Why doesn't she answer my question about her feelings?
Q. my ex contacted me for advice on tax (im an accountant) after few weeks of no contact (she is currently seeing someone else). i took this opportunity up to tell her how much i miss her however she didn't acknowledge my feelings just carried on ...
A. 10 February 2010: No but you could tell her NOT to call you.
Being hacked is not life or death, it's annoying. She did not need your help. She could have found someone else or emailed the help guys at hotmail.
Tell her you need to get over her and you need her... (read in full...)
Why doesn't she answer my question about her feelings?
Q. my ex contacted me for advice on tax (im an accountant) after few weeks of no contact (she is currently seeing someone else). i took this opportunity up to tell her how much i miss her however she didn't acknowledge my feelings just carried on ...
A. 10 February 2010: Well if she marries a creep then it's her choice.
What you need to do is cut contact.
You still haven't and you are still doing things in the hope she will be greatful etc.
Just move on. If she calls again then tell you need her to stop cal... (read in full...)
How do I cope when I see history repeating itself ?
Q. Oh my god, this is so petty, but I'm reliving memories I just don't want to relive at all!!!! A few years ago, my boyfriend and I partially broke up because he met this girl who got to a part of his soul. It wasn't the only reason, but she ...
A. 31 January 2010: I have to wonder why on earth you choose to stay with men who tell you so openly that they like other people.
I feel all your problems could be solved with a little self respect, so that when they say "I find her intriguing" or talk about finding ... (read in full...)
Had sex with someone new, and now have pain while urinating! Sign of pregnancy?
Q. I had sex with a new partner 2 weeks ago, and since then i have felt bad pain when urinating and felt the urge to urinate much more frequently than normal. What could be causing this? Is it a sign of pregnancy?...
A. 28 January 2010: You clearly have an STI so I'm assuming you had unprotected sex.
If you are very lucky you will have got 2 for the price of 1 and have screaming little brat to deal with AS WELL AS the chlamydia / AIDS.
See a doctor.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Have I wasted 5 yrs of my life with this man?
Q. I've been living with my fiance for 5 years. He's 50 this year and i'm 47. At the start he said he wanted marriage and would ask me on a weekly basis but now he seems to have changed his mind. When i approach the subject he either says i'm starting ...
A. 28 January 2010: You haven't "wasted" 5 years. You've had good times and grown and enjoyed having him around.
You have also learned that being with someone is not enough and you want marriage. That is a valuable thing to learn.
So thank him for everything and m... (read in full...)
My friend is angry that I warned her about her dangerous driving.
Q. Today I went out in the car with one of my friends who passed her driving test about a month ago. Only 1 of the other passengers could drive as well. Basically she was driving way too fast. Dangerously fast. The two of us in the back felt uncomfor...
A. 28 January 2010: People get touchy about their driving.
Try and suggest taxis / buses when ever possible and just keep at it.
At some point she will not have a near miss and it's always the passengers that get hurt, the driver is the safest one in the car.
T... (read in full...)
How can I stop being so needy?
Q. i am in desperate need of help, my partner and i met eachother online 4 years ago, and moved in with eachother 6 months after first meeting, hes 26, im 24. before we moved in we would chat on the phone for hours every day, in total about 7 hours a ...
A. 28 January 2010: You need to get some friends!!
If you were chatting to him for 7 hours at a time, you clearly weren't working / talking to anyone else.
Get a job or do some volunteer work, and go on a girls night out.
You need something else in your l... (read in full...)
I'm scared of being on my own. Any Advice?
Q. I think my relationships coming to an end, ive been with her 2 years,and before that was with a girl for 3 years, ive not really been single since i was a teenager and im pretty scared of being on my own now due to this. any advice? ...
A. 28 January 2010: It's ok! Washing machines are really not that difficult to figure out!
Being alone is great. You have a whole bed to yourself and you get to go out drinking with your mates all the time.
Stop being scared of something that really has very ... (read in full...)
I've tried relaxing and stuff, but now I'm just a constant wreck whenever we get intimate.
