How do I get my 38 year old lover back?
Q. Hey everyone, Ive got a big problem. He's 38 and im 18 and even though ive heard all the comments about robbing the cradle, hes only using you for sex. I dont care and I love him and he loved me. it all started on saturday when he came up from...
A. 9 December 2009: I advised you on the information you gave.
Sorry if you didn't like it.
Tell your friend to have emergency taxi fare in her bra so if she gets left again, she doesn't have to phone you for rescue.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Was I wrong? I need help!
Q. My ex and I broke up about 3 months ago. After a year and a half together. He said he couldn't deal with the relationship anymore. But we still talk and try to rebuild our friendship to get back into a relationship. I feel like I have no control in ...
A. 9 December 2009: You say you have no control, but you just took control. You told him to grow up and he ran off like the little boy he is.
This is a good thing.
To be honest, if he's going to act like a toddler and throw tantrums and joke about how he tre... (read in full...)
How can I get out of this despair?
Q. I couldn't have ever imagined even in the wildest dream of mine about such an end to my blind faith in her.It was a relationship where though we didn't exchanged words but the hearts knew it all.To be very fair,I absolutely have no idea when it all ...
A. 9 December 2009: Well first off you have to decide you WANT to move on.
At the moment you are still calling her a nymph as though she was a magical life changing experience.
She was a girl, you were a boy. She rejected you.
That's it.
When you decide ... (read in full...)
What does he want?
Q. Me and my ex were together for three years not all of the time was the relationship good, his mother didn't like me for some reason and when I was pregnant with my son who's now two she did everything she could to cause problems she told him the ...
A. 9 December 2009: You mention self harm so you need help.
Go to the doctors or call your family for some support.
You shouldn't be alone at the moment so get someone around you.
It's your choice whether having him at the birth will cause you more stress or... (read in full...)
How do I deal with being unattractive?
Q. I know this is going to sound shallow, but I can't help it. I'm really feeling sad about my appearance. I LONG to be attractive and have a nice figure, but, let's face it, I'm too fat. I am at the point where I feel depressed all the time aobu...
A. 9 December 2009: There are millions of guys out there who like girls with curves.
What men will be put off by is the fact you have no self confidence.
You sound very depressed so get out of the house and go for a walk in the park. Call up some friends and go o... (read in full...)
I'm confused about the way she feels about me!
Q. Recently i told this girl i liked her but she said she was not looking for a relationship so i asked her to the christmas dance and she said yes. Then we were taking normally for about a week. After about a week she calls me and asks me if i wa...
A. 9 December 2009: Ask her?
You can't let her have all the say on this.
If she doesn't want to be in a relationship then she can't expect you to "never leave her."
If she says she wants to be friends then be her friend. If she acts like she wants to be mor... (read in full...)
How do I get my 38 year old lover back?
Q. Hey everyone, Ive got a big problem. He's 38 and im 18 and even though ive heard all the comments about robbing the cradle, hes only using you for sex. I dont care and I love him and he loved me. it all started on saturday when he came up from...
A. 9 December 2009: Hang on so he came hundreds of miles up for the weekend and paid for a hotel and you buggered off out for a night of clubbing with your mates.
sorry hun but that's just rude. It's alright being sorry now, but you didn't even consider the possibil... (read in full...)
I think I made a mistake...
Q. I 'think' I've made a mistake, i had just had a huge fight with my boyfriend and i went to a mates house, we chatted and watched movies. it got late and i stayed over i borrowed a nighty but it was a bit big and kept falling off. we shared the bed ...
A. 9 December 2009: The fact that you have Big Breasts as your user name makes it pretty hard to take you seriously as a poor little confused victim.
If your boyfriend is not treating you right then dump him.
If you want to be more than friends with Jane then d... (read in full...)
Do his good points outweigh his bad ones?
Q. I've recently starting dating this guy who i am totally besotted with he is like all I think about but I don't know why its really strange. He is charming, sensitive, funny, mysterious, caring and very very handsome but at the same time he is ...
A. 9 December 2009: No this kind of guy gets off on having girls forgive him. he knows he can do what he likes to you and say sorry and you'll let him get away with it.
He's going to keep pushing too. He'll be more and more horrible to you, or get physical, just to ... (read in full...)
I took him back, but I still feel betrayed!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for three years now, but a year ago, he cheated. I took him back after only a week of thinking on it and feeling sorry for myself. I just knew I couldn't handle life without him, but I still get images of them ...
A. 9 December 2009: It worries me a lot that you haven't really forgiven him. You're just lying to him and yourself because you "can't handle life without him."
You are heading for a nervous breakdown because no one is that good an actress. You can't keep pretendi... (read in full...)
