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writes:I feel kind of weird about this, but I've started feeling really out of place lately. Up until I was 18 I had like no sex drive at all, but for some reason I have a ridiculously high sex drive now, I get bored really easily and I feel like I always have a higher sex drive than the guy I'm with.I haven't had a normal sexual relationship since I was like 16? Y'know regular sex. Since then I've just been with guys that only want sex like once every 1-2 weeks, which is ridiculous, they all last about 1 minute as well!I just feel weird, like guys are always complaining about how girls never want sex and it feels like I'm the odd one out, AND I'm getting no sex either, I feel like a guy haha! Another problem that I have is that because I wait a while to have sex with a guy, I get sort of attached to them, and start liking them, but the sex is always really boring and bad, I've only enjoyed sex with one guy my whole life! Seems like all the guys I go for are either really bad in bed (small and last like a minute, not exaggerating), so I get nothing out of it, or just never want sex.In a perfect world you could tell if a guy was decent in bed before you started dating. :( Is this normal? Should I just give up looking for decent/regular sex with a guy? and Is it weird that I enjoy sex?
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reader, Dear Mandy +, writes (9 February 2013):
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Then they simply are not the one for you. You will know when you have met the right man because there will be nothing like it ever....like firworks :) your still young you have plenty of time to find the right man.
Mandy
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2013): Unsatisfing sex because you don't love them...if time come you can met the man that both of you inlove even how small his peacock i'm sure you will satisfied....he he he
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2013): First of all, I don't believe there is such a thing as bad in bed, it's all about compatibility. Secondly, good sex develops over time when you learn what you both like and don't like. There is very rarely fireworks straight away because you don't know each other yet. I'm sure there are things you do at the start that they don't like too, it just takes time to realise what makes you both tick. It's also much better when you love someone so I'd stop putting so much emphasis on the sex side of things. If you finish with someone every time the sex isn't great right away you are going to have a hard time finding a lasting relationship. Finally, when men are younger they do often climax very quickly. I would never bring that up with a guy or it will destroy his confidence and make the problem a million times worse.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI always have a good relationship, and wait at least 4 months until we have sex. I have no relationship problems. So the closeness isn't the problem, it's just that I seem to just get guys that have nothing in bed. I try to spice things up all the time, but it's always just rubbish.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2013): Really? Guys you date only want sex once every 1 or 2 weeks? They last only 1 minute? Are they like 80 years old or are they 18 year old male children? There must be something wrong with me then because I would have sex several times a day if I had an equally sexually driven female partner.
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reader, Dear Mandy +, writes (8 February 2013):
HI
I think that's were your going wrong, your looking for sex rather than the relationship. Sex with guy's who are just looking for sex too, rarely put any emotion or effort into it, it's a case of wham bam thank you mam! try going all out normal and having a relationship with a guy, which will lead to more fullfilling and meaningful ( enjoyable )sex.
Mandy x
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