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writes:Hey. I need some advice. Ok. So I get food stamps 200 to help out. I'm 19 and @ the time I was job less. So before I got my food stamps my mom was payin my phone bill ( 98.00 ) and she told me to sign up for food stamps, so she can save some money. Because food is going up. And she also said if I give her food stamps she wouldn't mind paying my phone bill. 2 months later she was going off on me saying she don't wanna pay my phone bill anymore and she also said I should sell them ( if I was to sell them I would get 100$ ) and I said ok. Then she gets made @ me again. So I said I don't know what's ur problem? O_0 so she changed her mind. So the next month I found a job ( finally ) but it was only part time. So I was working and also payin my own phone bill while giving her the food stamps. And I also help her buy things for the house. This went on for two months NOW that my job has been making some changes, and I haven't been working @ all. I needed help on my phone bill, I was 50$ short. And I asked my mom for it ( I already gave her the food stamps for Nov ) and she said yea. But she wants me to pay her back when I get my little pay check that I had worked for 4 five fays. And I may not have any money for myself. So should I pay her back? To me I feel as if I shouldn't. And next month I was going to give her the food stamp for x-mas but I really don't think I should pay her back. What do u guys think?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI never said she had too, but I do get what your saying but she's not being fair! And I do give back it someone let me borrow money, I just don't agree to this time. But thanks for your advice. Thank you all =)
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (12 November 2010):
 She does not buy you shoes and clothes and stuff- and why should she, since you are 19 and working. You contribute toward food, but I suppose you are living under her roof without paying rent, right ?
Anyway, that's not the point , basically these are your business -whatever works for you two.
The point is : if you borrow money, then you MUST give it back. Very simple.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk. For one I am selfish I'm not going to deny that. Second of all how has she been generous? I don't think so. It was her idea for me to get the food stamps, it was her idea to say I will pay u 100$ for the food stamps. So I don't kn what your talking about. She don't buy me clothes, shoes, ect. Sooo come again? While I was working I gave her the food stamps and I told her not to give me any money. & she didn't now that my job as slowed down and I'm trying to start school I don't think I give her the money back. And next month she's going to get the food stamps without giving me 100$ soooo come again! If I sell then now I would get 100$ regardless.
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (12 November 2010):
I don't think you have much choice. If I get it right, your mom has clearly expressed the intention of lending you ( not just giving you ) these 50 dollars, the condition to get them is precisely that you give them back. If you accept the 50 then you don't give it back- you would be scamming your own mom, regardless of the food stamp thing.
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reader, Battista  +, writes (12 November 2010):
Of course you should pay her back. I don't see any good reason why you shouldn't; I see that you say you won't have any money for yourself, but think about all the things your mother is paying for on your behalf, including your phone bill.
I would also ask you why you have such an expensive phone bill if you have such little income. Do you really have to be spending that much each month? You clearly can't afford it so I would suggest you seriously cut back. I'm sure you if you call your cell provider they will be able to help.
Your post comes across as a bit selfish and immature. You are 19, you're not a child. You need to realise the value of money and act accordingly; this includes paying people back and spending less on luxury items like phones.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (12 November 2010):
 Your mother has been very generous already, why should you not pay her back? You need to seriously look for another job in order to maintain a stable amount of income. If you have anything of value that you do not need anymore, I suggest you sell it and spend the money wisely in which case you can save what little money you have for a while. Strive to pay your mother back.
I hope that helps.
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