He didn't end his online message with a "x" does that me he isn't interested?
Q. Is he intrested or not? This guy at uni has been making moves for months to be honest monday and tuesday was great.. wednesday he added me on my uni email account and emailed me.. but i've looked at his reply and i feel hes not intrested. what do ...
A. 21 February 2010: You snooze you lose.
He's lost out for being a bit useless. There are a million guys out there.
Join some groups and clubs at uni and meet lots of people. You won't have to wait long for a guy with some maturity to ask you out.
Good Luc... (read in full...)
As my husbands behaviour deteriorates I am finding solace with an old boyfriend
Q. Hi,please advise/vent/give input. I'm married for 8 years have 2 children and currently in a difficult place. My hub and I have always had ups n downs however problems were never really properly dealt with..we kinda just moved on. Most of the time ...
A. 22 January 2010: You really aren't willing to give this poor guy up are you. By saying you'll always love him and wanting to talk to him on Valentines you are giving the poor bloke hope that he has a chance.
How is he supposed to get over you if he has in the back... (read in full...)
Why is this girl in his life still? Will she go away?
Q. Good Day Everyone! I'm in a relationship...for the most part, it's light and easy. We have been together 14 months now. He is a wonderful man, giving of himself, a good friend to others, a very sensitive person. A great brother and son!...
A. 19 January 2010: Glad I could help!
xx... (read in full...)
As my husbands behaviour deteriorates I am finding solace with an old boyfriend
Q. Hi,please advise/vent/give input. I'm married for 8 years have 2 children and currently in a difficult place. My hub and I have always had ups n downs however problems were never really properly dealt with..we kinda just moved on. Most of the time ...
A. 19 January 2010: Say Hi, smile but it doesn't need to get into a hug.
A hug can last that bit too long and it will just remind you of all those feelings.
Just wave and treat him like you would your old boss.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I confessed my love! She asked me for time.. Do I have any chances of getting a + response from her?
Q. I recently confessed my 10 year love to a girl. I was a little shy so I left her a present along with a note saying that I am deeply interested in her. Initially she did not see the note and thanked me for the present saying that it was a pleasant ...
A. 15 January 2010: I know it took a lot of guts and she knows that too.
I think sending her a text is a good idea. Ask her to meet up so you can talk about it. Don't say "I'm ready to hear anything" as that means she has to give a definite yes or no and she might ju... (read in full...)
Our father issues holding us back?
Q. Me and him have been together a little over a year. I've grown to care for him a lot, but I know we could be doing much better. I've figured out that the recurring problems that we have (diminished communication being the most recurrent) are due to ...
A. 15 January 2010: So rather than say "we need to talk more" you've been online and done a little project about how it must be some deep seated freudian thing from your childhood that is to blame?
I think the problem here may simply be that you see this problem ... (read in full...)
Why is this girl in his life still? Will she go away?
Q. Good Day Everyone! I'm in a relationship...for the most part, it's light and easy. We have been together 14 months now. He is a wonderful man, giving of himself, a good friend to others, a very sensitive person. A great brother and son!...
A. 15 January 2010: She's going to carry on emailing either as a friend or whatever.
So I think you just need to make this not a BIG THING between you. He's obviously scared of your reaction about it which is why he's not bringing it up.
That shouldn't happen... (read in full...)
My guy wants me to move in with him..but he hasn't mentioned it to his family! What should I do?
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for over 3 years now. we have talked about moving in together. it makes sense for me to move in with him as he has no mortgage or rent to pay. the problem is it is an old cottage on a farm and has no central heating, ...
A. 15 January 2010: I would just bring it up next time you see them.
Putting in really good windows and insulation will really add on to the price of the place so it's a good investment.
As for central heating, if you are starting from scratch you could put in a s... (read in full...)
Counselling sessions advice?
Q. I am considering going to a doctor asking to get a referral to a counsellor. I am 18 and in higher education. Will I have to pay for counselling sessions and is there anything else I should know?...
