Why did she go out with me in the first place if she still had feelings for her ex?
Q. ok my ex just dumped me today because she had not gotten over her ex. we went out for 4 days and i really loved her. when she dumped me i asked her if she would go back out with me but she replied maybe but also she said she does not know if she ...
A. 24 January 2010: Bloody hell. You're saying you love her and can't live without her after 4 days?
It's no wonder the poor girl is freaked out.
She may have wanted to test herself and see if she was ready for something small, and you came in like a tidal wav... (read in full...)
Is there a problem dating my former teacher?
Q. I was wondering what peoples views/opinions were on two people 'dating' that were previously student and teacher. My music teacher (aged 38) from my school and I (aged 19) have been in contact since I left the school over a year ago now and have ...
A. 24 January 2010: As far as I know, since you are both consenting adults, there will not be a problem of any kind.
However, it might get the odd raised eyebrow, just about the age gap if nothing else. You both know nothing happened but we live in times where pe... (read in full...)
What should I do?? And where do you think my sexuality is heading??
Q. ok now it's probably a dumb question but for years im thinkin am i gay.. am i bi.. am i str8..i know there shouldn't be a name to describe ur sexualality but it does paint a picture of who u are. i have been with men and have been with women. now i ...
A. 24 January 2010: Sounds like you are bi-sexual.
My personal view on this is that any bi-sexual person can settle down and be monogamous and faithful. They just have to meet the right person (and watch porn to quell their urges.)
However, we live in modern t... (read in full...)
How can someone take advantage of a person who showed complete loyalty?
Q. My question is how can someone take advantage of someone who has shown true loyalty and love towards them and they trample all over you like a doormat? We had been dating for about 4 months, initially things were really good. Then I would say ...
A. 24 January 2010: You were either a really long rebound, or you just got unlucky.
He maybe couldn't help it if his feelings changed. You can't expect him to lie and pretend to like you because he "owed you."
The trick is to only date guys who are sorted out e... (read in full...)
I think my husband is gay, what now?
Q. been with a guy 3 yrs,married for 2,i am 45 and he is 27. most all his girlfriends have cheated on him and he moved from another state to the one i live in. before we got married i complained of not enough sex, a week before we got married at a bar ...
A. 24 January 2010: If he was gay, why would he have married a woman?
He may well be bi-sexual.
If the sex thing was a problem before you married I have to wonder why you committed to him, knowing he has a low sex drive? Some people are not really into sex ... (read in full...)
Matresses
Q. Hi everybody We need to change our mattress now, because it is sagging. Does anybody know which is the best matress for a good nights sex and sleep? We need good also good support for the back.... I have heard about the mattress type of foam....
A. 24 January 2010: The best thing you can do is wear something comfy and go to a big mattress shop.
Then spend about 5 minutes on each mattress sitting and lying down and bouncing around.
You will look stupid but it's the same with buying a new sofa. The salesm... (read in full...)
New thing, or one time fling?
Q. I met a girl for a drink, in a non date setting. we hadn't known each other before hand. I ended up going to her place and we kissed and cuddled. she was about to move out of the country, and we both knew it, but I really liked her so wanted to be ...
A. 24 January 2010: Well just be honest!
Tell her you want to give it a go and if she says yes then great. If she says no then move on.
Just because it was a very very short romance doesn't mean it was a casual meaningless shag.
Remember her fondly a... (read in full...)
I'm going on holiday in July and I'm so nervous about being on my period...
Q. I'm going on holiday in July and I'm so nervous about being on my period. What do you girls suggest? I know I can go on the contraceptive pill, but I've never been on it before and my friend told me she bled constantly for 2 months... I d...
A. 24 January 2010: The easiest thing is just to deal with it. Buy some super strength tampons and be super careful about changing them frequently.
As for the pill, you could try it. Most people have no problem with the pill but it takes about 6 months for your bod... (read in full...)
Why do his exes delete him off Facebook?
Q. what does it mean when a guy goes out with girls for only few weeks?? or months?? what does that say about him?? and the girls dont ever speak to him again?? deletes him off msn and face book?? what does that say about the guy?? and w...
