Could the bleeding be from a broken hymen?
Q. Okay Im a virgin I used a dildo today for the first time,. Afterwards I was bleedin and still kinda am , did i break the hymen ? please help thanks. x...
A. 25 April 2010: If it doesn't stop you may have to go and get it looked at by a doctor.
Go out and then tell your mum you slipped while climbing a fence or something.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
My mom doesn't like the fact that I'm a lesbian!
Q. Me and my girlfriend broke up last year and I took it pretty bad. My mum had an idea I was a lesbian through knowing other people I have liked but last year was my first gay relationship. My friends stopped talking to me and I had no one. My mum ...
A. 25 April 2010: If she's raised to think that way they it will be difficult for her to change, and she's probably really been trying to be open minded, and keep these feelings hidden.
She knows that you are going to be socially excluded by people, mis treated ... (read in full...)
Can I ask my soon to be ex to father my child?
Q. I am 34 and on way of getting divorced,I am desperate to have a kid,Would it be right to tell my soon to be ex husband to father a child ...
A. 25 April 2010: If you are happy to be a single mum, are financially secure, and happy for him to have no part in the care of this kid, then ask him.
But why him? Why not a male friend with no bad feelings towards you?
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
The baby seems to be ruining his life and its all my fault
Q. Been with my boyfriend for just over a year now. and now i am 9 weeks pregnant, at first he was happy and over the moon, now he seems so distant. he said its alot of getting use to, but i cant believe he can say that, im the one who is going through ...
A. 25 April 2010: There's obviously something going on with him and this sounds like you two need to sit down and be honest with eachother.
I really don't get why keeping him cheerful is your top priority.
What is going to make YOU happy? And don't say he mak... (read in full...)
Can I have my fertility checked?
Q. does anyone in england know where i can find out if i can have babies? cos im so confused about this problem :\ i missed a period last month, and then i have come on this month. and me and my boyfriend were so worried. but i want to check if i ...
A. 25 April 2010: Go and see your GP.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Help with bulimia!
Q. What should I do please help me??:(? am bulimic... i eat then i throw up.. cos after ive eaten... i feel soo fat and the thought of been fat scares me so i throw up everything after ive eaten. am not fat..am UK size 8 and i exercise every day...
A. 24 April 2010: You have an illness.
You need to see a doctor, just as you would do if you came down with an infection.
You can get through this, but you need real help, not just internet advice.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Could the bleeding be from a broken hymen?
Q. Okay Im a virgin I used a dildo today for the first time,. Afterwards I was bleedin and still kinda am , did i break the hymen ? please help thanks. x...
A. 24 April 2010: You put a penis into you so you probably broke the hymen.
As YouWish says, may girls lose their hymen LONG before they have sex for the first time, so it's not a big deal.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Would you consider me a slut?
Q. i've slept with 13 people, i'm 17, does this make me a slut?...
A. 24 April 2010: I wouldn't as it's your body and your choice.
But men are far more judgemental and most men would think that yes, you are a "slut" or what ever you want to call it.
Why have you slept with so many people? Is it the only way you feel good about ... (read in full...)
Help for my clingy sister!
Q. All my friends used to go on that the youngest in the house was the favorite. But I'm the youngest in my house and I never was, it was my sister 2 years older. I know it's very childish to talk about it because I'm 18 and she's 20 but the thing is ...
A. 24 April 2010: You're mum raised her to be like this so she's going to carry on.
You have to stand up for yourself on things like the prom dress issue and just say that you want it to be you and your mum only.
After that you have to just leave her to it.... (read in full...)
Is it okay to be best friends with my teacher?
Q. My english teacher is my best friend, me and her dont see a problem with it, but some of my friends say im being stupid and i cant be best friends with a teacher. We will always be best friends, we decided on that a couple of weeks before the east...
A. 24 April 2010: As long as you realise that it's still only a school time friendship.
She's never going to let you into her personal life.
Also, it's not very nice to tell your friends that none of them are good enough, and you've picked someone else. It... (read in full...)
Escaping the friend zone?
Q. So I've been friends with this girl for about 5 months now. We hang out like every other week and text for like a few days at a time during random weeks. When i first started talking to her i told her i liked her and she told me she didnt want to ...
A. 24 April 2010: You can hang around being nice to her and she'll carry on being happy to be with you but free to flirt and do anything else she wants with other guys or you can let her see what she's going to lose.
Tell her you like her and can't be just her frie... (read in full...)
She likes me but doesn't want to end current relationship
Q. she told me that her current relationship wasnt going so well, and that she liked me, but she doesnt want to end her relationship... what should i do?...
A. 24 April 2010: Tell her that's fine.
And if she decides that she wants a boyfriend who will treat her well and make her happy all the time then she can get in touch.
Don't get into the Friend Zone by hanging about and being nice to her all the time. Tell h... (read in full...)