Q. Hey, i'm 17 and i've been dating this really attractive girl for going on 3 months now. The sex is amazing and so is the oral, but the other night when i was receiving oral, i lasted a bit too long and it started to lose feeling after a while, ...
A. 28 January 2010: You need to give the oral stuff a break and get your confidence back up.
Anyone can decide they are no longer in the mood and just want to cuddle instead.... and if you aren't in the mood then you are going to loose feeling down there.
So give... (read in full...)
How can I stop my jealousy, be secure again, be sexy, feel sexy again and get my relationship to a normal healthy state??
Q. hello, i am 20 and my boyfriend is 41. we have been together almost 2 years. we started our relationship "Long Distance". After 3 1/2- 4 months of being together. I had my school prom and went with my ex. I kissed my ex and danced with him. I know ...
A. 28 January 2010: You need to move out!
You need to get some space and time of your own. Moving in together was a big mistake.
You knew he had issues and most older women would have told him to shove it and cut contact a long while ago. But then I guess that's w... (read in full...)
Will he leave me when he looses weight?
Q. Ive a bf who is overweight. He is planning to have a surgery but Iam little bit worried because he may cheat on me after surgery. Cause Iam thinking that oh nowhe is overweight and he thinks no girl looks at her thats why he is really into me and ...
A. 28 January 2010: Do you honestly think he's with you because you're the best he can get???
If so then sod the surgery, dump him now because he's an arse hole.
You have some serious self esteem issues. Is having someone who can't do any better all you really t... (read in full...)
Is sleeping on the same couch with him wrong?
Q. is sleeping on the same couch as your boyfriend wrong if you have been going out for a number of months and nothing will happen? ...
A. 28 January 2010: It's not wrong, but it's stupid and I wouldn't let any teenager I knew do it.
It's easy to say nothing will happen NOW.
But trust me as someone who's "shared sofas" with guys. When you have that closeness and intimacy..... things start to ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't she answer my question about her feelings?
Q. my ex contacted me for advice on tax (im an accountant) after few weeks of no contact (she is currently seeing someone else). i took this opportunity up to tell her how much i miss her however she didn't acknowledge my feelings just carried on ...
A. 28 January 2010: How can she "acknowledge" your feelings? What do you want her to say? "Oh gosh, you still haven't moved on? That's lovely!"
Don't send her a text, if you have tried your best then you can walk away with a clean conscience.
Tell her to find some... (read in full...)
Any romantic ideas for Valentine's day?
Q. Hi everyone, Myself and my girlfriend have been in an online relationship for over a year now, and I decided that this valentines day, I want to do something drastic, and travel to her country and surprise her with something romantic and une...
A. 28 January 2010: Just turning up would be enough to be honest. I would drop some hints about it though.
You don't want to get there with a bunch of roses only to be met at the door by her husband and the police.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I'm a flirt with no backbone
Q. Well here be the thing I flirt A LOT... but i never really follow threw. I guess the reason why is i just am not sure if i really like her or not, but its kind of annoying i guess you'd say. Any advice? (Mod note: title was written by poster)...
A. 27 January 2010: Take a chance and ask a girl out for dinner.
You don't have to hear choirs of angels and plan to marry her within the first 24 hours.
Date some one and if it isn't for you then move on and try getting to know someone else.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I want my scorpio man back!!!
Q. I want my scorpio men back he say's he doesn't like me anymore, but shows me differently. He also told me that he's with someone, but that was after the fact I told him that I was with someone. Please Help....
A. 27 January 2010: Well you could stop talking about star signs and tell us actual useful information like why you split up and why you are with someone else when you want him back?
If you think the entire galaxy rotates just to predict what kind of day you are goin... (read in full...)
Advice needed for a valentines get together!
Q. Long story short, I have a very special woman in my life. We get along great, we're the best of friends and we may be the closest person in each other's lives though we don't see each other often as it's a LDR. Before I met her, she had got...
A. 27 January 2010: You've already put her in the spot and she's turned you down.
If she's daft enough to keep leading you on and agreeing to see you on Valentines then she can hardly be freaked out by you telling her once again that you want to be more than friends.... (read in full...)
