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*hatOtherGirl
writes:Right well this question concerns my friend, not myself (And I'm not just saying that.)My friend is the same age of me (15) and has recently started having sex with her boyfriend (Whose the same age) but she says she's too embarresed to buy condoms or the pill or anything like that! Another one of our friends offered to get her some if she didn't want to, but she still said no, saying that it'll be okay. As far as I know they're using the withdraw method, which I've heard doesn't work the best under normal circumstances but then when you add in a teenage boy...Anyway, do you have any idea how I can talk some sense into her? I know she is no where near ready to have a kid but she refuses to use any sort of protection! Help?
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reader, Phill9989 +, writes (7 June 2010):
Make sure that she knows the risks of unnprotected sex e.g std's and pregnancy.
If this doesn't work try to find someone who has had an STD and ask that person to tell your friend about the experiance.
If those two don't work then buy her some contraceptives and ask her to take them and see a doctor for any std's. (I left this till last because it can be very emmbarising buying contraceptive so do these tips in any order you wish.)
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (7 June 2010):
Get someone who has had a kid to explain what they do when you are pregnant. What it feels like to have some strange bearded doctor with his face in your vagina doing smears and all the other check ups. You poo yourself during childbirth. In front of the doctor and her mother and boyfriend.
Tell her she can either go to the family planning clinic and see a nurse.... or shit herself on a table in 9 months time and be incontinent afterwards.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2010): Ask her why she is purposely trying to get pregnant.
That is what she's doing. Don't let her explain it in any other terms. Sex without protection equals purposely getting pregnant.
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reader, person12345  +, writes (7 June 2010):
 The withdrawal method works well with people with great self-control. Last I checked, 15 year old boys do not have great self-control, especially when it comes to sex. Why not buy her some condoms and stuff them in her bag or something? Or leave her a different pamphlet about pregnancy every day with a condom taped to it. Anonymously of course. That might get the point across.
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reader, Blod +, writes (7 June 2010):
 I think you and your friends should just get her a load of contraception. Give them to her and tell her to use it. If she doesn't then whatever happens is not your problem. You'll have done your duty as a friend and it's her choice whether she accepts your advice or not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2010): She will learn the hard way.
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