Miss my boyfriend but end up exhausted by trying to keep myself busy!
Q. Morning peeps. Just looking for some uplifting advice really. I'm in a long distance relationship and have been for the past 4 years. We see eachother every few months which is better than it used to be as we used to see eachother twice a ye...
A. 23 April 2010: Unfortunately, this is just the way of long distance relationships. They are miserable unfulfilling things.
I am never against long distance if the person is worth it but there HAS to be light at the end of the tunnel.
After a certain amount o... (read in full...)
Work colleagues don't care that I'm ill!
Q. I'm probably going to be told to grow up and get over myself but it's made me feel even more down. I've been off work for 4 days with the flu- ok, no big deal, i'll live! But what's upset me us that not 1 of my colleagues has bothered to txt me ...
A. 23 April 2010: If you are off, they all get extra work to do to cover for you.
It may be that you are the only one who texts... or it may be that they know it's just flu and you aren't dying, just sitting being snotty watching Jeremy Kyle.
Good Luck!! x... (read in full...)
Army boyfriend and engagement !!!
Q. Hey my boyfriend is in the army and is away alot. We have been together a yr and a half now and its been hard him nt bein around, but since he went away before for 3months and came bac and is away alot and i only see him every other weekend we ...
A. 23 April 2010: Even if he moves close to you for now, in 2 years they will announce he is off to Ireland or Germany or somewhere else. He doesn't get to chose.
I also just want you to consider the fact you will be a single mum for a LOT of the time. And if he co... (read in full...)
Army boyfriend and engagement !!!
Q. Hey my boyfriend is in the army and is away alot. We have been together a yr and a half now and its been hard him nt bein around, but since he went away before for 3months and came bac and is away alot and i only see him every other weekend we ...
A. 22 April 2010: Please please please don't have kids with him.
I was an army wife for years and I can tell you how utterly miserable the girls were when they had to look after their screaming brats who were playing up yet AGAIN because daddy was in Afghan /... (read in full...)
I like porn and masterbating, but am I being lied to?
Q. Do ALL men look at porn and masturbate while in a relationship? My boyfriend insists he doesn't do either. He says porn makes him feel weird to watch and that he never even feels the urge to masturbate when I'm around (he does it when we're apart ...
A. 22 April 2010: Some men don't like the horrible fakeness of porn. All those cloned girls faking orgasms and screaming.
It could be you have found a decent guy who can actually use his imagination when he looks at pretty girls.
My husband looks at picture... (read in full...)
How do I achieve a sexy, flawless body, minus the fake boobs?
Q. Okay I know this is weird to ask, But I want advice on something pretty wild. Okay, I've noticed that in movies,adult, magazine,etc. That women have some beautiful bodies, I want to know how to come about it. Not the working out or big breas...
A. 22 April 2010: What you do is take some photos and then get a man with a computer to do about 3 days of photoshopping on you.
Then you will look like the girls in the magazines.
Do a search on youtube for "dove evolution"
Magazines are not real. You may as... (read in full...)
Celibate marriage.
Q. *OP's own title* I am also in a sexless marriage. I have been married for almost 6 years. My husband has some very deep issues and hang-ups about sexual intimacy. Through these years he kept saying to me that he will go get help. He finally sees the ...
A. 22 April 2010: Reply that you have stayed with him for 6 YEARS.
If he loved you, he would want to keep you, rather than just blackmail you into staying.
Tell him this is not going to count in his favour when it comes to you deciding whether to go or not.
... (read in full...)
Setting limits on behaviour in a committed relationship
Q. I've been discussing an issue with my mate about setting boundaries to behaviour when out clubbing. He believes it's perfectly fine to let your girlfriend dance with other guys. I'm a bit more traditional in my thinking and worry about it sending...
A. 18 April 2010: It sounds like you and your girlfriend are just not compatible sexually.
Being traditional is fine. The world would be very boring if we all had the same views on everything.
But you might be a lot happier if you found a traditionally mi... (read in full...)
What's the good thing about being FWB, not including sex?
Q. Hey everyone !!! I want to ask a quick question. What is the good thing about being friends with benifits and by that i mean holding hands, hugging, cute names, making out. (nothing sexual) ?? And what is the bad part ?? thanks alot ...
A. 18 April 2010: That is not friend's with benefits. What you describe is called "dating."
Friends with benefits are what two FRIENDS become when they are both drunk and want sex but not to be boyfriend and girlfriend.
If one person wants more then it's not fr... (read in full...)
Why did my shy crush say eww about me and the laugh?
Q. She was in their computer room talking to her mom, who was standing at the doorway. Then my friend and I began to walk by, him in front of me. When I reached the doorway of the computer room, I could see her staring at me like she normally does. ...
