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*pendy
writes:What is wrong with me? Am I damaged goods?:(?So my ex bf cheated on me with 2 other girls and he dumped me when I found out.He got with someone straight after and when it didn't work out he came back begging me. Of course I gave him a shot (I'm such an idiot!!) cause I loved him still. But I broke it off cause he put me through alot and the sex wasn't the same anymore. Everything changed.He was the one guy I've ever been in love with. I think he was the one. My family and friends loved him cause he was just too good to me.Then I found out he was a dog all along. He told me the other girls has better bodies than me (im uk size 12.. 36 DD) that I'm too short for him:(I've moved on now. I've joined a gym. I'm in the best shape of my life. I've graduated.Whenever I go out guys just stare at me. They tell me I'm cute with sexy lips.But I the thought of bein with someone else and having them treat me the way my ex did would just kill me.There's this guy at my gym who's contstanstly watching me and I like him alot. But I'm too shy and scared to speak to him. I feel like I'm not good enough for him and he won't be interested in me.What is wrong with me? I feel so alone and empty:(Hugssxxx I'm crying as I type this:(
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2012): You will shine again it's his lost to him you were nothing but to somebody else you would his world !pick up you feelings and live your life sometimes we have to ask ourselves a question is it all worth it and in his case hell naw.Don't ever allow no man to take you away from yourself.Everybody goes this every once in awhile but you were not made to crack or crumble you are stronger than you think! LIVE AGAIN!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2012): no other guy will treat you like that again because you wont let them! once youve been treated like that once it will make you stronger, you maybe crying now but overtime youll realise its not you who is damaged goods it is him! hes the one who cheated, hes the one who treated you like crap, the only thing you did was love him soo much that he was able to take advantage of that.
you wont be ready to date until you realise that you did nothing wrong and its him,
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2012): Aww girl, that happened to me as well. No one ever goes through this alone, everyone has been put down, even I. I had a boyfriend who cheated on me, I left him on Christmas Day, couple days ago. We'll be okay, Hun. You'll be just fine and you will find the right guy who will love you the right way. And for all the right reasons, he will treat you like a queen, you deserve to be treated that way. Someday, someone is going to look at you with light in their eyes like you've never seen. They'll look at you like you're everything that have been looking for in their entire lives. Just wait for it, it's coming. Cheer up hun, You're beautiful!
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reader, Warm-Inspire +, writes (29 December 2012):
 Spendy, you're not damaged goods, your confidence has suffered a massive knock.
Don't ever let another person change the way you value yourself, especially if its an ex that clearly just wanted a dig at you or kick you while you were down before you threw his selfish ass to the curb.
You're undoubtedly going to be wary about the intentions of a future partner because of the way your ex treated you, everyone does after being decieved by someone they love and trust.
I think you need a touch of confidence rebuilding and to really discover your self worth again, realise you're worth so much more than to be treated how you were.
You should love yourself more than to let some pathetic cretin's words get the better of you, love yourself independently.
I wouldn't suggest going into or trying for another relationship until you can conquer your issues, you are the most important thing to concentrate on at the moment, not trust in a new relationship.
Remember you're a strong person and strive for the best.
Good luck
xx
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reader, Dear Mandy +, writes (29 December 2012):
 HI
I am not surprised . your self esteem has been kicked. Han in there you WILL slowly start to build back up. People can be so cruel especially when breaking up with someone. He cheated on you twice, slagged you off about your body, his a creep who will find out what that feeling is like himself one day. If you like this guy in the gym hold your head up high walk straight on up to him and ask him if would like to go out for a drink sometime. sounds easy because it is :D if he says no so what their are plenty more fish in the sea, don't let one silly mans horrible mouth ruin your chances to be happy.
hope this helps
Mandy x
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