Women, what is the difference between the men you welcomed and the ones you rejected?
Q. Ladies, I am a 29 year old man who is trying to get better at meeting women, that is, selecting perfect strangers as candidates for romantic or sexual relationships, and pursuing those relationships. I want to approach a large number of women ...
A. 13 April 2010: Sweetie, to be honest, this reads like a critical analysis or a scientific experiment.
That has got to be the biggest turn off for girls ever.
Just go out and go and tell a girl she looks really lovely and ask if you can give her your number.... (read in full...)
I feel guilty about what I watched.
Q. Okay so this sounds really stupid but my boyfriend asked me to watch some porn so I did because he asked me to and I guess I wanted to know what all the fuss is about. Ive watched it on about 4 different occasions and I always delete my browsing ...
A. 13 April 2010: Unless your dad is some kind of computer programmer, I very much doubt that he knows what you have been looking at as long as you have deleted your history.
It's likely he said he knows what you get up to just to scare you.
Don't go on s... (read in full...)
How can I show him I'm not still cheating?
Q. hi there, i cheated on my partner earlier this year. I feel like a slut for doing it. He is always saying to me that im still cheating. But im not. I made a massive mistake once. Im not gonna do it again. Im scared that he'll leave me. i wanna try ...
A. 12 April 2010: He has to want this to work too.
He has to give you a chance.
He either forgives you and gives you a second chance, or he doesn't and he leaves. He has to make that choice. He can't keep stringing you along like this.
Tell him to either fo... (read in full...)
Confused! Ex said my obsessiveness caused her to be obsessive!
Q. The love of my life left me a month ago due to the fact that she felt I was being too obsessive of her. We were in a long distance relationship for over 3 years and she's very dear to me. She felt obligated to stay with me and she didn't want the ...
A. 12 April 2010: It sounds like she did love you, but just wasn't happy.
You aren't automatically happy, even if you are in love.
Sometimes you have to say that a relationship just isn't worth the pain and it sounds like she knew she would be happier being si... (read in full...)
Does my dad have a Mother Complex?
Q. My parents aren't divorced,I have always lived with them but I was raised by my grandmother therefore I don't have a good relationship with my parents,I'm not close to them.I know my mother loves me but I think my father doesn't love me because he ...
A. 12 April 2010: So you're complaining that your dad loves his wife????
He's happy, she's happy. For you to get angry about this is just selfish.
No everyone is a perfect parent but in adult life you do not need your parents to be perfect. You make your own wa... (read in full...)
I became an adult a long time ago, why cant they see it?
Q. Dear cupid, My relationship is with my aunt, we have always been very close and she does alot for me through out my life, I dont think I ever would have gone through college with out her. Her whole life she has been a 5th grade teacher, she spent mo...
A. 12 April 2010: She likes living in her fantasy land.
Real life is just horrible at times. If she's always been there for you then why not repay the favour? Be there for her and let her act like a 5 year old that can only watch PGs and needs her hand holding.... (read in full...)
Does she mean this as a friend only?
Q. Does these comments that agirl im chatting to online mean ive entered the friend zone? or do girls look for these qualitys in a potential partner. "You're so perceptive and sensitive and funny." I'm a bit confused as to what you Ladys look f...
A. 8 April 2010: If you hang around for too long being nice and NOT making a move, then no matter how perfect you are... you will ALWAYS slip into the friend zone.
After a while, we assume you aren't interested and then we stop being interested back in a sexual w... (read in full...)
Girlfriend won't let me go out without her!
Q. My girlfriend and i have been together for nearly a year. Ive never cheated on her or came close to. But she wont let me go out by myself. Out to clubs, even with my brother or friends. Private partys or anything, shes a couple of months younger and ...
A. 8 April 2010: I think you need to tell her that you love her but you can't be a prisoner in a relationship.
If she loves you, why doesn't she trust you?
Also, why doesn't SHE have a life? Where are all her nights out with her friends? Tell her to get a lif... (read in full...)
How should a groom handle a bride's doubts?
Q. My fiancee and I have been together for 4 years this month and have been engaged for just over a year. We are both students (she's in nursing school and I'm in med school), but plan to get married when she is finished (next year) because then at ...