My girl's biological clock is ticking after 8 years together but I wont commit
Q. Hi there My girlfriend and I have been together for 8yrs. She is 29 and I am 31 in three days. She really wants to have kids, but I am not sure. Sorry for the long story that follows but it gets a bit more complicated. I can imagine having kids...
A. 9 December 2009: You need to let her go.
You can't be a good dad if you are not into the whole thing.
Let her find a man who can give her the family she wants. She needs someone who will get excited about scans and kicking and talk about the best way to pott... (read in full...)
I snooped and found things, now how to confront him!
Q. i know its wrong of me but i recently went thru my bfs cell phone and found things that bother me. How can i confront him without him knowing i went in his phone?...
A. 9 December 2009: You can't. Own up to being a snoop and then deal with it.
You can't stay as the victim in this without taking responsibility for your own actions.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I have a girlfriend but think about others girls, and told my girl this!
Q. I am currently dating a girl I have been with for 3.5 years. Here recently I have been getting strong feelings for other girls. Especially her roommate who also happens to be my best friend and my girlfriend's best friend. I have told her about ...
A. 9 December 2009: The biggest thing you did wrong was talking to her about it.
All that did was made you feel better. The poor girl now has to torture herself every time you go out without her wondering what's going on and if this time will be the time you cheat.
... (read in full...)
The girl I like has gone cold on me
Q. the girl i like keeps ignoring me. not long ago when we met we use to talk all the time i think she knows that i like her but why doesnt she talk to me that much anymore?...
A. 9 December 2009: She's realised you like her as more than a friend, and she doesn't like you so she wants you to get over her.
That way you can be friends again.
I could be wrong though. Why don't you just ask her?
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
How do I got about rekindling our friendship
Q. I fell in love with my best friend, a girl, about two years ago. We dated and crossed borders we had tried to set, but we stopped that and forgave each other. Then a few months later she broke up with me, saying I wasn't the one she was going to ...
A. 9 December 2009: You don't. You'll never get the friendship back because you were more than friends. It didn't exist as a friendship. There were always feelings there.
Be civil to her when you see her but avoid contact as much as you can. There will be many man... (read in full...)
Really confused and not sure where to turn with this relationship
Q. me and my boyfriend been together for 3 years we have a son who is gonna be one years old, my boyfriend is 37 im 21, me and him been on and off for awhile now, i never really been single for very long.... i dident like to be at the time... my ...
A. 9 December 2009: It makes me laugh when people describe a controlling psycho who pressures them into sex and then says "He's a very nice guy."
He is not a very nice guy. He is a controlling jealous guy.
Leave and take the kid with you.
Do you really want hi... (read in full...)
In a relationship with no title
Q. Ok here's my situation. I'm 19 and I'm dating a 28 yrd. We started off just hanging out then i moved in with her to help pay bills, then we started dating. Now she was in several relationships before me and suposedly cheated on in all of them. She ...
A. 9 December 2009: She has told you repeatedly that she doesn't want a relationship with you.
At the moment all you are is a housemate she occasionally sleeps with.
If you can't handle that then move out. I always ALWAYS tell people that you NEVER get into a... (read in full...)
A kind act for my boss for Christmas?
Q. I am considering offering to work for my boss on Christmas so that he can go home out of state for a couple of days to see his family for the holiday. Would a kind act be misconstrued for more? In reality, I have had a crush on him, but its over ...
A. 9 December 2009: I'd say it was fine to just tell him.
A few people I know always say they'll work Christmas because they know everyone else has kids etc.
So just say to him, "You know my family are all local? Well I don't mind working over Christmas since ... (read in full...)
How can I ask her without sounding weird?
Q. there is this girl i like but i dont know what to do how do i bring up a conversation that leads me to tell her that i like her and to ask her if she likes me? what do i start with or what do i talk about?...
A. 9 December 2009: Telling someone you like them is all well and good but after that you are going to have to ask her out on a date.
So lay the groundwork for that.
Ask how her weekend went, if she has any plans for friday, if she's seen the new film out. And do... (read in full...)
Tips for a heartbroken insomniac?
Q. Tips for a heartbroken insomniac? Dumped by the guy I love + long-time insomniac = not very stable version of me I'm too young (15) for many sleep aides according toy parents, but as I try to sleep, I can't help but to think of my ex that dumped m...
A. 9 December 2009: You need to make yourself tired. If you lie in bed and are awake then get up again. Go and do some housework, your parents will be thrilled and also realise that you are serious about not sleeping.
You need to do something PHYSICAL to make you... (read in full...)
Why do people hate virgins so much?
Q. Why do people hate virgins so much? What did we ever do to be treated the way we are? It just isn't right.I never criticize my friends decision to have sex,so why cant they just respect my choices.It's not as if I'm some kind of saint constantly ...
A. 9 December 2009: If you are the first in your year to do something then you are crazy. If you are the last in your year to do something then you are old fashioned.
In school it's all about being right bang in the middle so no one picks on you.