A. 24 January 2010: It may be that he's been unlucky. He just hasn't found the right girl and knows to quit if it's not right.
As for deleting him off facebook, why on earth would you want you keep your ex ON facebook?
It could also be signs that he's a complete ... (read in full...)
Guys: would you have responded with a phone call or a text?
Q. I texted my boyfriend after getting home from a girls night out. It was only a little after 9 p.m. He didn't respond, so I called and no answer. I had asked him a question in the text and he normally responds even if there's not a question. So I ...
A. 23 January 2010: Hang on... you're saying that if you had explosive dihorrea and the phone was on the other side of the house, you'd wobble over, pants round your ankles, risking leaving a little trail... just because it would make your other half happy to hear you ... (read in full...)
How to maintain a level of Respect from a Guy
Q. I am getting to know a guy that requested my friendship online and I am trying to maintain my respect in the process.. what I mean by that is when I gave him my number he replied to my email through text and the reply was kind of on the "fresh" side ...
A. 23 January 2010: Ok. Fact number 1:
Guys who go round friends requesting girls on the internet, generally DO NOT have honourable intentions.
He may have requested friendship from 10 girls that day, and if you responded then he's going to think he has a chance.... (read in full...)
Guys: would you have responded with a phone call or a text?
Q. I texted my boyfriend after getting home from a girls night out. It was only a little after 9 p.m. He didn't respond, so I called and no answer. I had asked him a question in the text and he normally responds even if there's not a question. So I ...
A. 23 January 2010: Maybe he was having a poo?
Just because someone dares to not answer a question and chooses to *GASP* put their mobile away and sleep before midnight... That does not mean your relationship is in crisis.
Give the poor guy a break!!
It's ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is suspicious and always frowning at me
Q. hi there. my gf and i are having serious problems since she saw me holding her sisters waist. she thinks we have someting doing but we dont! she frowns at everything i do,call me names,even in sex she frowns. please u guys should tell me what to do. ...
A. 23 January 2010: Tell her you do not want to be with a girl who calls you names.
Ask her if she is happy with you because she always seems miserable.
Ask her if she really wants to be with you since everything you do seems to make her sad.
She may not rea... (read in full...)
My cousin is constantly seeking attention from me on facebook
Q. Hi, I have a bit of a tricky situation and need advice. My cousin who i was very close to moved to Chicago 6 years ago when she got married.We have always kept in touch. Now just before Christmas she joined facebook but she bombards ...
A. 23 January 2010: It could well be that she's very bored and found facebook is the only way of human contact.
I would send her a private message and ask her seriously if she is ok. Point out that her obsessive posting of doom and gloom is making you worried ... (read in full...)
BF pushing me away, but does not know I only have months to live. Should I tell him?
Q. ah, I can't stop the way I feel and stay away.. I love someone he loves me too but we can't be together coz plenty of reasons anyway, I have a health issue for years and it got worse in the last year. Recently, the medicine stop working I tried al...
A. 23 January 2010: Tell your family you want to be happy in your last months and that means you want to spend time with your boyfriend.
They should accept that.
Once they do then tell him that they have changed their minds and you want to spend time with him be... (read in full...)
Kicking myself for failing my driving test. Again!
Q. Morning guys, Im on such a downer. I failed my driving test again yesterday-my 2nd attempt. I had such awful rainy weather and the route was so difficult. I know i need to book myself in again but im soo scared.To make it all worse my family ...
A. 23 January 2010: It took me 5 times to pass because I kept bumping the kerb when reverse parking, and once I didn't have my windscreen wipers on high enough in the rain.
You just need to get on the website and book in. Try and get a cancellation so you can do i... (read in full...)
Just thinking about him turns me on. Is this normal?
Q. there this guy that am getting to know.. and i swear when i think about him.. i get soo horny:(.. is like i just wanna be with him..like have him sexually:(..am always fantasising about him..am soo embarrassed:(.. am not a sl.utt or anything.. and ...
A. 23 January 2010: Yes this is normal.
You have a crush on him!
Have you not had this before?
Flirt with him and look great and drop hints about places you'd like to go / films you'd like to see.
Get him to ask you out!