A. 15 January 2010: A lot of universities have councellors you can go to without having to see a doc. You just sign up to a list... as least you did at Central Lancs.
The NHS is free and that includes mental health.
Your GP will probably have a chat to you firs... (read in full...)
Love? Lust? Infatuation? or Friendship?
Q. caring about him more than yourself sacrificing yourself for his happiness feeling his pain more than himself being attached to him so badly that you cant be without him[messaging every second, not letting him go out of station] sharing all yo...
A. 15 January 2010: It's crazy obsession.
If you two are in a relationship then it could develop into love, but you both need to chill the heck out.
You are being so demanding and high maintenance that the poor guy is going to meet a nice relaxed girl and run to ... (read in full...)
Having an affair to justify needs and not get emotionally involved?
Q. Is it possible to have an affair just to satisfy needs and not get feelings involved? Here is the situation: I am married. He is married. We have developed a strong friendship over the last 5 years since our 2 sons play sports together. I have been ...
A. 15 January 2010: If you do this then all that will happen is that it'll be great for a few months and then you'll decide you want to be together.
So rather than your son seeing you as a strong woman who sold the stuff in the house and put happiness first and did ... (read in full...)
I want to follow my dreams but don't want to do it alone
Q. I want to follow my dreams, but i don't want to go it alone. I really enjoyed studying my course, but now that i'm finished and qualified, i want to do another one to get better at what i do and hopefully get a better job. But the course i want to ...
A. 15 January 2010: Sorry but if your boyfriend isn't willing to let you go off and do something amazing for a year because it inconveniences HIS plans then he's a pretty rubbish boyfriend.
Your career is a life long thing. Boyfriends very rarely lest more than a f... (read in full...)
Been sick for a long time. what should I do? what do you think it could be?
Q. I have been sick off and on for three years following an incomplete miscarriage, I was then regularly sick with blood in my vomit. They diagnosed me with an ulcer and treated me and I had an endoscopy months later which showed no ulcer but damage...
A. 15 January 2010: Go in with a written list of all your symptoms and ask them to look at you as a whole.
If he fobs you off then you can legally ask for a second opinion.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
What can I do so she doesn't think I'm boring?
Q. i have been talkin to a girl that my friends girlfriend told me about and when i was talkin to her on the fone she said i was boring? wat can i do for her not to thank i am boring...
A. 15 January 2010: Well the fact you have only talked to her randomly on the phone is hardly exciting.
Arrange to meet up with her and then TALK. Ask her questions.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wants to go on a break
Q. my girlfriend for about a year now says she's fed up with me and wants a break. so two days have gone by and then brings up out of nowhere why she wanted to go on a break in the first place, as if i asked about it, which i didn't. i haven't one time ...
A. 15 January 2010: You put "I haven't even asked her why" as though that is a good thing.
If I told a guy I liked that I wanted a break and said "yeah ok then" I'd be REALLY hurt. It just makes you look like you don't give a crap.
You two need to either learn to ... (read in full...)
I am 14 and really ready for a baby... got money and stuff, what do you think?
Q. hi, i am 14 and want a baby..ive cared for babys all of mii life n have the money for it...i kno a baby is alot of work and its all about the baby and u come last..but i dont care.. i wanna have a baby to love me and share their feelings wit me n ...
A. 15 January 2010: Oh seriously... do you even know how income tax works? You say "I'll get a full time job so I can spoil it" like well paid good jobs just fall on your lap. Why would anyone employ you? There is a recession. Even if you did get a job, it's going to ... (read in full...)
I confessed my love! She asked me for time.. Do I have any chances of getting a + response from her?
Q. I recently confessed my 10 year love to a girl. I was a little shy so I left her a present along with a note saying that I am deeply interested in her. Initially she did not see the note and thanked me for the present saying that it was a pleasant ...
