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I really liked my waitress and want to ask her out

Q.   For my birthday yesterday we (mates and I) went to the 7 Diner, which is a place local to me 10 mins drive from here. The waitress was called Anna, and she was beautiful. She came over with a birthday cake later and sang Happy Birthday to me, and ...

A.   8 September 2011: No - I would say that was unprofessional. ... (read in full...)

My wife thinks I have a small penis!

Q.   I have a troubling issue in my marriage. To get right to the point, it has to do with penis size and my wife's perception. I am about 5.75 by 5 around and I always thought fairly average. When my wife and I talk it is clear that she thinks ...

A.   8 September 2011: Hang on, was it a factual statement or an admittance that she isn't sexually satisfied? Sure, you might be smaller than other guys. Is she complaining about it? If she is then I don't believe it has much to do with the penis. ... (read in full...)

Could using a vaginal pessary have made me lose my virginity?

Q.   Had a vagina infection and am a virgin. Had to use inserting tablet and while inserting it hurt and for 3 days i bleed but not much just litle patches in my pant. Am i still a virgin? ...

A.   6 September 2011: Only if it was at the end of a penis. Loss of virginity = penis in vagina... (read in full...)

My girlfriend is very talkative, how do I make her change?

Q.   Dear dearcupid, My girlfriend is hell of a talkative and she doesn't know when to stop. She eats the brain out of me when gets started. Yeah, I have to admit that between she also makes me laugh with her sharp sense of humour but 80% her talk is ...

A.   30 August 2011: Find another girl who doesn't talk so much and let her meet a guy who thinks your talking is cute not annoying.... (read in full...)

Squirting--I don't know what it is or how to do it

Q.   I'm not sure this is the right place to ask this question but I'm desperate for an answer. My boyfriend keeps asking me if I've ever 'squirted' during an orgasm....he says he really wants me too but I don't know what this means or how to do it, any ...

A.   29 August 2011: Squirting is not something you can learn or practice, it either happens or it doesn't. Squirting is expulsion of noticeable amounts of clear fluid by human females from the paraurethral ducts through and around the urethra during or before a... (read in full...)

Why every girl my girlfriend is close to wants to be lesbian with her. Is it because of her breast size?

Q.   Hi everyone now here's my story for all of you readers. My girlfriend has a tendency to pretty much turn other women on we both think it's cause of her breast size but every single friend she had has one point tried getting in her pants and she ...

A.   28 August 2011: What has this got to do with her breast size??!... (read in full...)

Can 14 negative pregnancy tests be wrong?

Q.   Can 14 negative pregnancy urine tests be wrong. I just want to know if it's possible to get 14 consecutive tests wrong and nothing else. I'd appreciate some feedback, thank you....

A.   26 August 2011: The only way it could be a false negative is if it is very early pregnancy i.e. within 7 days of having unprotected sex. And even then, what would make you think that you were pregnant? List of normal pre menstrual signals; Mood Swings ... (read in full...)

I don't understand why the law dictates the age you can have sex

Q.   Why does the law dictate when people can have sex? It doesn't make sense. If two people are both underage and have sex, are they seriously going to go to jail? Who would call the police? Why is it so bad that they needed to make a law about it? And ...

A.   24 August 2011: If you were mature enough to have sex, you wouldent be asking this question. You would already realise why laws are put in place.... (read in full...)

I'm dieting but have started to get spots

Q.   Hi! I'm having some health issues - I'm in the process of losing weight and I've noticed I have started to develop spots, more white head zit type things on my body. Is this in any relation to the weight loss? It started I had one on my chest near ...

A.   16 August 2011: I have recently lost 3 stone and I get these too. I have found they are down to 3 main things 1) More exercise, more sweat, your skin is more dirty! I wash twice a day and clean my gym clothes each time after use but I still get spots around... (read in full...)

Is it ok to masturbate during pregnancy?

Q.   My question's very short. I'm 8 weeks pregnant and live miles away from my fiance (who's the father of my babe). I miss sex so much and always find myself masturbating. Is masturbating harmful to me and or my unborn baby?...

A.   16 August 2011: I'm with anon! I'm a pregnancy and birth professional and one of the things I actually recommend when your feeling stresses is to stroke yourself, masturbate and have sex! Your body releases endorphins which make you feel good, and they also he... (read in full...)

What else do lesbians do for sex?

Q.   okayy im not thinking for right now but im a lesbian 15 , and just wondering how lesbians have sex , all i know is they can sizor , finger , lick out and stuff but are there other ways , techniques of having sex , with outt the use of sex toys ...