Why is flexibility such a turn on?
Q. Okay, so when my boyfriend and I have sex, he seems to get turned on by the fact that I'm on the dance team at school and stuff and knows that I'm really flexible. So, when we have sex, we usually start off folding deck chair style, and he carefully ...
A. 27 January 2010: Why are boobs such a turn on? Why is shaking your hair a turn on?
Boys are strange and generally like to man-handle us.
It probably has something to do with child bearing, but it's best just to accept it works and have fun.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Bending over got me a new name with my partner!
Q. My common-law partner and I have been together for almost 8 years. I have never been unfaithful nor would I ever consider that as an option. My partner on the other hand has. The problem however is not the past affairs but an incident that ...
A. 27 January 2010: People who cheat often get paranoid about their partner cheat. And over react to hide their own feelings of guilt.
The thing is, if you stay with a man who cheats on you then you can't exactly be surprised when he shows no respect for you in other... (read in full...)
Why doesn't she answer my question about her feelings?
Q. my ex contacted me for advice on tax (im an accountant) after few weeks of no contact (she is currently seeing someone else). i took this opportunity up to tell her how much i miss her however she didn't acknowledge my feelings just carried on ...
A. 27 January 2010: Because she's seeing SOMEONE ELSE!
She probably still cares about you and may still find you attractive, but that doesn't mean she wants to be with you.
She probably doesn't know how she feels and doesn't really want to chat about it with yo... (read in full...)
I don't think that I have actually been in love.
Q. I dont know if i am the only one but from all the relationships ive been in i dont think that i have actually been in love. i find this very confusing because everyone talks about how great love is and all. what do you think?...
A. 27 January 2010: You are 16 to 17.
It is highly unlikely anyone your age has had anything more than a crush.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
She wont kiss me and wont say why!
Q. im 17 and i have a gf but its hard to make her talk to me and she wont kiss me and wont say why, recenly ive been finding her friend very attractive. her and her freind often fall out about thing that each other has done. its usually my gf wh...
A. 27 January 2010: Your relationship is clearly not working.
She's not even willing to kiss you and clearly isn't that nice if she tries to break people up etc.
So dump her and give it some time and then ask out her friend if you still want to.
Why would you s... (read in full...)
My good friend is sick and is taking out her mood on me?
Q. I think i have done the wrong thing with a friend and am afraid of how she thinks of me now. sorry its long.. My good friend ( friend only!) is sick at the moment with headaches and back pain, she sleeps a lot and isnt able to work much,...
A. 27 January 2010: Have you ever had an ongoing headache?
I get them and let me tell you... when she got up that morning and staggered into work, she didn't not wear your necklace on purpose.
She probably wasn't capable of doing it up. I've gone to work with a h... (read in full...)
Why did she message me after everything, I did to her?
Q. I'll try to keep this as short as possible. I dated a girl last year from about April to June. It was a very short yet meaningful relationship. I was in love with the girl, and I'm pretty sure she was in love with me too. We never confessed it to ...
A. 27 January 2010: She probably felt so bad that you went insane after the breakup that she wanted to check you were still alive and she didn't have a suicide on her conscience.
Also she may be curious about why you treated her so badly if you "loved" her enough t... (read in full...)
Is being gay and christian all right?
Q. I've been a converted chrstian for a year now. Most of the time, i'm into guys and its great. But recently i've been liking this girl whom i'm not sure is into girls. That aside, what i'm more worried about is 'is it ok to b gay and christian?' ...
A. 27 January 2010: It depends what kind of Christian you are.
If you take the Bible seriously and think a 2000 year old desert handbook should be followed exactly, then no you cannot be gay. You'll just have to live a miserable life of denial. But then you also can... (read in full...)
He abuses me because I am insecure..how do I stop being this way?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years. We have an 8 month old daughter. We have always fought verbally but now its getting worse. He hits me and chokes me and throws things at me. And he says the reason he does it is because I am insecure and ...