A. 6 April 2010: Time apart may help you both.
I'm not saying go "on a break" as that is just an excuse to cheat for people who don't have the balls to break up.
I'm saying, give each other some space. She needs to go out with her friends, relax, stop thin... (read in full...)
How do I tell my partner its over?
Q. i'v been with my partner for many years now he,s always been laid back and i found this cool when i was young. we have had allot of fun and I love him for that but I guess I have grow up an he behaves like a 18 year old he,s 41 and even uses ...
A. 6 April 2010: It's exactly the same as having a huge spider in the bath. You've left him there for a few days, hoping he would disappear, but he's still there and you need a shower.
You just have to get yourself together and get on with it.
You've been t... (read in full...)
Was I what is classed as "easy"?? Is it ruined?
Q. I came out of a long term relationship since I was 16. I havent much experience with guys. I went on a date with a guy I recently met - make a long story short on our first date he ended up staying with me at my friend's house as he missed his last ...
A. 6 April 2010: So you told him that you are NOT going to have sex with him and you are asking if he's seeing you as slutty?
You need to relax. He's been told things will go slowly and he's still around. He obviously likes you and respects you or he wouldn't... (read in full...)
I'm clueless about making out!
Q. ok this guy thinks im like super gorgeous and we have been txting each other for the past few days hes a freshmen and im a sophmore. im not very experienced in kissing like where to put my hands, when to stop, what to say afterwards, and im pretty ...
A. 6 April 2010: Everyone is clueless about this.
The scaryness is what makes it so exciting.
Would you enjoy a rollercoaster as much if you spend 3 hours reading up on the safety mechanisms and how the hydrollics work? Nope.
Just kiss him and put your ha... (read in full...)
He goes out of his way to look at other women!
Q. I am dating a man of 11 years who is older than me and especially in the past 5 years he has been behaving in very concerning ways toward other women. He was much a gentleman for the first 5 years, however I'm not sure what caused such change... ...
A. 6 April 2010: What you can do is tell him to stop flirting with other women in front of you or you'll leave him.
There is nothing wrong with either of you having a bit of a flirt with a stranger when you are out alone.
But you always ALWAYS put the feelings... (read in full...)
Do I contact this guy from 8 years ago?
Q. My question is do i or dont i contact him? I met this guy about 8 years ago whilst I was travelling and we had a very full on and passionate affair as most travelling relationships are. It all ended when my visa ran out and I had to go home. we...
A. 6 April 2010: What is there to lose?
Worst case: he's an idiot, you get hurt and you lose the happy memories.
Best case: Nothing's changed, you're both mature enough to make it work past the chemistry and you live happily ever after.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
What s up with these unuusal headaches
Q. For the past month I have had headaches on and off. Only in the morning, and they get better as the day goes on..But they're not really headaches but this weird feeling in my head. I also have a stuffy nose, especially when I lay down. I can't ...
A. 6 April 2010: Take some multi vitamins, go and see a doctor.
It could be a giant tumour, or it could be that a flower has just come into bloom and you are allergic to it, or it could be you aren't drinking enough water.
It's 99.999999999% most likely to b... (read in full...)
Why is this guy acting this way?
Q. Hi, i met a guy the other week, he was really into me and couldnt stop looking at me and asking me questions. I am considered to be very attractive but i dpnt take compliments well!!! he works away and was even suggesting that i got a job with him ...
A. 6 April 2010: So you chat with lots of other guys in front of your boyfriend and now you are wondering why your boyfriend is angry and acting insecurely?
It doesn't sound like you are ready to be in a relationship with anyone. If you want to have some fun with... (read in full...)
I'm 13, b/f 16, and we think I'm pregnant! HELP!
Q. I am 13 years old almost 14 and I think.I am pregnant my boyfriend said he would stay but I'm scared about our parents reaction me being almost 14 and his being 16. We both don't believe in abortion.I'm scared.... Any advice?...
A. 6 April 2010: You just have to get it over with. Take a test and find out if you really are pregnant.
If you are then tell which ever set of parents you think will take it best. Then get them to come with you to tell the other set of parents.
