, we went through this phase of him liking someone else. And after a while, we got back together, after he apologized and he came back. So some time later, we were kissing and making out and stuff and then i ...
A. 3 December 2009: He could claim that he thought you meant yes.
Unfortunately in court, not saying No, means yes.
However, you really need to get away from this boy.
He's prepared to do that so what else is he willing to do?
Please just cut contact with ... (read in full...)
How can I talk to my new found crush??? What can I say to him?
Q. A few days ago I saw a guy in HMV. I think he worked there cause he talked to some of the staff and was being shown round. But last night I realised I have a little bit of a crush on him even thought I only saw him for about 20 minutes. I'm 14 and ...
A. 2 December 2009: Awww, me and my friends used to fancy the guy in the music shop where we lived.
There is not a lot really that you can do.
Seeing a guy and having this feeling doesn't mean your life will be over if you don't see him again.
Accept this as ... (read in full...)
What would make him accuse my brother of taking his wallet? Should I be alarmed?
Q. I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for one month now. I find that i have huge commitment issues and usually read way more into a situation than needed but keep my feelings to myself. I thought things were going fine until he lost his ...
A. 2 December 2009: Ok, fair enough. But that doesn't mean he has to trust him like you do.
I still don't quite get what you want to get in answer to your question.
This is not really a problem at all, it's just a bit unpleasant for you to be stuck in the mid... (read in full...)
Did I bring all this on myself?
Q. When i was going out with my boyfriend, we went through this phase of him liking someone else. And after a while, we got back together, after he apologized and he came back. So some time later, we were kissing and making out and stuff and then i ...
A. 2 December 2009: No. You told him to stop and he didn't. But you do say that you "gave in."
If by that you meant you gave consent then he hasn't legally done anything wrong.
But the fact he pressured you like that and didn't respect you means he's really not ... (read in full...)
What would make him accuse my brother of taking his wallet? Should I be alarmed?
Q. I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for one month now. I find that i have huge commitment issues and usually read way more into a situation than needed but keep my feelings to myself. I thought things were going fine until he lost his ...
A. 2 December 2009: He doesn't know your brother and if the wallet is gone then it's natural and normal to suspect it's been stolen.
Just because he's going out with you doesn't mean he automatically respects trusts and adores your brother.
If you don't like being... (read in full...)
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