A. 27 January 2010: Oh how convenient for him.
It's all your fault is it?
When some one makes the choice to hit their girlfriend it is ONLY EVER their OWN choice.
You don't do anything. He just wants to hit you.
So what to do about you?
Well you can st... (read in full...)
How do I tell her I love her but can't see her anymore?
Q. Hi aunts and uncles. Have appreciated your advice in the past and need it again now please. Having weighed up previous advice, I now realise I can't go on with things as they are. I am in love with my best friend (who is female) and while other ...
A. 27 January 2010: Personally, I'd go the other way.
Go out for a drink get tipsy and then try and kiss her.
If she freaks out and slaps you in the face then you can grovel back the next morning saying you were drunk and don't know what came over you. Hopefully s... (read in full...)
Mothers medical conditions! need advice.
Q. Hey aunts and uncles I'm asking this for my mum,(aged 57) she wants to know why she is getting 'hot suddenly' she's had her menopause 7 years ago ...the heat comes up suddenly and lasts for about an hour, makes her sweat and only slighty cools when ...
A. 26 January 2010: Well if the spray isn't working then she needs to go back and see the doc again.
She can ask him what he thinks it is rather than just taking the prescription and leaving.
It still sounds like an infection.
Tell her to drink some orange jui... (read in full...)
Got back with my gf and she wont get over me sleeping with someone else!
Q. My girlfriend of a year and a half broke up with me and i slept with someone else because i thought there was no chance that we would get back together. Now we are back together she cant get over it and keeps making me feel really guilty about it ...
A. 26 January 2010: Well she needs to choose... she either forgives you and wants you back. Or she doesn't forgive you and can't be with you.
You need to tell her that you were single and she can't keep holding it over you and expect this relationship to work.
... (read in full...)
Mothers medical conditions! need advice.
Q. Hey aunts and uncles I'm asking this for my mum,(aged 57) she wants to know why she is getting 'hot suddenly' she's had her menopause 7 years ago ...the heat comes up suddenly and lasts for about an hour, makes her sweat and only slighty cools when ...
A. 26 January 2010: She could be fighting off one of the many winter infections out there. That would cause a spike in temperature.
But the advice is the same as for any problem.
Get her to see a doctor. I'm just a random off the internet.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Do husbands always lose interest when their wives age?
Q. I'm so panicked now... When I read this posts ,it looks like there is an epidemic, of marriage goes bad almost like scheduled ,for 20 -25 years. I keep reading about husbands ,who goes off sex, and losing attraction,or just simple luck of love. Me ...
A. 26 January 2010: You are on a site that deals with people who have relationship problems. Of course you are going to see an "epidemic" of questions about husbands and wives going off each other.
If you went to a site about skin problems then you would see an "epid... (read in full...)
How many people got divorced last year?
Q. just want to know how many peopel they divorce last years thanks?...
A. 26 January 2010: The figures for last year aren't out yet but here is some info.
http://www.statistics.gov.uk/cci/nugget.asp?id=170
It'll be a tough one as obviously the recession will have caused a lot more stress in marriages, but at the same time people won'... (read in full...)
We seem to be on different planes of thought...should I just love him for-better-or-worse?
Q. When my b/f of 5 years first got with me we'd both been married before so we were in no hurry to go there. We moved in together and things have been pretty good. Maybe a year ago we started talking about the possibility of marriage but didn't make ...
A. 26 January 2010: Well you can't stay with a guy because you are scared of being alone. I really don't think being single is that terrible. But that's just me.
To be honest I think you just need to kick him up the bum.
Tell him how you are feeling, that yo... (read in full...)
Work Issues!!! Please help
Q. Hello , At my work the people here are party animals they drink every weekend or have bbq's and what not. So i dont join them because i cannot afford it at all so they think im being uptight and also they have changed towards me because they also ...
A. 26 January 2010: Well just tell your boss all of this.
Be honest. Tell them you feel like you are under more pressure than everyone else, and that people judge you for not coming out.
Also, when people do ask you out... just say "Sorry I'm broke!"
But t... (read in full...)
