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writes:i have a guy friend that I've known for about a year now and last year we used to hangout in the library with my his friend who was in the same class with me, helping each other with work class during lunchtime, so yesterday he asked me to do homework together at lunchtime and took me to my locker, I noticed that every guy was looking at me and yeah they probably thought something's going on between us, I like him but as a friend but I don't know if he likes me coz he's always sitting with me if we're in the same class as in even if he has his friend besides him, he prefers to move wherever I am and today, he saw me coming into the class and he was about to sit with my girl friend and his friend in fact we are all friends and came to sit next to me and today it was really cold and I said 'omg it's really cold today' twice and he put his hand around me and said there you go, I just leaned towards him plus we were watching a video in class, I just didn't want to make it all awkward, I don't know what to do any more but I sort of feel there's a connection between us but like him as a friend and I don't mind cuddling Reply to this Question
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reader, Dear Mandy  +, writes (7 February 2013):
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yes that would be a good start, just say it in a natural " so glad i'm not like many in this school, I would never date someone in school" slyly watch for his reaction, don't say anything and then just say " well got to go speak soon " just slowly detach yourself from him, that way he will more than likely back off and leave you alone.
Mandy x
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reader, belleh +, writes (6 February 2013):
belleh is verified as being by the original poster of the question i think you're so right about the stalking because wherever i go he has to approach me and says he;s bored or there's nothing to do or something else, i was think i should just start a convo saying that I'll never go out with a anyone in this school or something it's actually getting annoying and everyone's like asking if we're together you know people won't mind their business
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reader, Dear Mandy +, writes (5 February 2013):
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Do yourself a really big favour here ok, I know if he helps you with tasks it makes your study life easier, BUT if you allow him to stay close to you for this reason it will give him the wrong idea trust me I know. I knew this guy, really sweet ( I thought ) was always kind, nice to me, even to the point dare I say it my number one fan. however because I realized he was wanting more than just friendship I had to back off, now for a while it seemed to be working, then I started getting gifts sent to me, personal things like underwear, body sents, when I told him firmly he is to leave me alone and never to contact me again he turned very nasty and borderline stalker. I'm not saying this will happen to you as it's a rare case, but my point being is never underestimate what a guy who likes you alot is capable of. It always starts innocently . Your more than capable of choosing a more suitable study partner, this way you will get the help you need without the stress of knowing you will be touched unwantingly
mandy x
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reader, belleh +, writes (5 February 2013):
belleh is verified as being by the original poster of the questionuhh i just wanna take this time to thank you all for your advice and answers i really appreciate it:) @ xTheAlmightyDuckx: he doesn't act this way to any of his other female friends so I'm pretty sure he was being nice that day but then again the next day he was sitting next to me and wanted to touch my shoulder while stretching his arms. yes i said i didn't mind cuddling but i don't do it anyway :)i told my one of my gfs and she definitely sees the same that he likes me.he even asked today about my facboeok photos so i think he's been checking out my profile.@ R1 i know he likes me but i just do like him as a friend and nothing more so yeah i don't cuddle with boys at my school.@ dear mandy haha yeah, i think it might be unfair on him from other people's perspective but yeah i don't actually cuddle with guys so and i've never cuddled with him. i'm just thinking that he likes me and he'd do anything just to get closer to me. i tried avoiding sitting with him yesterdday in class but we had to be in pairs for our assessment task so,he went on and asked me to be his partner which for sure i wouldn't be able to say no coz I'll need him to help me with other stuff. i thank you all again :) yours faithfully Belleh 3
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reader, Dear Mandy +, writes (2 February 2013):
HI
If you feel that there is a connection but not the kind you want from him, then I suggest you stop the cuddling and explain to him you only care for him as a friend. Allowing him to cuddle up to you knowing this is a personal closeness is unfair on him. but are you sure you don't want more than just friendship? if you do then just go with the flow, let it take it's own course .
mandy x
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reader, R1 +, writes (2 February 2013):
 I think he might fancy you. If you don't fancy him back probably best not to cuddle as boys easily get the wrong idea!! But maybe you do like him...?!
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx +, writes (1 February 2013):
 He could just be a really good friend, but then again he could have some kind of feelings for you. Its very hard to tell with bestfriends, sometimes they can just be being nice and other times there could be more. Does he act like this with all of his close female freinds or is it just you? That should answer alot, some guys are just very close to all of there female friends, but if he just does it with you, yeah it could mean your rather specia.\ The only way your going to find out is by asking him or waits until he tells you. If he likes you that much as well and feels the same connection as you and aslong as theres nothing stopping him, he should tell you in no time, I guess you'll either have to look into this more, or just be paitent.
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