A. 15 January 2010: Well if someone comes up to you and says "I've been thinking about you a lot and I would really like to take you out for dinner." Then you'll say yes, because it's not too serious and if it doesn't go well you can be honest and say it's not going to ... (read in full...)
I can't stop thinking about ex..can't get her out of my head
Q. Ever since I broke up with my ex girlfriend I cannot get her out of my head. I have dated loads of girls and danced at clubs etc. but never hooked up with any because it's all kinda fake. I don't really like them, I want her back. It's been almost a ...
A. 15 January 2010: You say you've been through the motions but have you actually decided you WANT to move on?
If you sit and compare girls to this perfect image of your ex in your head then of course they won't be worth your time. No woman will, not even your ex ... (read in full...)
I don't know if I like him, it's on and off. So what do I tell my friends?
Q. my best fiend thinks that i like him but he's not sure. my other friends think so too but i deny it. i don't know if i like him, it's on and off. so what do i say to the people who ask without them assuming that i like him? ...
A. 15 January 2010: Either tell them it's none of their business, or be honest and say you don't know.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I don't want to see my mother, but worry about depriving my kids of the grandma!
Q. Hope someone can help me out here!!! When I was 8 my brother raped me for 7 years straight. I ended up pregnant by him when I was 15. When my mom found out I had to tell her what was going on, I was too scard to tell her before that. It has been ...
A. 15 January 2010: Grandmas are really really not that great. All my time spent at my grandparents was spent trying to be on my best behaviour and being bored and miserable. The only thing grandparents were good for was that they would give you a pound to spend at the ... (read in full...)
He didn't end his online message with a "x" does that me he isn't interested?
Q. Is he intrested or not? This guy at uni has been making moves for months to be honest monday and tuesday was great.. wednesday he added me on my uni email account and emailed me.. but i've looked at his reply and i feel hes not intrested. what do ...
A. 15 January 2010: Caring guy has spotted it!
What he said was "let's meet up so I can show you..."
Men often don't use X's at the ends of texts. Same way they don't scream and hug you when you show them a new pair of shoes.
He's probably trying to look ... (read in full...)
As my husbands behaviour deteriorates I am finding solace with an old boyfriend
Q. Hi,please advise/vent/give input. I'm married for 8 years have 2 children and currently in a difficult place. My hub and I have always had ups n downs however problems were never really properly dealt with..we kinda just moved on. Most of the time ...
A. 15 January 2010: Your lover has done what every aunt would have advised him to do.
You told him you are making a go of things with your hubbie so he backed off to let you do that and try and get over you.
As for your husband... You have to sit him down and hav... (read in full...)
I have no life, feeling like a useless girlfriend!
Q. I have been with my fiance for 4 years and we have just got back from traveling together for a year and i have never felt such a come down as i have right now, i was used to being with him everyday, feeling like a proper couple, enjoying cooking ...
A. 15 January 2010: Ah the post travelling come down. It's miserable being back under our grey skies here in the UK isn't it?
But the good news about unemployment is that you get massive discounts on courses. So join up to something cool that runs one night a week. ... (read in full...)
I want to be with ex a second time
Q. she says she's happier and more in love with her current bf than she's ever been and as much as it pains me, i do feel happy for her. but i can't erase part of me that will always want to be with her a 2nd time. i'm 18, she's 17, we're both still ...
A. 15 January 2010: Well you've decided you are quite happy to sit being tortured about this.
You have to make a decision that you WANT to get over someone for it to happen.
So it's up to you. You can either sit pining over her and listening to sad songs and wa... (read in full...)
Dealing with a mate who works late hours
Q. Question. My fiance just got a new job his work stays open till like 3 and 4 am and I'm worried that he won't have much time for our new baby and won't have time for me if I have to get a job. I don't like his hours but at least he has a full time ...
A. 15 January 2010: My hubbie works for the ambulance service and works 7pm to 7am some times. Then sleeps all day.
The way you cope with it is that you just look at when he is available and work round it.