How do I approach this guy I have a crush on?
Q. hi there is this guy that lives by me and i kind of have a little crush on him. i want to talk to him but i dont know how to aproch him. what can i do ?...
A. 25 January 2010: Well if you see him fairly regularly then just smile next time you see him. Nothing wrong with smiling at a neighbour.
Then the time after that, smile and wave. Then the time after that, say hi as you go past. Then the time after that, say hi a... (read in full...)
Have I gone too far being spiteful over my husband's affair?
Q. I have done something really stupid. In a fit of rage over my husband's affair with a work colleague (and very drunk) I sent some emails designed to get her into bother. Although it did achieve that purpose it has also got him into a very precarious ...
A. 25 January 2010: Yep, you've probably just caused your marriage more bother.
How did you think that she would get into trouble but everyone would just say to your husband "don't worry mate, fancy a cup of tea?"
HE is the married one, and people would probably t... (read in full...)
Is it fair that I should down my ex to my new boyfriend in orde to make him feel good?
Q. I'm female - when a relationship ends and a new one begins is it okay to say bad stuff about the man you have just came out of the relationship with to the new man in your life? Not vindictive stuff, just stuff that makes the new person in you life ...
A. 25 January 2010: I generally try and stay away from every type of comparisons with ex boyfriends.
Men's brains are very strange and no matter what you say, he's going to not like it.
If you say he's better in bed then he's going to wonder if your previous bl... (read in full...)
When you're with a man you're in lust with, how would you describe the real you?
Q. Girls.... When you're with a man you're in lust with, how would you describe the real you, i.e. your real personality, as opposed to the one you show in public?...
A. 25 January 2010: Why would you let a man see your personality if you only want him for one thing?
You show what you want others to see.
If I am "in lust" as you put it, then I would show very little of myself. I would keep myself separate and away from him so... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my friend but she's not in love with me...how does she want me to act around her?
Q. hi I'm in love with my best friend and I think she knows about it. i know she doesn't feel the same way so I'm wondering if anybody is in the same situation as her and how they would like the person in love to act thanks...
A. 24 January 2010: She's not trying to play you.
As a girl, I have been there and done that. I honestly thought at the time that saying "no let's just be friends" and then carrying on being extra nice to him, and letting him have lots of physical affection, really w... (read in full...)
When is a marriage just not worth trying for anymore?
Q. Do you think ,is it foolish to stay in a marriage ,which does not make you happy sexually and emotionally,or it is not ,because marriage is more important than some happy sex and feelings? I mean ive been in therapy to try to and save my marriage, ...
A. 24 January 2010: When you have tried your best, it is perfectly reasonable to leave.
There is a very good chance that he has not tried to change because he doesn't see a need. You are still there, and he is happy, so why should he make an effort.
Many people d... (read in full...)
My friends say he's not for me....any advise, please?
Q. I really like this guy i don't know what to do he is a bit on the large size and all my friends say he is not my type, any advise would be great, please?...
A. 24 January 2010: How do your friends know what you are and are not attracted to?
Only you know how you feel so just follow your heart.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my friend but she's not in love with me...how does she want me to act around her?
Q. hi I'm in love with my best friend and I think she knows about it. i know she doesn't feel the same way so I'm wondering if anybody is in the same situation as her and how they would like the person in love to act thanks...
A. 24 January 2010: She's a teenage girl. She wants you to think she's amazing and be nice to her and give her cuddles and make her feel good.
She is JUST discovering how good it feels to have a boy like you and let me tell you: It's better than crack cocaine.... (read in full...)
Why did she go out with me in the first place if she still had feelings for her ex?
Q. ok my ex just dumped me today because she had not gotten over her ex. we went out for 4 days and i really loved her. when she dumped me i asked her if she would go back out with me but she replied maybe but also she said she does not know if she ...
A. 24 January 2010: Bloody hell. You're saying you love her and can't live without her after 4 days?
It's no wonder the poor girl is freaked out.
She may have wanted to test herself and see if she was ready for something small, and you came in like a tidal wav... (read in full...)
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