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writes:My boyfriend of one year broke up the day after Christmas. Prior to Christmas we went on a cruise celebrating our one year anniversary. Throughout our relationship I know we have had our ups and downs. When times are good they are really good but when they're bad they're really bad... Everything seemed to be going smooth around our anniversary and Christmas time.. (Well at least I thought) He broke up with me the day after Christmas out of no where. Things were a little weird. He was a little distant and I knew it. This wasn't the first time we had broken up he has done it quite often This was the third time and in the past he has tried is best, and eventually regrets breaking up, and later says it impulse.. When we broke up with me this last time he admitted to not trying to fix things. I am tired of his inconsistency and said that's fine lets break up. We did move in together within four months of dating, it was quick so I knew that's why we argued so much. He was an amazing boyfriend but we just lacked communication when it came to arguing.. One day after he broke up with me I texted him to let him know I would be stopping by to grab something from our apartment, he said he had someone over. He asked me to give him time, I said I was already on my way. Who ever was there had left when I got there but then I found girls clothing on the floor (not mine) and a condom wrapper by the nightstand.. I looked in her purse that she'd left behind and found out its a girl that I've always had issues with because she constantly texted my bf and I didn't like her at all.. Today he asked to talk to me after work so we did. He cried and said he regret doing what he did yesterday, he was so sorry and he doesn't want me to hate him because he loves and cares about me. He seemed super remorseful and sad.. I truly believe he was sorry.. I told him I would never get back with him. (He wasn't asking to get back together with me) but he seemed like he had hope or wanted to see if there was a chance.Should I even consider giving him a chance in the future? Or should I focus on moving on? I know we've had our issues but I've put my everything into this relationship and I truly have always believed he was the one.. I still do and it's hurting me to be without him.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (29 December 2012):
 No. In just one year you have broken up, in fact , he broke up with you three times ! You may see it as " normal " ups and downs, but they are not, it's only normal for people who basically are not made to be together and are not even serious about making the r/ship work ( at least, HE is not ).
Plus, in your place, I could not shake off the suspicion that he is so keen on come back ... because the other girl gave him his walking papers.
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reader, Dear Mandy  +, writes (29 December 2012):
 HI
No I would not go back with him. It seems to me he don't like cheating ( which is a good thing) the down side to this is everytime he wants a one night stand with someone he dumps you, then when it's out of his system he wants you back. your worth more than this and deserve more. He is a weak man who can't help himself. I would move on yourself and find a man who knows how to treat you.
Mandy xx
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