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writes:My boyfriend and I have it really easy. We see each other every day. Sometimes it's all day, sometimes it's all night, sometimes it's just for half an hour. But still every day. I've gotten really used to this. And now tomorrow, we have to spend a whole day apart. And I know I'll cope, but it won't be easy as it's the first time I've gone a whole day without him in nearly a year(yeah, we really do have it easy!) In September I'm going to uni, and even though I'll still be living at home, due to my other commitments, work etc, and having to get up really early and coming home late, we'll have less time together during the week. And I know I'm gonna miss him so much.We had a bit of a talk, and he said "I love missing you." I asked him why, and he said "Because when I see you again it's even better! When we spend the whole week together, by the end of it we get a bit snappy, so I love going home just to come back to you and it's perfect." I guess I'd never really thought about it that way before, and I agree, seeing him is better when we've spent the night apart. But even though this is true, it doesn't really help so much while he's gone.So, this question is especially for people in LDRs, how do you cope when you're apart? How do you fill the time? And what seems to make the time pass quicker?Thanks =]
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reader, EbonyBlossom +, writes (16 July 2010):
EbonyBlossom is verified as being by the original poster of the question Well I'm still not seeing him tomorrow, but instead of being busy, he now wants some alone time as he had a really bad day at work today. So I'll be worrying about him =[ Any more tips?
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reader, MetalheadMiss +, writes (16 July 2010):
I completely agree with CaringGuy.
You need to think about yourself a little bit more. Get yourself out more often, with your friends. If you already have hobbies (I.e drawing, going to parties, whatever), then focus on them! :)
Im not exactly in a long distance relationship, but I've been with my man for a while, and we've been through this a few times. We used to be in school together, saw each other every day, then he left and we only saw each other once a week. We were living together, but now we're back to seeing each other once a week.
So I sympathise!
It might take a couple of weeks to get used to it, but you will, believe me! Just make sure you keep in contact - text, call each other, email... Anything it takes :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2010): Also, realize that you don't want to be too dependent on any relationship....that is NOT a good thing regardless of how wonderful it is. If you have outside hobbies and other important things going on in your life besides a relationship, you would be able to cope better if a long seperation between the two of you were to occur.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2010): It's never easy coping to be apart from the person you love and want to be with. I haven't had a long term rel. where I saw my partner everyday or talked to him everyday.
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reader, LilPixie +, writes (16 July 2010):
 I've been in an LRD for one and a half years now (not for much longer though). The easiest way to get through it is to keep yourself busy, so it's good you're having someone come around. It's only 1 day though, it will probably pass quicker than you may think.
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reader, EbonyBlossom +, writes (16 July 2010):
EbonyBlossom is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell I've got a mate staying over tomorrow now. I might be going to the cinema with my Dad as well. And I asked him if I could call him tomorrow and he said "Of course you can!" I'm not gonna see much of him today but I have an incredibly busy evening ahead of me (that I'm not particularly looking forward to!) On sunday I'm seeing him in the evening, hopefully we're gonna have a beach picnic and then stay over at his and if not he's gonna come here. I should be grateful I'm not seeing him tomorrow morning, because he's using it to tidy his room so that I'll be allowed to stay on sunday =]
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (16 July 2010):
I'm in an LDR, and it works because we both have our own hobbies and friends that we can go to. I think what's happened between you and your boyfriend is you've almost become too dependent on each other. You just need to make sure that you keep in contact (I always talk to my girlfriend at least once a day), but also make sure that you go out with friends, and that you have hobbies you can turn to. Just don't sit there waiting for him to call, or time will go very slowly.
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