Your friends ... (read in full...)
He cheated and yet I'm in love with him still
Q. i am sixteen years old. in love. yea i know. i'm an idiot right? don't know what i'm talking about. believe me when i say i do. i fall hard for this boy. lost the vcard to him. LOVE him. he cheated on me...with my best friend. and with a french ...
A. 9 December 2009: Welcome to adulthood.
Unfortunately, love sucks. We all go through this at some point.
Women older and wiser than you stay with horrible men because they "love them." 2 of them a week in the UK get murdered because they didn't walk away from b... (read in full...)
How can I get him to leave me alone!
Q. Right. There's this guy who i met last year, and he is OBSESSED with me! I've tried to get him to stop texting me, as im with someone i love very much. He keeps saying he loves me, then when i say i dont feel the same he calls me horrible things. ...
A. 8 December 2009: You tell him that if you EVER hear from him again you will go to the police.
18 year old men are not allowed to stalk anyone... LET ALONE an underage girl.
If you get any more texts or anything after that then please talk to a teacher or paren... (read in full...)
I love my fiancé, but I feel like I'm just getting what's left of him after his past marriages.
Q. My fiance has been married twice before. He's a great guy and I love him to pieces. But, I feel sometimes that I kinda am getting what ever is left of him and his relationships. Maybe thats not such a bad thing, but in somethings it is because he ...
A. 8 December 2009: Sounds like he's just going through the motions. Marriage obviously doesn't mean life to him any more. Saying till death do us part for the 3rd time has to feel a bit hollow.
I think you need to seriously talk to him about the fact that this is ... (read in full...)
Help! I want to get married and he doesn't. He says that he doesn't believe in marriage!
Q. This is the first time i've done anything like this and so here goes....... I am living with my partner in a house purchased together, who I absolutely love and adore and he feels the same, this i am confident about. We have been together fo...
A. 8 December 2009: I'd give it till your 30th and if no sign of change and he's still only agreeing to get the legal stuff done as a favour to you then I'd walk.
You have maybe 5 good years to date and find a man who will want to marry you and then have a couple o... (read in full...)
How can I find the right person?
Q. well, I am 21, i so much want to be in a relationship, a serious one.i dont like to feel loneliness. I really want someone nice in my life. Can someone tell me where i can find the right person?...
A. 8 December 2009: You'll find her in Canal Street in Manchester.
Didn't you know you were gay?
Honestly, what do you expect to be told. We can't tell you how to find the man of your dreams and you are obviously a bit depressed tonight so my advice is to eat ... (read in full...)
How do I help him recover from his rape
Q. I'm currently deployed in Afghanistan and I spoke to my boyfriend yesterday and I could tell there was something seriously wrong so I asked him and he told me he'd been beaten and raped by 3 guys last Saturday. He's been to hospital and reported it ...
A. 8 December 2009: If he's been to the police then he will have a crime reference number.
If you tell him that your boyfriend has been badly attacked and give your welfare officer or troop sergeant that number he will be able to get it passed along.
They will be ... (read in full...)
He says he hit me out of self defense. Should I still even be with him?
Q. I'm 22 and my boyfriend is 21. 2 days ago we went to a christmas party. i got very very drunk and apparantly made a fool out of him by the way i was dancing ect..we stayed at my parents and when we got in we were arguing. I went into my room and ...
A. 8 December 2009: Self defence is to protect yourself when you think you are in danger.
You slapped his back after he kicked you.... You were hardly a danger to him.
He didn't just shove you back... he PUNCHED YOU in the FACE. And then he PUNCHED YOU AGAI... (read in full...)
He broke up with me due to the army. Does he still love me?
Q. if a guy breaks up with his girlfriend of 4 months cos hes busy with the army, but still really likes her and wants to be with her sometime in the future when he has more freedom, but stayin mates for now well they were really close so will he ...
A. 8 December 2009: Hiya, I answered this yesterday.
Just to add this from my husband who did 12 years in the army.
"Every military training base has girls near it who hang out in night clubs in order to shag squaddies. He will want to be "friends" with y... (read in full...)
Should I leave my boyfriend of 4 years?
Q. I came back from deployment in Afghanistan 3 months ago and since I've realised that I don't have the same feelings for my boyfriend of 4 years. He loves me and breaking up would break his heart but I feel like he's just not what I'm looking for ...
A. 7 December 2009: You can't stay with someone because you feel guilty about him waiting for you.
You gave it 3 months and things aren't the same so you need to move on.
HOWEVER... as an army wife I can tell you that a lot of this could have to do with the tour... (read in full...)
Should I be friends with my ex who continues to hurt me?
Q. I was in a 5 year relationship. We were happy for those years. Odd argument. He was very devoted to me. But I guess we wanted different things so in the end split up. He split up with me for the most part but it was a little amicable. Nevertheless ...
