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writes:ok so im 16 and recently lost my virginity to a 20 year old and am now pregnant! well my parents dont approve and said that they were goin to press charges for statutory rape! but in arkansas the legal age of consent is 15 so can they really press charges? plz help
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2010): I study law sweety and no they can not press charges.
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reader, EbonyBlossom  +, writes (3 July 2010):
 No they can't. You are over the age of consent, and you did consent to the sex. The furthest your parents will get is losing a very short court battle. However you're still a teenager so next time use protection =]
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2010): Not a lawyer but they won't be able to get on with that.
Usually you can press changes for anything. Later you have to prove the other part guilty. In the first place, he won't be found guilty unless you say he raped you. Your parent's can't testify for you.
Furthermore, for a sexual relationship being declared abusive it's not enough one of the partners being under age. You need significant difference in age between them. He's 20 and you are 16, so I guess 4 years is not enough difference.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2010): Despite how angry you must be with your parents they are only doing this out of love.Fast forward seventeen years and imagine the baby you're going to have, at 16/17 coming to you and telling you she's not only pregnant but by an adult who should be old enough to know better. How devastating must that be? To your parents it will feel like yesterday you were there little girl and this is big news to take in.Whatever happens make sure you keep your mum and dad in your life. No one can replace them.Take Care
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2010): Wow, I'm amazed by the attitude of some of these answers. Why is it that every time someone comes on here asking for help half of the answers need to criticize them and attack them personally. She's asking for help and you shouldn't be trying to make her feel worse about the situation.Now, for the person who posted this, I'm not completely sure about the legality one way or the other. Even if it isn't statutory rape it would be a bad thing to have to deal with even the accusations. You should talk to your parents and explain to them that he did not pressure you into anything and did not force himself on you. Explain to them that you understand the seriousness of the situation and that they will only make things more difficult on you by them pressing charges. Hopefully they will listen. I hope everything works out for you and try not to let everyone else's negativity bring you down. Regardless of who is at fault with this situation or where the mistakes were made, what's done is done and you should try to keep a positive attitude. Letting yourself be brought down by other people attacking you doesn't help anybody.Good luck
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reader, Curiousgal +, writes (2 July 2010):
Hey girl yes, they can really press charges on him. Because you are under the age of 18 he will be charged with rape. Im sorry. Lesson Learned right?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2010): Yes, they sure can press charges. The age of consent may be fifteen but this dose not include having sex with an adult. Trust me your boyfrind was well aware of this, honesly. He had no right to do what he's done and you need to understand they have laws to protect children for a reason. Such as this.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (2 July 2010):
 He'll need legal advice, none of us aunts are attorneys in Arkansas, I think. I did find this for you: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ages_of_consent_in_North_America#Arkansas
It looks like they cannot press charges based on this information, but then again, this may not be legally accurate.
Best wishes for your future.
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reader, LLindy87 +, writes (2 July 2010):
 please sit down with your parents and talk to them about it. They love you and are only trying to protect you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2010): Yes, they can press charges because your stil a minor and he's not. So it's rape. You should of thought of that before you slep with him. Now your 16 and pregnant and your baby's daddy is gonna go to prison.
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