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I'm tired of putting up with hubby's crap
Q. I don't know what to do. I am so exhauseted from trying to deal with my husband. I just don't know if I even want to be married to him anymore. He never has anything nice to say to me. He always teases me but never praises me. I could take the ...
A. 23 January 2010: You cant save a marriage by yourself.
He has to want to save it too and from what you say it sounds like he just likes having a woman around to bully and give him sex.
You say it was nice of him to put up with your illness, but he could just ha... (read in full...)
I am making my own plans for my future but sad I will never see my mother and sister again
Q. i need help. i am a girl. and me and my girlfriend are planing to leave home after 18 , after school. we are not telling anyone . its like running away but we are legal to. everything is decided. at the end of this year we are leaving. but my mum ...
A. 23 January 2010: Hang on.... Why are you running away? Why aren't you just moving out and getting a job like the rest of us?
Why does them moving away mean you can never see them again?
You're sounding very dramatic but not making much sense.
If they are lea... (read in full...)
Why don't guys reply when you text them????
Q. I dont get it. Why don't guys reply when you text them. He's my mate, we're good friends hes often said that to me but i sometimes wonder. We dont talk much online as i have to start the convo and when we go out together hes always really shy around ...
A. 23 January 2010: There is a whole article on this by a guy called armymedic.
It's in the articles section, go and read it and it will explain everything.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Tantric sex...
Q. Tantric sex I'm interested in experimenting with it, what does it entail, can anyone give me any advice or point me to any websites that will help me? thanks...
A. 22 January 2010: www.google.com is a good start.
I found 506,000 websites about it on there.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
How do I tell my parents I got a tatoo?
Q. hey guys just a little question, how can i tell my parents i got a tattoo?? its only a small one on my back and i am of age to get a tattoo, its not against the rules of my house to get one, i live at home and recently got my ears pierced my dad ...
A. 22 January 2010: I disagree with caring guy.
DON'T tell them!
I didn't tell my mum about my tattoo for about 5 years. It's just not worth the hassle.
Do you tell them about what shape you shave your pubic hair into? It's your body and they do not need to ... (read in full...)
He's my best friend, but I don't feel any love for him anymore. What should I do?
Q. Hi, I'm with my fiance for the last 3 yrs and everything was going okay...but never great. We never argue, we like the same things and i know he loves me very much. But i dont know if i love him as much as he does. I love him, but I'm not IN love ...
A. 22 January 2010: What you have to ask yourself is this:
Am I really the best he can do?
Yes it will hurt him when you leave, but at the moment his real soulmate could be out there and he's not going to find her while he's wasting time on you.
This is going t... (read in full...)
How do I talk to him about my issues? WITHOUT yelling, screaming, or becoming hostile.
Q. I am becoming one of those girls that yell at their boyfriend about everything. I feel automatically horrible and a lot of the time it's just because I want him to understand something that is bothering me. I feel I may have an anger issue. Whenever ...
A. 22 January 2010: You could just talk to him and say that if something is bothering you then you will write it down in an email or letter. That way you don't argue... but he has to promise to take it seriously.
I wonder why he dosen't seem to take you seriousl... (read in full...)
Did sex ruin my friendship of four years?
Q. Okay. A year ago I ended a one year "situation" with a guy who was afraid of commitment. He was so hot and cold, I never knew if he was coming or going or staying...I had to pull the plug on it. If I didn't, chances are we will still be going to the ...
A. 22 January 2010: It sounds like sex killed it dead. If he only seems to want to talk about sex then that must be all he's after.
It sounds like you just want a boyfriend.
So you have to ask yourself, if you want bread, why are you hanging around in the mi... (read in full...)
As my husbands behaviour deteriorates I am finding solace with an old boyfriend
Q. Hi,please advise/vent/give input. I'm married for 8 years have 2 children and currently in a difficult place. My hub and I have always had ups n downs however problems were never really properly dealt with..we kinda just moved on. Most of the time ...
A. 22 January 2010: You really aren't willing to give this poor guy up are you. By saying you'll always love him and wanting to talk to him on Valentines you are giving the poor bloke hope that he has a chance.