A. 18 April 2010: So someone sees you and says to her "Ooooh there's that boy you want to suck tougues with!!" to embarrass her in front of her mum.
She says "ewwwww"
He mum says "Oh not this again."
And probably after you left they all wonder why you don't... (read in full...)
Is this true about the black rose?
Q. I was told along time ago that there were a group of people like a club or a gang, that would sleep with you then send you a black rose or some flower that would say some thing like you have aids now welcome to the club is this true? and if it is ...
A. 18 April 2010: This urban legend is hundreds of years old.
http://www.snopes.com/horrors/madmen/aidsmary.asp
They used to have one here in Britain that you'd be in a pub and someone would bite you and say "Now you have plague too."
It scares people beca... (read in full...)
Friend suddenly stopped talking to me!
Q. Iv'e been really good friends with someone for about three years, theres quite a big age gap in our friendship but thats never been a problem. I was really close to her and we shared alot of things. She has helped me through some really bad times ...
A. 17 April 2010: Have you spoken to her to see if she is ok?
If something bad has happened in her life then keeping up with friends may have slipped off her priorities list.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Why was making love this time so intense?
Q. I need a woman's advice here! I was making love with my girlfriend last night and as usual the sex is great, we have been together for 3 years now and we have had lots of fun in and out the bedroom!! but as we were making love we both came together ...
A. 17 April 2010: Sounds like she has PMT and you were especially good and handsome looking last night. Or maybe she's figured out she wants to spend her life with you.
This is a good thing and she loves you. She just got a bit overwhelmed by how MUCH she loved yo... (read in full...)
Flirting games...
Q. This is about a guy I work with, I knew him for 3 years and a week ago we were just joking around about flirting. He's married and I'm married so he asked me a question in a message "do you want to satisfy my curiosity? so I reply back to him "Yes" ...
A. 17 April 2010: Well it's just flirting so he's not going to be taking it seriously.
Maybe he couldn't think of anything clever to say. Maybe his phone rang, and then he got on with some work.
Meaningless flirting is great fun and good for a marriage, but it... (read in full...)
Can you undo a lifetime of conditioning???
Q. I'm very uncomfortable around gay people. I'd hate to describe myself as Homophobic but maybe that would be accurate. I know the usual answer to something like this is: maybe youre secretly gay yourself. But I'm 100% sure I'm not secretly gay. I ...
A. 17 April 2010: Yes you can get over this.
Basically you just have to face your fear.
Chat to a gay guy. They are absolutely no different from you except women do nothing for them.
Talk about sports or politics or what ever. Talk about your upbringing an... (read in full...)
What are these bumps on my legs and how can I improve them?
Q. My legs and thighs have bumps on them and are always dry and not smooth. I'm very insecure about my legs. I see other girl's legs are smooth with no bumps so why are mines like this? I don't let a guy touch me or see my legs or feel my legs bec...
A. 17 April 2010: You'll need to see a doctor, we can't tell you what these bumps are over the internet.
try using moisturiser and giving them a good rub down every night to increase the blood flow.
But as I say, it could be anything. You need to get them look... (read in full...)
Am I incapable of being in love?
Q. I have had some of the greatest relationships but wonder if I am incapable of love. Guys get really attached to me and I dont know I cant get into the love part of the relationship. I get “blaséd about the whole thing. I wonder if it is because ...
A. 17 April 2010: Maybe you are setting your standards too low.
If you go out with guys that are very sweet and ask you out, but don't feel anything for them but friendship and flattery, then it's no wonder you are not feeling it.
Have a think about what kind ... (read in full...)
I don't want to get too comfortable as friends if perhaps we both want to go farther.
Q. I'm 26, she's 25. it's been 6 years since i seen her last, i had a huge crush on her before and we hung out a lot but i never really put on any moves on her. i didn't have a lot of confidence back then but these days i'm VERY cocky. She just got ...
A. 17 April 2010: You don't need to spend a fortune.
Just ask her out and take her to a movie. Do it on a day that has 2 for 1 so you can even buy her some pick'n'mix.
Ask her out or lose her. Although beware you are both on the rebound so it may be a good id... (read in full...)
Hes always blowing hot and cold.
Q. Hi, i need some unbiased advice!.....basically, i was in a relationship from a young age, 15. At the age of 20, i fell out of love with my boyf, and fell totally for my best guy friend who id known for three years. I ended my relationship nt knowing ...
A. 17 April 2010: Living with this guy and being in his face all the time is a really bad idea.
He needs space to move on from what happened and miss you.
Go out and have fun with some other of your friends. Be nice to him and be his friend but just make sure h... (read in full...)
I'm crazy about a girl, but maybe she's not the best thing for me. Should I cut her out of my life?
Q. Six months ago i met a girl that's 2 yrs older than me. We talked every day for 2 months on msn because she lives far away, and we became really close friends. A few months ago i told her i liked her and turns out she really liked me too, but she ...
