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writes:my sister moved back to my house, not working just lazing around the house. she loves watching porno, we don't have any kids, but sometimes i come home from work early and she is masterbating. I find this strange but also erotic. what should I do
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reader, mozartfan1756 +, writes (20 July 2010):
Tell her to get a job so time would be spent there instead of this
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reader, Starmonster888  +, writes (20 July 2010):
 It's a common erotic taboo, but super uncomfortable for you regardless i'd imagine. Tell her too sharpen her privacy skills. It's gonna be akward, but then again, it's akward already.
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reader, EbonyBlossom +, writes (19 July 2010):
 The fact that she's your sister is a bit weird. But maybe, when you have a girlfriend, you'll get kicks out of watching your girlfriend masterbate to porn. When you're in a relationship, maybe you could try mutual masterbation?
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (19 July 2010):
 I think it's the taboo that gets your blood going not so much who is doing what.
If you don't like it.. tell her to keep her "fiddling" to her room.
I'm assuming she is a grown up like yourself, so she should understand the general idea of privacy & common decency.
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reader, Undisclosed  +, writes (19 July 2010):
 Don't talk to her about it. Announce your presence loudly when you get home. Just say "Hey X, I'm home" and nothing more.
If she doesn't stop:
Don't talk to her about it. Announce your presence loudly when you get home. Just say "Hey X, I'm home" and ask her to come help you unload the car/cook dinner/(whatever) so she stops and gets out of her room.
Is she still doesn't stop:
Lay down so ground rules. "X, how are you finding it here? I'm happy we get to see each other more often and you know you will always have a place to stay. We're both sharing the same space again and things are ok but we should see what we can do to prevent any headaches down the road so continue to respect each others' personal space." Talk about dividing household tasks, monthly $ contributions (if any), and finally personal relationships. "Invariably you're going to have personal relationships. I respect your private life. I know you respect mine so that when it comes to this part of the private life, be it with someone else or at times simply alone, it can be kept private so as to avoid any discomfort for either of us"
On your sister: She's probably stuck in a rut and self medicating with the endorphins from masterbation.
On you: A masterbating woman is erotic. It will be erotic in your case if you stop thinking of your sister as a sister and start thinking of her as just a woman. A sister is so much more than a woman.
She will forever be your sister and never a sexual object because of the privileged position she has in your life and this is why it's not arousing.
This is why it would be best for your relationship if your sister doesn't become a source of arousal. Replace those womanly thoughts in your mind with sisterly thoughts.
Regards!
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reader, TimmD +, writes (19 July 2010):
 He hasn't said he strongly objects to her doing this.
If she continues to do it, then it obviously doesn't bother her enough to stop. And so if it doesn't really bother you, then don't do anything. Now of course if you're bothered by it or you have a problem with it, then just ask her to stop.
Now, if you're more bothered by the fact that you find it a little erotic, don't. It's not THAT crazy. It's not like you want to have sex with her or anything. If that was the case, then I'd say that isn't healthy and we have a few things to talk about.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (19 July 2010):
 put blocks on website access then tell her why-she "should Be" embarrassed enough to move elsewhere. If not, you should trash the computer!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2010): I like this answer, seems like a good answer to me:
A female reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2010):
leave! This is steping over the boundaries, even talking about it with your sister is wrong never mind seeing her do it! You really need a place of your own before anything happens, it's wrong and illegal at the end of the day
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2010): Erotic in what way...you like the porno, or like seeing her doing it? I guess it is instinct as a male to get that twinge when you see any woman jerking off to porn, but you gotta keep the brain wired up straight...this is your sister. Closest I've been is hearing my female cousin have sex. I will admit it was kinda sexy, but sexy because they were engaged in the act and having a good time with each other...not because I had attraction to my cousin. There are obvious boundaries here. I don't think incest is right, but I will not judge.
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reader, aunty kat +, writes (19 July 2010):
 you need to tell your sister to stop lazying around all day and find a job seem as shes staying at your house she needs to earn her keep. Also if she must insist on watching porn then she should do it in the privacy of her own room and not in your living room it is most definetly inappropriate hope this helps xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2010): I'd ask if I she'd mind if I joined in by masturbating too. Maybe after a while you could end up doing it for eachother. Nothing much wrong with giving eachother a helping hand. No-one need know.
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reader, johannabanana +, writes (19 July 2010):
 How old is your sister? Age counts alot in this sort of situation. And why is she living with you and not your parents? Also why to you say you find it "erotic" are you saying it's turning you on?
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (19 July 2010):
 Make a lot of noise as you open the front door.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2010): leave! This is steping over the boundaries, even talking about it with your sister is wrong never mind seeing her do it! You really need a place of your own before anything happens, it's wrong and illegal at the end of the day
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reader, Devilsangel117790 +, writes (19 July 2010):
You probably find the porn erotic, not your sister. Tell her that you know she does it and she cant masterbate publically in your house because it is inappropriate. Its your house, remember! If she wants to do it, tell her she has to do it privately and keep it down! Also, if you feel aroused by the porn, theres no reason why you cant use the porn too.
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