Schedule in some time in the day when he CAN play with th... (read in full...)
Horny but can't get an erection
Q. Hi, i was wondering even though i'm very horny and cant get an erection. The best i can get is half flaccid. Any ideas? Thank you for your help! ...
A. 15 January 2010: Maybe you are too hot / cold / tired / drugged up / ill / stressed / busy?
Unless this keeps on happening then don't worry about it.
If it does then see your doctor.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Gushing climaxes
Q. when I orgasm it spurts out in rather large amounts and (gushes) distance is this normal for most woman?...
A. 15 January 2010: Some women do, some women don't.
Do a search on the site for squirting and you'll find you have something a lot of women wish they did.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I think I may be gay but I don't want to be!
Q. I think I may be gay but most definately don't want to be? I think i'm in love with this girl and I have never been in love with a guy but cum more regularly when watchingg gay porn. I watch straight porn but its less easy to cum. I do get an erec...
A. 15 January 2010: At your age nothing is set in stone.
You have enough hormones raging round your body to make you grow a foot in height and change your internal organs round.
That's going to do strange things to your brain.
If you like this girl then ask ... (read in full...)
I always have a smart comeback, but what do I say if others have a comeback for my comeback?
Q. i was wondering, i always have a smart comback like if someone says bite me id say i dont want any kinda of disease, or if someone says what are you looking at id say, i dunno tell you when i find out, things like that, but just as ofter as i...
A. 15 January 2010: Why do you feel the need to start things like this?
Is it an attention thing? Do you like the feeling of power when you shout at someone and they do as you say? Or is it that you feel crap about yourself and want the attention on them?
That li... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is my best friend, how will I know when it's time to ask her to marry me?
Q. I just want to know what marriage means. I dont want to rush it but i also know this women is someone i can trust. Maybe how long do i wait or when i know its right to propose? Even if we don't get married we mutually benefit each other. Not ...
A. 15 January 2010: Marriage is a lot harder than just being in a relationship.
When you have been together a few years you have to WORK to keep the romance and the sex and the fun times going.
I got married at a church where they MADE you go for marriage prepara... (read in full...)
Is it too late to make an effort to show him I'm still keen on him or is he not interested in me any more and is getting bored?
Q. I've been dating a guy for a few months and from the very start he was chasing me, texting, chatting to meet up and take me out on dates. he always took the initiative, even talking to me first on msn. if he doesnt talk first then i wont. iam very ...
A. 13 January 2010: It really shouldn't be this hard.
I think you just have to follow your heart. Don't play games and hint. Just tell him how you are feeling and ask him if he has noticed you are trying more.
Talk to him about how you are feeling and really just ... (read in full...)
Do you still think it's safe for me to meet him?
Q. PLease help me figure if this is safe??? I met a man online and we have been communicating for two weeks. We are bothi n our mid forties. There is total chemistry between us. We are meeting in a week or so. He emailed me last night that he had a ...
A. 13 January 2010: Well he's moving a bit fast telling you about something like that when you haven't even met yet.
But that doesn't mean he's dangerous, it may just mean he's excited to have female contact so he's being a bit forward.
Meet him in a public plac... (read in full...)
My boyfriend of six years has female friends I don't like
Q. hey everyone i am new to this so i hope someone can help me... i been in a 6yr relationship and i have some insecurities...so recently my bf found out i messaged this girl on his friends list on myspeace...it was a simple thing and i wasvery polite ...
A. 13 January 2010: So he has female friends... that's your problem?
Well unfortunately you just have to get over that and not cause drama. He's with you! Not them.
The only thing that will make you lose him is if you get all dramatic and jealous and send strange... (read in full...)
Is it possible to go out with some one in the army?
Q. ive recently started going out with a lad that im crazy about ive known him for years n we have always been close. but only started going out for a few weeks. i knew when we were friends that he was going into the army but its only recently hit me ...