A. 17 April 2010: You don't appear to be getting much happiness from this situation so I would try and move on.
You have to decide you WANT to move on and then start chatting to other girls instead. Think of all the incredible amazing girls you will meet at your ... (read in full...)
So now what do I do? Should I just continue the flirtation?
Q. So I've written on this site before about this shy guy I am interested in. I took everyone's advice and made the move (long story short): (Just a background- we both go to school together. He's a bit shy around me. I always catch him staring at m...
A. 17 April 2010: You say you made a move... but I'm trying to spot WHAT you actually did.
You flirted. That's it.
He seems to be more keen so continue flirting and see if he asks you out.
Either that or just ask him out.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Celibate marriage.
Q. *OP's own title* I am also in a sexless marriage. I have been married for almost 6 years. My husband has some very deep issues and hang-ups about sexual intimacy. Through these years he kept saying to me that he will go get help. He finally sees the ...
A. 17 April 2010: You waited for 6 YEARS for him to get help... the fact you've waited this long says to me you are anything but cold blooded.
Tell him that if he doesn't get help and have this sorted by say September (Or whenever) then you are leaving.
Show hi... (read in full...)
Should I tell my ex I still have feelings for him even though we split up 5 years ago?
Q. should i tell my old flame that i still have feelings for him, though we broke up 5 years ago. and there has been others after him?...
A. 16 April 2010: What have you got to lose? What have you got to gain?
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Should I just ask him if we are more than just friends? He gives so many mixed messages!
Q. I have a guy friend that seems to only want to be friends however gives mixed messages and can get upset not wanting to "disappoint" me. He constantly calls and wants to hang-out. Should I ask him straight-up if we are more than friends or just ...
A. 16 April 2010: Call his bluff.
Tell him you can't see him any more because you have all these feelings starting for him and he OBVIOUSLY doesn't feel the same or he'd have made a move.
Then look into his eyes and give him a chance to say "But I DO feel the sa... (read in full...)
Can you have periods but not ovulate??
Q. hi all, i just have a quick question cant get any sense from gp. if you have periods, irregular ones and have ovulation pains you must be able to get pregnant right periods equal ovulation, ovulation equals ability to concieve??? or not??? please ...
A. 16 April 2010: The whole conceiving thing is far more complicated than that. Probably why your GP couldn't give you a simple answer.
You can buy tests that tell you when you ARE ovulating and when to have lots and lots of sex.
If you still have no luck the... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is obsessed with me!
Q. *OP's own title* hey i am 17 and ive been dating my boyfriend for like a year and a few month,and its not that his to nice to me i can deal with that but the problem that he seems a bit to obsessed with me. well yh his nice and i dont mind that ab...
A. 15 April 2010: Welcome to being a grown up.
If you are going to have boyfriends, you have to deal with the fact you have to talk to them about things rather than running off and hiding from problems.
So tell him he's pissing you off, and suffocating you ... (read in full...)
I am sick of him throwing a self pity-party
Q. Sometimes my boyfriend does things that I have problems with, so I address them with him at an appropiate time. The problem with this is my boyfriend cannot handle hearing anything negative about himself. He does not try to work on me with any ...
A. 15 April 2010: If he's talked of suicide then send him to a doctor. You are his girlfriend, not a mental health nurse, so tell him to get his illness dealt with or he's going to lose you.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
We're both virgins, should he wear one?
Q. Dear Cupid, I am a 21 years old virgin, have a 22 years old boyfriend who is also a virgin. We have been dating for 2 years now. Right now, both of us are deciding to lose our virgin to each other as we love each other so much. But my problem i...
A. 13 April 2010: If he doesn't wear one, he risks ruining your life.
If he's happy to risk ruining your life then he doesn't care about you or respect you.
Tell him it's condom or nothing.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
We're broke up for the last year, but he still wants to hurt my feelings.
Q. i just broke up with my boyfriend for a year, we share a phone line so i texted him and i told him that he needs to disconnect the line, he said he might! then 3 minutes later he sent me a text saying that i look ugly and that his friends used to ...
A. 13 April 2010: Because he's a bitter loser.
He knows you've probably moved on and he's not found anyone new.
He's a bully. But the good news is, you're not with him any more.
Just ignore everything he says and be happy.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Women, what is the difference between the men you welcomed and the ones you rejected?
Q. Ladies, I am a 29 year old man who is trying to get better at meeting women, that is, selecting perfect strangers as candidates for romantic or sexual relationships, and pursuing those relationships. I want to approach a large number of women ...
A. 13 April 2010: Sweetie, to be honest, this reads like a critical analysis or a scientific experiment.
That has got to be the biggest turn off for girls ever.
Just go out and go and tell a girl she looks really lovely and ask if you can give her your number.... (read in full...)
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