A.   11 August 2011: Its who you have sex with that makes it fun and interesting, not what positions, props etc.. My girlfriend and I only used the "normal" methods (kissing, touching, fingers, tounge) but it was very good. It might be worth you watching the L w... (read in full...)

Do I display behavior of a sex addict?

Q.   I've had 17 partners. I had oral sex with most of them. I had sex with 2 of them. I love watching porn but have stopped. I masturbate like 3-4 times a week (but masturbate 2 times those days) I like the idea of fantasy. I like looking at ...

A.   11 August 2011: No, you're not a sex addict. If you were, you would be sleeping with several different guys a week, not every 4/6 months. It would also be disrupting your everyday life e.g. trying to have sex with your colleagues, missing work because you're busy ... (read in full...)

Is it legal for a 24 year old to date a 17 year old?

Q.   Hi to all I've just found out that a friend of mine (24 years old male) is dating a (17 year old female) and just would like know is this legal or illegal and is this right or wrong as i really dont know myself what to say to them both....

A.   10 August 2011: I really don't see what is wrong if they are treating eachother right and are in it for the same reasons! Its not a that big age gap!... (read in full...)

When are men going to STOP being so selfish about porn and START realizing they are destroying the woman that loves them?

Q.   Some women like porn and don't mind if their bf's look at it. This does not apply to those women. This is for the rest of us, the majority. Those of us that HATE PORN and HATE HOW IT MAKES US FEEL ABOUT OURSELVES. Seriously, after all the ex...

A.   8 August 2011: I'm completely with Red Athena on this one. We are all responsible for our own self esteem. Our men are not responsible for making us feel good about ourselves. Don't like a man that watches porn? Go find one that doesn't, but I'm sure you wil... (read in full...)

I'm not having any pregnancy pains now. Is something wrong?

Q.   Im around 5 weeks pregnent with my first child and was always getting period like cramps every now and then in my lower belly. But now since friday morning ive not been getting pains in my belly at all. Im only going by what docs say that im 5 weeks ...

A.   7 August 2011: Im a Doula and have a lot of knowledge about pregnancy and birth. There is no reason to be worried, the pains you were experiencing were most likely just your uterus getting used to having something growing in it. Sickness is a good sign of the ... (read in full...)

What really turns a guy on?

Q.   This question is Coming from a girl who has little experience with men.What really turns on a fella? Like what do most fellas get turned on by or what do they find sexy? ...

A.   6 August 2011: Confidence A good smile Well groomed Smells good Not too "easy"... (read in full...)

My boyfriend says my vagina is wide. I've never had kids, so what is he talking about?

Q.   I'm 18. I've sex with my bf. But he said my vaginal is wide, he feels its empty when he puts it in. I dont know why my vaginal is wide. He's normal, not too big and not too small. I never have kid or abortion. I dont know why. Who can explain it to ...

A.   6 August 2011: Not all women have the same size vaginas, yours is just naturally wider. Do pelvic floor exercises to tone yourself up to make sex better.... (read in full...)

Will losing weight make stretch marks go away?

Q.   I have really ugly horrible stretch marks on my inner thighs, and they make me feel really self-conscious. I've managed to make them fade with the use of sudocrem, but I was wondering if by losing weight I'd be able to get rid of them completely ...

A.   6 August 2011: Stretch marks ARE scars, and they will never go away. The best they will get is that they will date to a faint silvery colour with time. I have stretch marks on my breasts, hips and stomach due to weight gain. Its one of those things that you... (read in full...)

I've discovered my penis is smaller than average and its really messing with my mind!

Q.   I've recently done some research and I've found out the WORST possible news. I've discovered that my penis is below average in all aspects. I've been concerned with this for years and it's one of the reasons I've turned down or just didn't atte...

A.   5 August 2011: Thats the same size as my boyfriends penis. I've measured it :-P And I am understating when I say I am a very satisfied woman. Don't get hung up on size, sure a 2 inch penis woulden't be much fun, but really, you have nothing to complain abou... (read in full...)

I started my period and gained 5 lbs???

Q.   Hello! I started my period a few days ago, and all the sudden I'd gained nearly five pounds! Which has never happened. I'm becoming worried that it won't go away! I feel so self conscious, and it's really noticeable. My jeans don't fit! My stomach ...

A.   5 August 2011: I have this EXACT same problem before/during/couple days after my period. Put on 3kg (6.6lbs), dont use the bathroom for days on end, dont pee as much, cant do up my jeans, feel very uncomfortable, could eat for england. Fortunately i... (read in full...)

He doesn't want a relationship, but still wants to see me and have sex. Am I wasting my time with his guy?

Q.   Any advice would be much appreciate. I am a single mum of one. I've been seeing a guy nearly a year now, in the begining everything was fine between us, had an amazing time and connected very well - physically and mentally. He lives a 1 hour f...