You decided y... (read in full...)
I know its selfish but I want him to come home
Q. how can i persuade him to come home My boyfriend and i have been together for alomost a year now but hes taken a job oppertunity in the states for 8 months. weve been through so much together and it was so hard for me to watch him go. i miss h...
A. 28 March 2010: As an army wife, let me tell you that you can get through this and you'll be so so so much stronger for it.
My husband went off for 6 months and when he came back, knowing that we were strong enough to get through it made him head straight... (read in full...)
What happens to your sex life when you get married?
Q. What happens to your sex life when you get married (or are in a long term living arrangement)? Why does the sex always wane, and the relationship become almost platonic? Is it because you're together every day? I've seen in time and again and even ...
A. 28 March 2010: Spend time apart, go out separately, go on dates, where you dress up and meet him there so he doesn't see you wandering round with wet hair in your tights, but just the finished product.
Men do get very lazy about this over time. It's like onc... (read in full...)
How do I handle this situation with this seller on ebay?
Q. Hi. I was wondering if you could offer some advice about this ?. I won a bid on ebay for some concert tickets, and paid for them straight away. It has now been three weeks since i paid for them, and i still haven't received them. I sent the seller a ...
A. 28 March 2010: Concert tickets on ebay are a scam 90% of the time.
Venues only post out the tickets a few days before the gig specifically so people can't sell them on ebay.
These scammers are also good at setting up multiple accounts and giving themselve... (read in full...)
What do you do with the tongue?
Q. Quick question when you are giving a blow job, when you put it in your mouth should your tongue rub up against it or is it best to keep it out the way....
A. 28 March 2010: Definitely use your tongue.
You can either just hold it against it as you go up and down, or stay in one spot and just use the tip to write the alphabet on the head while it's inside your mouth.
Experiment!
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Ladies... Fingers in your mouth during "passion". Yes or no?
Q. Lets say you are in the heat of the moment and he is being very passionate during sex..... Do you find it a turn on when your partner puts one or two fingers in your mouth to suck on? Or do you find it a bit weird? Of course, this is all duri...
A. 26 March 2010: I'd hate that!
What if I jerked forward and then they'd be down my throat... and then you'd get covered in vomit.
You could always try stroking her face and seeing if she chooses to try and suck your fingers.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Good morning babe!!!
Q. I am in a long distance relationship .We have been together for 6 months. We fly to see each other every 4 weeks but talk and text almost every day. My problem is... usually we text each other good morning. Lately I have been recieveing 2 or 3 good ...
A. 14 March 2010: He's threatening to dump you over a joke?
The guy clearly has issues.
Send him a long grovelling email / letter explaining it was a joke and saying you never meant to hurt him.
If he gets over it and decides to be an adult about it then grea... (read in full...)
What's wrong with wanting to marry a woman others might call a slut?
Q. I am an older gentleman. Raised in a religious family but never made the connection. Over the years, I have known people from all walks of life, but, other things being equal, have felt most comfortable with people who are open-minded about sex. ...
A. 14 March 2010: It's a free country. Do what you want.
Just treat her with love and respect and you'll be fine.
Women are women. All different, no matter what their job.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
He is with a new girl but still wants to be with me. He is scared I will hurt him again.
Q. I was with my ex for over 3 years and we were engaged and living together. I was going through a really hard time and went of the rails a bit and ended the relationship for no apparent reason. Afterwards it was like i completely forgot he existed ...
A. 14 March 2010: Tell him to get his act together.
He can either carry on cheating on her and lying to her and leading her on knowing it's all a lie, or he can do the decent thing and tell her the truth.
Do you really want a man back that can do this to some ... (read in full...)
Is this the real character of women?
Q. Just a wondering.... Is there a submissive, feminine, sweet side to practically every psychologically healthy straight/bi woman? Could this aspect be described as uninhibited, as in, the fundamental personality inside? Or is this behaviour only a...
A. 11 March 2010: Are all men bastards?
Generalisations are never true. They are insulting.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Sex drive help!
Q. my other half is telling me my sex drive is too high and i need to find a way to slow it down. can anyone give me advice?...