How is he supposed to get over you if he has in the back... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to date a woman 7 years older?
Q. Anything wrong in dating older women (like seven years older than you)?...
A. 19 January 2010: Wow 7 years?
That makes her about 30.... well obviously if she's already drawing a pension then you should think twice.
Don't be daft. Of course it's fine.
You are both consenting adults.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Just a misunderstanding or worse?
Q. I've been together with my bf for about 2 years now. The last time I went to see him something happened that I can't stop thinking about. One night when we went to have sex I guess he decided he wanted to try anal. There was no talking about it ...
A. 19 January 2010: That was called rape.
Leave him. Don't look back.
When a guy doesn't give a crap that he's hurt you then you do not spend a second longer with him.
It's up to you if you press charges or not.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Help! On the pill, could I be pregnant?
Q. Me and my boyfriend had sex without a condom, i am on the pill and he withdrew every time. Could there be a possible chance i am pregnant?...
A. 19 January 2010: If you are taking it correctly, aren't on anti-biotics, and not throwing up the pill / having it come out the other end....
then you are probably not pregnant.
That's what the pill does, it stops you getting pregnant. It also messes up your p... (read in full...)
Am I bisexual or just bi-curious?
Q. Okay, I am having such a hard time writing this. I am really uncomfortable with myself at the moment. Here it goes: I am a young teenage girl, and I have been obsessed with boys from the start. I have dated and been with quite a few of guys. I e...
A. 19 January 2010: This is one of the most commonly asked questions here, and you may not get many answers since everyone is bored of typing the same thing.
Short version:
Are you normal? Yes.
Does this mean anything? Maybe / Maybe not.
Have a search through... (read in full...)
Why is this girl in his life still? Will she go away?
Q. Good Day Everyone! I'm in a relationship...for the most part, it's light and easy. We have been together 14 months now. He is a wonderful man, giving of himself, a good friend to others, a very sensitive person. A great brother and son!...
A. 19 January 2010: Glad I could help!
xx... (read in full...)
As my husbands behaviour deteriorates I am finding solace with an old boyfriend
Q. Hi,please advise/vent/give input. I'm married for 8 years have 2 children and currently in a difficult place. My hub and I have always had ups n downs however problems were never really properly dealt with..we kinda just moved on. Most of the time ...
A. 19 January 2010: Say Hi, smile but it doesn't need to get into a hug.
A hug can last that bit too long and it will just remind you of all those feelings.
Just wave and treat him like you would your old boss.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
We broke up with no further contact from her! It seems heartless..what do you think?
Q. I was with w woman for the last ten months in a pretty solid relationship. We started to argue about some differences here and there and big things turned into bigger things. We seemed to not be able to come to an agreement on some things so I ...
A. 15 January 2010: You must have really hurt her, and then when you didn't come back to say "actually let's give this another go" she was even more upset.
So she's done what she needed to so she can move on.
It's always hardest for the one who is dumped even if t... (read in full...)
My wife lacks the initiative for sex. What can I do?
Q. This question about my wife we got married 16 years, we are from Inda. we both are educated engineers. from the right beginning onwards my wife do not have sexual initiative..always if I need intercourse I have to take initiative. she is healt...
A. 15 January 2010: Have you talked to her about it?
She may have been told it is the man's job to initiate things.
Tell her you would find it really really great if she were to come to you. And when she does make sure you give her an extra good time.
Good Lu... (read in full...)
Just newly married, and not sure what to think of my husband's female friend! And advice?
Q. Hello.. I am 27 years old, I have a month and a week married, so basically new wed. I have a couple of problems that I would like to share and I would love for someone to tell me another view of my situation. My husband has a female friend at w...
A. 15 January 2010: I'm going to disagree with Angzw.
Talking to him is the ONLY way to fix this. Marriage is all about being able to talk calmly and accept fault where it is due.
Make yourself really sexy one night and when you are curled up on the sofa in his ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my cousin that the guy she loves, is into BDSM? She has no clue.
Q. My friend, who is elder than me, is in love with my cousin. Lets call him 'B' and her 'G'. After some incidents, i found out that B likes BDSM and self bondage. B says he likes it very little. I'm sure G does not like BDSM. So B requested me not to ...