A. 13 January 2010: I've been an army wife and I've seen how it is for young guys in the army.
It's hard and he'll be away a LOT.
Having a girlfriend is almost impossible for them. They don't have the time and he will be changing as the army breaks him down ... (read in full...)
I didn't mean for this to happen, is it too late to reconcile?
Q. My girlfriend of a year and a half broke up with me last week. We had a really strong relationship and were deeply in love. We used to have one problem, and that was she would always fall asleep on the phone so i got mad at her like once a week ...
A. 13 January 2010: Yes she could have been an adult and talked to you about it but she chose not to and now she's let her feelings die.
Yes you yelled at her but she was at fault too for not talking to you or being honest about how she was feeling.
Just leave he... (read in full...)
Sex? Or more? Just a fling?
Q. How do i know if a guy who i have liked for a year now wants to have sex because he likes me in the same way, or he thinks its just a fling?...
A. 13 January 2010: Well if he's just told you that he wants to have sex with you then he's a user and will stop bothering with you as soon as he's had his way.
If he wanted to be with you then he would have told you he wanted to take you out.
Tell him you ... (read in full...)
When we have sex he never touches me anywhere
Q. my boyfriend and i make love frequently but when we do he never touches my breasts or between my legs, have you any idea why this might be? I've asked him but he won't give me an answer he just tells me to stop being silly. ...
A. 13 January 2010: Sweet cupid is talking rubbish. Sorry but just had to slip that in. If he found you unattractive then why would he be with you?
It sounds to me like he's just a bit rubbish in bed. He doesn't have pleasing you by stroking your body on his list of ... (read in full...)
What would you do if another man was trying to flirt with your girlfriend?
Q. Just a simple question really, but what would you do if another man was trying to flirt with your girlfreind? you trust her, she goes to the same college as him, they talk as freinds, but he is flirting, even tho she did say i have a man, it seems ...
A. 13 January 2010: If he's just a flirt and he's like that with all the girls then let him crack on.
He's only messing and you'll only make it worse if you try and get all growling alpha male over nothing.
Tell her you are feeling a bit jealous and she'll find ... (read in full...)
Is the weather to blame for my low sex drive, or the fact I never get a night to myself?
Q. The weather has certainly gotten a lot colder in recent weeks. As a student, I try and save money by leaving the heating off in my house. My girlfriend is the same. The past couple of times we've had sex I have not had an orgasm, which is pretty ...
A. 13 January 2010: You don't need a break from sex, you just need to have a break from her!
You need to stand up for yourself and tell her that you just need a day off with your mates doing boy stuff.
Then go out and have a day of drinking and farting and what... (read in full...)
"If you love something set it free"?
Q. You know they say 'if you love someone set them free, if they come back they're yours, if they dont, they never were' or something to a similar effect... what if you let someone go and they come back, and then they leave again? :-( X x ...
A. 12 January 2010: Then you got unlucky.
But at least now you know and can cut him out of your life and move on.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
WIfe only wants sex in the dark or under the covers
Q. I have a problem that I'm at a standstill over: I've known my wife for 10 yrs; we've been married for 3 yrs. and I have only seen her vagina twice. I've talked to her very lovingly several times, without any success of a normal sexual relationship ...
A. 12 January 2010: We have a whole TV series about this here in the UK called "How to look good Naked." If you can get hold of a copy online somewhere that'd probably help you understand.
It features lots of people just like your wife.
What she needs is a major... (read in full...)
Tried to finger a random girl then she told all her friends
Q. I was a nightclub recently and i was kissing a random girl and i was feeling extremly horny. I attempted to finger her but with no success. She told her friends and i am getting alot of stick about it. What should i do?...
A. 12 January 2010: This is exactly the same as when you tripped over and split your trousers in school.
Everyone went on about it right until some one else did something stupid for them to laugh at.
It will pass.
If she was so random, how come they know you e... (read in full...)
First time sex - how can I make it feel good?