A. 9 March 2010: So you have decided you want to kill off your sex drive rather than be yourself?
Fair enough, your life.
Try going on the pill, that can kill it.
I still think a vibrator will help too.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Sex drive help!
Q. my other half is telling me my sex drive is too high and i need to find a way to slow it down. can anyone give me advice?...
A. 8 March 2010: Yours is not too high. It just happens to be higher than his.
There is no such thing as normal.
You either have to buy a vibrator, or find a man who can keep up with you.
It's a shame this one is not willing to at least try, and instead t... (read in full...)
He puts his ex and son ahead of me.
Q. I have been dating this guy for about 3 months. We really like each other a lot. He has a son with another woman and I know that I can't compete with that, but here's the problem. He says that he is tryin to get along with her so that he doesn't ...
A. 8 March 2010: "I prefer to manipulate and hurt a woman rather than do the right thing and help raise a son I created."
Is this utter utter loser honestly the best you think you can do?
Do yourself a favour and let him go.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
She flirts with me but says she just wants to be friends
Q. Hi. There is this girl that I really like, and that I have like for about 3-4 years. The only problem with this is that she just wants to be friends, and that I am like a brother to her. What I don't get is that she will flirt with me all the time, ...
A. 7 March 2010: Of course she does all that stuff. It's fun and it makes her feel good when you respond.
She hasn't learned that you can't do that without leading a boy on and how hurtful it is.
Tell you think she's beautiful and you want to give things a go... (read in full...)
I worry my penis wont measure up
Q. i just wanted 2 ask any girls out there that have had a guy or more in the past that had a gigantic dick, what happens in the future when u find someone u fall in love with that just has a 6 or 7 incher? does it mean that since u already had ...
A. 7 March 2010: You are an idiot.
I had an ex who was huge. He was absolutely CRAP in bed. I thought size just meant I'd orgasm by looking at it and therefore he put in zero effort and foreplay was just a means for him to get sex, not to please me.
The onl... (read in full...)
I think I had unrealistic expectations of what a relationship should be
Q. I'm currently in a relationship with a girl (I'm 17 and shes 16, I'm a junior she's a sophomore)l that I do really like but lately things just haven't been working out. I think I may have found the exact reason why... This is actually my firs...
A. 7 March 2010: "Being open" about your doubts sounds all great on paper but in real life it's incredibly incredibly hurtful. You don't talk to her about it till you are sure of what you feel. You talk to your FRIENDS for advice. Not her.
How many times have you... (read in full...)
I don't understand why my dad is leaving his girl friend when they're so well suited.
Q. Hey I have a question about relationships and falling in lover. I'm 20 at college and worried about my dad. My parents divorced a few years ago and met other people. My dad met a really nice woman but he didn't treat her that well. He can be ...
A. 6 March 2010: He sounds pretty set in his ways.
It's sad but you just have to leave him to it.
He maybe older but it may be he still has some life lessons to learn.
If he goes out with a few horrible women then he might realise what he's losing by trea... (read in full...)
How do you initiate "the talk" without freaking him out
Q. How do you have a conversation "about us" with a man without freaking him out? I've read so many self help books that emphasise that this is exactly the sort of thing that will send a man running but my style is usually very direct - people either ...
A. 6 March 2010: Bollocks to them, I say.
If he is not man enough to be able to say "yes I want you to be my girlfriend." then he's not worth having.
Just tell him "Look, I really don't want to get hurt. I have to know if you want us to be together or if t... (read in full...)
He was think of getting back with her, but wants her to loose weight. Am I just a rebound?
Q. Hi Aunts and Uncles. I'm confused and need some help cos this is worrying me. I was asked on a date by a guy recently and we've been on a few dates. He calls me his 'new girlfriend'. Firstly, is it a bit early for him to be calling me that? ...
A. 6 March 2010: Sounds like you are with a pretty weird guy.
Is he in the gym every day looking his best for you?
Or does he often wake up one day and say "drastically alter your appearance for me. If you LOVED ME you'd become anorexic!!!!!"
Either way, sou... (read in full...)
We kissed but he smokes! So it tasted horrible after! How can I get rid of the taste? I don't want to be rude!