A.   4 August 2011: Yes! Cut ties, hes using you for sex..... (read in full...)

I have lost weight and my breasts look terrible! Help!

Q.   Please, i have this problem that is bothering me so much. It may only be aesthetics but its really getting my down. I have always had big breasts, although they have always been in proportion to my frame. They have never been pert, nor have i ever ...

A.   4 August 2011: Anonymous; everything you just wrote is very misinformed!... (read in full...)

I have lost weight and my breasts look terrible! Help!

Q.   Please, i have this problem that is bothering me so much. It may only be aesthetics but its really getting my down. I have always had big breasts, although they have always been in proportion to my frame. They have never been pert, nor have i ever ...

A.   4 August 2011: I'm 21 and have lost 3 stone and my breasts have gone down too, which tbh im thankful for because they was getting too big! The stretchmarks will fade, keep them moisturised. Exercises do help; http://w... (read in full...)

Baby dreams at the age of 16?

Q.   Hey I'm 15 and i really want a baby I'm an honour student and I'm responsible.I have thought about this so many times before, about how am i going to work with school. My friends say that I would make a great mother because I'm caring and sweet ...

A.   1 August 2011: You say you're responsible and yet you're asking us to condone you getting pregnant at your age..seriously?!... (read in full...)

What could this be?

Q.   okay, well on my ball sack i have a pimple/spot but i dont think its cancerous, im thinking thays its puberty and could be a hair root or where sweat has cause the skin to be irritated? could someone tell me if they ever had this or what it might ...

A.   1 August 2011: It just sounds like a spot.. If it's worrying you, go see your GP... (read in full...)

Now that I am 25 I'd love to ask out my 37 yo former teacher

Q.   I'm 25, working in IT, enjoying life. Recently I saw my ex-geography teacher, Jane*, who last taught me at high school 9 years ago way back in 2002. She's about 37 now The last time I saw her - 4 years ago in another town when I was in the p...

A.   31 July 2011: I think at your age its absolutely fine, go for it!... (read in full...)

Should I tell my fiancée I kissed a girl at my bachelor party?

Q.   Hi, one creepy loser here. I'm getting married at the end of August and had my bachelor party last weekend. To cut a long story short I got extremely drunk at the party and kissed another girl. It lasted less than a few seconds and nothing more...

A.   30 July 2011: If I was your fiancée, I wouldn't want to know. Its clear you regret it and would never again put yourself in that situation of kissing another woman. Put it behind you. If you tell her, it would only be to relieve YOUR guilt, which I believe would ... (read in full...)

Is it okay for a beautiful woman to be narcissistic, rude and conceited?

Q.   Right so I have this friend who is a woman. She's gorgeous. At first I fancied her a bit, but we soon realized it would not work. So we've remained mates. Thing is, she gets very conceited at times. She tells me these stories about guys she date...

A.   30 July 2011: Urgh!! Dont put up with her crap, she sounds incredibly manipulative and arrogant. I would never want to be associated with a woman like this..... (read in full...)

Any advice on this situation? because I can't stop these tears from falling, but this isn't the first time

Q.   Hi. Well my boyfriend, who's my ex now, has been treating me terribly. We've been through so much, well i've been through so much with him 'til it doesn't matter what he do, i'll take him back. He has been caught cheating numerous of times, 5 times ...

A.   29 July 2011: Sincerely sorry OP. Despite that, I stand by my point that you two should stay away from each other. I realise it may be hard, but you need to find the willpower from somewhere. He hits you, lies to you, doesn't show any affection! You a... (read in full...)

Any advice on this situation? because I can't stop these tears from falling, but this isn't the first time

Q.   Hi. Well my boyfriend, who's my ex now, has been treating me terribly. We've been through so much, well i've been through so much with him 'til it doesn't matter what he do, i'll take him back. He has been caught cheating numerous of times, 5 times ...

A.   29 July 2011: You cheated on him 5 times and broke up with him..let's not go so far as to say you love him. You two sound better off being single! Seriously, you are both making each other miserable! Why put yourself or another human being through that?! ... (read in full...)

Is it me or to women get over with child support?

Q.   Im not sure why/when child support payments got so high. I understand your child gets 20% of you money but that still seems like a lot. When I was growing up my father had 4 kids and had to pay my mom 200 a month ( he hardly even payed that). My mom ...

A.   28 July 2011: We actually have the same situation in the UK. My boyfriends business partner has a 12 year old son who he shares joint custody of with his ex-wife. They share him COMPLETELY EQUALLY. Half the week at his house, half the week at hers, alternat... (read in full...)

How long can we be engaged for before actually getting married?