A. 7 December 2009: Sounds like he's been hooked in by this nutter and my advice is to leave him to it.
I am sure you have enough friends in your life that you don't NEED him. Although it would be nice to have him as a friend, all you will get is a load of drama.
... (read in full...)
Why did he suddenly stop contact with me after being so polite and so nice?
Q. Hello, I have been seeing a man I met through a dating site, we clicked right away because we have the same goals. He treated me with respect and always sent greetings to my parents. He was actually talking about marriage after 8 days of dating. He ...
A. 7 December 2009: Sounds like this guy has issues. He would probably have turned out to be a very very bad boyfriend so you have had a lucky escape.
The one problem with internet dating is that you are exposed to a lot of nutters. It's easy for them to hide and... (read in full...)
Is there any hope that she might come back?
Q. Me and my ex fiancee broke up after over four years. We were engaged for about three years and living together for two. We had some problems, but nothing we could not have fixed. To cut a long story short, somebody popped up on Facebook a few m...
A. 7 December 2009: To be honest, I think your best bet is just to move on.
For her to be moving this fast after your break up means she must have been thinking of breaking up for a long time. She's jumped out of this engagement like it was boiling water.
I think... (read in full...)
I'm going crazy not knowing what he thinks!
Q. i text the guy that i like last night.the day u txt me was the happiest day of my life, today i dnt knw. i jst wonder wht i did tht was so wrong to deserve ur silence and ur rejection it hurts so bad. never been rejected before.i guess theres always ...
A. 7 December 2009: Jesus that's a bit intensive! Are you two really serious and breaking up? Or are you just being super pushy about the whole thing?
Telling a guy "that you like" that you'll always love him and all that other stuff is going to freak him out comp... (read in full...)
I have no trust in him, he's been flirting with girls on dating sites again.
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for 1 yr a couple of months at the beginning i found out the was on dating sites flirting with girls on the net and i asked him about it he said he wouldn't do it again and now i found out hes been doing it again what ...
A. 7 December 2009: You dump him. You've forgiven him once, if you forgive him again he'll walk all over you forever.
This guy clearly doesn't care as much as he should so move on and find someone who respects you.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Could he change his mind and want to see me when he's home?
Q. been with bf since august he wanted carry on relationship while he went in army. his pass out parade soon kept begging me go, we really close and always including me in future plans for next year, also said i really do make him happy then co...
A. 7 December 2009: He will probably get back with you for the 3 weeks he's home but will want to split up when he leaves. So only get with him if you are ready to be used and dumped.
Everyone will be telling him that long distance girlfriends from home are not a go... (read in full...)
She won't let me do anything about this guy!
Q. This guy that dated my girlfriend once won't leave her alone and she wont let me take care of the situation as the boyfriend. When I try, she calls me annoying and tells me that it would only make things worse. All I ever wanted to do was maturely ...
A. 7 December 2009: You do what she says. I find it completely unattractive when a man says he'll "sort some one out."
Maybe she doesn't want some dick head of an alpha male for a boyfriend. Maybe she wants you because you respect her wishes?
Leave her to ... (read in full...)
When did she conceive?
Q. My wife was given a gestation period of 6 weeks on the 10th august, when was it likely that she concieved?...
A. 7 December 2009: Do you people not have diaries? It's hardly rocket science.
Gina is right.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Help! I want to get married and he doesn't. He says that he doesn't believe in marriage!
Q. This is the first time i've done anything like this and so here goes....... I am living with my partner in a house purchased together, who I absolutely love and adore and he feels the same, this i am confident about. We have been together fo...
A. 7 December 2009: So basically his problem is that he won't put something that you feel strongly about over the fact he might have to feel a bit embarrassed?
That's hardly a strong foundation for being together for ever. I am married and I understand complete... (read in full...)
I don't know what's wrong with me! But I don't want to feel smothered and married!
Q. i was just in a 2 year relationship and felt smothered by him cause he was so inlove with me and up my butt it drove me crazy. so i cheated on him with this boy named sean and and eventually we got abck together i loved partying and playing with my ...
A. 7 December 2009: You don't want a relationship and he does. Simple as that.
You are going to keep hurting him if you get back with him so be his friend, and go round and hang out with him every now and then but be honest and tell him you can't be with him because ... (read in full...)
Do I have a problem? My sex drive is through the roof!
Q. I'm a active healthy, woman, I work, go to school, eat and exercise, and as of lately, my sex drive has gone through the roof, I masturbate at least 2-5 times a day, I don't want to call anyone over because the two men I got gets tired, do you think ...
A. 7 December 2009: It could be that your hormones have gone a bit crazy this month.
This happens sometimes due to lots of things. I bet you have had months where you've had really bad PMT and been miserable for a week or so?
If it hasn't gone away by next mon... (read in full...)
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