Q. So... I have this really close guy friend, and we madeout. (tongue) and he smokes, so his mouth and stuff tasted like smoke and it was really nasty so I had the taste in my mouth after. I chewed some gum but It took forever to get it out. Any tips ...
A. 6 March 2010: When I met my husband he smoked.
I told him that I wouldn't date a smoker as he'd taste like licking an ash tray.
He's rude because he doesn't care about his breath! Why can't you stand up for yourself?
Just tell him that you don't want to k... (read in full...)
Abusers... are you willing to be honest here???
Q. Are their any abusers willing to tell the truth about why they want to hurt people they claim to love, and are their any abusers or batterers who want to stop but don't know where to get help, or if you have recieved help anywhere did it help you. ...
A. 5 March 2010: I know you are here hoping for someone to say "It's because I love you so much and am a scared little boy inside. All I need is the right kind of cuddle and I'll suddenly be good to you."
It's not going to happen.
If he's hurting you then... (read in full...)
Finally I'd rather be single and happy than married and miserable
Q. I am done. After our fight tonight I have finally seen him for what he is. He is selfish, emotionally abusive, chauvinistic, and paranoid. I want out of this sham of a marriage that I have tried so hard to save. I realize now that I can't save it ...
A. 28 February 2010: You know him best, you know what you think is best to do. If you think he may be violent and you know he's going out of town SOON.... then wait till then.
If not then just bring a couple of friends over and tell him with back up.
Find a sofa t... (read in full...)
My girlfriend dumped ME, but she gets pissed when I go out or leave a comment on Facebook!
Q. Hey My ex gf broke up with me two weeks ago because she thinks she should be single but still tells me she loves me, doesnt want anyone else and doesnt want me to find anyone else. She also questions me if i go out anywhere and gets jealous if ...
A. 27 February 2010: "You're a nice guy and if nothing better comes along then I'd like to keep you as a plan B."
"I also miss having someone to ring and moan at who will tell me I'm amazing, but boy is it fun being single. So how about we keep in touch and I can ask ... (read in full...)
I'm Pregnant and he spiked my drink
Q. I'm almost 19 and I've been with my bf since the summer when we met at a festival and turns out he lives only a couple of miles away from me. Its sort of a semi-serious relationship we have. Anyhow we spend most of our time off our faces on dru...
A. 21 February 2010: Would you have been annoyed if he spiked your drink and you HADN'T been pregnant. You'd just been out and sticking to soft drinks for the hell of it?
If you two have a relationship based on taking illegal stuff, then you can't blame him for acti... (read in full...)
He didn't end his online message with a "x" does that me he isn't interested?
Q. Is he intrested or not? This guy at uni has been making moves for months to be honest monday and tuesday was great.. wednesday he added me on my uni email account and emailed me.. but i've looked at his reply and i feel hes not intrested. what do ...
A. 21 February 2010: You snooze you lose.
He's lost out for being a bit useless. There are a million guys out there.
Join some groups and clubs at uni and meet lots of people. You won't have to wait long for a guy with some maturity to ask you out.
Good Luc... (read in full...)
My girlfriend dumped ME, but she gets pissed when I go out or leave a comment on Facebook!
Q. Hey My ex gf broke up with me two weeks ago because she thinks she should be single but still tells me she loves me, doesnt want anyone else and doesnt want me to find anyone else. She also questions me if i go out anywhere and gets jealous if ...
A. 18 February 2010: You need to stand up for your self.
Send her a really nice message and tell her how you feel, but tell her you can't deal with all her mixed messages.
So ask her to cut contact with you if she is not going to get back with you.
If she d... (read in full...)
He didn't end his online message with a "x" does that me he isn't interested?
Q. Is he intrested or not? This guy at uni has been making moves for months to be honest monday and tuesday was great.. wednesday he added me on my uni email account and emailed me.. but i've looked at his reply and i feel hes not intrested. what do ...
A. 15 January 2010: Caring guy has spotted it!
What he said was "let's meet up so I can show you..."
Men often don't use X's at the ends of texts. Same way they don't scream and hug you when you show them a new pair of shoes.
He's probably trying to look ... (read in full...)
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