Q.   i want to get engaged to my girlfriend I want to get engaged to my girlfriend, but i dont think i'll be ready for marrige for the next 3 years... I got some advice from my friends, and they told me that its not a nice thing to get engaged to my gi...

A.   28 July 2011: You don't get engaged just because you love someone. You get engaged because its a promise of marriage and a long life together. If you don't intend to marry her within the next couple years then don't propose! To be honest, its a bit of an insul... (read in full...)

All about tattoos...just how bad is the pain?

Q.   I know this isn't a relationship question, but I get a lot of great advice from this site and it's always my first choice. My question is for those who have tattoos. I've been looking at a lot of tattoo related things lately, and my biggest curio...

A.   27 July 2011: If you want a tattoo that bad then the pain shouldn't really matter. Its a means to an end. Most tattoo places will give you a "tester" without the ink to see how you like it. But in the end you just gotta grin and bear it. How long have you bee... (read in full...)

Qeustions for the guys ...do you prefer bigger women ?

Q.   Qeustion for the men. What do you think about bigger women ? Would you ever date one, or do you prefer smaller women, do you find bigger women attractive or do find slim women more attractive ? I ask this because well im trying to start dating and ...

A.   24 July 2011: Your still a girl, please god don't go trying to adjust yourself to what you think other people will refer. Millions of women will tell you that is a tried, tested and failed way of existing! Each man/woman likes different traits. Some don't ca... (read in full...)

How can I squirt when I climax?

Q.   I've seen porn and couldn't help but notice that some girls on there squirt while they orgasm. They squirt sometimes through the clit and sometimes through their vaginal hole. I'm still a teen and a virgin so I don't know how I can do this. I've ...

A.   24 July 2011: 95% of women do not squirt and NEVER WILL. Its not something you can practice, its a bodily function which happens or it doesn't. Dont judge yourself against porn; its not real. Squirting does not come from the clitoris. Female ejaculat... (read in full...)

Getting pregnant from a handjob?

Q.   i gave my boyfriend a handjob and some semen got on my hand.i wiped it dry with kleenex. after 15 minutes i went to go have a shower as i was takign off my clothes my hand touched my vagina accidentally. could i be pregnant?? pleas help me i am so ...

A.   22 July 2011: What you're describing could not get you pregnant. Unless your name is Mary and you know a guy called God. ... (read in full...)

Movement in my stomach, What could be causing this?

Q.   Okay I am VERY sure I am not pregnant. About 11-12 weeks ago I had sex. Anal none the less. It was 3 days after i started a new pack of the pill (which i have been on for over a year now) Off and on I feel movement in my stomach...I am n...

A.   22 July 2011: Sounds like gas. As a health and pregnancy specialist, I can tell you that you don't felt movement from a baby until after 20 weeks. And there is no way you can get pregnant from anal sex. At your age its normal to be emotional. If you keep try... (read in full...)

What's the best way to pleasure my girlfriend and give her an orgasm?

Q.   what is the easiest way to give my girlfriend a orgasm?... the first time me and my girlfriend had sexit was amazing. But now everytime we see each other thats all she wants to do. Sometimes even 3 times in one day. Is this good or bad? Does thi...

A.   21 July 2011: We don't know! Ask her!... (read in full...)

How can I deal with unwanted judgment?

Q.   Im a 15 year old teen mum. I have a little boy who is 7 months old and the father stuck around so thats all good; but something that really bothers me is how everyone judges us not adults but people at school, like they are always telling me how i ...

A.   20 July 2011: All you can do it not to let them bother you. The fact is that as humans we all judge, and in this situation this is more of a reason for it. You have had sex illegally and your lack of reliable contraception has left you pregnant and with a chil... (read in full...)

Should I Dump her or is it just another ego boost for me?

Q.   I wanna dump my girlfriend. We are together for 18 months. She is nice , beautiful and there’s hardly anything I can find wrong in her but wanna dump her to make it 1-1. My first girlfriend had dumped 6 months before she came into my life . S...

A.   20 July 2011: You are an ASS. Dump her so she can find the better man that she deserves. You sound more immature than my 6 year old nephew. ... (read in full...)

3 questions about lingerie...

Q.   Sooooo today I went shopping with my best female friend. She convinced me to buy some lingerie, it's a corset like thing, red with black lace, very sexy. It wasn't for a guy or anything, I am single, but it was just for me, ya know? I didn't have ...

A.   20 July 2011: 1) Does your mum go through your draws? At your age, I dont see any reason to hide it. Unless she is against her daughter being a sexual being. 2) If you've got the money, go get them before they go out of stock. 3) Normal in terms of what fr... (read in full...)

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