A. 15 January 2010: You stay WELL out of it.
It's none of your business.
You can advise one that they should be open about these things before marriage but they will hate you go telling tales on the other.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Foreskin problems...any advice?
Q. im 14 almost 15 soon...and uncircumcised want to know is it normal that my penis' foreskin suppose to be hard to pull back...and that if i masturbate..am i suppose to have the foreskin pulled back cos i dunno if its just me scared of pullin it bac...
A. 15 January 2010: This is THE most common question on the site these days.
Have a bit of a dig round an see what other answers there are.
As I understand it (being a girl) it could well be you need to talk to the doctor. LOADS of guys get this sorted out durin... (read in full...)
He has trouble ejaculating and it's made me feel inadequate! Help!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together a year. He was single when I met him but his ex has been particually nasty as she was annoyed he had moved on. She told me he had premature ejaculation when he was with her, but doesn't have it with me because ...
A. 15 January 2010: The reason he's having this problem is because he is a normal man. Do you orgasm in exactly the same way after exactly the same time during sex?
If not, why does she?
He's also probably a bit stressed since you and his Ex seem to have bee... (read in full...)
I have questions about BDSM. Any advice?
Q. I just learned about BDSM this week. My questions are as follows: Is there alot of infidelity involved. Do men really wear chastity belts or this just an expression? Is there alot of bisexuality with this? What types of people are into this? ...
A. 15 January 2010: There is a film called the Secretary, starring Maggie Gylenhall. That will help you understand a little bit.
As for all your questions... there is no right or wrong answer to any of them.
It's basically just a big game. So some people will just... (read in full...)
I confessed my love! She asked me for time.. Do I have any chances of getting a + response from her?
Q. I recently confessed my 10 year love to a girl. I was a little shy so I left her a present along with a note saying that I am deeply interested in her. Initially she did not see the note and thanked me for the present saying that it was a pleasant ...
A. 15 January 2010: I know it took a lot of guts and she knows that too.
I think sending her a text is a good idea. Ask her to meet up so you can talk about it. Don't say "I'm ready to hear anything" as that means she has to give a definite yes or no and she might ju... (read in full...)
Our father issues holding us back?
Q. Me and him have been together a little over a year. I've grown to care for him a lot, but I know we could be doing much better. I've figured out that the recurring problems that we have (diminished communication being the most recurrent) are due to ...
A. 15 January 2010: So rather than say "we need to talk more" you've been online and done a little project about how it must be some deep seated freudian thing from your childhood that is to blame?
I think the problem here may simply be that you see this problem ... (read in full...)
Why is this girl in his life still? Will she go away?
Q. Good Day Everyone! I'm in a relationship...for the most part, it's light and easy. We have been together 14 months now. He is a wonderful man, giving of himself, a good friend to others, a very sensitive person. A great brother and son!...
A. 15 January 2010: She's going to carry on emailing either as a friend or whatever.
So I think you just need to make this not a BIG THING between you. He's obviously scared of your reaction about it which is why he's not bringing it up.
That shouldn't happen... (read in full...)
I confessed my love! She asked me for time.. Do I have any chances of getting a + response from her?
Q. I recently confessed my 10 year love to a girl. I was a little shy so I left her a present along with a note saying that I am deeply interested in her. Initially she did not see the note and thanked me for the present saying that it was a pleasant ...
A. 15 January 2010: Well if someone comes up to you and says "I've been thinking about you a lot and I would really like to take you out for dinner." Then you'll say yes, because it's not too serious and if it doesn't go well you can be honest and say it's not going to ... (read in full...)
As my husbands behaviour deteriorates I am finding solace with an old boyfriend
Q. Hi,please advise/vent/give input. I'm married for 8 years have 2 children and currently in a difficult place. My hub and I have always had ups n downs however problems were never really properly dealt with..we kinda just moved on. Most of the time ...
A. 15 January 2010: Your lover has done what every aunt would have advised him to do.
You told him you are making a go of things with your hubbie so he backed off to let you do that and try and get over you.
As for your husband... You have to sit him down and hav... (read in full...)
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