Q. I feel bad because my bf and I had sex for the first time last night and I didn't enjoy it at all. his penis is pretty small. I was like just laying there and he knew I didn't enjoy it cuz he kept asking if it felt good and I said yes and he was ...
A. 12 January 2010: It's all about getting turned on mentally and enjoying the closeness.
Didn't you enjoy being so close to him, the kissing the touching?
Foreplay and the feelings you have for that person are EVERYTHING about sex.
You can't just stick it in t... (read in full...)
Married but still a virgin!
Q. hi i m married but still virgin? please give me some tips how to lose it? when ever i do sex with husband full of pain in my legs. plz help me. i m very thankful to u. ...
A. 12 January 2010: You shouldn't be trying to have sex straight away.
You need to work up to sex with lots of foreplay.
If the pain is in your legs, maybe the position is to blame. Try a different way.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
We tried to make a go of it, but he hits me when I want answers about his affair
Q. I need some advice so please take the time and read my post. I have been with my h/b for 29yrs married for 21yrs,two years ago i found out he was having an affair with a 28 year old co worker i belive he was thinking of leaving me to be with her she ...
A. 12 January 2010: Read ANYTHING about domestic violence and you will see that it does not get better EVER.
He's already said he wouldn't do it again, and then done it again.
What will it take to get you to see you need to leave this man?
I really hope you don... (read in full...)
Been out of the game too long.
Q. Here's the problem I was in a 2 year relationship. We had a very healthy sex life. She was beautiful and very experienced I was not but she taught me well. I am no stud but we got the job done. We have been broke up for almost two years now I have ...
A. 12 January 2010: Honestly, we girls are NOT THAT COMPLICATED.
I think you should make it a new year's mission to go out and start talking to a girl you don't know every week.
Just start a conversation. Say Hi.
If she shoots you down then it's not a big deal... (read in full...)
Been out of the game too long.
Q. Here's the problem I was in a 2 year relationship. We had a very healthy sex life. She was beautiful and very experienced I was not but she taught me well. I am no stud but we got the job done. We have been broke up for almost two years now I have ...
A. 12 January 2010: So if you want and prefer having a girlfriend to having one night stands then why are you making out with girls at parties?
Why not get chatting to a girl or three and ask one you like out for coffee?
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Is it too late to make an effort to show him I'm still keen on him or is he not interested in me any more and is getting bored?
Q. I've been dating a guy for a few months and from the very start he was chasing me, texting, chatting to meet up and take me out on dates. he always took the initiative, even talking to me first on msn. if he doesnt talk first then i wont. iam very ...
A. 9 January 2010: HE'S TOLD YOU HE WANTS YOU TO TEXT MORE!!!!!
You've said ok, and you did.... ONCE. He's clearly seeing if you ARE willing to change or if this is going to be something that kills your relationship.
He must have been a bit annoyed if he ta... (read in full...)
Is the weather to blame for my low sex drive, or the fact I never get a night to myself?
Q. The weather has certainly gotten a lot colder in recent weeks. As a student, I try and save money by leaving the heating off in my house. My girlfriend is the same. The past couple of times we've had sex I have not had an orgasm, which is pretty ...
A. 9 January 2010: You can't spend every single day together in a relationship as that is a sure fire way to ruin everything.
You NEED time apart from each other or you'll just both change and then get bored of each other. Then she'll meet a rugged guy who does his... (read in full...)
Is it too late to make an effort to show him I'm still keen on him or is he not interested in me any more and is getting bored?
Q. I've been dating a guy for a few months and from the very start he was chasing me, texting, chatting to meet up and take me out on dates. he always took the initiative, even talking to me first on msn. if he doesnt talk first then i wont. iam very ...
A. 7 January 2010: He's talked to you about this which means he still wants this to work... he could well have just ended it.
So make the effort. Text him just to say you are thinking of him when he is out with his mates.
Text him and see what he's up to and i... (read in full...)
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